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luvsbob4603
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Does your Mom support You
How would you feel If your Mom does Not support you? I told her That I wanted to Try and start to TTC and she Jumped on my back, Saying You will be foolish if you try now, You just Bought A house and you wont have the money to support a Child! I was like Mom I am getting older "Not Younger" and I was thinking about It and we do have the money! I tell ya NO MATTER WHAT I DO SHE WILL ALWAYS DISAGREE! and I said is it because I am on medicine and she was like you need to talk to your Doctors before you start trying!WHATEVER I am so Pi$$ED at her.
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LisaW
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Re: Does your Mom support You
Having children is a HUGE responsibility, and it sounds like your mom is just worried about you...
Typical mom stuff 
But, I would check with your dr first Ro...
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| Posted 9/30/06 9:18 AM |
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luvsbob4603
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Re: Does your Mom support You
I know she is Worried about me,BUt she just seems like she does not support me! I have a question Do you think when Guys get older "in their40" Would cause a child to have disabilities or Health Issues? This is my Mom saying this and she thinks Because I am 37 years old it will be rougher for me to have a child. Yes I know Having a Baby is going to be a Huge Responsiblity some day But I would like to have one.
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| Posted 9/30/06 9:21 AM |
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SuzyQ
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Re: Does your Mom support You
For the most part my mom does support me. She does sometimes make little comments that annoy me, but I guess that's normal.
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| Posted 9/30/06 9:22 AM |
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LisaW
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Re: Does your Mom support You
There was recently an article about the correlation of autism and older fathers, but I really don't know how true it is...
It certainly won't stop me.
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| Posted 9/30/06 9:29 AM |
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MrsPorkChop
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Re: Does your Mom support You
my parents will have thier comments but at the end of the day they support me.
i do what i want anyway though
as for children, i am unawre of your health issues so i can see concern there, but as for age and money- you and your husband should be deciding about children, NOT YOUR MOM
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| Posted 9/30/06 9:29 AM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: Does your Mom support You
You know my past, you know my medical history. I spoke to my dr.s both neurologist and obgyn.
Everything was in the clear. They recommended I wait it out. I know your in a different "boat" then me. As a friend (who completley supports you) I ask to seriously talk to your dr.s first!
Its YOUR decision and your dhs decision.
When the time is right, you will know!
Im not sure about the "male over 40" thing. Your best bet...Talk to you dr. He/She will be able to help you out. I promise. They did for me.
ETA: My mom completley supports me 100%. She was also concerned with my medical history and came to the dr. appts (neurologist) with me.
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luvsbob4603
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Re: Does your Mom support You
Posted by lvdolphins
You know my past, you know my medical history. I spoke to my dr.s both neurologist and obgyn.
Everything was in the clear. They recommended I wait it out. I know your in a different "boat" then me. As a friend (who completley supports you) I ask to seriously talk to your dr.s first!
Its YOUR decision and your dhs decision.
When the time is right, you will know!
Im not sure about the "male over 40" thing. Your best bet...Talk to you dr. He/She will be able to help you out. I promise. They did for me.
ETA: My mom completley supports me 100%. She was also concerned with my medical history and came to the dr. appts (neurologist) with me.
Thanks Dawn I know you support! also thank you ladies for your opinion.
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Does your Mom support You
my Mom is very supportive of me. but she's also honest to a fault. if there was something I wanted to do and she was against it, she would definitely tell me.
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| Posted 9/30/06 9:43 AM |
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Stefanie
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Re: Does your Mom support You
My parents support me and will ALWAYS have something to say. Lately, they have stepped back...but I always go to them for advice. When I got pregnant, I didn't tell my mother I was TTC. I just told her that I was pregnant. They had said in the past that we should have a house first before we have a baby....but it didn't work out that way.
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| Posted 9/30/06 9:44 AM |
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Redhead
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Re: Does your Mom support You
My mom would support me and my decisions
BUT if she felt that there was a health concern to myself or my child...she would speak up.
Having a child is a serious decision and everything should be taken into account.
See a doctor
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| Posted 9/30/06 9:48 AM |
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nov04libride
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Re: Does your Mom support You
Posted by luvsbob4603
I know she is Worried about me,BUt she just seems like she does not support me! I have a question Do you think when Guys get older "in their40" Would cause a child to have disabilities or Health Issues? This is my Mom saying this and she thinks Because I am 37 years old it will be rougher for me to have a child. Yes I know Having a Baby is going to be a Huge Responsiblity some day But I would like to have one.
It has less to do with the male and more to do with the mother. Women over 35 have a much higher rate of having children with disabilities and health issues. THere is a small percent correlation between older (elderly..) fathers and children with autism, but your age is more of a concern.
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| Posted 9/30/06 9:49 AM |
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MegZee
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Re: Does your Mom support You
my mom gives me the "do what you want, its your life" line all the time.
while its nice she doesnt pester me over my decisions....she doesnt give me advice PERIOD.
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| Posted 9/30/06 9:51 AM |
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MissJones
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Re: Does your Mom support You
My mom supports me but that doesn't mean she agrees with me. Her support may of me may also mean she doesn't like my decision or what I'm doing and she doesn't want to see me hurt. In that sense, although she isn't supporting what I'm doing, she is still supporting me.
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| Posted 9/30/06 9:57 AM |
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luvsbob4603
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Re: Does your Mom support You
Thank you again Ladies! and Yes I am going to call my neurologist SOON! I want to make an appointment with him and I am going to have to Bring Dh this time so we can Hopefully get started.
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domsmom52704
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Re: Does your Mom support You
My mom ALWAYS supports me, (My Dad and I dont really speak so he is out of the equation). She does not always agree with what I decide on doing but she understands that I am my own person and I will most likely do what I want regardless (I was never the rule follower...More like the rule breaker).
I do take her advice sometimes, just not always. For example, She knows I have 5 smaller tattoos...that she was fine with, she even got 2 herself thanks to me. However, she HATES that I am in the process of doing a full sleeve on my right arm and almost passed out when I told her but she also knew that no matter what she said, she could'nt talk me out of it because I am stubborn and strong willed and when I there is something that I want, I'll stop at nothing to get it.
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| Posted 9/30/06 10:13 AM |
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luvsbob4603
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Re: Does your Mom support You
Thank you again for all of your advice!
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CaseyGirl
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Re: Does your Mom support You
You are an adult you do what you want and not what others want you to do...it's taken me a while to realize this.
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| Posted 9/30/06 11:57 AM |
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luvsbob4603
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Re: Does your Mom support You
Your right!
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Mrs-Boop
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Re: Does your Mom support You
I have always taken any advice my parents gave me, thinking they have been there and know form experience. However there is a certain time and age when you have to start living for you. You are married, own a house and are an adult. You and you husband have to make decisions for yourselves now. Your mom is surely going to give her input, because she is your mom and will always worry about you, but it comes down to you and your husband. Forty years from now you don't want to look back and kick yourself because you didn't try now and waited til it was too late. I think you should definitely go to the doctor, get his opinions, see if he feels you are capable of this health wise and go from there. Its not your mom that would be having a baby, its you and you are the only one that can make the decision if its right or not!! Good Luck!!
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luvsbob4603
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Re: Does your Mom support You
Posted by Mrs-Boop
I have always taken any advice my parents gave me, thinking they have been there and know form experience. However there is a certain time and age when you have to start living for you. You are married, own a house and are an adult. You and you husband have to make decisions for yourselves now. Your mom is surely going to give her input, because she is your mom and will always worry about you, but it comes down to you and your husband. Forty years from now you don't want to look back and kick yourself because you didn't try now and waited til it was too late. I think you should definitely go to the doctor, get his opinions, see if he feels you are capable of this health wise and go from there. Its not your mom that would be having a baby, its you and you are the only one that can make the decision if its right or not!! Good Luck!!
Thank you so Much!
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| Posted 9/30/06 8:34 PM |
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Melbernai
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Re: Does your Mom support You
In the more recent years, as I have gotten older, my mom has become more supportive of me. Our relationship has really changed because we used to fight a lot and now, although she drives me crazy sometimes, she is someone I can go to when I am upset or need advice.
I know that she would support me 100% if I were to get pregnant again. My pregnancy was not planned, and I wasn't married yet, and she and my father were behind me as much as possible -- not only supporting me emotionally, but offering help with buying things for the baby when they were able to.
I think (and would hope) that most Mothers would give support with such a thing if it came down to it -- but I would recommend that you see your doctor before TTC anyway -- because of your age and just to give you clearance that everything should be OK. The doc might make some suggestions of things for you to try before you TTC so it would be a good idea to see him/her first.
Good luck!
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luvsbob4603
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Re: Does your Mom support You
thank you!
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| Posted 9/30/06 9:02 PM |
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july06bride
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Re: Does your Mom support You
my mother is supportive-of course she adds her opinions in (usually she is right) but at the end of the day I make my own decisions...
your mom is of course concerned for you-arent they all : )its their job...
BuT, TTC is a decision for you and your DH...not your mom!
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| Posted 9/30/06 9:51 PM |
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nov04libride
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Re: Does your Mom support You
I think in order for your mom to give fewer opinions you need to prove that you are not so reliant on her. Didn't she pack for you and your DH when you went on your last trip? That really stood out in my mind that you brought all of your clothes to her house for her to fold and put in suitcases. Stuff like that makes you seem like you are unable to care for yourself, let alone a baby.I'm not saying being reliant on your parents is a bad thing, but in order for them to recognize that you are capable of becoming a parent yourself you need to prove how capable you are. Have everyone over to dinner, take your niece and nephew overnight.... It is your decision, but definitely check with a doctor first, and maybe check with a financial advisor to make sure you can either afford not to work or afford daycare.
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