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GreenGirl05
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Is your husband.........
being as supportive as you thought he would be during your pregnancy? I'm just alittle sad....I thought my husband would be totally different! He was so excited to actually get pregnant and now he's so focused on "making money" that I feel like he's missing out....I guess I'm just feeling sad.....
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ReiRei13
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Re: Is your husband.........
ITA with you! he's been working 7 days a week 12-15 hours a day! He's never around and when he is, he's exhausted and cranky!! 
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| Posted 8/7/08 5:21 PM |
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HarleyGirlFLA
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Re: Is your husband.........
DH is just wonderful. He is so supportive and very helpful.
Except right now. He hurt himself really bad at work and threw his back out. He's on a high dosage of pain medication so he's limited on things he can do. The medication makes him very tired and when he is awake he's just hurting. So right now he's not really 100% but he is doing the best he can.
Message edited 8/7/2008 5:30:17 PM.
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| Posted 8/7/08 5:28 PM |
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Re: Is your husband.........
Yeah, my DH sucks too. I can't talk about this pregnacy at all, he didn't even seem that excited when I told him even though we have been trying for a year. Hopefully things will get better with time. I'm am fortunate though to have other people in my life super excited which helps. My boss (male) is more excited than DH. Oh well.
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| Posted 8/7/08 5:31 PM |
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GreenGirl05
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Re: Is your husband.........
It just totally sux to feel like your parents are more interested in you having a baby than your husband......I hope it changes soon!!!
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| Posted 8/7/08 5:34 PM |
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JennZ
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Re: Is your husband.........
Mine is working like a dog (has own business on the side of a 40hr job) and is being kick as$ AWESOME. I am actaully very impressed with how great he has been. He gets up with me and rubs my back if Im sick, he is VERY calm. And all around the great. 
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| Posted 8/7/08 5:39 PM |
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MrsFlatbread
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Re: Is your husband.........
DH is mostly wonderful. He is more excited than I am, if that is even possible. He does help out a lot...although I think he forgets how little I can do now being 7 months pregnant!
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| Posted 8/7/08 5:41 PM |
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hmm8191
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Re: Is your husband.........
Have you talked to him? My DH kind of freaked out in the beginning and was being a bit of an a*s. I called him out on it and we had a good conversation. He's improved head and shoulders almost immediately and is awesome now. It was hard to bring it up because I was afraid of what I was going to hear but in the end I'm so glad I did. He was just feeling freaked out and like he couldn't talk to me because of what I was "going through"
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| Posted 8/7/08 5:49 PM |
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wannabemom
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Re: Is your husband.........
 to all of you who have unsupportive DH's....
honestly, I think they may be stressing. The stereotypical roll as dad is 'to provide'. that could be why they're whacking out and burning the midnight oil at work.
They also could be stressed about all the unknown changes at home. I know both DH and I are  I think he's adjusting better than I am.
having a child (especially the first) is sooo stressful. maybe talk about it with them?
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| Posted 8/7/08 5:58 PM |
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MrsRivera
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Re: Is your husband.........
My DH has been awesome. I love to see him get so excited about anything related to DD-to-be!
He's had a lot to put up with, too...since I've been in so much pain, he's been doing a lot of massaging and just being a shoulder to cry on.
I'm so lucky to have him. He's going to be the best dad. 
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| Posted 8/7/08 6:04 PM |
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mamabear
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Re: Is your husband.........
He's been amazing! Has been to every doctor appointment, always sweet and taking care of me, looking out for me, massages my feet, researches things, got totally into registering and wants the best everything for our DD, carries absolutely everything since I'm not allowed to lift anything heavy any more. There were a few weeks in the first trimester where this wasn't the case. He was stressed, worried about money and providing, and our pregnancy wasn't planned...we were looking at TTC in a year or so from when I got pregnant. He read some books for expectant fathers and I think that helped a bit. He got to see that other expectant fathers freak out, get stressed, etc, and I think that actually helped calm him down cause he knew it was totally normal and part of the process.
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| Posted 8/7/08 6:06 PM |
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mikeswife06
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Re: Is your husband.........
He has his good days and his bad. They have a lot on their minds too I think. Just keep talking and being honest about everything. 
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| Posted 8/7/08 6:06 PM |
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GreenGirl05
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Re: Is your husband.........
Posted by mamabear
He's been amazing! Has been to every doctor appointment, always sweet and taking care of me, looking out for me, massages my feet, researches things, got totally into registering and wants the best everything for our DD, carries absolutely everything since I'm not allowed to lift anything heavy any more. There were a few weeks in the first trimester where this wasn't the case. He was stressed, worried about money and providing, and our pregnancy wasn't planned...we were looking at TTC in a year or so from when I got pregnant. He read some books for expectant fathers and I think that helped a bit. He got to see that other expectant fathers freak out, get stressed, etc, and I think that actually helped calm him down cause he knew it was totally normal and part of the process.
Which book did you get him?
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| Posted 8/7/08 6:09 PM |
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After attending one doctor's appt and the first major sonogram, my DH really hasn't wanted to be that involved either. I think he is just freaked out about how quickly his life has changed in such a short time. Between my mom and my MIL I also think he feels on total baby-talk overload as well.
He is also stressed with work and getting our new house in order before the baby arrives.
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| Posted 8/7/08 6:18 PM |
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mamabear
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Re: Is your husband.........
Posted by GreenGirl05
Posted by mamabear
He's been amazing! Has been to every doctor appointment, always sweet and taking care of me, looking out for me, massages my feet, researches things, got totally into registering and wants the best everything for our DD, carries absolutely everything since I'm not allowed to lift anything heavy any more. There were a few weeks in the first trimester where this wasn't the case. He was stressed, worried about money and providing, and our pregnancy wasn't planned...we were looking at TTC in a year or so from when I got pregnant. He read some books for expectant fathers and I think that helped a bit. He got to see that other expectant fathers freak out, get stressed, etc, and I think that actually helped calm him down cause he knew it was totally normal and part of the process.
Which book did you get him?
He really liked "My Boys Can Swim". It was funny but practical and I think put him at ease. I also got him the "Expectant Father"...he didn't talk as much about that one. He'd crack up with the other one and read me excerpts. He bought himself a book about fathering your toddler when we were registering at BBB. It's for kids a bit older (I don't think he realized that when he got it) but it had a lot of funny and useful info that he enjoyed, and wants the one for newborns now.
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| Posted 8/7/08 6:21 PM |
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GreenGirl05
LIF Adolescent
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Re: Is your husband.........
Posted by mamabear
Posted by GreenGirl05
Posted by mamabear
He's been amazing! Has been to every doctor appointment, always sweet and taking care of me, looking out for me, massages my feet, researches things, got totally into registering and wants the best everything for our DD, carries absolutely everything since I'm not allowed to lift anything heavy any more. There were a few weeks in the first trimester where this wasn't the case. He was stressed, worried about money and providing, and our pregnancy wasn't planned...we were looking at TTC in a year or so from when I got pregnant. He read some books for expectant fathers and I think that helped a bit. He got to see that other expectant fathers freak out, get stressed, etc, and I think that actually helped calm him down cause he knew it was totally normal and part of the process.
Which book did you get him?
He really liked "My Boys Can Swim". It was funny but practical and I think put him at ease. I also got him the "Expectant Father"...he didn't talk as much about that one. He'd crack up with the other one and read me excerpts. He bought himself a book about fathering your toddler when we were registering at BBB. It's for kids a bit older (I don't think he realized that when he got it) but it had a lot of funny and useful info that he enjoyed, and wants the one for newborns now.
Thanks! I'm going to buy this for him!
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| Posted 8/7/08 6:23 PM |
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mamabear
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Re: Is your husband.........
Posted by GreenGirl05
Posted by mamabear
Posted by GreenGirl05
Posted by mamabear
He's been amazing! Has been to every doctor appointment, always sweet and taking care of me, looking out for me, massages my feet, researches things, got totally into registering and wants the best everything for our DD, carries absolutely everything since I'm not allowed to lift anything heavy any more. There were a few weeks in the first trimester where this wasn't the case. He was stressed, worried about money and providing, and our pregnancy wasn't planned...we were looking at TTC in a year or so from when I got pregnant. He read some books for expectant fathers and I think that helped a bit. He got to see that other expectant fathers freak out, get stressed, etc, and I think that actually helped calm him down cause he knew it was totally normal and part of the process.
Which book did you get him?
He really liked "My Boys Can Swim". It was funny but practical and I think put him at ease. I also got him the "Expectant Father"...he didn't talk as much about that one. He'd crack up with the other one and read me excerpts. He bought himself a book about fathering your toddler when we were registering at BBB. It's for kids a bit older (I don't think he realized that when he got it) but it had a lot of funny and useful info that he enjoyed, and wants the one for newborns now.
Thanks! I'm going to buy this for him!
No prob! Good luck! I am sure he will come around. A baby is blessing but can also be very stressful. I've heard a lot of people say women become mothers as soon as they get pregnant, men don't become fathers until the baby is born.
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| Posted 8/7/08 6:28 PM |
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surfersgirl
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Re: Is your husband.........
My hubby owns a surf shop so he is busy busy busy right now but VERY attentive and sweet. I must say I am VERY hard to deal with right now. If he eats onions, I make him sleep in the guest room. I am a big cranky pants. I hope that goes away!
I think he is the perfect "expectant father". 
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| Posted 8/7/08 6:30 PM |
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nyteacher13
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Re: Is your husband.........
My DH is extremely supportive. He asks me how I'm feeling, what he can do to help, and does things (most of the time) without being asked just to help me out. He has been to every doctor's appointment that I've had so far except one (couldn't leave work).
Have a chat with your DH and give him some time to adjust. I can't even imagine what men emotionally go through not carrying the baby, and not even *really* knowing something's in there until they actually feel a kick.
It will get better! Keep your lines of communication open to avoid resentment from arising.
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| Posted 8/7/08 6:32 PM |
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DeniseMarie
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Re: Is your husband.........
maybe you should talk to him about it? Maybe he is just over whelmed. My Dh is very supportive but also very worried about money
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| Posted 8/7/08 6:33 PM |
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FelAndJon
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Re: Is your husband.........
He was with DS. He came to every appointment and was soooo excited. I think with this one, since I go to all my appointments alone, it isn't as "real" to him yet. He still rubs my belly and "acts" excited but I can read him like a book!
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| Posted 8/7/08 7:10 PM |
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july06bride
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Re: Is your husband.........
My Dh is supportive, attentive, and really great generally speaking...there are times i wish he would just "understand" more... which I guess is really difficult for a male to do- but I have caught him reading some of my books and I keep him very involved...at night he talks to the baby and does all the nice things....
He hasn't said this, but sometimes I feel like he thinks I am making up some of my symptoms...
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| Posted 8/7/08 7:14 PM |
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headoverheels
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Re: Is your husband.........
i am very lucky, my DH has been incredibly supportive... i am used to being very independent and it's been hard to have to rely on him for even very small things, but he never makes me feel bad and i am grateful.
he does work very long hours some days and that causes us to fight sometimes, but it's only out of frustration... i know it's temporary (his job is very busy during the summer and on weekends) so that makes it easier, and the $$ is good so i just try to look at the big picture.
the way he treats me makes so excited to see how he is as a dad.
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| Posted 8/7/08 7:55 PM |
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babyonthebrain
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Re: Is your husband.........
DH has definetly changed because of this pregnancy. His crankyness level has most definetly gone down. He just left to get me a chicken quesadilla form Friendly's for me!!!! I wish I knew sooner pregnancy would change him for the better!!! lolol
XOXOXOXO
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| Posted 8/7/08 8:04 PM |
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Jencee73
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Re: Is your husband.........
My DH has been good during my pregnancy. I know my moods and my hormones can be bad and he doesn't know how to deal with me. 2 weeks ago he was on the phone with his cousin and his cousin's wife was giving him a hard time because he was on the phone and they had company over. His cousin was complaining about her to DH that she nags him and DH told him to wait until she's pregnant. DH was trying to give him some insight on what life has been like for him since I got pregnant. What the real kick in the arse is that DH had the nerve to tell me this conversation. First I was pizzed and I told him that if he thought I was bad now, wait until I'm in the 3rd trimester and wait until I'm in the delivery room. He ain't seen nothing yet. Then after I had time to think of what he said, it got me really upset because he was complaining to his family of what a biotch I became since I got pregnant and it hurt my feelings. I got a half arse apology from him. Then this past Sunday, we were at his parents house and his other cousin's wife told him that he has to compromise and make his pregnant wife happy. He said that he doesn't negotiate with terrorists. So not only I' m a biotch at times, but I'm also a terrorist. I just wished that he could understand better on what it is like to be pregnant.
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| Posted 8/7/08 8:11 PM |
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