I'm so p****d! OR My AWESOME anniversary, Take 2.

So, I told you how last night we were trying to celebrate our anniversary and we got a flat and had to wait to get the car towed and we didn't get to do anything, and it cost us $600 (YAY). So then tonight we had a reservation for the restaurant where I had my grad party. We got there and we were at a big table and we couldn't talk so we switched to a smaller table so I was facing the door. After while I saw a girl I used to dance with who now bowls in the same (CHURCH) league as my dad walk in and go into the party room next door. I hadn't paid any attention to the party room previously although I could hear their DJ I had no reason to look in. I saw her go in and be greeted by a bunch of people I know from church who I also know are in the bowling league, so I thought "oh crap." Then I saw my dad. He was there with his GF. Of ALL nights, of ALL restaurants, my dad's bowling league was having their annual dinner at that place that night. I lost my appetite completely.

It's odd because it's a CHURCH league and yet the monsignior (sp?) says he can't say anything to him or ask him to leave the league because he can't police people. But there are lots of young people and couples in the league, what kind of example does that set? That's our church, they know that's not his wife. And the msgr always told us no one talks to my dad and no one likes him and he's such a loner, but it did NOT appear that way.

As we were leaving the msgr was announcing the winners. He started to announce the third pplace team "This is a team of good people I really like and respect" and I thought "well that can't be my dad's team" haha it was...and everyone cheered as he got his picture taken, blah blah..

it's a CHURCH league. Why did the msgr BS us? And honestly, I ams o ******. I know a girl who lost her teaching job at a catholic school because she got pg. But she got married and tried to make it right. He's flaunting his putana all over the place in front of everyone in church and he priest won't even SAY anything? Hello!

Anyway, another attempt at an anniversary dinner failed.

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Oh Jenn, I am so sorry that your anniversary dinner got ruined like that! You two just aren't having any luck this week.

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I'm sorry sweetie

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I need to break something, STAT

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don't go breakin my heart

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I couldn't if I tried

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I'm sorry. I have more stories than I can count of the church saying one thing and then doing another when it comes to members of the congregation, particularly donors. I won't get into them here because I don't want to get flamed and they are based on my personal experience, but I am not surprized and this is why I no longer practice the religion I was born into.

I am so sorry, TWO nights were stressful when they should have been relaxing and celebratory

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I am sorry that your anniversary dinner was ruined.

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My mom, who is really religious, and really trusted this priest is completely shattered over this and feels she has nowhere to go.

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Posted by Shorty

Posted by JenniferEver

I couldn't if I tried

You're the best
you knew EXACTLY what I meant!!!

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That is such absolute crap- I am so sick of the double standard of we preach one thing and accept another in the Catholic church. I am so sorry your anniversary had to end up this way- that's just awful.

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Message edited 6/20/2006 11:18:01 PM.

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So Sorry!

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Posted by CkGm

Posted by JenniferEver

My mom, who is really religious, and really trusted this priest is completely shattered over this and feels she has nowhere to go.

that is just so sad It's like she got betrayed twice

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I should be grateful I have my FH and no one got hurt and we didn't get into an accident the other night. I mena buying 4 new tired and getting a nasty scratch s*cks, but it's just money and just a car.

My dad is an azzhole, but he's the loser. We all still have one another.

I just don't know why he has to make us miserable and haunt us at the grocery store, church, the doctor's office and our anniversary

What's funny is we were going to celebrate on Sunday, but we realized it was father's day and alst year our anniersary fell on fahter's day and ti was so hard for me to be ina restaurnat with all the families that I ended up bringing my food home as soon as it came out. This time when i saw my dad there, I didn't want to do that. i tried to eat. I felt we paid too much for the dinner for it to become takeout.

It was NOT fun being there though.

Thanks for letting me vent.

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I'm sorry your anniversary dinner was ruined. Maybe third time will be a charm?

Are you parents divorced?

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I'm so sorry it went so horribly

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Jenn I am so so sorry!!

For your own health though...I think it would help tremendously to seek counseling. It may be too early, but you have so much anger and it's not good to go through life like that. Your dad is victimizing you...take control!! Seriously, I used to have a lot of anger and resentment toward my parents, siblings, life in general. I got so sick (ulcers, fevers all the time) that I had to do something about it. Talking to someone helps tremendously and it'll guarantee that this won't hurt you forever. It'll give you the tools to deal with it.

Your dad is a loser...that's a given. But sweetie, you need to find a way to deal with it all withouth it making you sick.

I'm here if you want to talk.

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My parents got separated when i was 16 and divorced when I was 18-we found out he was having an affair for 8 yrs before with someone he worked with. My Mom basically rode him out of town and said you better not stay in this town or there will be trouble-and he has not been back since. He wouldn't even go to dinner there!