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randella
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Re: If you throw a classmate party, do you expect siblings to attend?
I think if you are very friendly with these people, then it's no big deal to ask.
But, I would not want to be responsible for another child at MY child's bday party if you dropped him off.
Is there another parent you are friends with that can take your DS?
If all else falls-- just ask. If they are your friends- it's no big deal.
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Janice
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Re: If you throw a classmate party, do you expect siblings to attend?
Posted by Lillykat
Posted by Janice
what kind of places are we talking?
unless someone is renting out the entire place...it is still open to the public.
cec, bouncehouses, movies, bowling. i just go and pay for my extra kid at counter.
if it is gymboree or something-feel out the host.
country club, house, yard, park...i would make sure it is a nice gift
But places like bouncehouses, gyms, etc are not open to the public during a party. These are private parties. You have the room for the party only, So the only people there are party kids. It is different from place like chuckie cheese, or the park where they are not charging per person. They charge by how many kids are in the room depending on the place.
so at bouncehouse or gym...just go to counter and pay for extra kid. I just don't think this is a real issue.
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| Posted 1/23/13 8:24 PM |
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olive98
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Re: If you throw a classmate party, do you expect siblings to attend?
Message edited 9/1/2013 9:41:29 AM.
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NewlyMrs
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Re: If you throw a classmate party, do you expect siblings to attend?
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I don't "expect" them to attend, nor do I want them  but it seems like 1 or 2 people always bring a sibling, it's just life.
It's not even the money that's annoying (although I do think it puts the host on the spot, because no gracious host is going to take that money or refuse to let the sibling come). It's the fact that the sibling is often the wrong age for the activity/venue and a uninvited toddler trying to "join in" can be a nuisance on your kid's special day.
This EXACTLY.
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JandJ1224
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Re: If you throw a classmate party, do you expect siblings to attend?
I think it's rude. Parties are very expensive and if 25 kids each brought a sibling your party just doubled as did your cost if you are paying per child and I don't think that is fair to the host.
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| Posted 1/23/13 8:54 PM |
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Janice
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If you throw a classmate party, do you expect siblings to attend?
but someone calls you-offers to pay for their kid-you say no, don't worry about it...
wouldn't you be a better host to just say yeah, sure, thanks for offering to pay...then giving extra kid evil eye for the 1.5 hours?
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| Posted 1/23/13 9:08 PM |
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Re: If you throw a classmate party, do you expect siblings to attend?
Posted by Janice
but someone calls you-offers to pay for their kid-you say no, don't worry about it...
wouldn't you be a better host to just say yeah, sure, thanks for offering to pay...then giving extra kid evil eye for the 1.5 hours?
Wouldn't it just be best to only bring the child that was actually invited?!?!?!?
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| Posted 1/23/13 9:23 PM |
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Janice
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Re: If you throw a classmate party, do you expect siblings to attend?
Posted by Karen
Posted by Janice
but someone calls you-offers to pay for their kid-you say no, don't worry about it...
wouldn't you be a better host to just say yeah, sure, thanks for offering to pay...then giving extra kid evil eye for the 1.5 hours?
Wouldn't it just be best to only bring the child that was actually invited?!?!?!?
I would hate for someone to have to pay for a sitter instead of just bringing their kid to a childrens' party.
And what a fun time for the sibling, rather then just at home with a sitter.
Isn't a party host suppose to make their guests comfortable?
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Re: If you throw a classmate party, do you expect siblings to attend?
Posted by Janice
Posted by Karen
Posted by Janice
but someone calls you-offers to pay for their kid-you say no, don't worry about it...
wouldn't you be a better host to just say yeah, sure, thanks for offering to pay...then giving extra kid evil eye for the 1.5 hours?
Wouldn't it just be best to only bring the child that was actually invited?!?!?!?
I would hate for someone to have to pay for a sitter instead of just bringing their kid to a childrens' party.
And what a fun time for the sibling, rather then just at home with a sitter.
Isn't a party host suppose to make their guests comfortable?
There is always the option to RSVP no to a party.
Yes, a party host should make their GUESTS comfortable. The child that was not invited is not a guest, IMO. I am under no obligation to make your uninvited child comfy, sorry!
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Janice
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Re: If you throw a classmate party, do you expect siblings to attend?
Posted by Karen
Posted by Janice
I would hate for someone to have to pay for a sitter instead of just bringing their kid to a childrens' party.
And what a fun time for the sibling, rather then just at home with a sitter.
Isn't a party host suppose to make their guests comfortable?
There is always the option to RSVP no to a party.
Yes, a party host should make their GUESTS comfortable. The child that was not invited is not a guest, IMO. I am under no obligation to make your uninvited child comfy, sorry!
if it is not a dropoff party, then parent is guest as well.
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adeline27
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Re: If you throw a classmate party, do you expect siblings to attend?
No, I wouldn't expect siblings to attend and I could never drop off and let someone else watch dc unless it was someone I knew very well and and I would know didn't mind. If I were you I would call the host and let them know you can't make it because xyz she might tell you to bring him along anyway if she does I would let her know you want to pay the extra cost for him being there. I wouldn't think it's rude at all to do that. Going anyway with another child and a bigger gift is rude IMO.
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Karen
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Re: If you throw a classmate party, do you expect siblings to attend?
Posted by Janice
Posted by Karen
Posted by Janice
I would hate for someone to have to pay for a sitter instead of just bringing their kid to a childrens' party.
And what a fun time for the sibling, rather then just at home with a sitter.
Isn't a party host suppose to make their guests comfortable?
There is always the option to RSVP no to a party.
Yes, a party host should make their GUESTS comfortable. The child that was not invited is not a guest, IMO. I am under no obligation to make your uninvited child comfy, sorry!
if it is not a dropoff party, then parent is guest as well.
Seriously?!?!?
Arguing that it is my job as party host to make a parent comfy, which includes welcoming uninvited siblings with open arms, is absurd.
I really don't know why you have such an hard time accepting that not everyone appreciates people bringing uninvited siblings.
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Janice
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If you throw a classmate party, do you expect siblings to attend?
are we talking about a golden ticket to the royal ball or a freaking bowling alley???
I think people need to lighten up
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| Posted 1/23/13 10:01 PM |
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If you throw a classmate party, do you expect siblings to attend?
I've had parents ask me, including just showing up with the sibling, and gladly say of course. Nobody had offered to pay and I would never expect or want them to. When I'm aware of a sibling close in age I try to remember to invite both. I've asked to bring my other kid, I've forgotten to ask in advance . None of it's rude to me. I ask parents to schedule their day to come to my kid's party. I'm grateful they come and takr a more the merrier approach. I always order extra food and have extra goody bags on hand. I'd be disappointed if my kid's friend didn't show up because the parent didn't know what to do with a sibling or didn't want to split theirfamily up. I'd much rather they all come.
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CrankyPants
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Re: If you throw a classmate party, do you expect siblings to attend?
Sure, if it was possible, she would leave the younger sibling home with DH. But her DH will not be home and these are friends. Friends. Of the parent. She knows them. I would personally call, tell them the situation and see what happens.
Sure, she could decline the invite but honestly, as a host, I would much rather have someone call me and ask than RSVP no over this.
Of course, I always invite siblings because I don't want to put anyone in this situation to begin with. I know it will change as DD gets older and parties change but for now feel free to bring your younger kid. Hell, bring your mom, I'm cool with that.
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mommy0604
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Re: If you throw a classmate party, do you expect siblings to attend?
I have no problem with someone bringing a sibling as long as they tell me ahead of time and not just show up with the sibling and have them participate in all the activities.
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Bridex100
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Re: If you throw a classmate party, do you expect siblings to attend?
Posted by randella
I think if you are very friendly with these people, then it's no big deal to ask.
But, I would not want to be responsible for another child at MY child's bday party if you dropped him off.
Is there another parent you are friends with that can take your DS?
If all else falls-- just ask. If they are your friends- it's no big deal.
For the 2 parties I am posting about, we are friendly with the family but I would not say we are friends.
When I RSVP'd for a different party for DS's classmate (day DH is available to watch sibling), our friend immediately emailed me back and said I could bring DS#2. Our younger sons are in the same class.
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Bridex100
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Re: If you throw a classmate party, do you expect siblings to attend?
Posted by Janice
Posted by Karen
Posted by Janice
but someone calls you-offers to pay for their kid-you say no, don't worry about it...
wouldn't you be a better host to just say yeah, sure, thanks for offering to pay...then giving extra kid evil eye for the 1.5 hours?
Wouldn't it just be best to only bring the child that was actually invited?!?!?!?
I would hate for someone to have to pay for a sitter instead of just bringing their kid to a childrens' party.
And what a fun time for the sibling, rather then just at home with a sitter.
Isn't a party host suppose to make their guests comfortable?
I will probably just get a sitter. Since these parties are back to back, I will need a sitter for about 5 hours.
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Bridex100
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Re: If you throw a classmate party, do you expect siblings to attend?
Posted by CrankyPants
Sure, if it was possible, she would leave the younger sibling home with DH. But her DH will not be home and these are friends. Friends. Of the parent. She knows them. I would personally call, tell them the situation and see what happens.
Sure, she could decline the invite but honestly, as a host, I would much rather have someone call me and ask than RSVP no over this.
Of course, I always invite siblings because I don't want to put anyone in this situation to begin with. I know it will change as DD gets older and parties change but for now feel free to bring your younger kid. Hell, bring your mom, I'm cool with that.
I am positive that both moms would say yes if I ask to bring DS#2.
I don't want to be rude though so I won't ask.
Last year, not one kid from DS's class brought a sibling to DS's birthday party. We've gotten to know the families in his class better since last year though.
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Lucky09
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Re: If you throw a classmate party, do you expect siblings to attend?
It's funny, at a recent bday party I attended, I RSVP'd for and attended with my older DS only and surprisingly, they had a goody bag waiting there for my younger DS because they "expected" him to come.
I was so surprised & thought it was so nice.
I can't believe how rude people think it is to attend with both of your kids and that it seems that most would rather you decline first and then explain why.
I guess I am going to be declining a LOT of birthday parties next year when DH is deployed...
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