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bunnyluck
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Help settle a debate
How often does your SO, DH or DW go out after work?
Including - office happy hours, meeting friends, sporting events and partipating on sport teams.
I feel like compared to mos, my DH has a fair share of "extracurricular" activities and I hardly ever complain. Today I did because I'm particularly exhausted and made the point that I bet compared to most fathers he has lots of time to himself.
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GoldenRod
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Re: Help settle a debate
Honestly, the only activities I really have outside of work center around DC. Boy Scout Leader, Soccer Coach, and Dad of a Track runner take up most of my weekends and parts of my weekday evenings.
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| Posted 11/12/15 4:03 PM |
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Re: Help settle a debate
Posted by bunnyluck
How often does your SO, DH or DW go out after work?
Including - office happy hours, meeting friends, sporting events and partipating on sport teams.
I feel like compared to mos, my DH has a fair share of "extracurricular" activities and I hardly ever complain. Today I did because I'm particularly exhausted and made the point that I bet compared to most fathers he has lots of time to himself.
Well, now he goes to the gym during lunchtime at work- so that is great. If he didn't have a gym at his office though, that would be like 4x @ 1 hour a week that would come out of our time. But on weekends he does take 1-3 hours for his workouts or haircuts each day.
So the extra stuff with friends and such- get togethers, dinners, happy hours-- maybe 2x a week, but its usually for a long time. so like he leaves right when dd wakes and comes home long after she is asleep.
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| Posted 11/12/15 4:03 PM |
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Posted by GoldenRod
Honestly, the only activities I really have outside of work center around DC. Boy Scout Leader, Soccer Coach, and Dad of a Track runner take up most of my weekends and parts of my weekday evenings.
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| Posted 11/12/15 4:04 PM |
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Jacquelina
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Re: Help settle a debate
My DH plays poker every other Wednesday night.
He maybe goes to a sports game once every few months.
Once in a blue moon he will go get beers with a couple friends, but very rare. He really isnt into that whole scene anymore and everyones married w/kids - its hard to really get together with conflicting schedules.
I personally go out with my friends once every couple months for a girls night. Sometimes I will go to a movie and dinner with my sister and sis-law maybe once a month or every other.
Thats about it for our independent social lives, lol.
He does get a lot of Sundays to himself during football season though...he will watch the game either at his brothers or friends and I go out for the day either with friends or family and take our son along.
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| Posted 11/12/15 4:07 PM |
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ElizaRags35
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Help settle a debate
Once in a blue moon. He picks up the kids from daycare. Anything he does, has to include them. He used to play hockey once a week but that was before kids. Occasionally he'll go to a hockey game but that's very rare. He doesn't drink so he doesn't do happy hour
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| Posted 11/12/15 4:08 PM |
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jteach
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Not enough. I push him to do more with friends but he just doesn't have the same "want" as he used to
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| Posted 11/12/15 4:11 PM |
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jams92
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Re: Help settle a debate
Dh goes out after work once/twice month. I actually go out after work more frequently 
He also goes out one saturday night a month. And he plays sports on the weekend so he is out for about 4 hours every saturday for about half of the year.
Message edited 11/12/2015 4:22:57 PM.
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| Posted 11/12/15 4:22 PM |
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nycgirl
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Re: Help settle a debate
This is the holiday season, so DH went to 2 parties last weekend & one yesterday. I have 2 retirement parties I am going to solo.
Other than that, maybe once a month (excluding gym).
We have limited time together... We both work. Therefore, we spend time as a family (took a while for our friends to understand that we are a package).
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| Posted 11/12/15 4:25 PM |
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JDubs
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Re: Help settle a debate
DH does not work a typical M-F schedule, so i am going to say he goes out once every few months.
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| Posted 11/12/15 4:32 PM |
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MichLiz213
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Help settle a debate
Maybe once or twice a month.
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| Posted 11/12/15 4:55 PM |
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Posted by jteach
Not enough. I push him to do more with friends but he just doesn't have the same "want" as he used to
Same here. He rarely goes out during the week. Maybe a few times a year.
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| Posted 11/12/15 4:59 PM |
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evrythng4areason
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With his old job it would be, on average, once a week for work (getting home between 9-11). Going out with friends is rare on our own, but once a year he goes to Ac over night with friends.
With his new job he's theoretically not going to have to go out as much. He went out once and got home around 8? With the holidays there are 3 nights in December but it doesn't seem like it will always be that regular.
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| Posted 11/12/15 5:12 PM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Help settle a debate
DH only goes to work related outings after work where there is a dinner usually with some sort of talk or lecture.
He probably plays tennis/golf with friends about 1-2x per month and might go to watch a football game at a bar about one Sunday per month.
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| Posted 11/12/15 5:30 PM |
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M514
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Help settle a debate
DH plays hockey one night a week. Other than that, he'll go out with friends once or twice a month. It's usually for drinks, a sports game or running a 5k/obstacle challenges.
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| Posted 11/12/15 5:58 PM |
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Millie3
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Re: Help settle a debate
DH goes to the gym a few days a week for 30-45 min. That's pretty much it,
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| Posted 11/12/15 6:43 PM |
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LSP2005
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Re: Help settle a debate
Posted by Millie3
DH goes to the gym a few days a week for 30-45 min. That's pretty much it,
so does Dh. Occasionally he will have friends over or go out too.
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| Posted 11/12/15 7:01 PM |
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DaniJude
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Re: Help settle a debate
My SO is like a machine - he is extremely dedicated to his children. He is divorced, has two children, and works full time. Everyday after work he goes and picks his kids up, takes them to baseball or whatever activity they may have, takes them to his place, makes them dinner, eats with them, gets them bathed and then in PJs and drops them back home. Then, usually around 8pm by the time he is done, he comes and sees me. This is most of the time. From time to time he will have one day during the week where he does not pick them up after school. So, he then comes to me and we go out.
Then, each weekend he has his kids - not every other which is unusual in a divorce situation. He picks them up Friday after school and doesn't return them until Sunday evening. In the summer time he runs them to camp all week when they don't have school. He's amazing. The last time I recall him going out with his best friend Liam, was literally a year ago. He called me one night and he had dropped the kids and he's like I'm with Liam out in Patchogue. And I'm like oh wow!!! And I remember telling him how happy I was for him Bc he never goes out.
Mind you, he works full time on top of all this.
The only thing he does for himself is run four times a week -- about six-ten miles a shot. And he runs marathons... About two half marathons and one or two full ones a year.
Next weekend is the first weekend in over a year and a half of us dating that he is not taking the kids so we can go on a long weekend trip together.
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| Posted 11/12/15 7:27 PM |
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JME78
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Re: Help settle a debate
I have a newborn so right now it is never, but previously DH would go out for work about 3x a month and go to Crossfit about 4x a week. Crossfit would often be early AM.
He probably gets together with his brother and dad to golf about once a month, in the winter they may go to a FB game once a month.
He may see his friends alone for poker once every few months, friends we usually do more as couples.
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| Posted 11/12/15 7:48 PM |
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Pinkisles
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Help settle a debate
My husband goes out every Friday and plays cards at our neighbor across the streets house. It's usually when my son is in. Bed so I don't mind
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| Posted 11/12/15 7:56 PM |
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allIwant
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Re: Help settle a debate
Not enough
We both need to make a point of doing more for ourselves.
He plays hockey 1-2x a week but leaves after 9-10 pm so it doesn't affect me at all. I am just about to go to bed when he is leaving.
1-2 x a month he might go fishing or something. maybe
once a month or so he will go to friends house (he has 2 close friends that live within 5 min) to watch a game.
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| Posted 11/12/15 8:22 PM |
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alexb
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Help settle a debate
DH usually has work commitments once a week. We do find two days a weeks to work out together though.
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| Posted 11/12/15 9:09 PM |
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cowgirlkate
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Re: Help settle a debate
DH goes out for drinks maybe 3-4 times a year after a meeting or after work with colleagues. I try to get him to go out with friends, etc but he is a homebody.
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| Posted 11/12/15 9:14 PM |
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StarsStripes
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Help settle a debate
His job does not require it, so I would say a few times a year...and that is often a holiday party etc. Or he will go out to a friends house to watch a game, but rarely. He would rather be home.
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| Posted 11/12/15 9:28 PM |
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melbalalala
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Re: Help settle a debate
Zero... we are mega-introverts that kind of rush home to hang out with each other and the kids.... we border on anti-social and would probably live in a cave if we didn't have kids that we feared would wind up as weird as us 
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