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Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
I ran into this issue at a daycare i was visiting. The teachers told the child to put her shirt down and pretend to fee the baby that way. I think that is perfectly acceptable response - it's all about how you handle this because so many people have a set view on it. You simply can't please everyone but you can certainly modify it so that everyone is in a middle ground.
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
Posted by MarisaK
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I personally think the teacher did the right thing.
Im a teacher. IMO She was avoiding an issue of something that isnt really an appropriate conversation to have in school with other children of that age group. The other chikdren may begin to ask questions or even demonstrate it in an inapproprate way. Then other students go home and tell their parents and those parents call the school. Happens all the time
I did not BF, Im not against breastfeeding but as a parent as well I dont want pre- school to be the place where he learns about it
I agree I wouldn't want my child learning about BF either in pre school. I would rather be the one to explain it and at a later time. JMO
I don't understand this? What is there to learn about?
Not all 4 year old children have been exposed to breastfeeding - and right or wrong, not eveyrone is comfortable with it as a perfectly natural act.
I didn't BF - My sister did. When my neice was born I had to explain to my boys that my sister was feeding the baby, that's where her milk came from, Mommys bodies make milk for their babies, not all babies take a bottle ....etc etc. They had 5 million questions and were intrigued and curious and nosey ........
But again, it was something I was able to explain to them -
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by JME78
Posted by jgl
I personally think the teacher did the right thing.
Im a teacher. IMO She was avoiding an issue of something that isnt really an appropriate conversation to have in school with other children of that age group. The other chikdren may begin to ask questions or even demonstrate it in an inapproprate way. Then other students go home and tell their parents and those parents call the school. Happens all the time
I did not BF, Im not against breastfeeding but as a parent as well I dont want pre- school to be the place where he learns about it
I don't understand this? What is there to learn about?
Not all 4 year old children have been exposed to breastfeeding - and right or wrong, not eveyrone is comfortable with it as a perfectly natural act.
I didn't BF - My sister did. When my neice was born I had to explain to my boys that my sister was feeding the baby, that's where her milk came from, Mommys bodies make milk for their babies, not all babies take a bottle ....etc etc. They had 5 million questions and were intrigued and curious and nosey ........
But again, it was something I was able to explain to them -
I completely agree. This is something the parents should be talking to their children about when they feel the need. A daycare teacher is not the right person.
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by JME78
Posted by jgl
I personally think the teacher did the right thing.
Im a teacher. IMO She was avoiding an issue of something that isnt really an appropriate conversation to have in school with other children of that age group. The other chikdren may begin to ask questions or even demonstrate it in an inapproprate way. Then other students go home and tell their parents and those parents call the school. Happens all the time
I did not BF, Im not against breastfeeding but as a parent as well I dont want pre- school to be the place where he learns about it
I don't understand this? What is there to learn about?
Not all 4 year old children have been exposed to breastfeeding - and right or wrong, not eveyrone is comfortable with it as a perfectly natural act.
I didn't BF - My sister did. When my neice was born I had to explain to my boys that my sister was feeding the baby, that's where her milk came from, Mommys bodies make milk for their babies, not all babies take a bottle ....etc etc. They had 5 million questions and were intrigued and curious and nosey ........
But again, it was something I was able to explain to them -
Not all 4 year olds have been exposed to bottle feeding. Should I take issue with DS coming home asking me what a bottle is? Should I take issue with his nursery school for exposing him to bottles?
Feeding is feeding, end of story.
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
Posted by MrsPenthouse
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by JME78
Posted by jgl
I personally think the teacher did the right thing.
Im a teacher. IMO She was avoiding an issue of something that isnt really an appropriate conversation to have in school with other children of that age group. The other chikdren may begin to ask questions or even demonstrate it in an inapproprate way. Then other students go home and tell their parents and those parents call the school. Happens all the time
I did not BF, Im not against breastfeeding but as a parent as well I dont want pre- school to be the place where he learns about it
I don't understand this? What is there to learn about?
Not all 4 year old children have been exposed to breastfeeding - and right or wrong, not eveyrone is comfortable with it as a perfectly natural act.
I didn't BF - My sister did. When my neice was born I had to explain to my boys that my sister was feeding the baby, that's where her milk came from, Mommys bodies make milk for their babies, not all babies take a bottle ....etc etc. They had 5 million questions and were intrigued and curious and nosey ........
But again, it was something I was able to explain to them -
Not all 4 year olds have been exposed to bottle feeding. Should I take issue with DS coming home asking me what a bottle is? Should I take issue with his nursery school for exposing him to bottles?
Feeding is feeding, end of story.
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
I think the main point that you need to find out is if your daughter lifted up her shirt. If so, you don't want her doing that.
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
Posted by Ballet46
I think the main point that you need to find out is if your daughter lifted up her shirt. If so, you don't want her doing that.
exactly!
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
Posted by MrsPenthouse
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by JME78
Posted by jgl
I personally think the teacher did the right thing.
Im a teacher. IMO She was avoiding an issue of something that isnt really an appropriate conversation to have in school with other children of that age group. The other chikdren may begin to ask questions or even demonstrate it in an inapproprate way. Then other students go home and tell their parents and those parents call the school. Happens all the time
I did not BF, Im not against breastfeeding but as a parent as well I dont want pre- school to be the place where he learns about it
I don't understand this? What is there to learn about?
Not all 4 year old children have been exposed to breastfeeding - and right or wrong, not eveyrone is comfortable with it as a perfectly natural act.
I didn't BF - My sister did. When my neice was born I had to explain to my boys that my sister was feeding the baby, that's where her milk came from, Mommys bodies make milk for their babies, not all babies take a bottle ....etc etc. They had 5 million questions and were intrigued and curious and nosey ........
But again, it was something I was able to explain to them -
Not all 4 year olds have been exposed to bottle feeding. Should I take issue with DS coming home asking me what a bottle is? Should I take issue with his nursery school for exposing him to bottles?
Feeding is feeding, end of story.
There is an obvious difference between a child coming home asking about a bottle, and asking about breasts and feeding. Yes it's natural, but not in the daycare class curriculum.
I can't stand when people lose common sense to try to make a point.
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
Posted by BargainMama
Posted by MrsPenthouse
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by JME78
Posted by jgl
I personally think the teacher did the right thing.
Im a teacher. IMO She was avoiding an issue of something that isnt really an appropriate conversation to have in school with other children of that age group. The other chikdren may begin to ask questions or even demonstrate it in an inapproprate way. Then other students go home and tell their parents and those parents call the school. Happens all the time
I did not BF, Im not against breastfeeding but as a parent as well I dont want pre- school to be the place where he learns about it
I don't understand this? What is there to learn about?
Not all 4 year old children have been exposed to breastfeeding - and right or wrong, not eveyrone is comfortable with it as a perfectly natural act.
I didn't BF - My sister did. When my neice was born I had to explain to my boys that my sister was feeding the baby, that's where her milk came from, Mommys bodies make milk for their babies, not all babies take a bottle ....etc etc. They had 5 million questions and were intrigued and curious and nosey ........
But again, it was something I was able to explain to them -
Not all 4 year olds have been exposed to bottle feeding. Should I take issue with DS coming home asking me what a bottle is? Should I take issue with his nursery school for exposing him to bottles?
Feeding is feeding, end of story.
There is an obvious difference between a child coming home asking about a bottle, and asking about breasts and feeding. Yes it's natural, but not in the daycare class curriculum.
I can't stand when people lose common sense to try to make a point.
Not to me, "babies can't use a cup to swallow because they are too little. They have to use a nipple from either a bottle or their mommy to drink"....to me, that is common sense.
Would you shield a child from watching a calf/goat/puppy drink milk from their mommies? I'm seriously shaking my head. You have a right to your parenting and I'm not attacking your beliefs but to me, unless we ban images of all other mammals nursing in the daycare (and obviously trips to farms or zoos because God forbid they ask questions) then this doesn't make sense to me.
Going back to the OP, if shirt was down then there should be no issue.
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
Posted by BargainMama
Posted by MrsPenthouse
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by JME78
Posted by jgl
I personally think the teacher did the right thing.
Im a teacher. IMO She was avoiding an issue of something that isnt really an appropriate conversation to have in school with other children of that age group. The other chikdren may begin to ask questions or even demonstrate it in an inapproprate way. Then other students go home and tell their parents and those parents call the school. Happens all the time
I did not BF, Im not against breastfeeding but as a parent as well I dont want pre- school to be the place where he learns about it
I don't understand this? What is there to learn about?
Not all 4 year old children have been exposed to breastfeeding - and right or wrong, not eveyrone is comfortable with it as a perfectly natural act.
I didn't BF - My sister did. When my neice was born I had to explain to my boys that my sister was feeding the baby, that's where her milk came from, Mommys bodies make milk for their babies, not all babies take a bottle ....etc etc. They had 5 million questions and were intrigued and curious and nosey ........
But again, it was something I was able to explain to them -
Not all 4 year olds have been exposed to bottle feeding. Should I take issue with DS coming home asking me what a bottle is? Should I take issue with his nursery school for exposing him to bottles?
Feeding is feeding, end of story.
There is an obvious difference between a child coming home asking about a bottle, and asking about breasts and feeding. Yes it's natural, but not in the daycare class curriculum.
I can't stand when people lose common sense to try to make a point.
. What is the difference ? They are both socially acceptable ways to feed a baby. One has been going on forever, the other is relatively new and constructed by man. The only reason people are saying they aren't equivalent is because they are looking at breasts as sexual and breastfeeding as an outgrowth of that sexual association. There is no other reason for the discomfort. If breast milk were expressed from a women's wrist, we wouldn't be having this discussion !
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
I totally agree that bf is a natural thing and I also agree that no one should ever be ashamed or embarrassed when doing so BUT
This is a preschool setting NOT an adult grown up forum where you want to "fight the fight" about bf
THIS is not an extension of anyone telling YOU as the mother to cover up in a public restaurant or store
Bottom line it isn't about you its about a school setting and what is appropriate and inappropriate to address
Just as I wouldn't want my four yr old coming home showing me how some other child does other natural bodily functions the same pertains to this.... like I wouldn't want my four old coming home telling me how she witnessed one child pooping and his method of wiping his butt.... or how a boy pees standing up rather than her sitting down .....or how this one kid burps or farts while eating his lunch ....and this list of very natural functions that I wouldn't want coming home can go on and on even to involving very natural sexual things that are very natural but are utterly inappropriate for four yr olds to simulate around other children in a school setting .....so just because it is a natural act it doesn't mean it is something appropriate to have children do around other children in a classroom setting ....teachers have to tread very lightly when it comes to anything that involves ones body parts especially private parts
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
Posted by JenandMikey
I totally agree that bf is a natural thing and I also agree that no one should ever be ashamed or embarrassed when doing so BUT
This is a preschool setting NOT an adult grown up forum where you want to "fight the fight" about bf
THIS is not an extension of anyone telling YOU as the mother to cover up in a public restaurant or store
Bottom line it isn't about you its about a school setting and what is appropriate and inappropriate to address
Just as I wouldn't want my four yr old coming home showing me how some other child does other natural bodily functions.... like how she witnessed one child pooping and he wipes his butt.... or she witnesses boy peeing standing up rather than her sitting down .....or how this one burps or farts while eating his lunch ....and this list of very natural functions that I wouldn't want coming home can go on and on even to involving very natural sexual things that are very natural but are utterly inappropriate for four yr olds to simulate around other children in a school setting .....so just because it is a natural act its doesn't mean it is something appropriate to have children do around other children in a classroom setting teachers have to tread very lightly when it comes to anything that involves ones body parts especially private parts
Better than I could have said it 
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
I tend to agree with the teacher.
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
Posted by JenandMikey
I totally agree that bf is a natural thing and I also agree that no one should ever be ashamed or embarrassed when doing so BUT
This is a preschool setting NOT an adult grown up forum where you want to "fight the fight" about bf
THIS is not an extension of anyone telling YOU as the mother to cover up in a public restaurant or store
Bottom line it isn't about you its about a school setting and what is appropriate and inappropriate to address
Just as I wouldn't want my four yr old coming home showing me how some other child does other natural bodily functions.... like how she witnessed one child pooping and he wipes his butt.... or she witnesses boy peeing standing up rather than her sitting down .....or how this one burps or farts while eating his lunch ....and this list of very natural functions that I wouldn't want coming home can go on and on even to involving very natural sexual things that are very natural but are utterly inappropriate for four yr olds to simulate around other children in a school setting .....so just because it is a natural act its doesn't mean it is something appropriate to have children do around other children in a classroom setting teachers have to tread very lightly when it comes to anything that involves ones body parts especially private parts
Thanks for this. I never would have been able to say it as clearly and politely.
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Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
I don't get why everyone is getting so up in arms about this when they have NO idea what actually happened!!
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
Posted by JenandMikey
I totally agree that bf is a natural thing and I also agree that no one should ever be ashamed or embarrassed when doing so BUT
This is a preschool setting NOT an adult grown up forum where you want to "fight the fight" about bf
THIS is not an extension of anyone telling YOU as the mother to cover up in a public restaurant or store
Bottom line it isn't about you its about a school setting and what is appropriate and inappropriate to address
Just as I wouldn't want my four yr old coming home showing me how some other child does other natural bodily functions the same pertains to this.... like I wouldn't want my four old coming home telling me how she witnessed one child pooping and his method of wiping his butt.... or how a boy pees standing up rather than her sitting down .....or how this one kid burps or farts while eating his lunch ....and this list of very natural functions that I wouldn't want coming home can go on and on even to involving very natural sexual things that are very natural but are utterly inappropriate for four yr olds to simulate around other children in a school setting .....so just because it is a natural act it doesn't mean it is something appropriate to have children do around other children in a classroom setting ....teachers have to tread very lightly when it comes to anything that involves ones body parts especially private parts
This is really well said and you actually changed my original viewpoint on this.
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
Posted by Pomegranate5
Posted by JenandMikey
I totally agree that bf is a natural thing and I also agree that no one should ever be ashamed or embarrassed when doing so BUT
This is a preschool setting NOT an adult grown up forum where you want to "fight the fight" about bf
THIS is not an extension of anyone telling YOU as the mother to cover up in a public restaurant or store
Bottom line it isn't about you its about a school setting and what is appropriate and inappropriate to address
Just as I wouldn't want my four yr old coming home showing me how some other child does other natural bodily functions the same pertains to this.... like I wouldn't want my four old coming home telling me how she witnessed one child pooping and his method of wiping his butt.... or how a boy pees standing up rather than her sitting down .....or how this one kid burps or farts while eating his lunch ....and this list of very natural functions that I wouldn't want coming home can go on and on even to involving very natural sexual things that are very natural but are utterly inappropriate for four yr olds to simulate around other children in a school setting .....so just because it is a natural act it doesn't mean it is something appropriate to have children do around other children in a classroom setting ....teachers have to tread very lightly when it comes to anything that involves ones body parts especially private parts
This is really well said and you actually changed my original viewpoint on this.
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
Posted by JenandMikey
Just as I wouldn't want my four yr old coming home showing me how some other child does other natural bodily functions the same pertains to this.... like I wouldn't want my four old coming home telling me how she witnessed one child pooping and his method of wiping his butt.... or how a boy pees standing up rather than her sitting down .....or how this one kid burps or farts while eating his lunch ....and this list of very natural functions that I wouldn't want coming home can go on and on even to involving very natural sexual things that are very natural but are utterly inappropriate for four yr olds to simulate around other children in a school setting .....so just because it is a natural act it doesn't mean it is something appropriate to have children do around other children in a classroom setting ....teachers have to tread very lightly when it comes to anything that involves ones body parts especially private parts
This still reinforces the belief that BF is something to be done in private. How can you equate "utterly inappropriate" sexual things to BF?
How can you equate pooping or peeing with BF?
Our society deems peeing and pooping and other bodily functions be done in private. Breastfeeding is NOT THE SAME. People should not be raised to believe that breastfeeding is not appropriate to do in public.
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
Posted by JenandMikey
I totally agree that bf is a natural thing and I also agree that no one should ever be ashamed or embarrassed when doing so BUT
This is a preschool setting NOT an adult grown up forum where you want to "fight the fight" about bf
THIS is not an extension of anyone telling YOU as the mother to cover up in a public restaurant or store
Bottom line it isn't about you its about a school setting and what is appropriate and inappropriate to address
Just as I wouldn't want my four yr old coming home showing me how some other child does other natural bodily functions the same pertains to this.... like I wouldn't want my four old coming home telling me how she witnessed one child pooping and his method of wiping his butt.... or how a boy pees standing up rather than her sitting down .....or how this one kid burps or farts while eating his lunch ....and this list of very natural functions that I wouldn't want coming home can go on and on even to involving very natural sexual things that are very natural but are utterly inappropriate for four yr olds to simulate around other children in a school setting .....so just because it is a natural act it doesn't mean it is something appropriate to have children do around other children in a classroom setting ....teachers have to tread very lightly when it comes to anything that involves ones body parts especially private parts
Are you equating simulating a sexual act with simulating breast feeding ?
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
Posted by JME78
Posted by JenandMikey
Just as I wouldn't want my four yr old coming home showing me how some other child does other natural bodily functions the same pertains to this.... like I wouldn't want my four old coming home telling me how she witnessed one child pooping and his method of wiping his butt.... or how a boy pees standing up rather than her sitting down .....or how this one kid burps or farts while eating his lunch ....and this list of very natural functions that I wouldn't want coming home can go on and on even to involving very natural sexual things that are very natural but are utterly inappropriate for four yr olds to simulate around other children in a school setting .....so just because it is a natural act it doesn't mean it is something appropriate to have children do around other children in a classroom setting ....teachers have to tread very lightly when it comes to anything that involves ones body parts especially private parts
This still reinforces the belief that BF is something to be done in private. How can you equate "utterly inappropriate" sexual things to BF?
How can you equate pooping or peeing with BF?
Our society deems peeing and pooping and other bodily functions be done in private. Breastfeeding is NOT THE SAME. People should not be raised to believe that breastfeeding is not appropriate to do in public.
I read the post and thought the same as you but we are clearly in the minority and I don't want to make this seem like a BF vs. FF debate, which is how some are taking it. I totally see your point.
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
Posted by MrsA1012
Posted by JenandMikey
I totally agree that bf is a natural thing and I also agree that no one should ever be ashamed or embarrassed when doing so BUT
This is a preschool setting NOT an adult grown up forum where you want to "fight the fight" about bf
THIS is not an extension of anyone telling YOU as the mother to cover up in a public restaurant or store
Bottom line it isn't about you its about a school setting and what is appropriate and inappropriate to address
Just as I wouldn't want my four yr old coming home showing me how some other child does other natural bodily functions the same pertains to this.... like I wouldn't want my four old coming home telling me how she witnessed one child pooping and his method of wiping his butt.... or how a boy pees standing up rather than her sitting down .....or how this one kid burps or farts while eating his lunch ....and this list of very natural functions that I wouldn't want coming home can go on and on even to involving very natural sexual things that are very natural but are utterly inappropriate for four yr olds to simulate around other children in a school setting .....so just because it is a natural act it doesn't mean it is something appropriate to have children do around other children in a classroom setting ....teachers have to tread very lightly when it comes to anything that involves ones body parts especially private parts
Are you equating simulating a sexual act with simulating breast feeding ?
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
Posted by JME78
Posted by JenandMikey
Just as I wouldn't want my four yr old coming home showing me how some other child does other natural bodily functions the same pertains to this.... like I wouldn't want my four old coming home telling me how she witnessed one child pooping and his method of wiping his butt.... or how a boy pees standing up rather than her sitting down .....or how this one kid burps or farts while eating his lunch ....and this list of very natural functions that I wouldn't want coming home can go on and on even to involving very natural sexual things that are very natural but are utterly inappropriate for four yr olds to simulate around other children in a school setting .....so just because it is a natural act it doesn't mean it is something appropriate to have children do around other children in a classroom setting ....teachers have to tread very lightly when it comes to anything that involves ones body parts especially private parts
This still reinforces the belief that BF is something to be done in private. How can you equate "utterly inappropriate" sexual things to BF?
How can you equate pooping or peeing with BF?
Our society deems peeing and pooping and other bodily functions be done in private. Breastfeeding is NOT THE SAME. People should not be raised to believe that breastfeeding is not appropriate to do in public.
No one is saying that it is NOT appropriate to do in public.
The fact is that in a school setting there are children who are not exposed to it and will have so many questions. Questions that a teacher IMO should not have to deal with given all the careful eggshells they already have to walk around.
I want to explain to my child why one mommy feeds her baby with her own body and why other mommy's use a bottle.
There will be other questions that my child will want answers to as he is exposed to them and I feel myself and DH should be the ones to answer them in our own words.
I think what the teacher in the OP's post did was justified.
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
Posted by BriBri2u
Posted by JME78
Posted by JenandMikey
Just as I wouldn't want my four yr old coming home showing me how some other child does other natural bodily functions the same pertains to this.... like I wouldn't want my four old coming home telling me how she witnessed one child pooping and his method of wiping his butt.... or how a boy pees standing up rather than her sitting down .....or how this one kid burps or farts while eating his lunch ....and this list of very natural functions that I wouldn't want coming home can go on and on even to involving very natural sexual things that are very natural but are utterly inappropriate for four yr olds to simulate around other children in a school setting .....so just because it is a natural act it doesn't mean it is something appropriate to have children do around other children in a classroom setting ....teachers have to tread very lightly when it comes to anything that involves ones body parts especially private parts
This still reinforces the belief that BF is something to be done in private. How can you equate "utterly inappropriate" sexual things to BF?
How can you equate pooping or peeing with BF?
Our society deems peeing and pooping and other bodily functions be done in private. Breastfeeding is NOT THE SAME. People should not be raised to believe that breastfeeding is not appropriate to do in public.
No one is saying that it is NOT appropriate to do in public.
The fact is that in a school setting there are children who are not exposed to it and will have so many questions. Questions that a teacher IMO should not have to deal with given all the careful eggshells they already have to walk around.
I want to explain to my child why one mommy feeds her baby with her own body and why other mommy's use a bottle.
There will be other questions that my child will want answers to as he is exposed to them and I feel myself and DH should be the ones to answer them in our own words.
I think what the teacher in the OP's post did was justified.
But isn't it essentially the same situation for the OPs child? The teacher is stepping in and explaining that bfing is something only to be done in private and shouldn't be talked about. I don't think that's right either. I can see both sides which is what makes it such a tough situation in my eyes. You may not your child exposed to this conversation but I don't want my child censored from pretending to do it either.
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| Posted 9/17/14 1:18 PM |
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MrsA1012
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
Posted by BriBri2u
Posted by JME78
Posted by JenandMikey
Just as I wouldn't want my four yr old coming home showing me how some other child does other natural bodily functions the same pertains to this.... like I wouldn't want my four old coming home telling me how she witnessed one child pooping and his method of wiping his butt.... or how a boy pees standing up rather than her sitting down .....or how this one kid burps or farts while eating his lunch ....and this list of very natural functions that I wouldn't want coming home can go on and on even to involving very natural sexual things that are very natural but are utterly inappropriate for four yr olds to simulate around other children in a school setting .....so just because it is a natural act it doesn't mean it is something appropriate to have children do around other children in a classroom setting ....teachers have to tread very lightly when it comes to anything that involves ones body parts especially private parts
This still reinforces the belief that BF is something to be done in private. How can you equate "utterly inappropriate" sexual things to BF?
How can you equate pooping or peeing with BF?
Our society deems peeing and pooping and other bodily functions be done in private. Breastfeeding is NOT THE SAME. People should not be raised to believe that breastfeeding is not appropriate to do in public.
No one is saying that it is NOT appropriate to do in public.
The fact is that in a school setting there are children who are not exposed to it and will have so many questions. Questions that a teacher IMO should not have to deal with given all the careful eggshells they already have to walk around.
I want to explain to my child why one mommy feeds her baby with her own body and why other mommy's use a bottle.
There will be other questions that my child will want answers to as he is exposed to them and I feel myself and DH should be the ones to answer them in our own words.
I think what the teacher in the OP's post did was justified.
If the kids went on field trip to the Bronx Zoo and a child saw a primate nursing a baby and asked about it what would the teacher say. Children are inquisitive and ask a million questions. All the teacher had to say is that some moms feed baby with breasts, some moms feed baby with bottles. Then tell the child if they want to know more they should talk to mom or dad. They could even use it as a great teaching moment about mammals and how animal mommies feed babies the same way. Isn't the point of school to learn and be exposed to different ideas ?
Message edited 9/17/2014 1:22:28 PM.
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| Posted 9/17/14 1:21 PM |
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BriBri2u
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Re: Kids pretending to breastfeed at school
Posted by MrsT809
Posted by BriBri2u
Posted by JME78
Posted by JenandMikey
Just as I wouldn't want my four yr old coming home showing me how some other child does other natural bodily functions the same pertains to this.... like I wouldn't want my four old coming home telling me how she witnessed one child pooping and his method of wiping his butt.... or how a boy pees standing up rather than her sitting down .....or how this one kid burps or farts while eating his lunch ....and this list of very natural functions that I wouldn't want coming home can go on and on even to involving very natural sexual things that are very natural but are utterly inappropriate for four yr olds to simulate around other children in a school setting .....so just because it is a natural act it doesn't mean it is something appropriate to have children do around other children in a classroom setting ....teachers have to tread very lightly when it comes to anything that involves ones body parts especially private parts
This still reinforces the belief that BF is something to be done in private. How can you equate "utterly inappropriate" sexual things to BF?
How can you equate pooping or peeing with BF?
Our society deems peeing and pooping and other bodily functions be done in private. Breastfeeding is NOT THE SAME. People should not be raised to believe that breastfeeding is not appropriate to do in public.
No one is saying that it is NOT appropriate to do in public.
The fact is that in a school setting there are children who are not exposed to it and will have so many questions. Questions that a teacher IMO should not have to deal with given all the careful eggshells they already have to walk around.
I want to explain to my child why one mommy feeds her baby with her own body and why other mommy's use a bottle.
There will be other questions that my child will want answers to as he is exposed to them and I feel myself and DH should be the ones to answer them in our own words.
I think what the teacher in the OP's post did was justified.
But isn't it essentially the same situation for the OPs child? The teacher is stepping in and explaining that bfing is something only to be done in private and shouldn't be talked about. I don't think that's right either. I can see both sides which is what makes it such a tough situation in my eyes. You may not your child exposed to this conversation but I don't want my child censored from pretending to do it either.
Sorry I meant to write that if the OP's daughter had her shirt up while doing it then I agree with the teacher.
If she didn't I don't agree with her choice of words stating it is something it should be done in private. She could have chosen better words.
I'm guessing given the sensitivity that teachers have to have when it comes to children, their bodies and school, she probably didn't have time to think them out as well. That's just my opinion.
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