Negative comments when announcing 3rd?

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i am having my 2nd. Mostly everybody was happy...but I def picked up on some negativity bc my husband was laid off at the time and before that we were struggling with our mortgage...but you know what...this is MY life. I won't let me life be dictated by a small spit in the bucket in time. We are now set up to be better off than we ever have been and live more comfortably. It's NOBODIES BUSINESS how you make it work.

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Seriously?

What is wrong with people. Why would anyone say anything negative about that? I am flabbergasted.

Negative comments when announcing 3rd?

I'm 10 weeks pregnant with #2....they will be 15 months apart
We haven't officially announced yet but we told a few friends and I was honestly shocked and taken back by some of the reactions....specifically from a close friend of mine.
It makes me hesitant to actually announce at 12 weeks bc I can't deal with the rudeness

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Thanks everyone! I think people are being negative because all 3 DC will be under 3. Not sure if my career has anything to do with the comments but I work long hours. My best friend was really nice though but some relatives and friends had some interesting comments. And there were many comical FB comments and although everyone was joking (I hope) I did find it somewhat annoying.

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I definately had some when I announced #3. My oldest was 3.5 when my 3rd was born and I am also a FTWM. I think people were taken off guard hence the lack of filter. My sister, whom I love dearly, was the first person I told. I said I'm pregnant and she said Oh my, you're so dead. Like how the hell am I going to manage that. The rest of our families had similar reactions like oh wow, not many OMG's we are so excited. It didn't really bother me. I was happy and thats whats most important. I love having my kids so close in age (and I also love that I have three kids and can still manage my career, it is possible)

Congratulations!!!!! I think it is awesome. You are blessed!

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im not a 3 under 3 mom nor am i on my 3rd child but coming from someone who probably has or would make a "negative" comment it def. for me would not be intentional. i had a friend who was going for #3 and while i congratulated her and she knew i was happy for her i made comments how crazy she is and more power to her cause i could do it if someone i knew was having 3 under 3 i would say your insane and i could never do it but more in a joking matter. doesnt mean i am not happy for them cause i am

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ugh - we got some really negative reactions to us having twins now. I told a woman I know and she actually made the most disgusted, horrified face as if I told her I had some disease. I immediately said to her - we are very happy and excited.

People are idiots - dont listen to anyone! Congrats!!!

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Im going to be a mom of 3 under 3 and while everyone seems thrilled for us, they do think we're crazy. Yes, it will be one of the craziest times in our lives, but to be blessed with 3 kids is all that matters. Negative comments or not, a child is the most precious gift you will receive, so brush those negative comments away, once that 3rd child comes, everyone will be happy!

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why are people so rude?

even if you thought those things why would you actually tell someone? that's what blows my mind more than anything

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I just had my third and I got lots of negative comments...People just really don't think before they speak! Most of my negative comments were about the fact that we just had our third girl...it seems that they think we were having a baby to have a boy! We are already thinking about having 1 more and we know that everyone will say something about wanting a boy when in fact we would love another girl just as much! Why people think the sex of the baby is the most important thing is beyond me!

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Ignore the idiots. It actually used to be the norm to have large families and 3 would have looked small compared to many. I think having them close in age is great. Of course you'll be busy but you just do it, it will be the new normal. They will be great playmates. I'm 7 years older than my only brother and I always wished I had siblings close to my age. Not sure when, but I hope to go for a third. I'm already preparing myself for the dumb comments.

People can be so stupid. Disregard!

Negative comments when announcing 3rd?

I've heard it all when announcing #4. I get such weird looks out in public, and my kids are pretty well behaved.

Negative comments when announcing 3rd?

I definitely got the vibe from certain people -- i.e. my dad, my MIL -- that they thought we were crazy when I announced #2. Now they're excited being that I'm weeks away from giving birth but it was a tad awkward. Sorry people I'm 35 years old and DS#1 is 3. Not waiting anymore.

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Yes I have.

I have a 4 year old, a 3 year old and am due in January and I cant tell you how many people have called us crazy and said wasnt 2 enough? how will you handle 3? do you know how expensive 3 is?
Well if your life wasnt over now, it will be in January.

Its disgusting.
I honestly think people are jealous because Dh and i can handle three and they cant!

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My d's and dd will be 17 months apart. Our family's were happy for us, but def have heard some negative comments. We planned it this way though. Our first wasn't necessarily planned and we def got a lot more negative comments then

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I'm pregnant with #4 and I know we're going to get a lot of negativity, especially from our parents. I heard it when we announced #3. I'm holding off as long as possible because I just don't want to hear it.

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Negative comments when announcing 3rd?

Yes, I think it's common for people to say dumb stuff! We are expecting twins and will have 3 under 3, also. We haven't really told anyone yet other than our parents, but I'm just waiting for the "how are you going to do it?" And "omg, I'm not jealous of you" type comments.

Ignore them all - you'll be fine!! Having 3 so close in age will be great as they get bigger :)

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Just announced #3 this weekend and people are assholes. Can you afford it, are you sure you want 3, oh man you will be so busy and never sleep again. I just smile and say we are thrilled thank you for the support and walk away. Our finances are no ones business and at this point by questioning if we want #3 is like saying did we consider abortion or are we sure. All our kids were planned, and wanted. They are not surprise babies. People suck and what I don't have time for is fielding stupid ass questions not having another child.

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Crashing here! I want to have a third and get comments from people when I even suggest it. People are IDIOTS. My first two are 2 years apart and I heard some (not too many) comments about how they'd be like twins and how would I handle it...and the best..."you planned to have them SOOO close??" I learned to have tough skin but I am sensitive and it did bother me.

It will also bother me if we go for a third and people make comments that we're "trying for that boy!" when in fact DH would LOVE another girl (I kinda want the boy lol) !

It's hard, but really try to ignore people and surround yourself with those that are happy for you.

Congratulations!

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I plan on having 3 under 3. Obviously it might not happen but when I discussed having our next I say I want them all back to back. Some people think I am nuts but since my sister, brother and I are all with in 3 years they kind of understand. OF COURSE- I am not pregnant with number 3 so their reactions might change! Don't worry, stay positive! Congrats BTW that's so exciting!!