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It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

Posted by Hi-Fi55

Posted by Ophelia

Posted by Hi-Fi55

Posted by Ophelia

Posted by Hi-Fi55

I don't think of it as bringing out the worst in people. It's just their opinions. Just because they vary from individual to individual doesn't make them wrong, it's just a debate.



debating is one thing...sweeping accusations, on any side, is another.

debates should be about facts...not about opinions, especially about something so emotional.

we are going to see the records (career and criminal) of all of the parties dragged across the mud of media..

some people, quite honestly, were talking out of their a$$es....

as a human, it's hard to stop yourself from "skewing" the facts with some of your own personal views, but at least it stems from fact, and not from what you think you know about people, about life.



Debates are always people talking out of their azzes. Abortion, politics, religions. You always take the truth and skew it with false ideas. That's what makes a good debate. So it's emotional. Only you can make it emotional if you let it bother you.

You can take any topic on this board and make it as emotional as this topic was if you wanted to. It's all about what you say. So some people didn't like what someone said. Guess what other people didn't like what another person said. It's life. People don't always agree. What for the next hot topic to come up.

The world is full of racist people. They aren't all white. EVERYONE needs to look in the mirror. There are racist staring back daily.



I guess...but a good debate is less fiction, more fact.

it's not so much about what people said...more than they actually believe the $hit that comes out of their mouths..

to be a cop...an NYPD officer...really IS an amazing and courageous thing...are there a few bad apples YES...but that doesn't take away from what the 37,000 other cops do every day, for every ONE.

getting caught up in some $hit when you're a stupid kid..happens to A LOT of young people (black, white, red, blue...it just depends on where you live) that doesn't mean they are "criminals" for the rest of their lives...

just b/c we are prone to judge, doesn't make it RIGHT.



Minorities dislike all cops and some cops dislike the minorities.

Hmmm....what's wrong with that picture?



Not all minorities dislike cops because I for one don't and my family sure does not. That is a generalization.

Message edited 11/28/2006 1:14:39 PM.

Posted 11/28/06 1:14 PM
 
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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

Posted by baghag

Posted by Hi-Fi55
Minorities dislike all cops and some cops dislike the minorities.

Hmmm....what's wrong with that picture?



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Posted 11/28/06 1:15 PM
 

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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

Posted by MrsDiamondgrlie

Posted by JenniferEver

I think there's a time to say

"Eff them if they think that. I don't care what anyone thinks. I am right"

and there's a time to say

"You know, people are not reacting well to what I am saying. Maybe I am not phrasing it correctly, or what I am saying is only telling a negative part of what I really feel and is giving people an impression of me that I don't want them to have"




Totally! But I personally always read my answers to myself before I hit "reply" and granted, I have been angry enough to say "good I hope this hurts them because they hurt me" but other times (more often than not) I erase it and dont say anything at all.



Please. I have learned that lesson.

I think it happens to everyone, like the few posters mentioned who always voice their opinion about almost anything (myself included) you get passionatge or you say something not realizing how it will read to another person or make that person feel. And then it's made worse because you feel the need to defend it in the heat of that moment, when looking back you might say "well, that coud really have been phrased better or not said at all"

Posted 11/28/06 1:16 PM
 

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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

Posted by baghag

Posted by Hi-Fi55
Minorities dislike all cops and some cops dislike the minorities.

Hmmm....what's wrong with that picture?



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That's the problem with quoting out of context. The whole post was a point. You can't pick and choose what you want to quote. Anyway, the point is racism keeps going as long as people find reasons to keep it going.

Posted 11/28/06 1:16 PM
 

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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

Posted by Hi-Fi55

You should always believe what you are saying. Otherwise why say it. And who is to say who is right or wrong?

You shouldn't judge all cops by a few cops or by a few past incidents that have given NYPD officers a bad name. If that's true than why is this such a "hot topic". We shouldn't be so upset about this incident. We should say thank God these officers who serve and protect our lives daily and look out for our children are still alive. Yes, it is a sad tragedy that these lives were loss, but it was because these cops were working undercover at this strip club.

Just like people of different races shouldn't be treated differently. No matter what.

Unfortunately, neither of these situations is handled equally. Minorities dislike all cops and some cops dislike the minorities.

Hmmm....what's wrong with that picture?



I'm hoping that that's a typo...because to say that "all" minorities dislike all cops is a huge, blatant and grossly negligent generalization.

NO ONE PERSON CAN EVER SPEAK FOR ANY ONE GROUP. PERIOD.

One cop can't speak for all, one person from a minority can't speak for all, one poster for all, etc.

Generalizations are what keep prejudice alive.

Please explain your point. Because I quoted the whole thing...and got the same result. Chat Icon

I'm thinking you left something out.

Message edited 11/28/2006 1:19:39 PM.

Posted 11/28/06 1:18 PM
 

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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

Posted by Hi-Fi55

Posted by baghag

Posted by Hi-Fi55
Minorities dislike all cops and some cops dislike the minorities.

Hmmm....what's wrong with that picture?



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That's the problem with quoting out of context. The whole post was a point. You can't pick and choose what you want to quote. Anyway, the point is racism keeps going as long as people find reasons to keep it going.



I am missing the point. Honestly I am NOT trying to be a smart *** to you.

I am a minority, and grateful EVERY SINGLE DAY that the NYPD protects us. Chat Icon

Posted 11/28/06 1:23 PM
 

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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

Message edited 11/28/2006 1:29:04 PM.

Posted 11/28/06 1:24 PM
 

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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

Posted by Eva Luna

Posted by Hi-Fi55

You should always believe what you are saying. Otherwise why say it. And who is to say who is right or wrong?

You shouldn't judge all cops by a few cops or by a few past incidents that have given NYPD officers a bad name. If that's true than why is this such a "hot topic". We shouldn't be so upset about this incident. We should say thank God these officers who serve and protect our lives daily and look out for our children are still alive. Yes, it is a sad tragedy that these lives were loss, but it was because these cops were working undercover at this strip club.

Just like people of different races shouldn't be treated differently. No matter what.

Unfortunately, neither of these situations is handled equally. Minorities dislike all cops and some cops dislike the minorities.

Hmmm....what's wrong with that picture?



I'm hoping that that's a typo...because to say that "all" minorities dislike all cops is a huge, blatant and grossly negligent generalization.

NO ONE PERSON CAN EVER SPEAK FOR ANY ONE GROUP. PERIOD.

One cop can't speak for all, one person from a minority can't speak for all, one poster for all, etc.

Generalizations are what keep prejudice alive.

Please explain your point. Because I quoted the whole thing...and got the same result. Chat Icon

I'm thinking you left something out.



I never said all minorites? Where does it say that? I said minorites. I said all cops, but take out all there. Some of them don't like cops. No I can't speak for all of them. Some white people don't like them either. But we are talking about a specific case are we not? So I am trying to stick to that.

And I did explain my post.

Posted 11/28/06 1:27 PM
 

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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

Posted by Hi-Fi55

Posted by Eva Luna

Posted by Hi-Fi55

You should always believe what you are saying. Otherwise why say it. And who is to say who is right or wrong?

You shouldn't judge all cops by a few cops or by a few past incidents that have given NYPD officers a bad name. If that's true than why is this such a "hot topic". We shouldn't be so upset about this incident. We should say thank God these officers who serve and protect our lives daily and look out for our children are still alive. Yes, it is a sad tragedy that these lives were loss, but it was because these cops were working undercover at this strip club.

Just like people of different races shouldn't be treated differently. No matter what.

Unfortunately, neither of these situations is handled equally. Minorities dislike all cops and some cops dislike the minorities.

Hmmm....what's wrong with that picture?



I'm hoping that that's a typo...because to say that "all" minorities dislike all cops is a huge, blatant and grossly negligent generalization.

NO ONE PERSON CAN EVER SPEAK FOR ANY ONE GROUP. PERIOD.

One cop can't speak for all, one person from a minority can't speak for all, one poster for all, etc.

Generalizations are what keep prejudice alive.

Please explain your point. Because I quoted the whole thing...and got the same result. Chat Icon

I'm thinking you left something out.



I never said all minorites? Where does it say that? I said minorites. I said all cops, but take out all there. Some of them don't like cops. No I can't speak for all of them. Some white people don't like them either. But we are talking about a specific case are we not? So I am trying to stick to that.

And I did explain my post.



...I'll show you...

Minorities dislike all cops and some cops dislike the minorities.



By not prefacing with "some" or "all" it is understood that you're referring to minorities as a whole. If not, it would state different.

The next part, about cops, is prefaced by the word "some"...so that is crystal clear.

Thanks for explaining. Chat Icon

Posted 11/28/06 1:30 PM
 

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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

Posted by baghag

Posted by Hi-Fi55

Posted by baghag

Posted by Hi-Fi55
Minorities dislike all cops and some cops dislike the minorities.

Hmmm....what's wrong with that picture?



Chat Icon



That's the problem with quoting out of context. The whole post was a point. You can't pick and choose what you want to quote. Anyway, the point is racism keeps going as long as people find reasons to keep it going.



I am missing the point. Honestly I am NOT trying to be a smart *** to you.

I am a minority, and grateful EVERY SINGLE DAY that the NYPD protects us. Chat Icon



I understand that. I don't think you are being a smart azz. Chat Icon Believe me, I wish more than anything we never had to deal with this kind of stuff on the tv. It's a shame we still live in a world where this happens. I often wonder when and if this will ever change. Do we really learn it from our parents, from tv (media, sitcoms) or from just listening to each other. Where will this world be in 10 years. It should be interesting. Hopefully a better place than it is today.

Posted 11/28/06 1:33 PM
 

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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

Posted by Eva Luna

Posted by Hi-Fi55

Posted by Eva Luna

Posted by Hi-Fi55

You should always believe what you are saying. Otherwise why say it. And who is to say who is right or wrong?

You shouldn't judge all cops by a few cops or by a few past incidents that have given NYPD officers a bad name. If that's true than why is this such a "hot topic". We shouldn't be so upset about this incident. We should say thank God these officers who serve and protect our lives daily and look out for our children are still alive. Yes, it is a sad tragedy that these lives were loss, but it was because these cops were working undercover at this strip club.

Just like people of different races shouldn't be treated differently. No matter what.

Unfortunately, neither of these situations is handled equally. Minorities dislike all cops and some cops dislike the minorities.

Hmmm....what's wrong with that picture?



I'm hoping that that's a typo...because to say that "all" minorities dislike all cops is a huge, blatant and grossly negligent generalization.

NO ONE PERSON CAN EVER SPEAK FOR ANY ONE GROUP. PERIOD.

One cop can't speak for all, one person from a minority can't speak for all, one poster for all, etc.

Generalizations are what keep prejudice alive.

Please explain your point. Because I quoted the whole thing...and got the same result. Chat Icon

I'm thinking you left something out.



I never said all minorites? Where does it say that? I said minorites. I said all cops, but take out all there. Some of them don't like cops. No I can't speak for all of them. Some white people don't like them either. But we are talking about a specific case are we not? So I am trying to stick to that.

And I did explain my post.



...I'll show you...

Minorities dislike all cops and some cops dislike the minorities.



By not prefacing with "some" or "all" it is understood that you're referring to minorities as a whole. If not, it would state different.

The next part, about cops, is prefaced by the word "some"...so that is crystal clear.

Thanks for explaining. Chat Icon



Okay, I forgot the word some before the word minorites.

You win.

Message edited 11/28/2006 1:34:10 PM.

Posted 11/28/06 1:33 PM
 

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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

It's not a matter or semantics. it did read as if you were referring to minorities as a whole

Posted 11/28/06 1:34 PM
 

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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

omg.

Let's BURN her at the stake!

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Posted 11/28/06 1:35 PM
 

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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

OMG My head hurts

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Posted 11/28/06 1:36 PM
 

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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

Posted by HollaGirl

omg.

Let's BURN her at the stake!

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She asked a question, and it was answered.

Not sure this is necessary.

There are no "winners" here.

Posted 11/28/06 1:37 PM
 

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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

Although it's now pulled that thread was one of the most disgraceful threads I have seen since I began posting on any of the Bridal Planner Group chat boards.

50 shots were fired at those men with no return gun fire. Although it takes about 1 minute to discharge 31 rounds from a 9 mm handgun (trigger must be pulled since its not an automatic weapon) 1 minute is a LONG TIME to be caught in a hail of bullets.

Just because a man was out at 4 a.m. at a strip club with potential hookers on his wedding day does not mean he deserved to die - criminal record or not. His choice (or his friends choice) of bachelor party locations also does not make him a bad person. I realize that an officer was struck by a moving vehicle but even that does not make it okay to discharge 50 rounds into a moving car when there is no return fire. And even the NYPD stated that its against police policy to shoot at a moving vehicle when only the vehicle is being used as the weapon (no gun). People familiar with weapons (military mostly) fire several rounds then stop to assess the situation. I am sure the NYPD trains it's officers in a similar fashion.

As for the criminal histories of those involved, for some reason learning that a person has a criminal history always gets brought out after the police murder a person and that seems to calm peopleChat IconChat Icon And when the person has a stellar past and is college bound or something similar everyone is in an uproar. Why is the person with a criminal record cast aside as if that life is worthlessChat Icon Everyone makes mistakes in life.

The NYPD Rant blog is some of the most racist, unsupported information I have seen. I honestly hope that none of these bigots work in any of our communities although sadly I'm sure some of them do. DH has several friends - Black male friends - that are detectives for the NYPD and they have colleagues that share the views posted in that racist blog. DH's detective friends told him NOT to join the NYPD after he got out of the military because of racism and the blue wall of silence - which requires all officers to support the NYPD in all situations.

Blogs like that one are the reason I fear for the life of my husband, father, brother and other male relatives daily. My husband is stopped constantly simply because he is driving a Mercedes E 320.....presumably "too nice" so he must be a criminal since he also has dreadlocks. He is never ticketed and all the paperwork is always in order.

The perception that minorities commit the majority of crime in this country is a joke. I majored in criminal justice and studied all of this. Nobody ever mentions the number of times a non-minority is arrested but does not have to go through the system for whatever reason i.e., family member called in a favor, cop knew the person or the family and gave the person a pass, the person had no rap sheet so they get a pass (typically more than one pass since they did not get processed the first time), they are presumed innocent because they are not a minority etc.

Racial profiling is alive and well and we all have heard the stories of minorities being disproportionately stopped and searched. In one study of the NJ Turnpike it was found that while African Americans made up 13.5 percent of highway users and 15 percent of the speeders, they represented 35 percent of those stopped by police. My husband was stopped on the NJ Turnpike at least 20 times all by white officers and he was NEVER ticketed. DH was even stopped by the same officer twice in the same week and DH reminded him that he already was stopped that same week and DH told the officer all about the officers military duty stations since they had discussed it earlier in the week when DH was stopped. All of this since DH was driving his Mercedes CLK 430 and presumed to be a criminal.

Because of racial profiling minorities are more often processed and sentenced so of course the numbers are skewed. That does not mean minorites commit more crime it just means they are more often caught since minorites are always looked upon as a suspect. I know that I have personally been followed around a high end store or two (or 10) and as a suspect as if I were going to steal something. Meanwhile the real shoplifters are getting away with thousands in merchandise. I'm shocked that Winona Ryder was even processed for shoplifting - then again she is a celebrity so that was sensationalized.

There have been tons of studies on this and several by minorities who are so fair skinned that they are thought to be white. One very fair skinned Black man (saw this on t.v. recently) said he and another darker Black friend were stopped for a search while walking in their neighborhood late night. Not sure if there was even probable caused but the fair skinned man was not searched or handcuffed at all while his much darker friend was cuffed and questioned just for walking in their own neighborhood.

I'm amazed at all of this racial bias since I know several white men and women who were released without processing for various crimes including possession of cocaine. My own personal revelation came when my African American cousin was murdered at age 18 by a 17 year old WHITE kid (and former friend) who fled GA and came to NYC to only be arrested for trying to rob a woman at knifepoint. That incident did not make the paper though - at least not the NYC paper. And nobody ever mentioned the kid was white but had it been a minority criminal it would have been all over the news as "typical Black on Black crime".Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

The cops are the first stop in the system and if they are biased in arresting minorites more often then of course when the case gets to an ADA the person is more likely to be a minority - hence the numbers are skewed so it appears that minorites commit more crime when its just NOT TRUE.

The media perpetuates much of the racial bias in this country. It makes the paper more often when a crime is committed by a minority. It's front page news. Just like when a police officer does something heroic it's on page 6 at the bottom rather than front page newsChat IconChat Icon Chat Icon This entire situation is sad for all involved.

Posted 11/28/06 1:39 PM
 

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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

Posted by MrsT

Although it's now pulled that thread was one of the most disgraceful threads I have seen since I began posting on any of the Bridal Planner Group chat boards.

50 shots were fired at those men with no return gun fire. Although it takes about 1 minute to discharge 31 rounds from a 9 mm handgun (trigger must be pulled since its not an automatic weapon) 1 minute is a LONG TIME to be caught in a hail of bullets.

Just because a man was out at 4 a.m. at a strip club with potential hookers on his wedding day does not mean he deserved to die - criminal record or not. His choice (or his friends choice) of bachelor party locations also does not make him a bad person. I realize that an officer was struck by a moving vehicle but even that does not make it okay to discharge 50 rounds into a moving car when there is no return fire. And even the NYPD stated that its against police policy to shoot at a moving vehicle when only the vehicle is being used as the weapon (no gun). People familiar with weapons (military mostly) fire several rounds then stop to assess the situation. I am sure the NYPD trains it's officers in a similar fashion.

As for the criminal histories of those involved, for some reason learning that a person has a criminal history always gets brought out after the police murder a person and that seems to calm peopleChat IconChat Icon And when the person has a stellar past and is college bound or something similar everyone is in an uproar. Why is the person with a criminal record cast aside as if that life is worthlessChat Icon Everyone makes mistakes in life.

The NYPD Rant blog is some of the most racist, unsupported information I have seen. I honestly hope that none of these bigots work in any of our communities although sadly I'm sure some of them do. DH has several friends - Black male friends - that are detectives for the NYPD and they have colleagues that share the views posted in that racist blog. DH's detective friends told him NOT to join the NYPD after he got out of the military because of racism and the blue wall of silence - which requires all officers to support the NYPD in all situations.

Blogs like that one are the reason I fear for the life of my husband, father, brother and other male relatives daily. My husband is stopped constantly simply because he is driving a Mercedes E 320.....presumably "too nice" so he must be a criminal since he also has dreadlocks. He is never ticketed and all the paperwork is always in order.

The perception that minorities commit the majority of crime in this country is a joke. I majored in criminal justice and studied all of this. Nobody ever mentions the number of times a non-minority is arrested but does not have to go through the system for whatever reason i.e., family member called in a favor, cop knew the person or the family and gave the person a pass, the person had no rap sheet so they get a pass (typically more than one pass since they did not get processed the first time), they are presumed innocent because they are not a minority etc.

Racial profiling is alive and well and we all have heard the stories of minorities being disproportionately stopped and searched. In one study of the NJ Turnpike it was found that while African Americans made up 13.5 percent of highway users and 15 percent of the speeders, they represented 35 percent of those stopped by police. My husband was stopped on the NJ Turnpike at least 20 times all by white officers and he was NEVER ticketed. DH was even stopped by the same officer twice in the same week and DH reminded him that he already was stopped that same week and DH told the officer all about the officers military duty stations since they had discussed it earlier in the week when DH was stopped. All of this since DH was driving his Mercedes CLK 430 and presumed to be a criminal.

Because of racial profiling minorities are more often processed and sentenced so of course the numbers are skewed. That does not mean minorites commit more crime it just means they are more often caught since minorites are always looked upon as a suspect. I know that I have personally been followed around a high end store or two (or 10) and as a suspect as if I were going to steal something. Meanwhile the real shoplifters are getting away with thousands in merchandise. I'm shocked that Winona Ryder was even processed for shoplifting - then again she is a celebrity so that was sensationalized.

There have been tons of studies on this and several by minorities who are so fair skinned that they are thought to be white. One very fair skinned Black man (saw this on t.v. recently) said he and another darker Black friend were stopped for a search while walking in their neighborhood late night. Not sure if there was even probable caused but the fair skinned man was not searched or handcuffed at all while his much darker friend was cuffed and questioned just for walking in their own neighborhood.

I'm amazed at all of this racial bias since I know several white men and women who were released without processing for various crimes including possession of cocaine. My own personal revelation came when my African American cousin was murdered at age 18 by a 17 year old WHITE kid (and former friend) who fled GA and came to NYC to only be arrested for trying to rob a woman at knifepoint. That incident did not make the paper though - at least not the NYC paper. And nobody ever mentioned the kid was white but had it been a minority criminal it would have been all over the news as "typical Black on Black crime".Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

The cops are the first stop in the system and if they are biased in arresting minorites more often then of course when the case gets to an ADA the person is more likely to be a minority - hence the numbers are skewed so it appears that minorites commit more crime when its just NOT TRUE.

The media perpetuates much of the racial bias in this country. It makes the paper more often when a crime is committed by a minority. It's front page news. Just like when a police officer does something heroic it's on page 6 at the bottom rather than front page newsChat IconChat Icon Chat Icon This entire situation is sad for all involved.



I am not sure I understand the point you are trying to make with this post.

Posted 11/28/06 1:53 PM
 

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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

Posted by MrsT

Although it's now pulled that thread was one of the most disgraceful threads I have seen since I began posting on any of the Bridal Planner Group chat boards.

50 shots were fired at those men with no return gun fire. Although it takes about 1 minute to discharge 31 rounds from a 9 mm handgun (trigger must be pulled since its not an automatic weapon) 1 minute is a LONG TIME to be caught in a hail of bullets.

Just because a man was out at 4 a.m. at a strip club with potential hookers on his wedding day does not mean he deserved to die - criminal record or not. His choice (or his friends choice) of bachelor party locations also does not make him a bad person. I realize that an officer was struck by a moving vehicle but even that does not make it okay to discharge 50 rounds into a moving car when there is no return fire. And even the NYPD stated that its against police policy to shoot at a moving vehicle when only the vehicle is being used as the weapon (no gun). People familiar with weapons (military mostly) fire several rounds then stop to assess the situation. I am sure the NYPD trains it's officers in a similar fashion.

As for the criminal histories of those involved, for some reason learning that a person has a criminal history always gets brought out after the police murder a person and that seems to calm peopleChat IconChat Icon And when the person has a stellar past and is college bound or something similar everyone is in an uproar. Why is the person with a criminal record cast aside as if that life is worthlessChat Icon Everyone makes mistakes in life.

The NYPD Rant blog is some of the most racist, unsupported information I have seen. I honestly hope that none of these bigots work in any of our communities although sadly I'm sure some of them do. DH has several friends - Black male friends - that are detectives for the NYPD and they have colleagues that share the views posted in that racist blog. DH's detective friends told him NOT to join the NYPD after he got out of the military because of racism and the blue wall of silence - which requires all officers to support the NYPD in all situations.

Blogs like that one are the reason I fear for the life of my husband, father, brother and other male relatives daily. My husband is stopped constantly simply because he is driving a Mercedes E 320.....presumably "too nice" so he must be a criminal since he also has dreadlocks. He is never ticketed and all the paperwork is always in order.

The perception that minorities commit the majority of crime in this country is a joke. I majored in criminal justice and studied all of this. Nobody ever mentions the number of times a non-minority is arrested but does not have to go through the system for whatever reason i.e., family member called in a favor, cop knew the person or the family and gave the person a pass, the person had no rap sheet so they get a pass (typically more than one pass since they did not get processed the first time), they are presumed innocent because they are not a minority etc.

Racial profiling is alive and well and we all have heard the stories of minorities being disproportionately stopped and searched. In one study of the NJ Turnpike it was found that while African Americans made up 13.5 percent of highway users and 15 percent of the speeders, they represented 35 percent of those stopped by police. My husband was stopped on the NJ Turnpike at least 20 times all by white officers and he was NEVER ticketed. DH was even stopped by the same officer twice in the same week and DH reminded him that he already was stopped that same week and DH told the officer all about the officers military duty stations since they had discussed it earlier in the week when DH was stopped. All of this since DH was driving his Mercedes CLK 430 and presumed to be a criminal.

Because of racial profiling minorities are more often processed and sentenced so of course the numbers are skewed. That does not mean minorites commit more crime it just means they are more often caught since minorites are always looked upon as a suspect. I know that I have personally been followed around a high end store or two (or 10) and as a suspect as if I were going to steal something. Meanwhile the real shoplifters are getting away with thousands in merchandise. I'm shocked that Winona Ryder was even processed for shoplifting - then again she is a celebrity so that was sensationalized.

There have been tons of studies on this and several by minorities who are so fair skinned that they are thought to be white. One very fair skinned Black man (saw this on t.v. recently) said he and another darker Black friend were stopped for a search while walking in their neighborhood late night. Not sure if there was even probable caused but the fair skinned man was not searched or handcuffed at all while his much darker friend was cuffed and questioned just for walking in their own neighborhood.

I'm amazed at all of this racial bias since I know several white men and women who were released without processing for various crimes including possession of cocaine. My own personal revelation came when my African American cousin was murdered at age 18 by a 17 year old WHITE kid (and former friend) who fled GA and came to NYC to only be arrested for trying to rob a woman at knifepoint. That incident did not make the paper though - at least not the NYC paper. And nobody ever mentioned the kid was white but had it been a minority criminal it would have been all over the news as "typical Black on Black crime".Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

The cops are the first stop in the system and if they are biased in arresting minorites more often then of course when the case gets to an ADA the person is more likely to be a minority - hence the numbers are skewed so it appears that minorites commit more crime when its just NOT TRUE.

The media perpetuates much of the racial bias in this country. It makes the paper more often when a crime is committed by a minority. It's front page news. Just like when a police officer does something heroic it's on page 6 at the bottom rather than front page newsChat IconChat Icon Chat Icon This entire situation is sad for all involved.



Thank you for saying it better than I did.

Posted 11/28/06 1:54 PM
 

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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

Posted by HollaGirl

Posted by MrsT

Although it's now pulled that thread was one of the most disgraceful threads I have seen since I began posting on any of the Bridal Planner Group chat boards.

50 shots were fired at those men with no return gun fire. Although it takes about 1 minute to discharge 31 rounds from a 9 mm handgun (trigger must be pulled since its not an automatic weapon) 1 minute is a LONG TIME to be caught in a hail of bullets.

Just because a man was out at 4 a.m. at a strip club with potential hookers on his wedding day does not mean he deserved to die - criminal record or not. His choice (or his friends choice) of bachelor party locations also does not make him a bad person. I realize that an officer was struck by a moving vehicle but even that does not make it okay to discharge 50 rounds into a moving car when there is no return fire. And even the NYPD stated that its against police policy to shoot at a moving vehicle when only the vehicle is being used as the weapon (no gun). People familiar with weapons (military mostly) fire several rounds then stop to assess the situation. I am sure the NYPD trains it's officers in a similar fashion.

As for the criminal histories of those involved, for some reason learning that a person has a criminal history always gets brought out after the police murder a person and that seems to calm peopleChat IconChat Icon And when the person has a stellar past and is college bound or something similar everyone is in an uproar. Why is the person with a criminal record cast aside as if that life is worthlessChat Icon Everyone makes mistakes in life.

The NYPD Rant blog is some of the most racist, unsupported information I have seen. I honestly hope that none of these bigots work in any of our communities although sadly I'm sure some of them do. DH has several friends - Black male friends - that are detectives for the NYPD and they have colleagues that share the views posted in that racist blog. DH's detective friends told him NOT to join the NYPD after he got out of the military because of racism and the blue wall of silence - which requires all officers to support the NYPD in all situations.

Blogs like that one are the reason I fear for the life of my husband, father, brother and other male relatives daily. My husband is stopped constantly simply because he is driving a Mercedes E 320.....presumably "too nice" so he must be a criminal since he also has dreadlocks. He is never ticketed and all the paperwork is always in order.

The perception that minorities commit the majority of crime in this country is a joke. I majored in criminal justice and studied all of this. Nobody ever mentions the number of times a non-minority is arrested but does not have to go through the system for whatever reason i.e., family member called in a favor, cop knew the person or the family and gave the person a pass, the person had no rap sheet so they get a pass (typically more than one pass since they did not get processed the first time), they are presumed innocent because they are not a minority etc.

Racial profiling is alive and well and we all have heard the stories of minorities being disproportionately stopped and searched. In one study of the NJ Turnpike it was found that while African Americans made up 13.5 percent of highway users and 15 percent of the speeders, they represented 35 percent of those stopped by police. My husband was stopped on the NJ Turnpike at least 20 times all by white officers and he was NEVER ticketed. DH was even stopped by the same officer twice in the same week and DH reminded him that he already was stopped that same week and DH told the officer all about the officers military duty stations since they had discussed it earlier in the week when DH was stopped. All of this since DH was driving his Mercedes CLK 430 and presumed to be a criminal.

Because of racial profiling minorities are more often processed and sentenced so of course the numbers are skewed. That does not mean minorites commit more crime it just means they are more often caught since minorites are always looked upon as a suspect. I know that I have personally been followed around a high end store or two (or 10) and as a suspect as if I were going to steal something. Meanwhile the real shoplifters are getting away with thousands in merchandise. I'm shocked that Winona Ryder was even processed for shoplifting - then again she is a celebrity so that was sensationalized.

There have been tons of studies on this and several by minorities who are so fair skinned that they are thought to be white. One very fair skinned Black man (saw this on t.v. recently) said he and another darker Black friend were stopped for a search while walking in their neighborhood late night. Not sure if there was even probable caused but the fair skinned man was not searched or handcuffed at all while his much darker friend was cuffed and questioned just for walking in their own neighborhood.

I'm amazed at all of this racial bias since I know several white men and women who were released without processing for various crimes including possession of cocaine. My own personal revelation came when my African American cousin was murdered at age 18 by a 17 year old WHITE kid (and former friend) who fled GA and came to NYC to only be arrested for trying to rob a woman at knifepoint. That incident did not make the paper though - at least not the NYC paper. And nobody ever mentioned the kid was white but had it been a minority criminal it would have been all over the news as "typical Black on Black crime".Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

The cops are the first stop in the system and if they are biased in arresting minorites more often then of course when the case gets to an ADA the person is more likely to be a minority - hence the numbers are skewed so it appears that minorites commit more crime when its just NOT TRUE.

The media perpetuates much of the racial bias in this country. It makes the paper more often when a crime is committed by a minority. It's front page news. Just like when a police officer does something heroic it's on page 6 at the bottom rather than front page newsChat IconChat Icon Chat Icon This entire situation is sad for all involved.



I am not sure I understand the point you are trying to make with this post.



How could this extremely well written post be any clearer? Chat Icon

I don't think any words were missed.

Message edited 11/28/2006 1:57:24 PM.

Posted 11/28/06 1:57 PM
 

Ophelia
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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

profiling, in and of itself, is not necessarily a bad thing in police work. it is done to track all different kinds of crime (rapists, serial killers and the like)

it is done based on statistics...AND at times, on predjudice.

I come from a mixed race family, I have seen both sides of the coin...neither is easy, neither is pretty.

do I have certain predisposed notions..yeah, and I carry them equally across the racial and gender spectrum. but I am not ruled by them, and I try to draw my conclusion based on what I know to be fact, not conjecture.

Posted 11/28/06 2:27 PM
 

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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

Posted by Eva Luna

Posted by HollaGirl

Posted by MrsT

Although it's now pulled that thread was one of the most disgraceful threads I have seen since I began posting on any of the Bridal Planner Group chat boards.

50 shots were fired at those men with no return gun fire. Although it takes about 1 minute to discharge 31 rounds from a 9 mm handgun (trigger must be pulled since its not an automatic weapon) 1 minute is a LONG TIME to be caught in a hail of bullets.

Just because a man was out at 4 a.m. at a strip club with potential hookers on his wedding day does not mean he deserved to die - criminal record or not. His choice (or his friends choice) of bachelor party locations also does not make him a bad person. I realize that an officer was struck by a moving vehicle but even that does not make it okay to discharge 50 rounds into a moving car when there is no return fire. And even the NYPD stated that its against police policy to shoot at a moving vehicle when only the vehicle is being used as the weapon (no gun). People familiar with weapons (military mostly) fire several rounds then stop to assess the situation. I am sure the NYPD trains it's officers in a similar fashion.

As for the criminal histories of those involved, for some reason learning that a person has a criminal history always gets brought out after the police murder a person and that seems to calm peopleChat IconChat Icon And when the person has a stellar past and is college bound or something similar everyone is in an uproar. Why is the person with a criminal record cast aside as if that life is worthlessChat Icon Everyone makes mistakes in life.

The NYPD Rant blog is some of the most racist, unsupported information I have seen. I honestly hope that none of these bigots work in any of our communities although sadly I'm sure some of them do. DH has several friends - Black male friends - that are detectives for the NYPD and they have colleagues that share the views posted in that racist blog. DH's detective friends told him NOT to join the NYPD after he got out of the military because of racism and the blue wall of silence - which requires all officers to support the NYPD in all situations.

Blogs like that one are the reason I fear for the life of my husband, father, brother and other male relatives daily. My husband is stopped constantly simply because he is driving a Mercedes E 320.....presumably "too nice" so he must be a criminal since he also has dreadlocks. He is never ticketed and all the paperwork is always in order.

The perception that minorities commit the majority of crime in this country is a joke. I majored in criminal justice and studied all of this. Nobody ever mentions the number of times a non-minority is arrested but does not have to go through the system for whatever reason i.e., family member called in a favor, cop knew the person or the family and gave the person a pass, the person had no rap sheet so they get a pass (typically more than one pass since they did not get processed the first time), they are presumed innocent because they are not a minority etc.

Racial profiling is alive and well and we all have heard the stories of minorities being disproportionately stopped and searched. In one study of the NJ Turnpike it was found that while African Americans made up 13.5 percent of highway users and 15 percent of the speeders, they represented 35 percent of those stopped by police. My husband was stopped on the NJ Turnpike at least 20 times all by white officers and he was NEVER ticketed. DH was even stopped by the same officer twice in the same week and DH reminded him that he already was stopped that same week and DH told the officer all about the officers military duty stations since they had discussed it earlier in the week when DH was stopped. All of this since DH was driving his Mercedes CLK 430 and presumed to be a criminal.

Because of racial profiling minorities are more often processed and sentenced so of course the numbers are skewed. That does not mean minorites commit more crime it just means they are more often caught since minorites are always looked upon as a suspect. I know that I have personally been followed around a high end store or two (or 10) and as a suspect as if I were going to steal something. Meanwhile the real shoplifters are getting away with thousands in merchandise. I'm shocked that Winona Ryder was even processed for shoplifting - then again she is a celebrity so that was sensationalized.

There have been tons of studies on this and several by minorities who are so fair skinned that they are thought to be white. One very fair skinned Black man (saw this on t.v. recently) said he and another darker Black friend were stopped for a search while walking in their neighborhood late night. Not sure if there was even probable caused but the fair skinned man was not searched or handcuffed at all while his much darker friend was cuffed and questioned just for walking in their own neighborhood.

I'm amazed at all of this racial bias since I know several white men and women who were released without processing for various crimes including possession of cocaine. My own personal revelation came when my African American cousin was murdered at age 18 by a 17 year old WHITE kid (and former friend) who fled GA and came to NYC to only be arrested for trying to rob a woman at knifepoint. That incident did not make the paper though - at least not the NYC paper. And nobody ever mentioned the kid was white but had it been a minority criminal it would have been all over the news as "typical Black on Black crime".Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

The cops are the first stop in the system and if they are biased in arresting minorites more often then of course when the case gets to an ADA the person is more likely to be a minority - hence the numbers are skewed so it appears that minorites commit more crime when its just NOT TRUE.

The media perpetuates much of the racial bias in this country. It makes the paper more often when a crime is committed by a minority. It's front page news. Just like when a police officer does something heroic it's on page 6 at the bottom rather than front page newsChat IconChat Icon Chat Icon This entire situation is sad for all involved.



I am not sure I understand the point you are trying to make with this post.



How could this extremely well written post be any clearer? Chat Icon

I don't think any words were missed.




I didnt say I didn't get what she wrote, just not getting the point. White people suck? ok, got it.

Posted 11/28/06 2:53 PM
 

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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

I have a word to say on profiling. I live in an area that many(who don't live there) would consider mixed or lower income. I grew up in Commack and never once did police do registratuion or inspection checks. Not ONCE!! I have lived on the border of Central Islip(Village of Islandia) for 3 years and have seen 15-20 of these checks on Old Nichols Road. My husband and I feel that because this is a "lower income" area that the police are specifically targeting these vehicles and drivers.

Posted 11/28/06 2:56 PM
 

Eva Luna
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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

Posted by HollaGirl


I didnt say I didn't get what she wrote, just not getting the point. White people suck? ok, got it.



Is that what you got out of that? Chat Icon

That's so very sad. Chat Icon

Posted 11/28/06 2:56 PM
 

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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

Posted by Eva Luna

Posted by HollaGirl


I didnt say I didn't get what she wrote, just not getting the point. White people suck? ok, got it.



Is that what you got out of that? Chat Icon

That's so very sad. Chat Icon



Sasha, are you going to keep berating me whenever I say something?

Posted 11/28/06 2:59 PM
 

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Re: It's funny how "hot topics" bring out the worst in people...

Posted by melijane

I have a word to say on profiling. I live in an area that many(who don't live there) would consider mixed or lower income. I grew up in Commack and never once did police do registratuion or inspection checks. Not ONCE!! I have lived on the border of Central Islip(Village of Islandia) for 3 years and have seen 15-20 of these checks on Old Nichols Road. My husband and I feel that because this is a "lower income" area that the police are specifically targeting these vehicles and drivers.



Maybe the reason that they do it in this area is not b/c the residents are lower income, but there is a higher incident of stolen cars? If all of these checks proved to be fruitless wouldn't the cops stop doing them?

I don't think it is generalizing to say that there is a higher incidence of crime in lower income areas, it is unfortunate, but it's true.

I think that sometimes we see what we want to see. And I think this applies to all sides of the debate.

Posted 11/28/06 3:04 PM
 
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