im going to be a major debbie downer..

i just dont know what it is..

maybe cause christmas is coming and still no bfp..im just losing hope that this will ever happen..

everyone around me is preggo..friends ask me to hang out and i just cant because i just cant be around someone else who is preggo(and iknow how selfish i sound)..i just cant do it..not now..i use to be ok but lately its just getting to me

i was hoping for sdo much and just have no result yet and i wish i could just stay positrive but its getting harder and harder..

have an appt with a RE and hoping that brings new changes..

sorry to be such a bummer..just having one of those days

selfish,childish,silly vent over

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gina i'm so sorry you're feeling this way. i think a lot of us go through feelings like this - you're not alone.

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You aren't being selfish you are being human. I'm not even ttc yet and I'm so jealous of my preggo friends. I'm terrified that we are going to have issues and I know the green eyed monster will rear its ugly head.

Try to enjoy the holidays, count the blessings you do have, easier said then done I know, and see what the RE says.

Good luck and please vent all you want that's what we are here for.

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It is not silly or childish to feel that way

Much for you and I hope your appointment goes well

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So sorry you're feeling this way. I think we all get that "what if it never happens feeling"? On Friday, I literally had to force myself to go out with my girlfriends in the city. It was a wild night with a hotel room at the W.. and I was just feeling so sorry for myself.

I keep reminding myself that it takes healthy couples up to a year. So, until then, happy .

I hope you feel better.. Just think, with every BFN you get, you're getting closer and closer to your BFP!!!!

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you are not selfish for feeling this way. I know it is hard, trust me, I have been feeling very down lately too. After finding out I have pcos, I have seen a RE but we are still waiting on bloodwork results and I just feel like I am in limbo. I am anxious to get my never-ending cycles regulated and get some treatments started. It has been difficult, but I am trying to keep up hope that it will happen for me soon! Hang in there hun!! You will have a beautiful baby soon enough!!!

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you're totally not a downer! just know that you have a lot of family and friends (and internet friends!) that are more than willing to listen. vent anytime you need!

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It's going to happen for you, I know that it is. I remember seeing your wedding photos and feeling the love...that love will culminate in a family. I have faith.

With that, it's normal to feel what you are feeling. It's ok and it's good that you acknowledge and express it here where it's safe to say these kinds of things. Are you exercising or anything? I don't mean anything crazy...brisk walking, a zumba video or even blasting music and dancing around alone at home. Do something to get your endorphins going. Something that when you are done makes you say "that felt good"....other than

You're going to be fine! 2011 will bring great news for you!

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its not childish at all!! i feel the same way...its hard when you want it to happen NOW and its not..

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I know the feeling...

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You are not being selfish at all. Wishing you the very best with lots of hugs!

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I am with you. We can hang out and b down together.

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Oh hunny believe me everything your feeling is completely normal... it's def hard & I feel ya... Lot's of

Things will get better.

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Posted by AngnShaun

I know the feeling...

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i know the feeling....especially after a loss, it isn't easy

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You're not alone
I don't think you are childish or selfish either. This process can take a toll on a person/couple. Hang in there & come on here to vent anytime you need!

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You are not selfish....I could have wrote this the last 2 weeks myself. I too have been so depressed about my infertility issues and I just found out last week a friend is expecting, it was like being kicked in the stomach I immediately started to cry after we hung up. I have not been able to bring myself to hang out with that group of friends because I just cannnot bare to hear the preggo stories and all the excitement...sometimes I feel like I am being childish and selfish but DH assured me that it is ok to feel the way I do and I should not feel guilty about those feelings. You are so not alone

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Posted by DPratt1030



You aren't being selfish you are being human. I'm not even ttc yet and I'm so jealous of my preggo friends. I'm terrified that we are going to have issues and I know the green eyed monster will rear its ugly head.

Try to enjoy the holidays, count the blessings you do have, easier said then done I know, and see what the RE says.

Good luck and please vent all you want that's what we are here for.

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This is me right now

I was down this path already last year when I was trying for the first time. Then I got pregnant and had an unexpected late loss.. now as I am approaching my due date and it's harder to get pregnant the second time than the first, I feel myself getting more and more down. I keep bowing out of events where I know babies will be around. I just can't bring myself to do it

The worst part is, the closer I get to my due date and the sadder it makes me .. the more I realize how much my friends just can't relate to this AT ALL as much as they try. This is just a road less taken (THANK GOODNESS), and one so few people know from between infertility AND a 2nd tri pregnancy loss.....

I wish there were more people who could relate, yet at the same time, I'm glad this is so rare that there really aren't

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ugh its the worst

i know how you feel.

ive been down in the dumps alot lately, too

ive been distancing myself from people subconsciously.....


dh is starting to get frustrated with me, but i can get out of this slump I am in

maybe it will pass when the holidays are over


i feel your pain sweetie

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