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BobBsWife
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
I feel like I am a shy when it comes to posting. Lately I have been forcing myself to post more. I find half of the time I type out a reply or post and then I read it and feel stupid. So I just don't push the reply button.
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Redhead
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
Posted by BobBsWife
I feel like I am a shy when it comes to posting. Lately I have been forcing myself to post more. I find half of the time I type out a reply or post and then I read it and feel stupid. So I just don't push the reply button.
awwwwwwwwww...i don't htink you should ever feel that way 
Sometimes this place can be a little rough...
But overall i think that all opinions are welcome
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| Posted 2/27/06 8:06 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
I can't speak fr LIF, because I rarely post here, but on LIW there are and always have been people who are afraid to disagree with what their "group of friends" says.
That's aprt of the definition of a clique.
and there have always been people with whom others are afraid to disagree.... it completely exists.
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| Posted 2/27/06 8:06 PM |
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BobBsWife
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
Posted by Redhead
Posted by BobBsWife
I feel like I am a shy when it comes to posting. Lately I have been forcing myself to post more. I find half of the time I type out a reply or post and then I read it and feel stupid. So I just don't push the reply button.
awwwwwwwwww...i don't htink you should ever feel that way
Sometimes this place can be a little rough...
But overall i think that all opinions are welcome
Thank you!! Its odd because if you met me in person I am so outgoing and talkative!
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| Posted 2/27/06 8:08 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
Posted by marymoon
and there have always been people with whom others are afraid to disagree.... it completely exists.
and completely sad on their part...imo
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| Posted 2/27/06 8:09 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
Posted by Redhead
Posted by marymoon
and there have always been people with whom others are afraid to disagree.... it completely exists.
and completely sad on their part...imo
Totally.
Just being friends doens't make a clique. Being afraid to disagree and excluding people who disagree is what makes a clique.
If people are nice and are themselves, there's nothing to resent or even call a clique
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| Posted 2/27/06 8:10 PM |
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mommy2Alex
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
I don't post if I don't have anything to add, sometimes I am too lazy and tired so I just read and move on. If I have something to add I will post my opinion even if it goes against the majority.
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| Posted 2/27/06 8:11 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
Posted by marymoon
Posted by Redhead
Posted by marymoon
and there have always been people with whom others are afraid to disagree.... it completely exists.
and completely sad on their part...imo
Totally.
Just being friends doens't make a clique. Being afraid to disagree and excluding people who disagree is what makes a clique.
If people are nice and are themselves, there's nothing to resent or even call a clique
I feel like I'm talking about 7th grade or something...I'm picturing Quinn Morgandorfer's Fashion Club in my head..LOL
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| Posted 2/27/06 8:12 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
Posted by marymoon
Posted by Redhead
Posted by marymoon
and there have always been people with whom others are afraid to disagree.... it completely exists.
and completely sad on their part...imo
Totally.
Just being friends doens't make a clique. Being afraid to disagree and excluding people who disagree is what makes a clique.
If people are nice and are themselves, there's nothing to resent or even call a clique
not trying to be argumentative
but rather trying to understand here...
But "being afraid to disagree"...how is that in the hands of another person?
And...on the internet...how do you purposefully exlude people?
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| Posted 2/27/06 8:14 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
Posted by Redhead
Posted by marymoon
Posted by Redhead
Posted by marymoon
and there have always been people with whom others are afraid to disagree.... it completely exists.
and completely sad on their part...imo
Totally.
Just being friends doens't make a clique. Being afraid to disagree and excluding people who disagree is what makes a clique.
If people are nice and are themselves, there's nothing to resent or even call a clique
not trying to be argumentative
but rather trying to understand here...
But "being afraid to disagree"...how is that in the hands of another person?
And...on the internet...how do you purposefully exlude people?
It's not. If you are afraid to speak your own opinions, that's your problem. I was just saying the definition of a clique. And some people truly don't want to deal with people who don't agree with them on certain things, or worship them..hence the exclusion...
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| Posted 2/27/06 8:16 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
And don't get me wrong...
i see the circles of friends...
i just think other people tend to read into it more than need be...
Yes of course friends tend to agree and will post alike. But, and i speak of the girls with whom i consider myself friendly with....we def do NOT agree on all things
And i think people chose to ignore that
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| Posted 2/27/06 8:16 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
Posted by marymoon
It's not. If you are afraid to speak your own opinions, that's your problem. I was just saying the definition of a clique. And some people truly don't want to deal with people who don't agree with them on certain things, or worship them..hence the exclusion...
hmmmmmmmmmmm interesting..
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| Posted 2/27/06 8:17 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
Posted by Redhead
And don't get me wrong...
i see the circles of friends...
i just think other people tend to read into it more than need be...
Yes of course friends tend to agree and will post alike. But, and i speak of the girls with whom i consider myself friendly with....we def do NOT agree on all things
And i think people chose to ignore that
I'm not even talking about you. It's a lot more on LIW. I can't even tell you how many FM's I get that are like "I really don't want to post this on the board and get flamed....but...."
it's stupid. It's like, well thanks for half assed supporting me where no one can see it. 
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| Posted 2/27/06 8:17 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
Posted by Redhead
Posted by marymoon
It's not. If you are afraid to speak your own opinions, that's your problem. I was just saying the definition of a clique. And some people truly don't want to deal with people who don't agree with them on certain things, or worship them..hence the exclusion...
hmmmmmmmmmmm interesting..
This is all in reference to LIW. I have no idea what the LIF dynamic is. I'm not on here very often.
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| Posted 2/27/06 8:19 PM |
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MrsERod
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
Posted by marymoon
Posted by Redhead
And don't get me wrong...
i see the circles of friends...
i just think other people tend to read into it more than need be...
Yes of course friends tend to agree and will post alike. But, and i speak of the girls with whom i consider myself friendly with....we def do NOT agree on all things
And i think people chose to ignore that
I'm not even talking about you. It's a lot more on LIW. I can't even tell you how many FM's I get that are like "I really don't want to post this on the board and get flamed....but...."
it's stupid. It's like, well thanks for half assed supporting me where no one can see it.
those are what you call cowards IMO. you're better off without them! 
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| Posted 2/27/06 8:19 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
Posted by marymoon
Posted by Redhead
And don't get me wrong...
i see the circles of friends...
i just think other people tend to read into it more than need be...
Yes of course friends tend to agree and will post alike. But, and i speak of the girls with whom i consider myself friendly with....we def do NOT agree on all things
And i think people chose to ignore that
I'm not even talking about you. It's a lot more on LIW. I can't even tell you how many FM's I get that are like "I really don't want to post this on the board and get flamed....but...."
it's stupid. It's like, well thanks for half assed supporting me where no one can see it.
i didn't htink you were 
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| Posted 2/27/06 8:21 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
Posted by MrsERod
Posted by marymoon
Posted by Redhead
And don't get me wrong...
i see the circles of friends...
i just think other people tend to read into it more than need be...
Yes of course friends tend to agree and will post alike. But, and i speak of the girls with whom i consider myself friendly with....we def do NOT agree on all things
And i think people chose to ignore that
I'm not even talking about you. It's a lot more on LIW. I can't even tell you how many FM's I get that are like "I really don't want to post this on the board and get flamed....but...."
it's stupid. It's like, well thanks for half assed supporting me where no one can see it.
those are what you call cowards IMO. you're better off without them!
The BEST was when someone got ****** off at me over something a loong time ago and was like "I'm sorry I supported you on that other thread!"
it's like, what, you want to change your opinion on a totally separate topic because you don't like me now?
That's what bothers me.
I think if 5 different people post the same question, they will get 5 diffrent sets of answers, meanwhile, an opinion should really be an opinion, right?
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| Posted 2/27/06 8:22 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
Posted by marymoon
Posted by Redhead
Posted by marymoon
It's not. If you are afraid to speak your own opinions, that's your problem. I was just saying the definition of a clique. And some people truly don't want to deal with people who don't agree with them on certain things, or worship them..hence the exclusion...
hmmmmmmmmmmm interesting..
This is all in reference to LIW. I have no idea what the LIF dynamic is. I'm not on here very often.
i figured that out already
I was just trying to put myself in the situation to understand it
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| Posted 2/27/06 8:22 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
Posted by Redhead
Posted by marymoon
Posted by Redhead
And don't get me wrong...
i see the circles of friends...
i just think other people tend to read into it more than need be...
Yes of course friends tend to agree and will post alike. But, and i speak of the girls with whom i consider myself friendly with....we def do NOT agree on all things
And i think people chose to ignore that
I'm not even talking about you. It's a lot more on LIW. I can't even tell you how many FM's I get that are like "I really don't want to post this on the board and get flamed....but...."
it's stupid. It's like, well thanks for half assed supporting me where no one can see it.
i didn't htink you were
Well you talked about feeling that people ignore the fact that you and your friends do not always agree.
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| Posted 2/27/06 8:23 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
As per shorty's LIW thread...there are definitely queen bees around who have to be right
and the prevailing opinions go in cycles. Now you're spoiled if you're having a big wedding, a saturday night wedding, a may wedding, 2 or more favors, a band, or you're not paying for it yourself....
I don't remember this ebing the prevailing opinion a year or more ago
Message edited 2/27/2006 8:25:47 PM.
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| Posted 2/27/06 8:24 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
Posted by marymoon
Well you talked about feeling that people ignore the fact that you and your friends do not always agree.
what i meant by it was that people see what they want to...
whether it be me or someone else...
That they actively IGNORE the individual personalities that actually exist and put them in this "clan"...
I think this happens A LOT..not just me
I used myself as the example
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| Posted 2/27/06 8:26 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
Posted by Redhead
Posted by marymoon
Well you talked about feeling that people ignore the fact that you and your friends do not always agree.
what i meant by it was that people see what they want to...
whether it be me or someone else...
That they actively IGNORE the individual personalities that actually exist and put them in this "clan"...
I think this happens A LOT..not just me
I used myself as the example
Gotcha...
maybe it does appear that everyone agrees whe they don't because 1) friend probably agree with each other more than they don't and 2) if your friend posts something completely bad or something you don't agree with, you might word it more nicely, or address it in an FM, or handle it differently than if it's a random person, or someone you don't like. So things might appear to be cliquey when its just the natural ties of firnedhsip..but what I'm really talking about is what i said before, people who are afraid to post in opposition to the majority, or the percieved leader. I'm sure we've all gotten the "I won't write this on the baord but..." FM, especially in the super drama days of LIW
Message edited 2/27/2006 8:29:54 PM.
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MrsERod
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
Posted by marymoon
As per shorty's LIW thread...there are definitely queen bees around who have to be right
and the prevailing opinions go in cycles. Now you're spoiled if you're having a big wedding, a saturday night wedding, a may wedding, 2 or more favors, a band, or you're not paying for it yourself....
I don't remember this ebing the prevailing opinion a year or more ago
wow! it HAS really changed from a few years ago!!
hmmm...lets see....
1. i had a saturday night wedding
2. i had 2 or more favors....
however,
1. i did NOT have a may wedding
2. i did NOT have a band
3. we paid for our own wedding...
guess that makes me a HALF SPOILED BRAT!! 
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| Posted 2/27/06 8:28 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
2/5 spoiled brat? so maybe you're ok...less than half..
Did you shop around for the absolute most dirt cheap vendors? If not, that could push youy over the edge into complete spoiled bratdom!
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| Posted 2/27/06 8:31 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: If i don't like it i won't respond
Posted by marymoon
Gotcha...
maybe it does appear that everyone agrees whe they don't because 1) friend probably agree with each other more than they don't and 2) if your friend posts something completely bad or something you don't agree with, you might word it more nicely, or address it in an FM, or handle it differently than if it's a random person, or someone you don't like. So things might appear to be cliquey when its just the natural ties of firnedhsip..but what I'm really talking about is what i said before, people who are afraid to post in opposition to the majority, or the percieved leader. I'm sure we've all gotten the "I won't write this on the baord but..." FM, especially in the super drama days of LIW
i hear ya...and agree!
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