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Blazesyth
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
Posted by lululu
Posted by blessedmama
I guess when they made the enclosure they thought that it was safe enough and that parents would be attentive to their kids they were with.
The zoo should never ever assume that parents will be attentive to their children. If they do that's negligent. There will always be parents that are out to lunch and not paying attention to their kids. It sounds like this was not the case for this mother but I am sure there are plenty of negligent parents everywhere.
But how far does this go?
If a kid jumps/falls on the tracks of the LIRR or subway is the MTA at fault because they don't have rails up?
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
Posted by blessedmama
Posted by Katareen
Posted by Momof3boys
Posted by Jugglemom
I have a story...
When my kids were 3 and 5 we went to Disney and were at the hotel pool area. I was alone with the kids as my DH at the last minute had to take a later flight be of work. We were in the splash area and the 3 of us went to the poolside snack bar to get drinks. I was holding their hands the entire time. When they put our drinks on the counter I let go of their hands for literally 1-2 seconds so that I could pick up the drinks. In that second my DS disappeared!! And we were near the pool! I panicked! Freaked out and started yelling for him. Immediately told a lifeguard and another lifeguard was already walking him towards me. It could have been tragic. I did everything right except let go for that 1 second to get the drinks.
People could say "she shouldn't have been alone with them" etc etc but the truth is its easy to be a Monday morning quarterback or to think it would never happen to you. Or to think that somehow our parenting is so perfect that it puts us above accidents but the fact is tragic accidents happen everyday and they are just that accidents. So instead of patting ourselves on the back for our obvious parental superiority maybe we should say there but for the grace of God go I.
Also, I think it's easier for parents of 1 child or parents of kids that have a greater age gap to judge because frankly those situations are easier.
I agree! Unless you have multiple kids close in age you shouldn't judge.
But isn't this a personal choice?? I spaced my children so that I could have a better handle on situations where I'm alone with them in public (which is very often).
If I wasn't confident, they'd be strapped in a triple stroller.
No, it was Gods choice.
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gina409
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
Posted by Blazesyth
Posted by lululu
Posted by blessedmama
I guess when they made the enclosure they thought that it was safe enough and that parents would be attentive to their kids they were with.
The zoo should never ever assume that parents will be attentive to their children. If they do that's negligent. There will always be parents that are out to lunch and not paying attention to their kids. It sounds like this was not the case for this mother but I am sure there are plenty of negligent parents everywhere.
But how far does this go?
If a kid jumps/falls on the tracks of the LIRR or subway is the MTA at fault because they don't have rails up?
You don't go for a view at the LIRR
This is specially for people
To look at
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
Zoo's job: keep animals in their habitat
Parents' job: keep children out of the habitats
Funny how all you hear on these boards is "when you know better you do better" about how horrible our parents were, letting your kid forward face in a car seat before they get married or trying to suffocate them with bumbers and yet somehow a parent letting their kid get into a gorilla habitat is some unfortunate victim of having to tend to something or someone else. If it were that simple, kids would be in there on a day basis...yet they're not.
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blessedmama
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
Posted by Momof3boys
Posted by blessedmama
Posted by Katareen
Posted by Momof3boys
Posted by Jugglemom
I have a story...
When my kids were 3 and 5 we went to Disney and were at the hotel pool area. I was alone with the kids as my DH at the last minute had to take a later flight be of work. We were in the splash area and the 3 of us went to the poolside snack bar to get drinks. I was holding their hands the entire time. When they put our drinks on the counter I let go of their hands for literally 1-2 seconds so that I could pick up the drinks. In that second my DS disappeared!! And we were near the pool! I panicked! Freaked out and started yelling for him. Immediately told a lifeguard and another lifeguard was already walking him towards me. It could have been tragic. I did everything right except let go for that 1 second to get the drinks.
People could say "she shouldn't have been alone with them" etc etc but the truth is its easy to be a Monday morning quarterback or to think it would never happen to you. Or to think that somehow our parenting is so perfect that it puts us above accidents but the fact is tragic accidents happen everyday and they are just that accidents. So instead of patting ourselves on the back for our obvious parental superiority maybe we should say there but for the grace of God go I.
Also, I think it's easier for parents of 1 child or parents of kids that have a greater age gap to judge because frankly those situations are easier.
I agree! Unless you have multiple kids close in age you shouldn't judge.
But isn't this a personal choice?? I spaced my children so that I could have a better handle on situations where I'm alone with them in public (which is very often).
If I wasn't confident, they'd be strapped in a triple stroller.
No, it was Gods choice.
Not if you are on birth control and plan your family.
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Momof3boys
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
This was my plan and I am very fortunate for all of my blessings. I am a responsible mom who can provide for them and my heart is big enough for ALL of them. Have a nice day, I know I will! 
Forgot to quote, but this was my response to that disgusting birth control comment ABOVE!!
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Kitten1929
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
Posted by blessedmama
Posted by Momof3boys
Posted by blessedmama
Posted by Katareen
Posted by Momof3boys
Posted by Jugglemom
I have a story...
When my kids were 3 and 5 we went to Disney and were at the hotel pool area. I was alone with the kids as my DH at the last minute had to take a later flight be of work. We were in the splash area and the 3 of us went to the poolside snack bar to get drinks. I was holding their hands the entire time. When they put our drinks on the counter I let go of their hands for literally 1-2 seconds so that I could pick up the drinks. In that second my DS disappeared!! And we were near the pool! I panicked! Freaked out and started yelling for him. Immediately told a lifeguard and another lifeguard was already walking him towards me. It could have been tragic. I did everything right except let go for that 1 second to get the drinks.
People could say "she shouldn't have been alone with them" etc etc but the truth is its easy to be a Monday morning quarterback or to think it would never happen to you. Or to think that somehow our parenting is so perfect that it puts us above accidents but the fact is tragic accidents happen everyday and they are just that accidents. So instead of patting ourselves on the back for our obvious parental superiority maybe we should say there but for the grace of God go I.
Also, I think it's easier for parents of 1 child or parents of kids that have a greater age gap to judge because frankly those situations are easier.
I agree! Unless you have multiple kids close in age you shouldn't judge.
But isn't this a personal choice?? I spaced my children so that I could have a better handle on situations where I'm alone with them in public (which is very often).
If I wasn't confident, they'd be strapped in a triple stroller.
No, it was Gods choice.
Not if you are on birth control and plan your family.
I am so sick of your nasty, frankly reprehensible, comments. You're nothing but a lowlife troll who gets off on Internet anonymity where you can spew your ignorant and disgusting comments and no one will know who you really are. You are nothing but a jerk who enjoys hurting others.
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Katareen
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
Posted by Eireann
I cannot believe we need to space our kids apart in a more "responsible" manner now. Priceless. What about a pp with twins?!
It has nothing to do with twins... It has to do with having more children then you're physically able to handle safely. And this woman had four singleton children under the age of 5/6 and clearly wasn't able to handle them safely.
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
Posted by blessedmama
Posted by Momof3boys
Posted by blessedmama
Posted by Katareen
Posted by Momof3boys
Posted by Jugglemom
I have a story...
When my kids were 3 and 5 we went to Disney and were at the hotel pool area. I was alone with the kids as my DH at the last minute had to take a later flight be of work. We were in the splash area and the 3 of us went to the poolside snack bar to get drinks. I was holding their hands the entire time. When they put our drinks on the counter I let go of their hands for literally 1-2 seconds so that I could pick up the drinks. In that second my DS disappeared!! And we were near the pool! I panicked! Freaked out and started yelling for him. Immediately told a lifeguard and another lifeguard was already walking him towards me. It could have been tragic. I did everything right except let go for that 1 second to get the drinks.
People could say "she shouldn't have been alone with them" etc etc but the truth is its easy to be a Monday morning quarterback or to think it would never happen to you. Or to think that somehow our parenting is so perfect that it puts us above accidents but the fact is tragic accidents happen everyday and they are just that accidents. So instead of patting ourselves on the back for our obvious parental superiority maybe we should say there but for the grace of God go I.
Also, I think it's easier for parents of 1 child or parents of kids that have a greater age gap to judge because frankly those situations are easier.
I agree! Unless you have multiple kids close in age you shouldn't judge.
But isn't this a personal choice?? I spaced my children so that I could have a better handle on situations where I'm alone with them in public (which is very often).
If I wasn't confident, they'd be strapped in a triple stroller.
No, it was Gods choice.
Not if you are on birth control and plan your family.
This is such an appalling and disgusting comment
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Momof3boys
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
Posted by Kitten1929
Posted by blessedmama
Posted by Momof3boys
Posted by blessedmama
Posted by Katareen
Posted by Momof3boys
Posted by Jugglemom
I have a story...
When my kids were 3 and 5 we went to Disney and were at the hotel pool area. I was alone with the kids as my DH at the last minute had to take a later flight be of work. We were in the splash area and the 3 of us went to the poolside snack bar to get drinks. I was holding their hands the entire time. When they put our drinks on the counter I let go of their hands for literally 1-2 seconds so that I could pick up the drinks. In that second my DS disappeared!! And we were near the pool! I panicked! Freaked out and started yelling for him. Immediately told a lifeguard and another lifeguard was already walking him towards me. It could have been tragic. I did everything right except let go for that 1 second to get the drinks.
People could say "she shouldn't have been alone with them" etc etc but the truth is its easy to be a Monday morning quarterback or to think it would never happen to you. Or to think that somehow our parenting is so perfect that it puts us above accidents but the fact is tragic accidents happen everyday and they are just that accidents. So instead of patting ourselves on the back for our obvious parental superiority maybe we should say there but for the grace of God go I.
Also, I think it's easier for parents of 1 child or parents of kids that have a greater age gap to judge because frankly those situations are easier.
I agree! Unless you have multiple kids close in age you shouldn't judge.
But isn't this a personal choice?? I spaced my children so that I could have a better handle on situations where I'm alone with them in public (which is very often).
If I wasn't confident, they'd be strapped in a triple stroller.
No, it was Gods choice.
Not if you are on birth control and plan your family.
I am so sick of your nasty, frankly reprehensible, comments. You're nothing but a lowlife troll who gets off on Internet anonymity where you can spew your ignorant and disgusting comments and no one will know who you really are. You are nothing but a jerk who enjoys hurting others.
Agree!!
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MrsPJB2007
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Cincinnati Zoo incident
The spacing out kids "responsibly" comments are seriously one of the dumbest things I've ever read here.
Because everyone says to themselves, I want kids close in age but let me think about the future on whether one kid could end up being a runner or rambunctious - so guess I should not plan that 2nd or 3rd kid due to "what if" scenarios.
"Honey, let's start trying for a 3rd"
"Sorry hubby, my crystal ball says in 3 years when they are all toddler aged, they are gonna not always listen and be curious and adventurous. So I can't risk not being able to control them 24/7. That's the life of a super responsible perfect parent, okay?"
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mommyagain3
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
Posted by blessedmama
Posted by Momof3boys
Posted by blessedmama
Posted by Katareen
Posted by Momof3boys
Posted by Jugglemom
I have a story...
When my kids were 3 and 5 we went to Disney and were at the hotel pool area. I was alone with the kids as my DH at the last minute had to take a later flight be of work. We were in the splash area and the 3 of us went to the poolside snack bar to get drinks. I was holding their hands the entire time. When they put our drinks on the counter I let go of their hands for literally 1-2 seconds so that I could pick up the drinks. In that second my DS disappeared!! And we were near the pool! I panicked! Freaked out and started yelling for him. Immediately told a lifeguard and another lifeguard was already walking him towards me. It could have been tragic. I did everything right except let go for that 1 second to get the drinks.
People could say "she shouldn't have been alone with them" etc etc but the truth is its easy to be a Monday morning quarterback or to think it would never happen to you. Or to think that somehow our parenting is so perfect that it puts us above accidents but the fact is tragic accidents happen everyday and they are just that accidents. So instead of patting ourselves on the back for our obvious parental superiority maybe we should say there but for the grace of God go I.
Also, I think it's easier for parents of 1 child or parents of kids that have a greater age gap to judge because frankly those situations are easier.
I agree! Unless you have multiple kids close in age you shouldn't judge.
But isn't this a personal choice?? I spaced my children so that I could have a better handle on situations where I'm alone with them in public (which is very often).
If I wasn't confident, they'd be strapped in a triple stroller.
No, it was Gods choice.
Not if you are on birth control and plan your family.
What a horrendous thing to say! I can only imagine what you teach your children when you can say such things on a public forum.
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GoldenRod
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
I just want to make sure I get everything down properly....
If I take my eyes off of DC1 for 1 second to safely secure DC2, I'm a bad parent
If I use a leash to keep DC safe, I'm a bad parent
If I keep DC strapped into a stroller to keep them safe, I'm not letting them learn, so I'm a bad parent
If I take them to a zoo, they might not be safe, so I'm a bad parent
If I never take them out of the house, I'm not letting them learn, so I'm a bad parent.
If I turn DC forward facing before 4 years old, since that has been proven to be the safest thing, I'm a bad parent
If I let DC explore, they might get hurt, so I'm a bad parent.
If I helicopter parent every second of their lives to keep them safe, I'm a bad parent.
If I let DC CIO, I'm a bad parent.
If I comfort DC as soon as they cry, I'm a bad parent.
If I let DC alone in the house at 13, I'm a bad parent.
If I never let DC alone until after they are 18, I'm a bad parent.
Since car accidents are one of the major causes of injuries or death, putting DC in a car means I'm a bad parent.
If DC plays sports, they might get hurt, so I'm a bad parent
If DC doesn't play sports, they don't learn valuable team dynamics and don't get physical activity, so I'm a bad parent.
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... and most of these conflicting things have been said on this forum, which is supposed to be mainly for women to help each other...
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
Posted by GoldenRod
I just want to make sure I get everything down properly....
If I take my eyes off of DC1 for 1 second to safely secure DC2, I'm a bad parent
If I use a leash to keep DC safe, I'm a bad parent
If I keep DC strapped into a stroller to keep them safe, I'm not letting them learn, so I'm a bad parent
If I take them to a zoo, they might not be safe, so I'm a bad parent
If I never take them out of the house, I'm not letting them learn, so I'm a bad parent.
If I turn DC forward facing before 4 years old, since that has been proven to be the safest thing, I'm a bad parent
If I let DC explore, they might get hurt, so I'm a bad parent.
If I helicopter parent every second of their lives to keep them safe, I'm a bad parent.
If I let DC CIO, I'm a bad parent.
If I comfort DC as soon as they cry, I'm a bad parent.
If I let DC alone in the house at 13, I'm a bad parent.
If I never let DC alone until after they are 18, I'm a bad parent.
Since car accidents are one of the major causes of injuries or death, putting DC in a car means I'm a bad parent.
If DC plays sports, they might get hurt, so I'm a bad parent
If DC doesn't play sports, they don't learn valuable team dynamics and don't get physical activity, so I'm a bad parent.
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... and most of these conflicting things have been said on this forum, which is supposed to be mainly for women to help each other...
Welcome to the Judgmental States of America, where nothing you say or do is safe from the court of public opinion!
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gina409
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
Posted by Katareen
Posted by Eireann
I cannot believe we need to space our kids apart in a more "responsible" manner now. Priceless. What about a pp with twins?!
It has nothing to do with twins... It has to do with having more children then you're physically able to handle safely. And this woman had four singleton children under the age of 5/6 and clearly wasn't able to handle them safely.
But this is the definition of judgement. You are assuming every second of her parenting life by one incident
It's like giving a pass to someone with one kid if they got away
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JP826
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
Posted by LiveForMoments
I pretty much agree with all you've stated.
I feel for every being involved here.
I just don't understand why this can't be seen as an unfortunate incident, and nothing more. I was not there, it was not my child, I have no place for judgement.
As parents, we've ALL lost sight of our child for a moment or two. Did NO ONE see this child climbing in? I don't put my hands on other people's children, but if I saw someone's preschooler climbing into a gorilla enclosure, I'm grabbing that child and stopping them if I can. I am so baffled that NO ONE saw this happening and was able to prevent it.
I agree with this completely. I have a 4 year old, and I can say first hand how easy it is to take your eye off of them for a split second and....... Boom! out of sight.
To me, this was an unfortunate incident. Imagine if headlines read: "4 Year Old Dies from Falling in a Gorilla cage, zoo refused to take action on the Gorilla"
I think what really should have been investigated is Zoo safety. The Bronx zoo exhibit is enclosed in glass from head to toe. How is it possible that this kid fell into this enclosure?
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
Posted by Bugaboo
Posted by blessedmama
Posted by Momof3boys
Posted by blessedmama
Posted by Katareen
Posted by Momof3boys
Posted by Jugglemom
I have a story...
When my kids were 3 and 5 we went to Disney and were at the hotel pool area. I was alone with the kids as my DH at the last minute had to take a later flight be of work. We were in the splash area and the 3 of us went to the poolside snack bar to get drinks. I was holding their hands the entire time. When they put our drinks on the counter I let go of their hands for literally 1-2 seconds so that I could pick up the drinks. In that second my DS disappeared!! And we were near the pool! I panicked! Freaked out and started yelling for him. Immediately told a lifeguard and another lifeguard was already walking him towards me. It could have been tragic. I did everything right except let go for that 1 second to get the drinks.
People could say "she shouldn't have been alone with them" etc etc but the truth is its easy to be a Monday morning quarterback or to think it would never happen to you. Or to think that somehow our parenting is so perfect that it puts us above accidents but the fact is tragic accidents happen everyday and they are just that accidents. So instead of patting ourselves on the back for our obvious parental superiority maybe we should say there but for the grace of God go I.
Also, I think it's easier for parents of 1 child or parents of kids that have a greater age gap to judge because frankly those situations are easier.
I agree! Unless you have multiple kids close in age you shouldn't judge.
But isn't this a personal choice?? I spaced my children so that I could have a better handle on situations where I'm alone with them in public (which is very often).
If I wasn't confident, they'd be strapped in a triple stroller.
No, it was Gods choice.
Not if you are on birth control and plan your family.
This is such an appalling and disgusting comment
I find it's just best to ignore that poster from now on. Her judgemental, rude, and condescending comments like this have been going on for years under various names.
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HomeIsWithU
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
Posted by lululu
Posted by blessedmama
I guess when they made the enclosure they thought that it was safe enough and that parents would be attentive to their kids they were with.
The zoo should never ever assume that parents will be attentive to their children. If they do that's negligent. There will always be parents that are out to lunch and not paying attention to their kids. It sounds like this was not the case for this mother but I am sure there are plenty of negligent parents everywhere.
Exactly! This is like saying when they build bridges over water they dont need to put guard rails because they can assume that people arent going to drive their cars off the side.  It's their responsibility as a zoo with hundreds of patron visiting every day to make sure the enclosures are as safe as possible in case of a worst case scenario.
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
Posted by JP826
I think what really should have been investigated is Zoo safety. The Bronx zoo exhibit is enclosed in glass from head to toe. How is it possible that this kid fell into this enclosure?
I agree 10000%. I read an article that trainers never enter the gorilla exhibit and there should have been no way for anyone (especially a 4 year old) to enter that area. It doesn't matter that it has never happened before, what matters is that it happened now.
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gina409
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
Just bc I'm a nosy biotch lol
What other names has she posted under
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blessedmama
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
Seriously? Not sure what was so bad about what I said. Not everyone leaves child bearing up to god to decide. Many parents plan their families with the use of birth control and spacing that helps them out in whatever way they choose.
Please explain why that is so horrible as I think everyone took my comment way out of context.
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DiamondGirl
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Cincinnati Zoo incident
Accidents happen. That's it. Could happen to anyone. Sad a gorilla is dead but thank god the kid is okay. That's all folks, let's move on.
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NervousNell
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
Posted by gina409
Just bc I'm a nosy biotch lol
What other names has she posted under
LOL
I am nosy too. I want to know!
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JennP
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
Posted by GoldenRod
I just want to make sure I get everything down properly....
If I take my eyes off of DC1 for 1 second to safely secure DC2, I'm a bad parent
If I use a leash to keep DC safe, I'm a bad parent
If I keep DC strapped into a stroller to keep them safe, I'm not letting them learn, so I'm a bad parent
If I take them to a zoo, they might not be safe, so I'm a bad parent
If I never take them out of the house, I'm not letting them learn, so I'm a bad parent.
If I turn DC forward facing before 4 years old, since that has been proven to be the safest thing, I'm a bad parent
If I let DC explore, they might get hurt, so I'm a bad parent.
If I helicopter parent every second of their lives to keep them safe, I'm a bad parent.
If I let DC CIO, I'm a bad parent.
If I comfort DC as soon as they cry, I'm a bad parent.
If I let DC alone in the house at 13, I'm a bad parent.
If I never let DC alone until after they are 18, I'm a bad parent.
Since car accidents are one of the major causes of injuries or death, putting DC in a car means I'm a bad parent.
If DC plays sports, they might get hurt, so I'm a bad parent
If DC doesn't play sports, they don't learn valuable team dynamics and don't get physical activity, so I'm a bad parent.
...
... and most of these conflicting things have been said on this forum, which is supposed to be mainly for women to help each other...
Yup. And this is why -
1. I try to keep it light on these boards and stick to travel and other fun topics. It doesn't always work - I've been sucked into a couple of doozies - but overall when I see posts like these I am turned off from replying. Part of me wants to scream at the overly judgmental people, but they won't hear me anyway.
and
2. I very, very rarely ask for parenting advice. And that's NOT because I know it all. I sure as shit don't. But I know my kid and what my gut says and I know that other people will have conflicting opinions anyway, so I just do what I think is right and learn as I go.
Plus I have noticed that 99% of the people (IRL) who give me their unsolicited opinion on how to parent my son are either childless or have much older children.
I wish we would all just leave each other alone.
99.8% of us are just doing the best we can and the other .2% won't listen anyway.
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Kitten1929
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Re: Cincinnati Zoo incident
Posted by blessedmama
Seriously? Not sure what was so bad about what I said. Not everyone leaves child bearing up to god to decide. Many parents plan their families with the use of birth control and spacing that helps them out in whatever way they choose.
Please explain why that is so horrible as I think everyone took my comment way out of context.
You like to condescend to people.
You like to act superior, holier than thou, and make them feel as if their choices, actions, decisions or feelings are invalid because YOU don't like them.
You act like you know everything. You act like you have all the answers, and that everyone else is a complete moron for not thinking exactly the same as you. It's as if you never learned how to be empathetic, or kind, or caring.
It's not necessarily what you say, but how you say it. However your comments on this thread show you obviously don't understand that.
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