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MrsJ
I love my Katie Bug
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Kathy
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Just a vent
When I finally got my crying screaming 5 wk old to sleep after HOURS of trying, DH went in the bedroom and started coughing and woke her up.
THEN DH went in to the guest room and is now sound asleep and I have been trying for TWO EFFEN HOURS to get this screaming baby back to sleep.
I'm SO P*SSED RIGHT NOW!!!!! I'm seriously at the end of my rope with this crap.
Message edited 6/7/2006 11:21:55 PM.
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monkeybride
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Re: Just a vent
It gets better, I promise.
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| Posted 6/7/06 11:52 PM |
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MrsBumbleb
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Re: Just a vent
been there
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| Posted 6/8/06 6:08 AM |
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Melbernai
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Re: Just a vent
What is it with men and coughing?!?!?!?! My DH has done the same thing plenty of times!!! 
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| Posted 6/8/06 6:15 AM |
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jenny
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Re: Just a vent
I know it was hard but treasure even the bad moments. I was rocking DD in the glider last night (she is now 26 months) and I can't believe the time has gone so fast.
Look at it as an opportunity to spend more time with baby.
Then warn DH if he EVER does it again...
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| Posted 6/8/06 7:12 AM |
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Marybeth222
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Re: Just a vent
Somehow they ALWAYS manage to get some sleep.
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| Posted 6/8/06 8:37 AM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: Just a vent
Oh god, I remember those days oh so well... our rule of the house now is you wake baby, you TAKE baby  Everytime DH did something like that, I'd make him pay me back tenfold on the weekends while I happily slept in late while he tended to a fussy baby
Have you tried working in shifts? When Alex was at her worst, and I was on maternity leave and DH was working so I felt bad asking him to help out with the twilight wakings, instead, when he got home around 5 or 6pm, I would hand Alex to him and go to sleep until about 11pm. I'd wake up, take over and hubby would go to sleep an hour or two later. We only did this for a few weeks when she was at her absolute worst, but it was seriously the only way I managed to maintain my sanity.
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| Posted 6/8/06 8:41 AM |
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bean
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Re: Just a vent
I would work in shifts with your DH. Not fair that you have to be sleep deprived.
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| Posted 6/8/06 8:53 AM |
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ckdk
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Re: Just a vent
Posted by bean
I would work in shifts with your DH. Not fair that you have to be sleep deprived.
This is what we did when DD would cry her head off... I completely feel your pain... Have you tried running the vaccuum? The instant I put it on she would stop crying...
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| Posted 6/8/06 8:55 AM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Just a vent
I always yell at my DH for stomping around the house like ogre when the baby is sleeping - hardwood floors aren't exactly quiet.
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| Posted 6/8/06 8:56 AM |
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btrflygrl
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Re: Just a vent
Those darn DH....they just don't get it sometimes!!!
6 weeks is a MAJOR turning point! Hang in there, it does get better!!!
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| Posted 6/8/06 9:00 AM |
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sunny
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Re: Just a vent
I would have brought her in to him, screaming and all!
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| Posted 6/8/06 9:03 AM |
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LuvMy2Girls
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Re: Just a vent
Posted by Bxgell2
Oh god, I remember those days oh so well... our rule of the house now is you wake baby, you TAKE baby Everytime DH did something like that, I'd make him pay me back tenfold on the weekends while I happily slept in late while he tended to a fussy baby
I was going to say the same thing, he wakes her, he gets her no matter if he has work or not the next day.
Lots of hugs Kathy
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| Posted 6/8/06 9:28 AM |
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MrsJ
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Re: Just a vent
Hi Girls. She never went to sleep last night- she finally went down about 7 am in my bed. She's up again now, 10am, having her bottle. DH is gone to work...I'm going on coffee. Tonight I'll talk to DH about shifts because its really not fair. I cant be the one doing this all the time - and Im going to work soon too so what will happen then? THe cat will take care of her at night when she is up all night?
Thanks for the suggestions
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| Posted 6/8/06 10:08 AM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: Just a vent
Posted by MrsJ
Hi Girls. She never went to sleep last night- she finally went down about 7 am in my bed. She's up again now, 10am, having her bottle. DH is gone to work...I'm going on coffee. Tonight I'll talk to DH about shifts because its really not fair. I cant be the one doing this all the time - and Im going to work soon too so what will happen then? THe cat will take care of her at night when she is up all night?
Thanks for the suggestions
Yup, you need a talk! Just because DH is working doesn't mean that all of the responsibility should be shifted onto you. Taking care of a fussy newborn is just as, if not more difficult than going to work all day, so you two need to work out some kind of shift system that will work for both of you. As for when you go back to work, when I returned, and Alex still wasn't sleeping well (waking every 2-3 hours), we again worked in shifts. I would put her to bed for the night, DH would take the first feeding, I would take the next, and then we usually played it by ear from that point forth. The rule of thumb with a baby who doesn't sleep well, go to sleep when baby goes to sleep. The only way we functioned when we were both working and Alex wasn't sleeping well was for us to both go to sleep at around 7pm when Alex would first go down for the night...
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| Posted 6/8/06 10:11 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Just a vent
I swear when I read your posts, I'm ready to show up at your door with an umbrella & Mary Poppins attire -ask you were your laundry detergeant & baskets are, take care of that little one and tell you to go to sleep. The only thing that's stopping me is if I were a new mom, I'd slam the door on any stranger & call the cops if they offered.
You are doing a terrific, TERRIFIC job, but d@mn you need a break. I have something to do @ Sunday 1-3ish. Let me know if you want me to stop by afterward --- and yes I can bring my camera --- and no, I'm not kidding at all.
eta. I had a tremendous amount of help when I had my kids - I really hate that you don't have a mom/sisters that can help you out.
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| Posted 6/8/06 10:30 AM |
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Marybeth222
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Re: Just a vent
Posted by nrthshgrl
I swear when I read your posts, I'm ready to show up at your door with an umbrella & Mary Poppins attire -ask you were your laundry detergeant & baskets are, take care of that little one and tell you to go to sleep. The only thing that's stopping me is if I were a new mom, I'd slam the door on any stranger & call the cops if they offered.
You are doing a terrific, TERRIFIC job, but d@mn you need a break. I have something to do @ Sunday 1-3ish. Let me know if you want me to stop by afterward --- and yes I can bring my camera --- and no, I'm not kidding at all.
eta. I had a tremendous amount of help when I had my kids - I really hate that you don't have a mom/sisters that can help you out.
I too feel for you!!! You need some much needed sleep. It makes it so much harder when you're exhausted and your husband decides to be the biggest jerk on the planet! I think we've probably been there at one time and you think you're never going to get through it. You will! I think you need to just tell your husband that he needs to take Kate and himself out for the day because you need to sleep!
As far as what to do when YOU go back to work, I think you two have to agree on a schedule otherwise, you'll collapse. Although we have a schedule and my husband makes so much noise that I end up getting up anyway. Also, there is a light at the end of the tunnel....in a few weeks, she'll be sleeping through the night and you won't be because you won't believe that she's actually sleeping and you'll spend all the time checking on her (LOL).
Do you have a friend or family member that can come over just to give you some relief?
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ana6178
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Re: Just a vent
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| Posted 6/8/06 10:42 AM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Just a vent
Posted by nrthshgrl
I swear when I read your posts, I'm ready to show up at your door with an umbrella & Mary Poppins attire -ask you were your laundry detergeant & baskets are, take care of that little one and tell you to go to sleep. The only thing that's stopping me is if I were a new mom, I'd slam the door on any stranger & call the cops if they offered.
You are doing a terrific, TERRIFIC job, but d@mn you need a break. I have something to do @ Sunday 1-3ish. Let me know if you want me to stop by afterward --- and yes I can bring my camera --- and no, I'm not kidding at all.
eta. I had a tremendous amount of help when I had my kids - I really hate that you don't have a mom/sisters that can help you out.
If I were in NY I would offer the same because I know I was often on the verge of a breakdown those first few months with Miranda, her reflux, spitting up, and no sleep.
Honestly Kathy if you can go to your mom or have her come to you it really sounds like you need it especially if you are going back to work soon. You just had a baby and you need some time to rest and heal before you have to get back to work.
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| Posted 6/8/06 10:48 AM |
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mommy2bella
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Re: Just a vent
Posted by bean
I would work in shifts with your DH. Not fair that you have to be sleep deprived.
this is what we did and it helped me tremendously...I was so much more stressed out with crying and fussiness when I didn't sleep, I felt like I couldn't do it...
DH also let me sleep a few nights, he just got up when she got up, shut the door and didn't say a word for like 12 hours...it saved my life.
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| Posted 6/8/06 11:24 AM |
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CheeChee
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Re: Just a vent
I know just what you are going thru except one thing was different with me. My DH never helped me no matter how many talks we had. It was all on me. And believe me, you can come to my house and check my cupboards.. i used to have service for 8 in drinking glasses.. now i have service for 2! The other 6 were smashed outside on my concrete patio during the 1st 3 months of Jacob's life. 
Sometimes men just dont get it, or at least mine didnt. And the only person i had to help was my MIL, but I had to pack up everything and go to her house everyday, she never came to my house. And then, I got no sleep there cause he would scream his head off there, and she didnt know how to calm him so I would sleep for 10 min, then have to go to him... it totally blew! I got good support here Thank God, and all i kept repeating in my head was "It WILL GET BETTER!!!!!!" "THIS TOO SHALL PASS" and as much as i wanted to beat every person that told me that, it was sooooooooooooooo true... just in the nick of time where my last two drinking glasses were saved from their impending doom!!
Hang in there sweetie... in the words of my fellow LIF mommies... IT WILL GET BETTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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| Posted 6/8/06 11:32 AM |
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MrsJ
I love my Katie Bug
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Re: Just a vent
OMG THANK YOU Barbara and everyone - thank you so much. It means so much to me.
My Mom is out of state...9 hours away. My step sister (who is wonderful with babies) is in FL. My sister lives 15 mins away but she isnt any help when she's here (when the baby cries I get her handed back to me) and she hasnt once offered to help me. It's disappointing.
My friend who I grew up with (and her Mom who I call "Aunt") have offered to help but she has 2 kids herself, one is less than a year - and is also working full time, so I feel so guilty accepting her offer.
Barbara I seriously may take you up on Sunday. I'm kind of at a breaking point. I just put Katie down again to try and get her to sleep and all she does is cry. One of my friends is home today so I'm going to go there for a little while and pass Katie off to her.
I have to go back to work in 3 weeks, I was really hoping to enjoy my baby and Im still hoping she'll reach a turning point.
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| Posted 6/8/06 11:35 AM |
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lmb03
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Re: Just a vent
AS everyone else had mentioned here around 6 weeks it does gett better. Just hang in there.
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| Posted 6/8/06 11:46 AM |
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iffer042373
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Re: Just a vent
I know exactly what your going through I have gone through this a few times and even now wit h DD being 1 1/2 years my Fh has woken her up at times and I had to deal with getting her back to sleep. Plus there have been times that she has woken up on h er own at like 4 or 5 in the morning wide awake and won't go back to s leep and FH doesn't hear a thing hello I have to get up for work in a few hours can you get up and take her so I can get some sleep since after she is in daycare you can get your sleep. He always tells me I don't hear her so why dont' you wake me up um becuz I am already awake and I wouldn't be able to fall back asleep and afew times I h ave tried to wake you up
They are jsut so clueless as to what we really do.
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| Posted 6/8/06 11:48 AM |
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NJmom
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Re: Just a vent
So sorry you're going through this right now. I wish you had someone to help you! You really need a break. I know it doesn't help now, but it does get better.
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