Re: Im getting majorly depressed...

Re: Im getting majorly depressed...

Posted by curley999

I was so worried that Claire would get more attached to who ever was watching her all day while I was at work, but in reality babies know there moms and we are always the favorite!

Re: Im getting majorly depressed...

Posted by Princessmaris

Posted by curley999

I was so worried that Claire would get more attached to who ever was watching her all day while I was at work, but in reality babies know there moms and we are always the favorite!

This is what Im struggling with BIG time....

Re: Im getting majorly depressed...

I had a hard time leaving my daughter whe nI went ba ck to work its hard for all mothers to leave a child and go back to work. Even though FH was the one who was taking care of her during t he day when I went back to work I was afraid that she would get way too attached to her father and not want her mother as much but I can tell you this as soon as she heard my voice she would get excited and now she comes running to me and gets a llexcited that mommy is home. On the weekends she is up my butt and even when we go places daddy will try to take her to give me a little break but all she wants is mommy. If I go to the store and leave her she starts to cry but if daddy leaves she walks to the door and wines a little but then is fine with in a few minutes


I hope this has helped a little

Re: Im getting majorly depressed...

Posted by HereWeGoAgain

Posted by Princessmaris

Posted by curley999

I was so worried that Claire would get more attached to who ever was watching her all day while I was at work, but in reality babies know there moms and we are always the favorite!

This is what Im struggling with BIG time....

My sister used to own a buisness, and my mom and I used to watch my niece, and eventually my nieces.. The older one had slipped so many times in calling my mom or me mommy.. and it was horrible to watch my sisters reaction after her own daughter called someone else "mommy"... When it was time to leave, if she was not sleeping yet she would throw a fit, crying cause she was gonna miss grandma or me, who evers day it was... It wass so heartbreaking. Even now, my sister sold her buisness and her oldest is seven, her daughters have almost a seperation anxiety everytime grandma leaves.. They got better with me, but the get seriously emotional when grandma leaves.. Its so sad, I never wanted my children to go through that.. Even if it was my own mom..

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I think you should stick with what you were intending to do...I think that taking care of a strangers kid is VERY hard and scary work...

To do it responsibly, you would need to get your house professionally houseproofed and G-d forbid, something went wrong with someones infant in your care... it would a be nightmare. I would absolutely take a child care class and know CPR---- especially with someone elses child. It also opens up your home to opportunistic wackos who are now in your house and around your child.

Instead, I think you should absolutely leave the baby with MIL in the morning... 1) It is like you are allowing your son part of his heritage and his time with grandma. Its like someone said.... you may have your own issues with her as a MIL but it does not define her as a grandma....She will treat him well and lets face it--- a child can never have too many people to love him and care for him. 2) My cousin works f/t and said that she is the hero in her childs eyes as she is not the lead disciplinarian- the nanny is. Her child worships her and her eyes light up when she walks in the door. She plays with the child.... She says It is a special bond that in some ways only working mothers have 3) Working PT gives you a break so you can recharge and be a better mother 4) You want your son to have a little independence and not get too attached to you and be easily adaptable.... JMO.

Message edited 11/30/2005 9:32:27 PM.

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I think you should speak to your boss privately and request the daycare discount. Explain to her how difficult this is with your MIL and that daycare is too expensive otherwise. Is keeping you worth her extending you this courtsey? I mean, would she risk losing you over this? Perhaps you should look into finding a new job with an onsite daycare or other discount daycare program? Computer Assocaites, Symbol and Cablevision all have them onsite.

My questions is: Do you need to work? There was a study done by 20/20 or Dateline years ago that showed that many women actually benefit financially by being a SAHM. It does not work in many cases where the women is making way over the cost of daycare but perhaps you should look at the cost of working vs. SAHM costs. Your tax bracket will be lower, you may get a larger return. You will not have commute costs, clothing/dry cleaning costs the same as a working mother, etc.. Now again, I am not saying that this would work out in your favor, but just something to consider. I have to work and it pays for me to do so but there are many days I wish it didn't.

But no matter what I would not leave my child with something that I was uncomfortable with. That will make this a living hell IMO.

Re: Im getting majorly depressed...