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05mommy09
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Do you find this rude?
NO ONE in DH's extended family calls us to see how RJ is doing, or calls to come over and see him, however on a weekly basis my MIL tells me how so and so- called her and is coming over to see the baby....
Its not a big deal... but I just think its so rude... Do DH and I smell??? If you wanna see the baby, why wouldnt you come to our house? Call us? Come see his room??Afterall- we are his parents (I mean this goes for DH's cousins as well- not just the older folk!)
I totally see why her friends would do this... but this is DH's family...???
Why wouldnt you wanna come see our son... while we are around????
If anyone in my family (aunts, uncles, great aunts, grandparents, cousins etc...) Wanted to see the baby- they'd call me- and say the wanted to gtg, and arrange when a good time would be...
They wouldnt go through my mother...
(Chances are this is my MIL- using her babysitting time to use him as a trophy, and she is doing the inviting and these people could care less...and in that case this thread is void  )
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Posted 4/13/06 8:35 PM  |
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MelToddJulia
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Re: Do you find this rude?
The same thing for me too, my family has no problem what so ever to pick up the phone and call me to see when they can come and visit Julia. DH's family calls my MIL to see if they can see Julia?? Its very weird and I really dont know why they do it. My DH brother (who is a weirdo by the way) use to ask his mother (my MIL) to hold Julia and not ask me, HELLO I'M HER MOTHER! I told DH to say something next time we are visiting them. Turns out his brother didnt think I would say yes to him holding her? How strange is that! Told you he's weird  This is the reason why I cant stand going over to there house, it drives me NUTS!! 
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| Posted 4/13/06 8:45 PM |
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MrsJ
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Re: Do you find this rude?
Part of me would be offended and think it's rude - yes! I mean it IS! They should make an effort to be in touch with you and DH about the baby, he is your son!
The other part of me (and this is only because I just dont care for my DH's family too much) would be happy that I dont have to deal with inlaws...LOL but thats only because of my situation.
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| Posted 4/13/06 8:46 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Do you find this rude?
Whats cracks me up is she makes a play date for my 6 month old and DH's cousins' 4 yr old twins
Then when I get a day off and say Im staying home with my son- She says "oh good- so and so will be here @ 9:30- uh, no... its my day off... if she wants to see him, tell her to call me..."
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| Posted 4/13/06 8:48 PM |
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Stefanie
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Re: Do you find this rude?
That's very strange how they don't call you. Maybe they feel uncomfortable? It's very weird...
It could be your MIL just inviting them over.
I would tell your MIL (when you're staying home with your son and him ONLY) that you're going out with your son...even if you're not, so she doesn't plan your day for you.
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| Posted 4/13/06 8:59 PM |
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kimmie
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Re: Do you find this rude?
This makes me feel better to see that this isnt just MY DH's family.. I was in tears the other day because his parents drove home from Florida the other day and bypassed our house to go to his brotheres house first (they dont have any kids) then came to us and spent 45 minutes then left and they had been in Florida for the whole winter...
It really hurts and I feel badly for both my DH and my DD.. What can you do though?
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| Posted 4/13/06 9:33 PM |
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smiles
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Re: Do you find this rude?
I would be upset about that too. I wonder if it is your MIL inviting them over though.
Look on the bright side. He gets to see family and you do not have to take time out of your day off to entertain them!!
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| Posted 4/14/06 11:37 AM |
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justthe4ofus
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Re: Do you find this rude?
Ah Marissa don't let it get to you- think of it as less time that you have to deal with your DH's family! Rude- absolutely- but not worth the aggravation
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| Posted 4/14/06 9:42 PM |
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emilain
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Re: Do you find this rude?
Oh yeah! def rude, it is definitley not a good feeling when family does not show interest in your child/children, At least a phone call or something! I hear ya Marissa!
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| Posted 4/14/06 9:49 PM |
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bean
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Re: Do you find this rude?
Most definitely rude--but you could be like me and have DH's family over all the time!
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| Posted 4/15/06 8:45 AM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Do you find this rude?
Posted by bean
Most definitely rude--but you could be like me and have DH's family over all the time!
Well my MIL and FIL are always around 
I wouldnt mind if the extended family, recognized that we were his parents, and set up these dates with us once in awhile!
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| Posted 4/15/06 8:52 AM |
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