How do you split up the holidays with family?

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Thanksgiving- DH's family is not much into celebrations at all. Kind of just another day for them. So since my whole family comes together for holidays we spend it with my family.

Christmas- Thankfully this was easy for us since DH's family always celebrated on Christmas Eve and my family always celebrates on Christmas Day.

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My family is split up across the country, so it's impossible to see one another for the holidays.

DH's family is very local with the exception of a few people.

Thanksgiving: Just us and my ILs as my BIL and SIL go upstate to spend it with her family

Christmas: SIL hosts Xmas Eve; I host Xmas Day. We invite anyone and everyone who would like to come. Most of DH's aunts/uncles come.

My family - we find a weekend in January that we all agree to travel to my parents house and celebrate the holidays as a family then.

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Both of our parents are divorced so it's really hard. It's gotten a little easier (in terms of splitting up the time) because my dad passed away last October so when he was alive it was so hectic but we usually do:

DH's dad Thanksgiving morning for brunch
DH's moms family at night

Christmas Eve: Church with DH's mom
Dinner and presents at my moms

Christmas Day: DH's mom and dad come over in the morning to open presents with DS
then dinner with his moms family

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Thanksgiving- with DHs family
Christmas- with my family

We will probably have my ILs down for Christmas Eve this year since it's DS's first Christmas. Although knowing my MIL she'll probably force us to come to her house instead...

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ok here is my issue my in laws stay upstairs from us in our house 6 months out of the year!! This year they will be here for the holidays!!

My parents really don't extend the olive branch and invite them also which I think is ******!! it puts me in a weird spot so I'm thinking about having xmas at my house and whoever comes

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We swap each year soThanksgiving and Easter with one family and Christmas day with the other, the next year we switch.
Christmas Eve with my family every year (in-laws come too)

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Thanksgiving we alternate years. Like this year we have dinner with DH's family and then go to my mom's for dessert. Next year we will do dinner at my mom's and dessert at DH's family.

Christmas works out perfectly. For DH's family christmas eve is a big deal. They have a huge italian dinner and open all their presents. Christmas day they just hang around in their PJs. In my family christmas day is huge. So we spend christmas eve with DH's family and then spend christmas day travelling around to my family.

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We do Thanksgiving with DH's family, Easter with mine.

Christmas day we used to split, but it was too hard because my family travels to queens to my g-ma's. Last year we did Christmas day w/ my fam., day after w/ DH's.

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Thanksgiving - we host and everyone is welcome. My parents and my MIL get along really well so it's never an issue.

Christmas Eve - MIL hosts. My parents go out to dinner with their cousins.

Christmas Day - my parents host and they usually invite my MIL & SIL if they don't have other plans.

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Thanksgiving: We alternate hosting between us, my mom, and my older brother. When we host, my ILs come over. When my mom or brother host, my ILs usually do something on their own and we swing by after dinner for dessert.

Christmas: We host on Christmas eve. We invite my parents, ILs, my brothers, DH's brother. We do gifts at midnight (or like last year, about 10pm, haha) and then cake for my birthday.

Christmas day we spend at home or sometimes we go out. Last year was DS's 1st Christmas and we spent the day at home opening his presents and just relaxing.

A few years ago we used to still alternate Christmas and I decided it's my birthday and I wasn't doing it anymore. I called hosting Christmas and anyone else can do the other holidays as far as I'm concerned. I'm sure there will be a point in the future when someone else may want to host Christmas, but for now, we do it and I like not going out for that holiday.

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Thanksgiving, my family for dinner and dessert with dh family. This year both at my moms. She is having about 65 people this year between both families.

Christmas Eve, big for my family. So we always go there.
Christmas day is MIL if she isnt working.

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Typically (when we were in NY) - Thanksgiving we alternate families for dinner each year and visit the other family for dessert.

For Christmas, Christmas Eve is BIG in DH's family so we do that with them... and Christmas day we do with my family.

This year (and years we are in CA) we do our own thing for Thanksgiving and this year we won't be able to fly home for Christmas so my parents might come out here... they are also coming for Thanksgiving.

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wellllll....................

it should be:

Easter: IL's
Thanksgiving: My parents
Xmas Eve: IL's
Xmas day: My parents


BUTTTT
My family is really only close (relationship & geography) with my mom's side of the family. DH's family is close with both sides (MIL & FIL)

so it's more like this:

Easter: IL's & my parents are invited
Thanksgiving: ILs for an hour or two, then my parents
Xmas eve: IL's
Xmas day: IL's then my parents

see what's going on there?
ugh

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Posted by ItsaJoya19

wellllll....................

it should be:

Easter: IL's
Thanksgiving: My parents
Xmas Eve: IL's
Xmas day: My parents


BUTTTT
My family is really only close (relationship & geography) with my mom's side of the family. DH's family is close with both sides (MIL & FIL)

so it's more like this:

Easter: IL's & my parents are invited
Thanksgiving: ILs for an hour or two, then my parents
Xmas eve: IL's
Xmas day: IL's then my parents

see what's going on there?
ugh

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Last year we decided to split fully.

so last year we did:

Thanksgiving - my family

Christmas Eve- my family
Christmas Day - his family

this year it will be-

Thanksgiving - his family

Christmas Eve - his family
Christmas Day - my family

I couldn't deal with all the packing & repacking. I want to stay put.

& whoever we have thanksgiving with that year. . .we'll usually see them over the weekend and have leftovers or whatever.

Christmas Eve- I host for both sides. This year it'll be easier for everyone to come to us with two kids (one being a newborn)

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Our families live 10mins from each other. DH's family tends to eat early and mine late. So thanksgiving we usually go to his moms from 12-4 and then my moms from 4-8 and then head home.

Christmas eve is with my family and day with his.

Message edited 10/18/2011 3:04:31 PM.

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We do BOTH sides of the family for ALL holidays!

They are about 25-30 min drive away from each in Queens!

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my family and DH's family do stuff together so we dont really have to split things up...

MIL invited my parents over for Thanksgiving.

For Christmas we'll do usually do Xmas Eve together as well but DH and I will sleep at his parents house, wake up there and do presents, then we go home and my parents come over and we do presents with them and then DH's parents come over to my house and we all have Christmas dinner together. Things might be a little different this year - we'll do Christmas dinner at my parents instead of my place

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thanksgiving - we usually do dinner at one family and dessert at the other. I usually try to always get dinner since its really just my parents and me and use to be my brother for the holidays usually no other family is around.

Chirstmas - we would split my mom is always flexible and will do either day so we will do one side a day. Breakfast is usally alway at my parents, though now that we have DD this will change.

However this year and last year all holidays are at my parents since DH is currently not talking to his mom and his father (they are divorced) lives in FL. However we did do dessert at his aunt and uncles house.

if by some chance he talks to his mother again all hoildays for the rest of this year and some for next year i will be spending with my parents since it will be the first time celebrating since my brother passed away a few months ago

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Thanksgiving with the inlaw

christmas eve with my family

christmas day is just me, dh and DS

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My mom is in VA, so this is tough for us.

We are going to my moms in VA for Thanksgiving...but will be with DH's family for Christmas.

My thinking was...christmas is a holiday for the kids now that we are older...DH's family are all local and close knit...I want my DS to have memories of opening gifts & playing with his cousins on christmas day. Unfortunately for my mom...this means she will not see him for most christmases unless she comes here.

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I know this probably isn't an option for many people but we've been getting both sides of our families (our families are small anyway) together to celebrate many of the holidays. This year we'll host Christmas day at our house for my parents, brother, grandma, also MIL, BIL, SIL and their son. It makes it soooo much easier than all the rushing around, travel, leaving early and putting a damper on people's day, etc.