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LisaW
Time for me to FLY!
Member since 5/05 13199 total posts
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Did I ever tell you that I hate people?
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I'm sorry
*I'm* the one who asked for this board
I certainly didn't expect it to turn into this
I just wanted a place to fit into...for all of us to fit into that could not have/did not want to have children
I did not expect pg people to bounce their fears off of us, parents to argue that we are child haters, people to team up against the board, fighting about who can post here, etc etc...I figured people would be smart and sensitive enough to figure it out...I was trying to get away from all that stuff!!!!
I was just looking for a place that I could feel comfortable trying to figure out what my life will be like....apparently its not happening here
this is ridiculous
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Posted 3/20/09 7:17 AM  |
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Gertyrae
Peace out Homies!
Member since 5/05 20046 total posts
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Gerty ®
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Re: I'm sorry
Lisa...I can only say that I am sorry for you also.
I will never understand why people feel the need to force their opinions on others...but apparently it's out there no matter what you do.
I hope there comes a time where you and others who don't want/can't have children can use this board as your place to talk and plan without fear of repurcussions from others.
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| Posted 3/20/09 7:23 AM |
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MrsPJB2007
MBA at your service!
Member since 7/06 12020 total posts
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MJ
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Re: I'm sorry
Do NOT apologize -- because I think this board was a great idea. Maybe this is just the time where all the kinks need to be ironed out -- and eventually it will get better.
I knew that the board would cause drama the moment it was created cause so many people didn't quite understand the point - but for those that like it - I just wish we could keep it going without cat fighting.
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| Posted 3/20/09 7:38 AM |
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IrishLasss334
I'll be there soon!
Member since 1/08 6549 total posts
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Patty
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Re: I'm sorry
Lisa,
You have no reason to be sorry or to apologize. What you wanted is a great thing, something I appreciate, especially since we are coming from similar situations of being childless.
I think this board has meaning for different people. For some it's because they don't want children, some because they can't have children and some, well, it's a "pit stop" on the way to having children, but all are living their life childless. All are sensitive subjects to each poster, in a different way, which can be interrpreted differently by other people.
I think what needs to be realized by others is that no one here hates children and no one is bashing parents or becoming a parent. It is a forum for those of us in this situation to discuss our situation. We're not looking for advice or a different point of view some someone who has a child.
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| Posted 3/20/09 7:44 AM |
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greenfreak
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Member since 9/06 11483 total posts
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greenfreak
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Re: I'm sorry
Don't feel responsible. We are all capable of making our own choices on these things. We're all adults, we all have personal responsibility. What we do with it is what's important.
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| Posted 3/20/09 7:53 AM |
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kimbalina
Bring on the glitter and bows!
Member since 6/08 15158 total posts
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Kim
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Re: I'm sorry
Lisa,
This board is an EXCELLENT idea. I was so happy and comforted knowing it started.
Just because there is some drama today (this week, or month) doesn't make it any less important then the other boards.
People who are not having children for one reason or another, now or ever have their reasons.. For them those reasons are VALID and IMPORTANT. Just as important as people with children who have their reasons for doing so.
This board is nothing to feel sorry about. Being non-parents are part of who WE are, just as being parents are a part of who THEY are.
We should all be an LIF FAMILY no matter the children status in your life. We are an online community for support. NOT to tear each other down for our personal decsions.
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| Posted 3/20/09 7:59 AM |
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BunnyWife
Insert Witty Comment Here
Member since 5/07 8274 total posts
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BunnyWife
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Re: I'm sorry
Lisa,
This board is wonderful. I agree that the kinks need to be ironed out and boundaries respected on both sides but this board is needed. Thank you for being such a strong lobby for it
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| Posted 3/20/09 8:48 AM |
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baghag
:P
Member since 5/05 10278 total posts
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Re: I'm sorry
Posted by BunnyWife
Lisa,
This board is wonderful. I agree that the kinks need to be ironed out and boundaries respected on both sides but this board is needed. Thank you for being such a strong lobby for it
I like the way you put this, and I agree.
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| Posted 3/20/09 8:49 AM |
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MsSissy
xoxoxo
Member since 3/07 39159 total posts
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Re: I'm sorry
Posted by greenfreak
Don't feel responsible. We are all capable of making our own choices on these things. We're all adults, we all have personal responsibility. What we do with it is what's important.
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| Posted 3/20/09 8:55 AM |
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TheLorax
LOVE
Member since 2/06 5581 total posts
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Suzanne / SuzBride
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Re: I'm sorry
Posted by baghag
Posted by BunnyWife
Lisa,
This board is wonderful. I agree that the kinks need to be ironed out and boundaries respected on both sides but this board is needed. Thank you for being such a strong lobby for it
I like the way you put this, and I agree.
I agree too. For some of us, our decision to be childfree, makes us a bit of a pariah in 'the real world'. Hopefully things will settle down and everyone can give everyone else a little slack, because I truly think that this board could be extremely valuable for many of us who don't really have anyone else to discuss these issues with.
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| Posted 3/20/09 8:57 AM |
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Red
spring is in the air
Member since 11/05 2688 total posts
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helen
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Re: I'm sorry
Don't apologize Lisa, i agree with a pp...there are some kinks to be ironed out
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| Posted 3/20/09 9:00 AM |
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Lisa
I'm a PANK!!!
Member since 5/05 22334 total posts
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Professional Aunts No Kids
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Re: I'm sorry
Lisa,
Dont be sorry. I for one am VERY happy this board is here. I finally feel that there is a place on LIF for me! 
I guess when the board was created, I interperted is as people who are never having children (for whatever reason), are not activily TTC and do not have grown children (you still are a parent). I could not imagine someone that was pregnant still thinking of themselves as being childless and that when someone is pregnant to post mostly on the pregnancy board...but that is how I conceived this board.
I do not understand why some feel the need to tell us on the board how we should feel...I have said that from the beginning. I consider myself an active poster on LIF but I do not visit boards that hold no interest for me...Parenting, TTC, Sports...etc. because I have not "experience" or "knowledge" in those areas, so why would I post my opinion? 
I really hope this board goes back to what it was supposed to be.....a place for CHILDLESS FAMILIES to bond 
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| Posted 3/20/09 9:13 AM |
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DonnaJoe708
Hello
Member since 5/05 4002 total posts
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Re: I'm sorry
Posted by baghag
Posted by BunnyWife
Lisa,
This board is wonderful. I agree that the kinks need to be ironed out and boundaries respected on both sides but this board is needed. Thank you for being such a strong lobby for it
I like the way you put this, and I agree.
I agree too!
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| Posted 3/20/09 9:38 AM |
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Nifheim
allo
Member since 1/09 5476 total posts
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Jennifer
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Re: I'm sorry
I don't hate children, I used to try to get pregnant with every b/f I had in order just to have a kid but now hitting 30, married just a year I don't want a kid right now and maybe ever. I may not be able to have a kid who the hell knows. But what I do know is I am tired of being subjected to people who view my only existence is to spit out a kid (yes harsh language but i am pms'ing and getting really annoyed) we as woman have more to offer then just producing. Is producing a child an amazing important thing - yes but is it required as part of our self worth - NO! So we vent about it here and people take it personally. That is their issue seriously.
We childless people by choice, by genetics, by whatever deserve a place to talk. Some people can't seem to grasp that so f-them.
But as a board we need to cut down on the drama posts, if your venting try to make it a little less "drama" I guess that might help the board out a bit more.
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| Posted 3/20/09 10:19 AM |
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Re: I'm sorry
Don't be sorry-eventually things will get fixed over here.
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| Posted 3/20/09 2:14 PM |
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isabelle2137
LIF Adult
Member since 12/06 1076 total posts
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Re: I'm sorry
Don't apologize. This site is for adults. Adults that should be able to interact respectfully when they feel like it, or ignore things that don't interest or pertain to them.
Message edited 3/20/2009 2:18:50 PM.
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| Posted 3/20/09 2:18 PM |
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MeeshMosh
last month on leave!
Member since 6/08 4551 total posts
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Re: I'm sorry
Posted by IrishLass
Lisa,
You have no reason to be sorry or to apologize. What you wanted is a great thing, something I appreciate, especially since we are coming from similar situations of being childless.
I think this board has meaning for different people. For some it's because they don't want children, some because they can't have children and some, well, it's a "pit stop" on the way to having children, but all are living their life childless. All are sensitive subjects to each poster, in a different way, which can be interrpreted differently by other people.
ITA!! i think all CHILDLESS families should be welcomed... and should FEEL welcomed!!
whether or not you cannot have kids, do not want kids, or are at that "pit stop" before you want kids.... as long as we all respect each other, i think that everyone can benefit from this board
Message edited 3/20/2009 2:21:00 PM.
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Babe49
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Member since 4/08 1880 total posts
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Maria
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Re: I'm sorry
Absolutely no need for apologies, Lisa! This is a great idea.
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| Posted 3/20/09 7:06 PM |
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PattyK
Lovin my hubby!
Member since 10/07 2901 total posts
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Patricia
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Re: I'm sorry
There is no need to apologize! I think that this board is a grea idea.
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| Posted 3/20/09 7:44 PM |
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LINewbie
Tigger the the Rescue!
Member since 8/08 5647 total posts
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LB
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Re: I'm sorry
Lisa, this board was a great idea!! don't let the drama people get to you. People just need to keep their mouths shut and not give into the drama and attention  I am very excited for this board and am looking forward to bonding with other people in the same place of life I am!
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| Posted 3/20/09 7:49 PM |
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MommyofG
just the girls
Member since 5/05 9461 total posts
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Janice
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Re: I'm sorry
I actually think this is a great board!!!! I am not childless and I think this board is a wonderful idea and I may learn something too!!!
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| Posted 3/22/09 7:12 PM |
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puppylove
LIF Adolescent
Member since 10/05 561 total posts
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Summer
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Re: I'm sorry
What did I miss?????
Not childless and think this board is a great idea!! It took me a long time to be ok with the idea of having kids. I was so scared that I would be a bad mom and nervous for all the changes my and Dhs lives would go through, emotionally, physically, mentally. It would've been great if this board was around a few years ago for me. I always check out posts from most of the boards and when I saw this board, I keep wondering why it took so long for anyone to have this idea! Being a family is not limited to those with children. Keep it going and all the kinks will get work our eventually. Hope no one minds me crashing in every once in a while though?! This board definitely has a place on LIFamilies!!
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| Posted 3/22/09 8:59 PM |
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OrganicMama
So in love with my little man!
Member since 6/08 5172 total posts
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Mama
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Re: I'm sorry
I've never posted on this board because I wasn't sure if it was appropriate........I guess it's a "pit-stop" for me at this point (trying to resolve IF issues) and I don't really feel like I fit on the TTC or IF boards right now (so I hope I'm welcome to post here!). I think everyone needs a board where they "fit" and can feel comfortable expressing themselves. That being said, I think this board was a wonderful idea!!!
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| Posted 3/23/09 1:04 AM |
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squeekietoy
LIF Zygote
Member since 8/08 45 total posts
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Danielle
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Re: I'm sorry
IDK what happened around here, but, I really don't think ANYONE has the right to push their ideals on to anyone else.
If anyone ever told me that my life wouldn't be complete unless if I had a child I wouldn't know if I should laugh, cry, or smack them one.
This board is a great idea and you shouldn't be apologizing.
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| Posted 3/24/09 2:46 PM |
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thewinterone
You make me happy
Member since 5/05 2473 total posts
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cause you are gray.
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Re: I'm sorry
I wasn't around to see any drama but wanted to thank you for asking for the board.
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| Posted 3/24/09 7:16 PM |
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