Does it get "better" or "easier"?

This first month of IF treatment has been so hard for me. I feel like crap, the progesterone is making me a moody witch, my skin reacts HORRIBLY to stress...etc.

I can't concentrate on anything other than trying to get pregnant. When will it stop consuming everything I do?

Re: Does it get "better" or "easier"?

I'm sorry.

All I can say is there are times when it's easier and times when it's harder. My first cycle I felt like I was obsessed with TTC but over time it's kind of gotten easier - for me, at least. IF treatments have just kind of become part of my life, as sad as that sounds. But I've definitely stopped obsessing as much. It's still important to be, obviously, but I kind of believe it's going to happen when it happens and there isn't too much I can do about it. Just believe in your drs and try to stay as busy and as positive as possible.

We all have our bad days, or weeks...and that's what this board is for!

Re: Does it get "better" or "easier"?

i say physically it gets better..first few months i was a mess with what pills to take,when where do i stick this needles and u want me to put what up my huh?

but then it is like ok 2 pm this pill now 4 stick this in my stomach..and i could tell u all my pills and where to poke myself bc it becomes second nature

that got easier to handle

what did not get easier was the disappointment..2 and a half yrs it took us and i cannot lie some months i cried every single day for most of the day

some months were better..

overall IF blows

Re: Does it get "better" or "easier"?

Message edited 4/19/2012 9:48:54 PM.

Re: Does it get "better" or "easier"?

As someone who has been on the road to motherhood for quite a while and currently still in the process, I can honestly say it does not get easier with time- but it does become more bearable.

Physically, the drugs stink. There's no other way to put it .. although sometimes I feel like when you expect to feel like crap from a drug- you feel like crap. Try not to look up side effects or think about how other said they felt. When I took lupron I thought I was going to be a raging b!tch but I was really fine. You never know how you'll react to a drug physically - and each cycle may be different.

Emotionally, it's a whirlwind. In my experience still in the process, you can't NOT focus on it. Infertility effects every part of my life. I go grocery shopping and see a baby- It makes me sad. I get invited to a friend's shower- it makes me sad. I see a friend (even some who were previously infertile) move on to have their baby/celebrate milestones- and it makes me sad. Infertility is not about everyone else and how happy you feel for them. It's about how sad and empty you feel for your own crap of a situation.

No, having a baby in the fall or spring does not make a difference in the long run- and focusing on the end result is great- but while going through infertility and living in the moment, it DOES matter. Personally, I have a hard time focusing on the end result when I've only had it taken from me time and time again... when sometimes the only explanation was really rotten luck.

I just had a conversation last night with my therapist where I outright told her I DO NOT believe a baby is in my future. Like- I can't even say the words "I will have a baby" with a straight face- and that's a mindset I did not choose. It's one that evolved over years of heartache and loss.

I hope your stay here is short .. if nothing else, know that there are women who could identify Nobody has to walk this path alone.

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Re: Does it get "better" or "easier"?

I am still waiting for the answer myself. This summer will make 4 years of TTC and yet no baby. For me it is not a matter of getting easier, just not getting defeated by it. It does consume you, but hopefully you won't be on this road too long to get into a routine. I have learned that it is a matter of taking it day by day. Don't anticipate failure or success. This is probably no help, just know that you are not alone we have and are still going through it, and we are here.

Re: Does it get "better" or "easier"?

Thank you all for your advice and support. I stepped away from the internet for a few days, talked with my husband, and just chilled out.

Although, this IUI failed, I feel better because we made a plan, and I know what our next steps are... and if they don't jive with what my RE, then we'll look for a second opinion.

You've all been a wonderful support group, we're not out to too many friends about it, so it's great to have you all.