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DebG
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Leaving your significant other
Could you leave your significant other but because you have no other place to go you either stay in teh house with him OR you move in with his parents?
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dandr10199
Grace is growing up too fast!
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Re: Leaving your significant other
Posted by DebG
Could you leave your significant other but because you have no other place to go you either stay in teh house with him OR you move in with his parents?
What do you mean? Be legally separated, yet living in the same house?
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| Posted 1/3/08 5:05 PM |
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JessInCA
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Re: Leaving your significant other
Personally, no, I don't think I could do that. I know someone who did, though.
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| Posted 1/3/08 5:06 PM |
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DaniJude
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Danielle
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Re: Leaving your significant other
Personally, no. I would not be able to live with someone I was involved with once we separated. But that is just me - everyone is different.
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| Posted 1/3/08 5:07 PM |
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dandr10199
Grace is growing up too fast!
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Re: Leaving your significant other
Posted by DaniRella
Personally, no. I would not be able to live with someone I was involved with once we separated. But that is just me - everyone is different.
I agree.
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CroatianBride
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Re: Leaving your significant other
Posted by DebG
Could you leave your significant other but because you have no other place to go you either stay in teh house with him OR you move in with his parents?
No way in hell!!
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| Posted 1/3/08 5:10 PM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: Leaving your significant other
ACK! What a choice!
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MsSissy
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Re: Leaving your significant other
Posted by DebG
Could you leave your significant other but because you have no other place to go you either stay in teh house with him OR you move in with his parents?
I did this once. We weren't married but were together over 8 yrs. We only did this for about 2 months.
ETA: Neither of us cheated we just knew the relationship ran it's course and it was time to move on.
Message edited 1/3/2008 5:41:46 PM.
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nicrae
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Re: Leaving your significant other
absolutely not!
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Marcie
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Re: Leaving your significant other
I think it would depend on the situation.
I think if it was me, and he cheated or something, then no
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| Posted 1/3/08 5:35 PM |
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Re: Leaving your significant other
oh that would give me an ulcer fast.... I don't think I could do it. I'd find a way to leave....
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ChattyKathy
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Lauren
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Re: Leaving your significant other
Ah no, and honestly he knows I'd kick his behind out. I'd stay in the house.
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joenick
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Re: Leaving your significant other
MY BIL did this. Stayed in the house while separated from my (now ex) SIL. She cheated. It was horrible. He stayed because of the kids. It was a MESS. He wanted to kill himself. Eventually we (DH and I) begged him to move in with us for a while till he got back on his feet. Thank God he came because he was really on the edge of sanity.
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MrsERod
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Re: Leaving your significant other
Posted by DebG
Could you leave your significant other but because you have no other place to go you either stay in teh house with him OR you move in with his parents?
would never move in with the IL's...(they live in PR)
would either:
a. leave and get my own place
or
b. pack up his **** (and when i say pack, i mean dump everything into garbage bags), put it out on the curb, and change the locks.
(of course this would be the option if he cheated  )
Message edited 1/3/2008 5:42:24 PM.
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Marcie
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Re: Leaving your significant other
What is weird though, I was having this exact conversation with a very close friend this morning 
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Ambersmom
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Re: Leaving your significant other
I did it for far too long...we were trying to sell the house and I wasn't going to leave because I was paying all the bills (I was also afraid him/his mother would clean the place out). I also had to worry about him pulling the abandonment card in court. He wouldn't leave because, well...why would he? I was paying for everything and he had the luxury of crossing the street at night to play house with his crusty old girlfriend.
That was the longest nine months of my life.
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CathyB
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Re: Leaving your significant other
Short of the reason we're breaking up being him trying to kill me, I'd pick my estranged DH over my ILs.
Posted by Ambersmom
I did it for far too long...we were trying to sell the house and I wasn't going to leave because I was paying all the bills (I was also afraid him/his mother would clean the place out). I also had to worry about him pulling the abandonment card in court. He wouldn't leave because, well...why would he? I was paying for everything and he had the luxury of crossing the street at night to play house with his crusty old girlfriend.
That was the longest nine months of my life.
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dm24angel
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Re: Leaving your significant other
me?...no
But a friend did that..I dont know how she did..( stayed in their house till it sold...over a year later) with him.
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neenie
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Re: Leaving your significant other
I wouldn't, but, that's based on my current situation. I want to think that i'll always have the independance and financial stability to be on my own, but maybe there are (unforseen) factors that might change that at another point in my life.
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Re: Leaving your significant other
I could never do either but if I had to pick one I would live with the soon to be ex DH.
I work with a guy who actually lives with his ex wife because they want to be in the same house for their 12 year old daughter. He sleeps on the couch!
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headoverheels
s'il vous plaît
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Re: Leaving your significant other
fortunately i am financially stable enough to find a cheap place to rent if i had to, so no, i would not do either of those.
not like i'd have a choice, b/c my ILs are pretty loyal people and i don't think they'd let me stay. my parents, on the other hand, would let me move back home in a heartbeat.
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FRAPPALICIOUS
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Re: Leaving your significant other
I am doing that right now and it's sooo weird! We are both in the same house and I can't even look at him most of the time. NOT FUN!!! Can't wait to get the hell out of here and move on with my life!!!
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Selden78
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Re: Leaving your significant other
Posted by Marcie
I think it would depend on the situation.
I think if it was me, and he cheated or something, then no
I was going to say the same thing
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| Posted 1/3/08 8:59 PM |
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DebG
Pick a cause & stand up for it
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The cure IS worse!
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Re: Leaving your significant other
Posted by FRAPPALICIOUS
I am doing that right now and it's sooo weird! We are both in the same house and I can't even look at him most of the time. NOT FUN!!! Can't wait to get the hell out of here and move on with my life!!!
IF you wanna get out of the house one night, why not come over and visit me? Sounds like the perfect time to do it and we have been talking about it for years
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smdl
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Re: Leaving your significant other
I did it with my ex-husband. A NIGHTMARE! We are separating but I refused to leave the house (that I was buying and paying the mortage) and so did he. I told him I would not leave until we signed the papers of separation with the lawyer. He took him 7 (YES SEVEN!!!) months to sign them. I was moving to NY (I was living in the South at the time) so I stayed another 2 months.
I was not sleeping. Did I say we still sleeped in the same bed (with no action! We did not have another bed or option)?. We stayed in different rooms during the day, did not eat together. It was totally stressful. Always on tip toes. Watching TV in different rooms.
I would not recommend it. I lived with the ILs too with ex. That would take an entire whole thread.
MY ADVISE.... there is no price to peace!
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