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Janice
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Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
I will say it...I am REALLY bad about putting my marriage first.
I want to, but we don't go out.
I go out, he goes out...we switch off watching the kids...but a sitter has never stepped foot into my house.
Leo and I went to HS together. One of Leo's BFFs(has 3, all friends) is heading down to the HardRock in Punta Cana to get married.
He came up from FL for my wedding.
Came up from FL twice to help us move around in Charlotte.
Before we ever moved to Charlotte, met Leo here to check out the city.
The two other friends are going to wedding. I told Leo details, told him it would be 4k for the 4 nights we are there. Told him I can stay home, or have my mother come and stay with kids.
I DO NOT want to bring my kids...at all. That is a lot of money to be spending on a party atmosphere for me to be taking care of the two of them...and fun dad..has fun. so it would be me...
Leo says no way. He would rather go on disney cruise.
Do I push it and forge ahead?
It isn't about the money only...just how the money would be spent. He feels like it is fam vacation money. I feel like we would have a blast...but at 1000 a day?  Would you invest in your marriage for that much??
tia!
i rambled
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Posted 11/20/10 11:22 AM  |
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
I think you and DH should go being his friend came to your wedding and also has done so much for you. I also think if you do some research you can find much better deals for a lot less money.
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| Posted 11/20/10 11:31 AM |
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CaMacho
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
$4k for punta cana for 4 days for 2 people?
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| Posted 11/20/10 11:33 AM |
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Disneygirl
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
So wait Leo doesn't want to go the wedding at all or just by himself?? This sounds like a really good friend I would make the effort and spend the $$ to go.
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| Posted 11/20/10 11:34 AM |
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cloddy
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
I know it will be expensive b/c we just did this same kind of thing only FL but does it really have to be that much? 4k sounds crazy. There must be a way to do it a little cheaper or else I see his point, that really is a cruise.
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| Posted 11/20/10 11:34 AM |
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d-h2008
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
Posted by CaMacho
$4k for punta cana for 4 days for 2 people?
Yea that sounds really expensive...DH and I went on our babymoon to punta cana, 5 nights all inclusive 4 star hotel + airfare for less than 2,000
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| Posted 11/20/10 11:36 AM |
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Janice
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
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Message edited 11/20/2010 11:46:33 AM.
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| Posted 11/20/10 11:39 AM |
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Janice
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
the place down the street is 1/2 the price....but if we stayed there, we would not really be with these guys at all
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| Posted 11/20/10 11:40 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
I wouldn't miss it. Not for a friend that goes above & beyond for you.
I would have my parents stay with the kids & go with Leo. I would also try to spend a few extra days there post wedding if it's feasible so you get more of your airfare out of it.
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| Posted 11/20/10 11:57 AM |
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CaMacho
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
I priced it based in the dates you posted above and airfare is about $1k (r/t for 2) and hard rock is about $500/night (which is crazy... no deal for wedding guests?) so for 3 nights total would be 2500 for everything plus spending money.
I would go but find a cheaper hotel.
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| Posted 11/20/10 12:04 PM |
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Porrruss
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
Go on vacation without the kids. I hate that my DH and I haven't done it since Mads was 8 months old.
We went to Mexico for a wedding and I cannot TELL you how much it recharged our relationship. I didn't realize how much we needed to *get back to our marriage* until we took that trip.
family vacations blow when they're that young anyway- all you wind up doing is chasing them around and make memories they won't remember.
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| Posted 11/20/10 12:07 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
Posted by CaMacho
I priced it based in the dates you posted above and airfare is about $1k (r/t for 2) and hard rock is about $500/night (which is crazy... no deal for wedding guests?) so for 3 nights total would be 2500 for everything plus spending money.
I would go but find a cheaper hotel.
thanks!
yeah...and layover in miami...so day 1 is going to be spent in airports and on planes.
other hotels are so much cheaper...but everyone is going to be eating and drinking here....
groom would COMPLETELY understand us not going. that is why leo is so confident to tell him no we aren't going.
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| Posted 11/20/10 12:22 PM |
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mrswask
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
Posted by Janice
Posted by CaMacho
I priced it based in the dates you posted above and airfare is about $1k (r/t for 2) and hard rock is about $500/night (which is crazy... no deal for wedding guests?) so for 3 nights total would be 2500 for everything plus spending money.
I would go but find a cheaper hotel.
thanks!
yeah...and layover in miami...so day 1 is going to be spent in airports and on planes.
other hotels are so much cheaper...but everyone is going to be eating and drinking here....
groom would COMPLETELY understand us not going. that is why leo is so confident to tell him no we aren't going.
Even if the groom would completely understand, look at it the other way - how excited he would be to have you guys there. If you do stay at another hotel, it would still end up cheaper, I'm sure, to do that and then hang out with your friends all day at the Hard Rock, even if you are paying out of pocket to eat and drink.
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| Posted 11/20/10 12:24 PM |
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CaMacho
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
Posted by Janice
thanks!
yeah...and layover in miami...so day 1 is going to be spent in airports and on planes.
other hotels are so much cheaper...but everyone is going to be eating and drinking here....
groom would COMPLETELY understand us not going. that is why leo is so confident to tell him no we aren't going.
When I looked on kayak I thought it said AA non stop.
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| Posted 11/20/10 12:25 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
that would be great with a non stop!
i think i was looking at cheapie sites only giving me connecting.
well, he is promised his promotion in Feb. Maybe he will feel like celebrating.
He can't see leaving the kids either...that is only because he doesn't deal with them Moms night out last thursday i was called home to my screaming baby. He says I can't be called home from an island.
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| Posted 11/20/10 12:38 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
Please go!!! I know it's a lot of money (though I think you could find a better deal if you keep looking) but sometimes you just have to bite the bullet. #1 this guy has proved to be a REALLY good friend to you both. #2 this would be great for you and Leo. I know what it's like to feel like you live seperate social lives. I relish every chance I get to spend quality social time with DH.
ETA- what would be your local/international airport? Charlotte? I'll do some research for you. I think it may even come up with my time share. Let me know the dates and I'll see what I can come up with.
Message edited 11/20/2010 12:47:14 PM.
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| Posted 11/20/10 12:46 PM |
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Janice
Sweet Jessie Quinn
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
Posted by mrswask
Even if the groom would completely understand, look at it the other way - how excited he would be to have you guys there. If you do stay at another hotel, it would still end up cheaper, I'm sure, to do that and then hang out with your friends all day at the Hard Rock, even if you are paying out of pocket to eat and drink.
thanks!
i really don't know much about it...would we be able to use hard rock pools and such??? we are crusiers i don't know anything about all inclusives.
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| Posted 11/20/10 12:48 PM |
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NinaLemon
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
I agree with PPs and think you should go, this friend has been very good to you, doing way more than most people would do. I can understand wanting to use the $$ for a family vacation, but this will also be great for you, your DH and the kids (they get to spend a few days being spoiled by Grandma!!!)
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| Posted 11/20/10 12:49 PM |
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Message edited 9/21/2011 1:34:50 PM.
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| Posted 11/20/10 12:50 PM |
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Janice
Sweet Jessie Quinn
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
which leads me to another thing.
leaving a 14 month old for 5 days.
would i be weaning her?
would she pick it up again?
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| Posted 11/20/10 12:51 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
Posted by sweetie
you can stay at a diff hotel & buy a day/night pass to visit them & get the all-inclusive amenities. the wedding will be one night & you can use the pass for another to hang out w/friends
thanks!
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| Posted 11/20/10 12:51 PM |
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
Posted by sweetie
you can stay at a diff hotel & buy a day/night pass to visit them & get the all-inclusive amenities. the wedding will be one night & you can use the pass for another to hang out w/friends
ITA with this. Just because the wedding is at the hard rock doesn't mean you need to stay at the hard rock. If it's just up the road, I'd do it. It sounds like the difference between going and not going and I'm SURE you and Leo could use the reconnection time
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| Posted 11/20/10 1:15 PM |
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hazeleyes33
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
I think if your mother is willing to watch the kids, then go.
I am sure you can find a cheaper fare as that seems like alot. We didn't even spend that much on our last cruise with airfare for 4 people.
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| Posted 11/20/10 2:30 PM |
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usuk2004
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
Like everyone else has said - find something a bit cheaper, but DEFINITELY go! It's the PERFECT excuse for you guys to go somewhere on your own. Sometimes we don't do things even when we want to because time just goes by and before we realize it, it's been 10+ years since we've been away somewhere on our own, together!
Go and have a great time!
I would cross the BFing road when I come to it. Will Jessie take a bottle now?
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| Posted 11/20/10 4:12 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Feeling weird about a destination wedding situation...
Holy Crap why is it so expensive???
If the price wasn't so high I would say you both should go and enjoy the time away but man oh man that's a big chunk for just 4 nights, especially for Hard Rock. 
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