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Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking
This article says they didn't supply the alcohol but knew. Would everyone have been better off if the kids drank outside somewhere?
Edited to say this is a very old article
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Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking
I am so torn on this. I have an almost 18 year old daughter. I know her and her friends drink occasionally. I can see the parents wanting to provide a safe space for them to do it, instead of them getting in the car afterward and something tragic happening. But even if you don't provide it, you are apparently still liable for anything that could happen. It's like a catch-22. I wonder what happens in cases where the parents aren't aware the kids are drinking? How do you prove that you really didn't know the kids were sneaking liquor in the backyard? Could this case could have played out entirely different if the parents denied knowledge?
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Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking
I read that the kids were 16. I also have teenagers and have had a drink with them (just them not their friends!) when its just us. I would never have their friends over especially at 16 and allow them all to drink. I am not their friend. I am the parent. Also I have a very open relationship with them when it comes to talking about drinking. Im not naive I know they will drink. But they know to tell me if they are and we discuss ahead of time who is driving, how they are getting home and always tell them to call me no matter what if they need a ride.
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Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking
I know this is going to be one of the biggest parenting disagreements that my DH and I are going to have when my kids reach HS.
I never had a drink with my parents until I was 21. I never drank any alcohol in HS, and in college, I only drank at college until I was 21. My parents were not going to condone underage drinking, and they were aware of all the legal ramifications (and frequently warned other parents about the risks they were taking). I don't think it's a parents job to provide a "safe" environment for kids to drink, and I think parents have an obligation to know where their kids are so that they're not drinking outside either. I'm shocked by the parents I hear saying their drop their kids off at a party in the woods knowing there is alcohol. I realize this probably sounds sanctimonious, but I don't think there is any reason as a parent to condone or promote alcohol to my child.
My DH started drinking at like 14 with his parents knowledge. I don't think he drank at their house, but he'd drink at family parties, and I know his brother had parties in HS under the guise of providing them a "safe" environment to drink.
I think the above article proves their is no "safe" environment to drink. There is no reason to introduce alcohol to teenagers who already have poor decision making skills and may make bad decisions. I don't really have a problem with a parent giving their teenager a glass of wine with dinner, though what the point, but hosting any kind of party is just unacceptable. Do you get each parents permission for their kid to have alcohol? Other parents may assume their child is safe at your house and not be given alcohol. Are you supervising everything the kids do while drinking? What if a kid leaves? What if a kid passes out and is sexually assaulted?
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Re: Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking
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I know this is going to be one of the biggest parenting disagreements that my DH and I are going to have when my kids reach HS.
I never had a drink with my parents until I was 21. I never drank any alcohol in HS, and in college, I only drank at college until I was 21. My parents were not going to condone underage drinking, and they were aware of all the legal ramifications (and frequently warned other parents about the risks they were taking). I don't think it's a parents job to provide a "safe" environment for kids to drink, and I think parents have an obligation to know where their kids are so that they're not drinking outside either. I'm shocked by the parents I hear saying their drop their kids off at a party in the woods knowing there is alcohol. I realize this probably sounds sanctimonious, but I don't think there is any reason as a parent to condone or promote alcohol to my child.
My DH started drinking at like 14 with his parents knowledge. I don't think he drank at their house, but he'd drink at family parties, and I know his brother had parties in HS under the guise of providing them a "safe" environment to drink.
I think the above article proves their is no "safe" environment to drink. There is no reason to introduce alcohol to teenagers who already have poor decision making skills and may make bad decisions. I don't really have a problem with a parent giving their teenager a glass of wine with dinner, though what the point, but hosting any kind of party is just unacceptable. Do you get each parents permission for their kid to have alcohol? Other parents may assume their child is safe at your house and not be given alcohol. Are you supervising everything the kids do while drinking? What if a kid leaves? What if a kid passes out and is sexually assaulted?
All good points. Curious when you were in HS and college who were your friends and did they drink? I think its difficult for kids in HS and college to find friends that do not experiment at all. Parents of teens often say "everyone" these ages drinks.
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I read that the kids were 16. I also have teenagers and have had a drink with them (just them not their friends!) when its just us. I would never have their friends over especially at 16 and allow them all to drink. I am not their friend. I am the parent. Also I have a very open relationship with them when it comes to talking about drinking. Im not naive I know they will drink. But they know to tell me if they are and we discuss ahead of time who is driving, how they are getting home and always tell them to call me no matter what if they need a ride.
I agree with this...as an adult you can make decisions for your OWN children. However allowing other peoples children to drink in your home is not your decision. My parents were very strict and did not allow drinking, but I had a few friends whose parents were OK with it. Looking back it was so irresponsible of them to allow me to drink in their home when they knew how my parents felt.
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Re: Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking
I drank a little in high school and then a lot in college. By college my parents would let me drink in the backyard with a handful of friends knowing that we would all be spending the night and no one would drive home. The same was true for most of my friends parents. In fact, when I would go to a friends house while home from college my parents would just expect to not see me until the next morning. None of the parents condoned large parties with kids that they didn't know drinking under their watch. I think I will probably be the same way. If you open your home up to that many kids, you know they are all drinking and you can't keep an eye on all of them. It is your responsibility in your home to make sure all of these kids stay safe.
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Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking
My kids are too young to really speak on when or where I will allow them to have a drink in my presence but I can say with certainty I will never allow any child I did not birth to drink under age in my home, if their parent is there (like say my nephew or a friends child and THEY condone it then that may be different.
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Re: Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking
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My kids are too young to really speak on when or where I will allow them to have a drink in my presence but I can say with certainty I will never allow any child I did not birth to drink under age in my home, if their parent is there (like say my nephew or a friends child and THEY condone it then that may be different.
I agree, same for me.
I mean, everyone knows about this law. You can't be that naive to let a ton of underage kids drink in your home and not think you will eventually get caught and arrested.
Regardless of your thoughts on letting kids drink in your house, for the sheer fear of arrest, I wouldn't do it.
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Re: Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking
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Posted by starbrightgirl8
I know this is going to be one of the biggest parenting disagreements that my DH and I are going to have when my kids reach HS.
I never had a drink with my parents until I was 21. I never drank any alcohol in HS, and in college, I only drank at college until I was 21. My parents were not going to condone underage drinking, and they were aware of all the legal ramifications (and frequently warned other parents about the risks they were taking). I don't think it's a parents job to provide a "safe" environment for kids to drink, and I think parents have an obligation to know where their kids are so that they're not drinking outside either. I'm shocked by the parents I hear saying their drop their kids off at a party in the woods knowing there is alcohol. I realize this probably sounds sanctimonious, but I don't think there is any reason as a parent to condone or promote alcohol to my child.
My DH started drinking at like 14 with his parents knowledge. I don't think he drank at their house, but he'd drink at family parties, and I know his brother had parties in HS under the guise of providing them a "safe" environment to drink.
I think the above article proves their is no "safe" environment to drink. There is no reason to introduce alcohol to teenagers who already have poor decision making skills and may make bad decisions. I don't really have a problem with a parent giving their teenager a glass of wine with dinner, though what the point, but hosting any kind of party is just unacceptable. Do you get each parents permission for their kid to have alcohol? Other parents may assume their child is safe at your house and not be given alcohol. Are you supervising everything the kids do while drinking? What if a kid leaves? What if a kid passes out and is sexually assaulted?
All good points. Curious when you were in HS and college who were your friends and did they drink? I think its difficult for kids in HS and college to find friends that do not experiment at all. Parents of teens often say "everyone" these ages drinks.
In HS, my friends drank and smoked pot. A few went to the larger parties with alcohol. My group of friends would get together at a cabin and drink while camping out. I just didn't attend these events (and my parents never would have allowed me to go). I'd hear the stories in Monday at school about who did what stupid thing while they were drunk. I went to the cabin once when I was in college, and I can assure my HS self that I wasn't missing anything. We'd get together for plenty of other activities that didn't involve drinking.
In College, I became friends with the non-drinking crowd initially. We'd hang out in the dorm to watch movies, go into the city to concerts, etc. Slowly, my friends and I started going out occasionally to have a drink or two at the end of my freshman year. It wasn't until I was a sophomore that I started going out regularly on the weekend.
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Re: Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking
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Posted by starbrightgirl8
I know this is going to be one of the biggest parenting disagreements that my DH and I are going to have when my kids reach HS.
I never had a drink with my parents until I was 21. I never drank any alcohol in HS, and in college, I only drank at college until I was 21. My parents were not going to condone underage drinking, and they were aware of all the legal ramifications (and frequently warned other parents about the risks they were taking). I don't think it's a parents job to provide a "safe" environment for kids to drink, and I think parents have an obligation to know where their kids are so that they're not drinking outside either. I'm shocked by the parents I hear saying their drop their kids off at a party in the woods knowing there is alcohol. I realize this probably sounds sanctimonious, but I don't think there is any reason as a parent to condone or promote alcohol to my child.
My DH started drinking at like 14 with his parents knowledge. I don't think he drank at their house, but he'd drink at family parties, and I know his brother had parties in HS under the guise of providing them a "safe" environment to drink.
I think the above article proves their is no "safe" environment to drink. There is no reason to introduce alcohol to teenagers who already have poor decision making skills and may make bad decisions. I don't really have a problem with a parent giving their teenager a glass of wine with dinner, though what the point, but hosting any kind of party is just unacceptable. Do you get each parents permission for their kid to have alcohol? Other parents may assume their child is safe at your house and not be given alcohol. Are you supervising everything the kids do while drinking? What if a kid leaves? What if a kid passes out and is sexually assaulted?
All good points. Curious when you were in HS and college who were your friends and did they drink? I think its difficult for kids in HS and college to find friends that do not experiment at all. Parents of teens often say "everyone" these ages drinks.
In HS, my friends drank and smoked pot. A few went to the larger parties with alcohol. My group of friends would get together at a cabin and drink while camping out. I just didn't attend these events (and my parents never would have allowed me to go). I'd hear the stories in Monday at school about who did what stupid thing while they were drunk. I went to the cabin once when I was in college, and I can assure my HS self that I wasn't missing anything. We'd get together for plenty of other activities that didn't involve drinking.
In College, I became friends with the non-drinking crowd initially. We'd hang out in the dorm to watch movies, go into the city to concerts, etc. Slowly, my friends and I started going out occasionally to have a drink or two at the end of my freshman year. It wasn't until I was a sophomore that I started going out regularly on the weekend.
So you werent 21 when you were a freshman/sophomore?
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Re: Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking
I get where parents are coming from but I think it's an incredibly dicey situation letting underage kids drink in your home. I knew a family who would let their underage kids and their group of friends drink in their house and then spend the night because they felt it was safer than letting them go out and drink in parts unknown or get behind the wheel. They woke up one morning to find one of their kid's friends dead in their house. There are too many risks involved.
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Re: Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking
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I know this is going to be one of the biggest parenting disagreements that my DH and I are going to have when my kids reach HS.
I never had a drink with my parents until I was 21. I never drank any alcohol in HS, and in college, I only drank at college until I was 21. My parents were not going to condone underage drinking, and they were aware of all the legal ramifications (and frequently warned other parents about the risks they were taking). I don't think it's a parents job to provide a "safe" environment for kids to drink, and I think parents have an obligation to know where their kids are so that they're not drinking outside either. I'm shocked by the parents I hear saying their drop their kids off at a party in the woods knowing there is alcohol. I realize this probably sounds sanctimonious, but I don't think there is any reason as a parent to condone or promote alcohol to my child.
My DH started drinking at like 14 with his parents knowledge. I don't think he drank at their house, but he'd drink at family parties, and I know his brother had parties in HS under the guise of providing them a "safe" environment to drink.
I think the above article proves their is no "safe" environment to drink. There is no reason to introduce alcohol to teenagers who already have poor decision making skills and may make bad decisions. I don't really have a problem with a parent giving their teenager a glass of wine with dinner, though what the point, but hosting any kind of party is just unacceptable. Do you get each parents permission for their kid to have alcohol? Other parents may assume their child is safe at your house and not be given alcohol. Are you supervising everything the kids do while drinking? What if a kid leaves? What if a kid passes out and is sexually assaulted?
All good points. Curious when you were in HS and college who were your friends and did they drink? I think its difficult for kids in HS and college to find friends that do not experiment at all. Parents of teens often say "everyone" these ages drinks.
In HS, my friends drank and smoked pot. A few went to the larger parties with alcohol. My group of friends would get together at a cabin and drink while camping out. I just didn't attend these events (and my parents never would have allowed me to go). I'd hear the stories in Monday at school about who did what stupid thing while they were drunk. I went to the cabin once when I was in college, and I can assure my HS self that I wasn't missing anything. We'd get together for plenty of other activities that didn't involve drinking.
In College, I became friends with the non-drinking crowd initially. We'd hang out in the dorm to watch movies, go into the city to concerts, etc. Slowly, my friends and I started going out occasionally to have a drink or two at the end of my freshman year. It wasn't until I was a sophomore that I started going out regularly on the weekend.
So you werent 21 when you were a freshman/sophomore?
Maybe she got left back a lot 
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Re: Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking
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All good points. Curious when you were in HS and college who were your friends and did they drink? I think its difficult for kids in HS and college to find friends that do not experiment at all. Parents of teens often say "everyone" these ages drinks.
It wouldn't be tough at all if more parents of HS children didn't allow drinking.  And to say "everyone drinks", IMO, sounds like something a child would say to a parent. A parent should have sense enough to say no, not everyone drinks and it doesn't matter if they do, these are my rules.
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For me it is a legal issue not a moral issue, again my kids are little so I cannot say what I will do for certain regarding allowing them to try beer or something but other peoples children--it is illegal so it is not my place to make parental decisions for them, it is that simple for me
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I didn't drink in high school. I had friends who did, but I chose to skip those events or just didn't drink. My parents were (and are) great parents and we had a very close relationship even then - but they made it clear that they were not ok with drinking. And I listened.
I don't think there is any reason to allow high school kids to drink at your home. I don't plan to allow my kids to drink when they are 15/16/17. I don't see the point in even letting them have a glass of wine here or there. Its not good for them, not on my watch.
And I don't buy into that - if its not allowed, it will just be more tempting and kids will drink more. That was not the case with me.
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Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking
FYI this is from 2011 and started circulating again on Facebook yesterday
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Re: Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
FYI this is from 2011 and started circulating again on Facebook yesterday
LOL, just noticed that when I clicked the link:
A mother and father in Dix Hills have been arrested in connection with a drinking party held at their home last April. One of the partygoers wandered from the house and was killed when she was struck by a car. (Published Thursday, Sept. 22, 2011)
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All good points. Curious when you were in HS and college who were your friends and did they drink? I think its difficult for kids in HS and college to find friends that do not experiment at all. Parents of teens often say "everyone" these ages drinks.
It wouldn't be tough at all if more parents of HS children didn't allow drinking. And to say "everyone drinks", IMO, sounds like something a child would say to a parent. A parent should have sense enough to say no, not everyone drinks and it doesn't matter if they do, these are my rules.
I never said a parent shouldn't say no or allow it did i? I was focusing on the fact that the poster said she never drank til 21. I find that quite incredible cause most young people experiment at aome point. Will you also not "allow" your child to be sexually active? Im not speaking like a child, I am being realistic and asking how do we (kids and parents) deal with reality when we are faced with it.
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Re: Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking
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Posted by ANewDayHasCome
FYI this is from 2011 and started circulating again on Facebook yesterday
LOL, just noticed that when I clicked the link:
A mother and father in Dix Hills have been arrested in connection with a drinking party held at their home last April. One of the partygoers wandered from the house and was killed when she was struck by a car. (Published Thursday, Sept. 22, 2011)
Omg sorry!!
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Re: Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking
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Posted by starbrightgirl8
I know this is going to be one of the biggest parenting disagreements that my DH and I are going to have when my kids reach HS.
I never had a drink with my parents until I was 21. I never drank any alcohol in HS, and in college, I only drank at college until I was 21. My parents were not going to condone underage drinking, and they were aware of all the legal ramifications (and frequently warned other parents about the risks they were taking). I don't think it's a parents job to provide a "safe" environment for kids to drink, and I think parents have an obligation to know where their kids are so that they're not drinking outside either. I'm shocked by the parents I hear saying their drop their kids off at a party in the woods knowing there is alcohol. I realize this probably sounds sanctimonious, but I don't think there is any reason as a parent to condone or promote alcohol to my child.
My DH started drinking at like 14 with his parents knowledge. I don't think he drank at their house, but he'd drink at family parties, and I know his brother had parties in HS under the guise of providing them a "safe" environment to drink.
I think the above article proves their is no "safe" environment to drink. There is no reason to introduce alcohol to teenagers who already have poor decision making skills and may make bad decisions. I don't really have a problem with a parent giving their teenager a glass of wine with dinner, though what the point, but hosting any kind of party is just unacceptable. Do you get each parents permission for their kid to have alcohol? Other parents may assume their child is safe at your house and not be given alcohol. Are you supervising everything the kids do while drinking? What if a kid leaves? What if a kid passes out and is sexually assaulted?
All good points. Curious when you were in HS and college who were your friends and did they drink? I think its difficult for kids in HS and college to find friends that do not experiment at all. Parents of teens often say "everyone" these ages drinks.
In HS, my friends drank and smoked pot. A few went to the larger parties with alcohol. My group of friends would get together at a cabin and drink while camping out. I just didn't attend these events (and my parents never would have allowed me to go). I'd hear the stories in Monday at school about who did what stupid thing while they were drunk. I went to the cabin once when I was in college, and I can assure my HS self that I wasn't missing anything. We'd get together for plenty of other activities that didn't involve drinking.
In College, I became friends with the non-drinking crowd initially. We'd hang out in the dorm to watch movies, go into the city to concerts, etc. Slowly, my friends and I started going out occasionally to have a drink or two at the end of my freshman year. It wasn't until I was a sophomore that I started going out regularly on the weekend.
So you werent 21 when you were a freshman/sophomore?
Maybe she got left back a lot
I think she only meant she drank while at college and not at home when she was under 21.
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Re: Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking
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I mean, everyone knows about this law. You can't be that naive to let a ton of underage kids drink in your home and not think you will eventually get caught and arrested.
Regardless of your thoughts on letting kids drink in your house, for the sheer fear of arrest, I wouldn't do it.
I agree though I see both sides of the argument. Kids are going to drink. Technically, the safest place to do so would be in someone's home, monitored and without access to vehicles. TBH, I wish there wasn't such an issue with it. If I found out my child was drinking under parental supervision I would not take issue with the parents. I would think they were a little nuts to take the risk of getting arrested but I'd be fine with it. That being said, I wouldn't allow it in my house not because I have a problem with it but because I don't want the cops showing up.
I think the expectation that no kid will be drinking underage at some point is completely unrealistic. I drank like a fish and I was tame compared to my friends. We all turned out more than fine.
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Re: Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking
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Posted by NervousNell
I mean, everyone knows about this law. You can't be that naive to let a ton of underage kids drink in your home and not think you will eventually get caught and arrested.
Regardless of your thoughts on letting kids drink in your house, for the sheer fear of arrest, I wouldn't do it.
I agree though I see both sides of the argument. Kids are going to drink. Technically, the safest place to do so would be in someone's home, monitored and without access to vehicles. TBH, I wish there wasn't such an issue with it. If I found out my child was drinking under parental supervision I would not take issue with the parents. I would think they were a little nuts to take the risk of getting arrested but I'd be fine with it. That being said, I wouldn't allow it in my house not because I have a problem with it but because I don't want the cops showing up.
I think the expectation that no kid will be drinking underage at some point is completely unrealistic. I drank like a fish and I was tame compared to my friends. We all turned out more than fine.
I still drink like a fish 
I agree about better to have them drink at home then out somewhere. I do wish the law was different too.
But I can see both sides of it.
It's tough.
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My kids are very young so I probably come fron a somewhat naive pov, but I just don't get why so many parents just throw throw their arms up and say kids will be kids? Yes, many kids drank when we were younger but not everyone came out unscathed and we all know the world is very different today. What happens when a kid gets alcohol poisoning, when a kid gets sexually assaulted, or a video goes around of a kid doing goodness knows what while intoxicated in your home? What about if its your kid in someone else's home? The whole 'it takes a village ' seems to habe gone out the window bc we don't want to tackle tough battles. How are we suppose to take on big issues like bullying and sexual harassment when we send mixed messages about other big things?
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Posted by MrsT809
My kids are very young so I probably come fron a somewhat naive pov, but I just don't get why so many parents just throw throw their arms up and say kids will be kids? Yes, many kids drank when we were younger but not everyone came out unscathed and we all know the world is very different today. What happens when a kid gets alcohol poisoning, when a kid gets sexually assaulted, or a video goes around of a kid doing goodness knows what while intoxicated in your home? What about if its your kid in someone else's home? The whole 'it takes a village ' seems to habe gone out the window bc we don't want to tackle tough battles. How are we suppose to take on big issues like bullying and sexual harassment when we send mixed messages about other big things?
I tend to Agree. My concern with underage drinking is they aren't responsible enough to know when to stop. And at 14, 15 years old, I don't think your body handles booze the same way it does as an adult. Plus you weigh a lot less.
So I can see alcohol poisoning being a big issue with kids that age.
College- eh, you're 18, it's a bit different.
I don't think I'm too comfortable with HS kids drinking in my house though.
Or at all to be honest.
On the other threads about bullying it was brought up why kids need smartphones at such a young age and social media accts. The standard answer is always, well everyone else does.
Well if parents stopped it, then NOBODY else would.
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