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Would you end it?

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Yes 33 27.27%
No 26 21.49%
Not sure 61 50.41%
Other - Explain 1 0.83%
 

Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

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adviceplease
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Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

I know this seems strange but I am curious to see how the results will turn out.

If you have read my situation already then this will be easy. If not, check my other thread for more clarification.

But, how many of you think that you would consider ending your marriage if your SO kissed someone else?

Posted 2/23/06 6:00 PM
 

Janice
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

Chat Icon sorry you are going through this. For me personally, no. I would not leave him for kissing someone else. (but I would never tell him thatChat Icon )

Posted 2/23/06 6:01 PM
 

Redhead
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

the polls are never accurate
so i wouldn't go by them Chat Icon

Posted 2/23/06 6:02 PM
 

adviceplease
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

Thanks for responding again. Chat Icon

Posted 2/23/06 6:02 PM
 

CowgirlChick97
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

i don't think i would leave him...but i wouldnt feel the same way....if he was drunk n didnt know he was doing, tahts one thing (STILL WRONG)

Posted 2/23/06 6:02 PM
 

adviceplease
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

Posted by Redhead

the polls are never accurate
so i wouldn't go by them Chat Icon




Don't worry, I will NOT base any decision by it. I am just curious to see what everyone's initial reaction to this is. Thank you Chat Icon

Posted 2/23/06 6:03 PM
 

Redhead
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

As for me
in my heart...i think i could never forget something like that

I think i would turn into something and someone i wouldn't never want to be

BUT i think that it may be worth at least trying...and if i went down that bad road...THEN i would have to leave

Posted 2/23/06 6:04 PM
 

adviceplease
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

Posted by Redhead



I think i would turn into something and someone i wouldn't never want to be




That's what I am afraid of.

Posted 2/23/06 6:05 PM
 

Redhead
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

Posted by adviceplease

Posted by Redhead



I think i would turn into something and someone i wouldn't never want to be




That's what I am afraid of.


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Posted 2/23/06 6:06 PM
 

MrsERod
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

Posted by adviceplease

Posted by Redhead



I think i would turn into something and someone i wouldn't never want to be




That's what I am afraid of.




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Posted 2/23/06 6:09 PM
 

beena
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

Posted by Janice

Chat Icon sorry you are going through this. For me personally, no. I would not leave him for kissing someone else. (but I would never tell him thatChat Icon )



ditto

Posted 2/23/06 6:12 PM
 

MissingLI
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C

Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

Posted by Redhead

As for me
in my heart...i think i could never forget something like that

I think i would turn into something and someone i wouldn't never want to be

BUT i think that it may be worth at least trying...and if i went down that bad road...THEN i would have to leave



I completely agree. I don't know what I would do or how I would handle it. I'm so sorry for this situation.Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 2/23/06 6:15 PM
 

Palebride
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

I have no idea
i honestly can't ever see Dh doing that - so it's hard to even imagine how I would react.

Posted 2/23/06 6:19 PM
 

adviceplease
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

Thanks for all of the hugs everyone.

You know, all I want to do is be able to talk about this with my mom. We talk about everything. And for his sake, I don't want to tell her. But it kills me that I can't go to her for this. Chat Icon

Posted 2/23/06 6:19 PM
 

Janice
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

Chat Icon I totally understand you not going to your mom....is there anyway you can vent to his mom though? Personally, I don't get along with mine, but if this ever happens to me, I think I would do that. She would not judge him and would still love him.

Posted 2/23/06 6:22 PM
 

adviceplease
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

Posted by Janice

Chat Icon I totally understand you not going to your mom....is there anyway you can vent to his mom though? Personally, I don't get along with mine, but if this ever happens to me, I think I would do that. She would not judge him and would still love him.



No way! I am super close to my mom and although I love my MIL, I would never go to her with something. Plus, she would tell everyone. But thanks for the suggestion.

Posted 2/23/06 6:23 PM
 

Redhead
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

i would be very hesitant in going to my mom about this too

But ultimately i would have to...in the hopes that she would never act on any anger in my behalf

Eventually you will have to talk to someone about it or this might eat you alive

Posted 2/23/06 6:24 PM
 

CookiePuss
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

I don't think I would leave over kissing. From some of the other things you said, it does sound like it's more then just the kissing incident. I think you should take some time to yourself before you make any decisions. Is there some place you could get away too for a few days?

I would also start counseling for me, so I can work through my feeling and really try to find out what I want.

I hope everything turns out the way you wish it too.Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 2/23/06 6:24 PM
 

MrsProfessor
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

Posted by adviceplease

Thanks for all of the hugs everyone.

You know, all I want to do is be able to talk about this with my mom. We talk about everything. And for his sake, I don't want to tell her. But it kills me that I can't go to her for this. Chat Icon



I think, in the long run, it's better for his future relationship with her that you don't. I know from things that happened in my family that airing the laundry to family members, no matter how close, can make things worse. Your mom would be so angry and hurt on your behalf. While your DH may not be deserving of your selflessness at this point, it may be better not to involve your mom.

Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon You're really strong for dealing with this. I hope it all works out for you.

Posted 2/23/06 6:25 PM
 

IGLover
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

I am really sorry you are going through this.

But for me, I would never be able to trust him to go out alone again. And it would end up ruining our relationship, and I could never kiss him the same way again.

My heart goes out to youChat Icon

Posted 2/23/06 6:25 PM
 

robynfs
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

I am someone who is just about divorced because my husband cheated, but not physically....or will never know the extent of the "relationship". I just thought about trust....could i ever have it in the relationship again. The answer to me was no....but others may feel differently.

Good Luck...you need to do what is right for you...not what others would do. You never really know unless you are in the situation.

Posted 2/23/06 6:25 PM
 

adviceplease
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

Posted by Redhead

i would be very hesitant in going to my mom about this too

But ultimately i would have to...in the hopes that she would never act on any anger in my behalf

Eventually you will have to talk to someone about it or this might eat you alive




Yes, I am looking into therapists. And I may tell my husband that I need to tell my mom. My mom would never take it out on him. She is very rational and would just help me through it.

Posted 2/23/06 6:25 PM
 

adviceplease
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

Posted by KristenNYC

I am really sorry you are going through this.

But for me, I would never be able to trust him to go out alone again. And it would end up ruining our relationship, and I could never kiss him the same way again.

My heart goes out to youChat Icon




Thank you. Chat Icon

The thing is, I don't care if he goes out. I don't think about him doing it again. I am just SO hurt that he did it.

Posted 2/23/06 6:30 PM
 

Bri
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

I dunno . . . I just feel that I would never feel the same again after knowing he kissed someone else . . .

Posted 2/23/06 6:32 PM
 

Shanti
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...

I think you know what the right answer for you is in your heart...

Posted 2/23/06 6:35 PM
 
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