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springchick
make a wish
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justask
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* No Presents Please *
I would donate to a charity
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Posted 7/26/12 12:14 PM  |
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kahlua716
3 Girls for Me!
Member since 8/07 12475 total posts
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Keri
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Re: * No Presents Please *
Posted by Xelindrya
wow.. lots of great and insightful answers. Hrm..
Would it be uncool to call her up and say "Hey so no gifts, but can I help out with anything else, food, drinks etc"??
I think this is a great idea!
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| Posted 7/26/12 12:23 PM |
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Paramount
Sweet!
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Re: * No Presents Please *
Don't bring anything.
What I would do is give them a card and make a charitable donation in the family's name.
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| Posted 7/26/12 12:27 PM |
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Lara&Aidansmommy
For mom i miss u ETC ILOVEU
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ETC I LOVE YOU
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Re: * No Presents Please *
Posted by Janice
Nothing.
yep!
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| Posted 7/26/12 1:13 PM |
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wingsofsong
My 3 little loves <3<3<3
Member since 1/09 7395 total posts
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Maureen
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Re: * No Presents Please *
Posted by kahlua716
Posted by Xelindrya
wow.. lots of great and insightful answers. Hrm..
Would it be uncool to call her up and say "Hey so no gifts, but can I help out with anything else, food, drinks etc"??
I think this is a great idea!
I agree!!
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| Posted 7/26/12 1:26 PM |
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FirstMate
My lil cowboy
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Re: * No Presents Please *
I really, really hate when people put that on an invite, especially for a child's birthday party. It makes me very uncomfortable to be put in that predicament. I understand the parents don't want unneeded items or perhaps for people to spend money but, to me, how can you not give a child a birthday present?! Whether or not they "know" at 1, it's still a birthday! I just got that invitation for a 4 year old. There is NO WAY I'm going without a pretty gift for this 4 year old princess. Part of the birthday excitement is presents!
In most cases I either get a gift card or give money.
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| Posted 7/26/12 1:32 PM |
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nycgirl
Angels!
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Re: * No Presents Please *
I HATE getting a ton of gifts that my kid doesn't really need at a party. I donate toys often given because it gets to be overkill.
DO ask what you could bring. It would be nice if you could bring appetizers/desserts/ something to make the party easier.
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| Posted 7/26/12 1:36 PM |
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Otherme
Square head cutie pants
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Re: * No Presents Please *
if the invite says no gifts, i wouldn't bring a gift.
Doesn't it seem rude to ignore the hosts wishes and go out and get some small token anyway, just so you as a guest feel better?
I get that some people don't feel comfortable showing up with nothing, but aren't you then doing the opposite of what the host asks by ignoring the request? And then you make the people who did listen to the request feel bad for showing up with nothing..even though that's what the invite said.
to the OP - i like your idea of offering to help with something else related to the party instead.
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| Posted 7/26/12 3:01 PM |
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Ophelia
she's baaccckkkk ;)
Member since 5/06 23378 total posts
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remember, when Gulliver traveled....
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Re: * No Presents Please *
Posted by FirstMate
I really, really hate when people put that on an invite, especially for a child's birthday party. It makes me very uncomfortable to be put in that predicament. I understand the parents don't want unneeded items or perhaps for people to spend money but, to me, how can you not give a child a birthday present?! Whether or not they "know" at 1, it's still a birthday! I just got that invitation for a 4 year old. There is NO WAY I'm going without a pretty gift for this 4 year old princess. Part of the birthday excitement is presents!
In most cases I either get a gift card or give money.
just b/c they aren't getting gifts from guests, does NOT mean they aren't getting gifts.
and most kids don't open gifts at the party. for a kid, a party with cake and friends and family and fun is excitement in and of itself.
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| Posted 7/26/12 3:37 PM |
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* No Presents Please *
I brought a small gift to a party like this recently..I feel bad walking into a party empty-handed
Message edited 7/26/2012 3:40:59 PM.
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| Posted 7/26/12 3:40 PM |
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CrankyPants
I'm cranky
Member since 7/06 18178 total posts
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Mama Cranky
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Re: * No Presents Please *
I buy the biggest, noisiest gift biggest eff them.
I'm one who cannot go empty handed. A gift for the host.
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| Posted 7/26/12 3:49 PM |
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Posted by pinkiegirl
I think it's rude to tell people not to bring a gift to a party.
I love to buy presents for my loved ones and friends to celebrate their milestones... and it doesnt have to be some crazy expensive thing.
I take pride that I put a lot of thought into what I give people (and I always make sure that I give a gift receipt so they have the option of taking it back if they dont want or need it)
I would still respect the person said dont bring a gift.. but I think it's rude.
JMO
Part of the reason I asked for no gifts was because my dd is only 2 and I have a closet still full of Christmas toys. I pull new stuff out in a rotation since my house is small and I just don't have space to have everything out. Even with only having 1/2 the toys out at a time it looks like TRU threw up in my house. I feel so freaking guilty that people took the time to buy her gifts and she can't even really enjoy them. I don't think that's rude at all. What would be ruder, IMHO, would be not saying anything and then returning the gift, regifting it, or donating it. People took the time to shop....I would be so pissed if someone did that to me. There could be a reason they asked for no gifts...it's rude to bring something when it says not to.
OP I think calling and asking is a great idea!
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| Posted 7/26/12 4:15 PM |
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Hofstra26
Love to Bake!
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Re: * No Presents Please *
Posted by FirstMate
I really, really hate when people put that on an invite, especially for a child's birthday party. It makes me very uncomfortable to be put in that predicament. I understand the parents don't want unneeded items or perhaps for people to spend money but, to me, how can you not give a child a birthday present?! Whether or not they "know" at 1, it's still a birthday! I just got that invitation for a 4 year old. There is NO WAY I'm going without a pretty gift for this 4 year old princess. Part of the birthday excitement is presents!
In most cases I either get a gift card or give money.
This. I agree. I feel weird going to a party empty handed. I know it's their request but I love gift giving and knowing myself........I would probably still bring something. Maybe that's not the right thing to do but it's what feels right to me. 
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| Posted 7/26/12 5:20 PM |
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