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worse today. He won't get out of bed at all, won't eat. He has a doc appt tomorrow and I hope he doesn't dig his heels in and refuse to go.

This is just terrible. He wants to go back to the nursing home..

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I'm sorry. I'm sure this is such a huge adjustment for him and that it's scary. I hope he's up and around soon.

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we are all beside ourselves. Tomorow, the social worker will call us too to talk about what's going on. He hasn't even changed his clothes since Friday..no shower, nothing.

He is so depressed and angry. He just tells us all to go away. Imagine how hard it is for mom and dad to live like this with him.

I don't know what's going to happen, but something's got to give.

We are all so deflated.

I don't know who I feel worse for, Fred or mom and dad.

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I'm so sorry you Freddy and your parents have to go through this. TBI is so hard...Im sure Freddy is feeling depressed and on top of that his injury is adding to his mood.

My brother goes through his moods too...one day he may be happy and the next day nasty for no reason. It sucks

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ohhhh I am soooo sorry! I will keep you all in my thoughts& Prayers ~ I hope he goes to the doctor tomorrow

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I am so sorry!

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Wow, I am so sorry! I hope he goes to the doc. Some people find it hard in reality to depend on family during something like this. Is going back to the home even an option?

I hope everything works out for the best for everyone

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I'm so sorry to hear Freddy is having a harder time adjusting then expected.

Hopefully the social worker will be able to shed some light and insight into the situation.

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So sorry to hear this susan. Is there anything we can do for you?
Maybe him going back to the nursing home or getting a place by himself or an assisted living type facility might work? I am sure the SW will give you some options tommorrow. I feel so bad for your parents seen they moved all the way across. And I know they were kinda looking forward to helping out. You really cant help when someone doesnt want the help. Let me know what happens tommorrow. Again if myself or dh can help you out we will. let me know!

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it sounds like he is depressed. like I said the other day, I can't even imagine what he must be going through. I hope you all hang in there and that it gets better!

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update:

We went tonight and got him out of bed easily. We brought him some mags and I pulled out fresh clothes and told him to get up and get dressed.

We ordered some food and we ate. Fred excused himself to go to the bathroom and he was gone a while so we went to check on him and he was back in bed. I asked him what happened and he said he couldn't get into the bathroom with the wheelchair. I showed him how to get into the bathroom without it and he was happier. Could you imagine not being able to do the simplest things? My heart just broke.

After dinner we got him to agree to shave and talked about the doc tomorrow. He shaved and washed up and changed his clothes. He said he would be ready to go the doc all showered.

My parents watched how I got him to do these things and told me I have a gift. I told them I have more practice at it since I was the one doing this longer. They have to learn the way to deal with him.

I promised him knowing full well this isn't happening anytime soon, but if the doc says he can drive then we will go to the cadillac dealer.

It was motivational for him. It was a tactic I had to employ.

We'll see what happens tomorrow. Wish us luck.

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I have said it before, and will say it again---your brother is so lucky to have such an awesome sister as you. You are such an inspiration!

Your parents are right--you do have a gift!!

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So sorry to hear this susan. Is there anything we can do for you?
Maybe him going back to the nursing home or getting a place by himself or an assisted living type facility might work? I am sure the SW will give you some options tommorrow. I feel so bad for your parents seen they moved all the way across. And I know they were kinda looking forward to helping out. You really cant help when someone doesnt want the help. Let me know what happens tommorrow. Again if myself or dh can help you out we will. let me know!

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awww sounds like he is doing better! Great that he got out of bed and took a shower and you showed him how to do all these things ~ Good luck @ the doctor Freddy...

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I'm so sorry it's getting tougher -- or, well, up and down as it seems... Remember, sometimes these things are 2 steps forward, one step back. I'm sure your parents will learn to handle him better. Just give them time to pick up on how to do it and to adjust. I definitely think he's going through some depression. I hope the social worker has some good ideas for you when you speak to him or her.

Good luck!!

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well, they got him to the doc but it was a struggle. he didn't even want to change out of the clothes he slept in.

Very depressed and mood changes are manic. I hope the doc can help.

He should also see a psychiatrist and a neurologist.

I hope the next few days will get better.

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Sorry to hear that Freddy is still having a difficult time adjusting, but I'm glad you're able to help out and he seems to be doing better. Your parents just need to learn how to deal with him, hopefully they'll get the hang of things soon, but situations like this takes some time.

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Hugs for you and your family. I'm sure things will get better little by little, you may just need to give it time.