I'm at a loss - Need your thoughts please

I am on cycle day 15 and still no pos OPK.

Just to give you a little background on me:

I have never been on BC pills
My periods have ALWAYS been regular with a avg cycle of 26-28 days.
I have been using OPK's since July and have gotten a postive every month since between CD 12-14
I have NEVER had a problem with CM even before TTC

Soooo, according to my monthly cycles, if AF is due on the 22nd and my LP has been 13 days for the past few months, then I should have ovulated yesterday.
Well, I started the OPK's on Friday and every day since and no luck. DH and I were away this weekend for a wedding but I tried to be consistent with my timing.
Also, I noticed a little bit of EWCM (not nearly as much as usual) on Saturday but since then I've been rather dry (which is very unusual for me).
Yesterday I played around with my dates on my monthly cycles to see when I would O if my cycle was to be 29 days this month (which has happened in the past). That changed my O date to tomorrow but I didn't get a positive this morning.

I'm SO confused and I'm getting very discouraged. I broke down in tears yesterday when DH asked me what I had on my mind. its only been a couple of months of TTC for us but I would at least like a chance this month.

Can anyone offer up any thoughts or advice? If u have read this far thanks

Re: I'm at a loss - Need your thoughts please

Your cycles can change from month to month due to a number things. For example, if you were under any stress or if you were sick this past month..........all of that can throw your cycles off. As far as the EWCM, remember that although you may not see a lot of it (or any) it doesn't mean it's not up inside of you. I have ovulated and not seen EWCM but it just doesn't always leak out.

With regards to CD15............just because you haven't ovulated yet doesn't mean you won't. The month I got pregnant I ovulated on CD24. I tend to ovulate late but there have been occasions where I have ovulated earlier or even later than expected. Months when I've been sick, tired, stressed out, etc. my cycles always get thrown off. I would not worry about it right now and keep testing with the OPK's and see what happens. Worse comes to worse you may just have a cycle where you ovulate really late for whatever reason or maybe you don't ovulate this cycle. It happens sometimes.

Hang in there!!

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what brand OPK are you using?

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Posted by Hofstra26

Your cycles can change from month to month due to a number things. For example, if you were under any stress or if you were sick this past month..........all of that can throw your cycles off. As far as the EWCM, remember that although you may not see a lot of it (or any) it doesn't mean it's not up inside of you. I have ovulated and not seen EWCM but it just doesn't always leak out.

With regards to CD15............just because you haven't ovulated yet doesn't mean you won't. The month I got pregnant I ovulated on CD24. I tend to ovulate late but there have been occasions where I have ovulated earlier or even later than expected. Months when I've been sick, tired, stressed out, etc. my cycles always get thrown off. I would not worry about it right now and keep testing with the OPK's and see what happens. Worse comes to worse you may just have a cycle where you ovulate really late for whatever reason or maybe you don't ovulate this cycle. It happens sometimes.

Hang in there!!

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It could be the stress of TTC. Stress does a number on me. I know this is WAY easier said than done, but do something that relaxes you.

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Posted by ns1011

Posted by Hofstra26

Your cycles can change from month to month due to a number things. For example, if you were under any stress or if you were sick this past month..........all of that can throw your cycles off. As far as the EWCM, remember that although you may not see a lot of it (or any) it doesn't mean it's not up inside of you. I have ovulated and not seen EWCM but it just doesn't always leak out.

With regards to CD15............just because you haven't ovulated yet doesn't mean you won't. The month I got pregnant I ovulated on CD24. I tend to ovulate late but there have been occasions where I have ovulated earlier or even later than expected. Months when I've been sick, tired, stressed out, etc. my cycles always get thrown off. I would not worry about it right now and keep testing with the OPK's and see what happens. Worse comes to worse you may just have a cycle where you ovulate really late for whatever reason or maybe you don't ovulate this cycle. It happens sometimes.

Hang in there!!

Thanks. Its just so frustrating bc I have always had regular and predictable cycles and I just don't get y when I'm depending on it - my body starts messing with me.

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Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by ns1011

Posted by Hofstra26

Your cycles can change from month to month due to a number things. For example, if you were under any stress or if you were sick this past month..........all of that can throw your cycles off. As far as the EWCM, remember that although you may not see a lot of it (or any) it doesn't mean it's not up inside of you. I have ovulated and not seen EWCM but it just doesn't always leak out.

With regards to CD15............just because you haven't ovulated yet doesn't mean you won't. The month I got pregnant I ovulated on CD24. I tend to ovulate late but there have been occasions where I have ovulated earlier or even later than expected. Months when I've been sick, tired, stressed out, etc. my cycles always get thrown off. I would not worry about it right now and keep testing with the OPK's and see what happens. Worse comes to worse you may just have a cycle where you ovulate really late for whatever reason or maybe you don't ovulate this cycle. It happens sometimes.

Hang in there!!

Thanks. Its just so frustrating bc I have always had regular and predictable cycles and I just don't get y when I'm depending on it - my body starts messing with me.

I know it's frustrating but it is normal. If you notice a pattern over time of your cycles changing it may be worth looking into but if for one month your cycle is a little longer than usual it's normal and nothing to be concerned about other than it being annoying. Keep testing and see what happens.

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I would keep testing because you might just O late this month. I got a on CD 18 and CD 19. Good luck!

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I just ovulated today on CD24. Hang in there! It'll happen!

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Posted by babybelly12

I would keep testing because you might just O late this month. I got a on CD 18 and CD 19. Good luck!

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I think stress/anxiety is the number one culprit. I've been off the pill for about 9 months now and for the first 7 months I had perfect 29 day cycles. Well the last two months since we've been full steam ahead about TTCing my cycles were 34 days and then 26, with me ovulating on CD 20 and then CD 13. I use the CBEFM and temp so I am 99.9% certain when I ovulate and I had a drastic difference between the two months.

Also, I noticed you mention that your LP is always 13 days so you should have ovulated, but your LP does not predict ovulation. The LP is actually the time between ovulation and AF and they say although your time of ovulation can be all over the map (CD13 or CD20 as in my case recently), your LP is usually consistent so that you can predict when you'll be getting AF. And in my case, although I had such a drastic difference in the times I've ovulated, my LP was consistent and I knew exactly when she'd come and she did.

I know it's so hard to do, but try to not stress too much because it definitely does screw with you. I for one was extremely stressed the last two months and am hoping that's what caused my wacky cycles. I really think you will still ovulate. Just BD every other day until it happens. Lots of luck and ovulation dust!!

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this could be a late month for you. I always got +opks anywhere from cd 15-19.

Stick it out alittle longer. I know its frustrating

GOOD LUCK

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i agree - maybe you are just Oing late this month, or maybe the OPK just didnt detect it???
by all means, dont stop BDing though

i would still BD every other day for the next week at least to make sure you are covered!!

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Don't be stressed. The month I got pregnant I never got a smiley on my OPK and I was using 2 different ones. Good luck.

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My cycle changed for me after starting to TTC and I was never on BC or anything either. My cycle went from 24-28 to 30 each time. Your cycle may be getting longer. Keep watching your CM.

Good luck!

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Ughhh I just wrote you this whole long huge response but my battery went dead on my laptop and the whole thing got deleted!!! Not happy

Anyway, hang in there! Your follicular phase can change from cycle to cycle. Your luteal phase is consistent from month to month. TTC can make your cycles wacky just from the stress of it!!! I went from having normal cycles for years to 48 day cycles for 2 months and now a 38 day cycle. I am hoping I am going back to normal now lol. My luteal phase has always been 13 days though and that is what is important. I used to O on CD15 and now I O on CD25. The stress of TTC!!! I wouldn't worry, you might just be fluctuating a little bit! Sometimes the body gears up for O but not enough hormones are released (hence a spurt of EWCM but not positive). I get that sometimes too, but O a few days later. That is very common! I would just try to relax (as hard as that is) and KEEP TESTING!!!!

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Stress, particularly the stress of TTC, can definitely affect when you ovulate. Also, OPKs are not full-proof - I almost never got a smiley but bloodwork confirmed ovulation so it's possible that the OPK missed it. Try not to stress out - it'll work out!

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Posted by ns1011

Posted by babybelly12

I would keep testing because you might just O late this month. I got a on CD 18 and CD 19. Good luck!

Are you usually regular?

Message edited 11/10/2009 10:50:24 PM.