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QuoteTheRaven424
22 Months?!!!!
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And If That Isn't A True Blue Miracle
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How do you handle.....
When you know someone that everyone thinks the world of, and sings their high praises to the hilt...
And you just don't see it and actually have negative feelings toward that person
be it friend or family
do you confront the person?
do you let your feelings be known to the praisers?
do you do nothing?
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evnme
My little lamb
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Re: How do you handle.....
i b*tch about him/her to DH who is outside of the circle of praisers
Message edited 9/28/2007 4:08:29 PM.
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| Posted 9/28/07 4:07 PM |
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evnme
My little lamb
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Re: How do you handle.....
oops! double post
Message edited 9/28/2007 4:08:17 PM.
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| Posted 9/28/07 4:07 PM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
22 Months?!!!!
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Re: How do you handle.....
Posted by evnme
i b*tch to DH who is outside of the circle of praisers
 - good one
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| Posted 9/28/07 4:08 PM |
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CathyB
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Re: How do you handle.....
I'm not good at pretending I like someone, so it's usually pretty obvious how I feel. I usually don't say anything to the person doing the praising or the person being praised but on the way home DH gets an earful on how I think it's cr@p.
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| Posted 9/28/07 4:08 PM |
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Lanabean
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Re: How do you handle.....
If the person did something to me...I might make a point to tell my husband (not the world; just the person who helps me vent!) that I think this person isn't all that and here's why....if the person did nothing to me, I'd probably tell my MOM (I tell her everything and she really keeps secrets!) I think the person blows, but no one else.  Don't make a stink unless you really need to and can handle the aftermath. I'm usually paranoid about what people think of me, so unless there's a true reason to voice this, I'd handle it internally.
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VickiC
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Re: How do you handle.....
I do nothing. I don't want to be the drama starter in the group if it's family.
However, if someone else brings it up to me, then I respond truthfully that I don't think that person is all they are cracked up to be.
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| Posted 9/28/07 4:08 PM |
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DebG
Pick a cause & stand up for it
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Re: How do you handle.....
i get so mad I see red! I try to drop hints to the praisers or if I feel really close to one I will clue her/him in as to why I feel the way I do and to protect them for getting hurt
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| Posted 9/28/07 4:10 PM |
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Lanabean
Yoginis
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Re: How do you handle.....
Posted by VickiC
I do nothing. I don't want to be the drama starter in the group if it's family.
However, if someone else brings it up to me, then I respond truthfully that I don't think that person is all they are cracked up to be.
I do this, too! I'll jump in the conversation if I agree and WANTED to say it already...but if no one says it, I keep shut.
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| Posted 9/28/07 4:10 PM |
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BlueDiamonds
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Re: How do you handle.....
i usually don't say anything and wait for everyone else to eventually catch on
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| Posted 9/28/07 4:11 PM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
22 Months?!!!!
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Re: How do you handle.....
my thing is that sometimes, the praisers are so brainwashed that nothing you can say can change their minds
so i keep silent unless asked
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| Posted 9/28/07 4:12 PM |
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evnme
My little lamb
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Re: How do you handle.....
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
my thing is that sometimes, the praisers are so brainwashed that nothing you can say can change their minds
so i keep silent unless asked
ITA
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BabyAvocado
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Re: How do you handle.....
I don't confront the person, unless I have reason to (i.e. they did something to me personally). I don't see the point of going out of your way to tell someone you don't agree with everyone else telling them they are best thing since sliced bread.
Feelings known to the praisers? No, not unless I am directly asked, again don't see the reason to.
I think in a situation like that, unless the person is doing something to you directly, you'll just come off as a hater if you make your negative feelings known. Even if your feelings are totally valid for whatever reasons (you know something not so great about the person's past, they mistreated you in the past, etc) they will be dismissed as "you're just jealous because we all love so-and-so"...
Pointless IMO. And even more pointless to let it bother you (if it does). Until the day, of course, something that person does directly affects you. Then you have every right to lay it all out there.
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| Posted 9/28/07 4:18 PM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
22 Months?!!!!
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Re: How do you handle.....
Posted by BabyAvocado
I don't confront the person, unless I have reason to (i.e. they did something to me personally). I don't see the point of going out of your way to tell someone you don't agree with everyone else telling them they are best thing since sliced bread.
Feelings known to the praisers? No, not unless I am directly asked, again don't see the reason to.
I think in a situation like that, unless the person is doing something to you directly, you'll just come off as a hater if you make your negative feelings known. Even if your feelings are totally valid for whatever reasons (you know something not so great about the person's past, they mistreated you in the past, etc) they will be dismissed as "you're just jealous because we all love so-and-so"...
Pointless IMO. And even more pointless to let it bother you (if it does). Until the day, of course, something that person does directly affects you. Then you have every right to lay it all out there.
I agree with all of this - just some stuff makes my skin crawl
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BabyAvocado
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Re: How do you handle.....
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
I agree with all of this - just some stuff makes my skin crawl
Oooh I know the feeling.
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JessieQ
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Re: How do you handle.....
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
my thing is that sometimes, the praisers are so brainwashed that nothing you can say can change their minds
so i keep silent unless asked
Tell me about it! I am going through this right now, I haven't decided how to handle it though. It depends, I agree a lot of times if you just give your opinion, unless you have "proof" of what that person has done, you will just look petty, jealous, or worse. Especially if the others are already close to that person and/or really like that person. But I agree, if they asked me outright I would have to be honest (but tactful).
I'd say have a support system outside that circle (if it's family, talk to your friends, if it's friends, talk to your family) to vent.
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| Posted 9/28/07 4:37 PM |
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DebG
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Re: How do you handle.....
don- anything going on at work in particular, like this?
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| Posted 9/28/07 4:39 PM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
22 Months?!!!!
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Re: How do you handle.....
nah - just a general observance
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DebG
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Re: How do you handle.....
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
nah - just a general observance
see i only observe religious holiday's
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| Posted 9/28/07 4:49 PM |
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itkocak
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Re: How do you handle.....
Message edited 11/11/2011 7:55:17 PM.
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CkGm
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Re: How do you handle.....
I usually can find one person who agrees and bit(h to them!
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| Posted 9/28/07 5:13 PM |
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danielleandscott
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Re: How do you handle.....
Posted by evnme
i b*tch about him/her to DH who is outside of the circle of praisers
me too!
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Ambersmom
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Re: How do you handle.....
Posted by DebG
i get so mad I see red! I try to drop hints to the praisers or if I feel really close to one I will clue her/him in as to why I feel the way I do and to protect them for getting hurt
I agree
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| Posted 9/28/07 5:50 PM |
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DebG
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Re: How do you handle.....
Posted by Ambersmom
Posted by DebG
i get so mad I see red! I try to drop hints to the praisers or if I feel really close to one I will clue her/him in as to why I feel the way I do and to protect them for getting hurt
I agree
Hey sweetie, how are you doing?>
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Ambersmom
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Re: How do you handle.....
Posted by DebG
Posted by Ambersmom
Posted by DebG
i get so mad I see red! I try to drop hints to the praisers or if I feel really close to one I will clue her/him in as to why I feel the way I do and to protect them for getting hurt
I agree
Hey sweetie, how are you doing?>
No hijacking Deb! But I'm doing...better
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