Finally- I found a mother just like me

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Why we should stop going over the top for our kids

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These articles are so ridiculous. Who cares what other people do. Live and let live. Parent how you want to parent. Stop worrying about what others do. I see these silly stories, which are really bashes on other people's parenting choices, every single day. It gets so old.

And for the record, I HANDmake my child a bunch of new things every single time we go to Disney or on their cruise, and am very proud of that ;)

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I don't see the article as a bash on other's parenting choices. I can completely relate to the author, as my childhood was very similar, it seems, to hers. It brings me back to a simpler time. It's easy to get caught up these days, with Pinterest, etc, and feel like what you're doing is just not enough. I struggle with the mundane tasks of everyday life, I don't need the added pressure! If you truly enjoy doing the artsy craftsy stuff, then I say more power to you. Sometimes it feels like some people do those types of things not for their kids though, and not for themselves either- but to compete with other moms.

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I don't see the article as a bash on other's parenting choices. I can completely relate to the author, as my childhood was very similar, it seems, to hers. It brings me back to a simpler time. It's easy to get caught up these days, with Pinterest, etc, and feel like what you're doing is just not enough. I struggle with the mundane tasks of everyday life, I don't need the added pressure! If you truly enjoy doing the artsy craftsy stuff, then I say more power to you. Sometimes it feels like some people do those types of things not for their kids though, and not for themselves either- but to compete with other moms.

So true!

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Finally- I found a mother just like me

You can give your children a simple childhood- how you raise your children is your choice. You also choose the people you surround yourself with and have the choice to set the norm in your children's world. I am not sure how old you are BUT one of
The reason's I did not attend mommy and me classes with my
Mom was there simply were NO mommy and me classes offered in Queens in the late 70's. As for parents being involved in their children's activities that is a personal choice- in all of my years growing up my father never attended one school activity with the exception of graduations but my mom was at every single activity- she was president of the PTA and was involved in many aspects of the elementary school and religious education program I attended- 30+ years later she is still involved in the same religious education program and her children are all adults- I had friends that went on multiple vacations a year yet we only
took one vacation a year and it was usually a road trip. As the parent you shape if your child has a "simple childhood" or not--also keep in mind what is the norm on LI is NOT the norm for most of the US.

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I get where she's coming form and agree with a lot of it -

I just find it strange though, that it all stemmed from her annoyance that a woman MADE her daughter a dress.
I actually think that's kind of an amazing thing to do for your kid and something they WILL remember. If she bought the super delux $400 Disney Princess dress I could see the argument, but I'm not understanding why taking the time to make your daughter a princess dress is a bad thing for a Mom to do ........

My Mom made costumes for my sister and I, she's good at that stuff !
My Grandma was a seamstress, and my Grandpa a tailor - My Mom to this day will tell you how spoiled she was, that my Grandma stayed up all night getting her dress for a dance, or date or whatever perfect. She didn't appreciate her efforts then, but what kid does? She absolutely appreciated it once she was older and understood the time and effort though -

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YES!!!!!!

All of these are are on target and I don't think it has anything to do with different styles of parenting or judging.

Go on any "mom's" site on facebook and you will see.

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There will NEVER be a simplier childhood like we used to experience in the 70's and 80's no matter how much anyone will say it can be.

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Finally- I found a mother just like me

I'm not a parent yet but articles like this remind me why I will never fit in with other moms. Not because I will or will not do any of these things but because I give zero effs what anyone else does with their kid and I'll cut the first person who has something to say about how I raise mine.

Except Disney, I'm never going to Disney.

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She had another one that was bashing what people post on facebook, and I just connected that it came from the same person. She just seems downright miserable, and by putting others down is trying to make herself feel more secure in her own parenting choices.

I don't think life is complicated. You make it how complicated you want it to be. I'm crafty, I'm involved, I attend every event, help at school, make fancy things, have great parties. On the flip side, we are perfectly fine playing with a cardboard box all day . Just because you (or she) is different doesn't mean it's okay to be condescending about my (or anyone else's choices ;) And really, that's all these "rantings" are...backhanded bashes on other people's choices ;)

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Posted by BargainMama

She had another one that was bashing what people post on facebook, and I just connected that it came from the same person. She just seems downright miserable, and by putting others down is trying to make herself feel more secure in her own parenting choices.

I don't think life is complicated. You make it how complicated you want it to be. I'm crafty, I'm involved, I attend every event, help at school, make fancy things, have great parties. On the flip side, we are perfectly fine playing with a cardboard box all day . Just because you (or she) is different doesn't mean it's okay to be condescending about my (or anyone else's choices ;) And really, that's all these "rantings" are...backhanded bashes on other people's choices ;)

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She had another one that was bashing what people post on facebook, and I just connected that it came from the same person. She just seems downright miserable, and by putting others down is trying to make herself feel more secure in her own parenting choices.

I don't think life is complicated. You make it how complicated you want it to be. I'm crafty, I'm involved, I attend every event, help at school, make fancy things, have great parties. On the flip side, we are perfectly fine playing with a cardboard box all day . Just because you (or she) is different doesn't mean it's okay to be condescending about my (or anyone else's choices ;) And really, that's all these "rantings" are...backhanded bashes on other people's choices ;)

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She had another one that was bashing what people post on facebook, and I just connected that it came from the same person. She just seems downright miserable, and by putting others down is trying to make herself feel more secure in her own parenting choices.

I don't think life is complicated. You make it how complicated you want it to be. I'm crafty, I'm involved, I attend every event, help at school, make fancy things, have great parties. On the flip side, we are perfectly fine playing with a cardboard box all day . Just because you (or she) is different doesn't mean it's okay to be condescending about my (or anyone else's choices ;) And really, that's all these "rantings" are...backhanded bashes on other people's choices ;)

I agree. I find that I can't relate to a lot of those mommy articles, but that's ok, because everyone is different. It's not a competition. I do like making fun foods for my DD, I love school events, I try to find crafts and fun things for my child to do...because I like to do it. I don't feel pressured to do it. There's a difference. Some people just take things too personally and put the competion on themselves.

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She had another one that was bashing what people post on facebook, and I just connected that it came from the same person. She just seems downright miserable, and by putting others down is trying to make herself feel more secure in her own parenting choices.

I don't think life is complicated. You make it how complicated you want it to be. I'm crafty, I'm involved, I attend every event, help at school, make fancy things, have great parties. On the flip side, we are perfectly fine playing with a cardboard box all day . Just because you (or she) is different doesn't mean it's okay to be condescending about my (or anyone else's choices ;) And really, that's all these "rantings" are...backhanded bashes on other people's choices ;)

I agree. I find that I can't relate to a lot of those mommy articles, but that's ok, because everyone is different. It's not a competition. I do like making fun foods for my DD, I love school events, I try to find crafts and fun things for my child to do...because I like to do it. I don't feel pressured to do it. There's a difference. Some people just take things too personally and put the competion on themselves.

Exactly, I feel no pressure to do anything. I enjoy being who I am.

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She had another one that was bashing what people post on facebook, and I just connected that it came from the same person. She just seems downright miserable, and by putting others down is trying to make herself feel more secure in her own parenting choices.

I don't think life is complicated. You make it how complicated you want it to be. I'm crafty, I'm involved, I attend every event, help at school, make fancy things, have great parties. On the flip side, we are perfectly fine playing with a cardboard box all day . Just because you (or she) is different doesn't mean it's okay to be condescending about my (or anyone else's choices ;) And really, that's all these "rantings" are...backhanded bashes on other people's choices ;)

I would love to know your secret then as I find life complicated in many ways.

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Posted by BargainMama

She had another one that was bashing what people post on facebook, and I just connected that it came from the same person. She just seems downright miserable, and by putting others down is trying to make herself feel more secure in her own parenting choices.

I don't think life is complicated. You make it how complicated you want it to be. I'm crafty, I'm involved, I attend every event, help at school, make fancy things, have great parties. On the flip side, we are perfectly fine playing with a cardboard box all day . Just because you (or she) is different doesn't mean it's okay to be condescending about my (or anyone else's choices ;) And really, that's all these "rantings" are...backhanded bashes on other people's choices ;)

I agree. I find that I can't relate to a lot of those mommy articles, but that's ok, because everyone is different. It's not a competition. I do like making fun foods for my DD, I love school events, I try to find crafts and fun things for my child to do...because I like to do it. I don't feel pressured to do it. There's a difference. Some people just take things too personally and put the competion on themselves.

Exactly, I feel no pressure to do anything. I enjoy being who I am.

Oh I get that and I do that too but life is complicated and only gets more as you have kids, IMO and IME.

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She had another one that was bashing what people post on facebook, and I just connected that it came from the same person. She just seems downright miserable, and by putting others down is trying to make herself feel more secure in her own parenting choices.

I don't think life is complicated. You make it how complicated you want it to be. I'm crafty, I'm involved, I attend every event, help at school, make fancy things, have great parties. On the flip side, we are perfectly fine playing with a cardboard box all day . Just because you (or she) is different doesn't mean it's okay to be condescending about my (or anyone else's choices ;) And really, that's all these "rantings" are...backhanded bashes on other people's choices ;)

I would love to know your secret then as I find life complicated in many ways.

Yes, I know you do, as I read a lot of your posts on here. I have no secret, I just live and let live, and don't let what other people do get to me. I know you have an issue with that, because I read a lot of your posts. My advice, let it go, and worry about YOU. Not others, not your co-workers, not your sister leaving you out from the pool, etc. etc. etc.