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TheInfamousOTG
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Re: Can I have some advice?
I would do it in a heartbeat, and so would Brianne. If the situations were reversed, you would hope your sister would do that for you.
Message edited 6/30/2005 1:49:59 PM.
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annie
This is how I play basketball!
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Stephanie
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Re: Can I have some advice?
christy,
i think you've made a good decision. rules are necessary if she will be living in your home, whether she likes them or not. and since your parents did not provide them, its up to you. also, as the other ladies have mentioned, it is important to set up a time frame and a plan to get her on her feet independently. she needs to take responsibility for herself now- you'll be doing her a favor in the long run. i have three younger brothers (25, 19, 16) and I can imagine how difficult this must be for you. 
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| Posted 6/30/05 5:57 PM |
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dooodles
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Re: Can I have some advice?
It sounds to me like your sister would flourish in your home. It sounds like she is finally getting the love she needs. I cannot even imagine how tight it must be for all of you, but I would have to say I'd let her live with me. My sister did it for me and it was the BEST thing to happen to me
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| Posted 6/30/05 7:54 PM |
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Gertyrae
Peace out Homies!
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Re: Can I have some advice?
Well, I read through the thread and I noticed that she is staying with you for now, I would have done the same thing, but I bet that since she doesn't like the rules you are imposing she either goes to your dad's or make's nice with your mom to go back there and do what she wants. I totally feel for you, it's really hard when you are dealing with your family, but at the same time you don't want to ruin your own life. I hope everything works out....Lot's of luck to you!
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| Posted 7/3/05 9:58 AM |
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christy
Mommy of 2
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Christy
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Re: Can I have some advice?
Posted by Gertyrae
Well, I read through the thread and I noticed that she is staying with you for now, I would have done the same thing, but I bet that since she doesn't like the rules you are imposing she either goes to your dad's or make's nice with your mom to go back there and do what she wants. I totally feel for you, it's really hard when you are dealing with your family, but at the same time you don't want to ruin your own life. I hope everything works out....Lot's of luck to you!
You are soooooooo right! Currently she is on a trip with friends. I feel like she is going to go back to my mom when she gets back. I guess I have to wait and see. Thanks for all the support!
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| Posted 7/3/05 5:10 PM |
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TwoGirls4Me
Treasure what you have
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Marie
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Re: Can I have some advice?
Posted by btrflygrl
my husband would tell me to let her stay. We are debating either building on our home or buying a bigger one in order for my grandmother to come live with us.
IMO, sometimes you have to make sacrifices for the ones you love, and if it were my sister needing somewhere to stay, I'd be all for it especially if her mental/emotional health was in jeopardy in other living situations.
Good Luck!
i could not have said this better myself...
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| Posted 7/3/05 8:50 PM |
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MsG
Should be working
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Re: Can I have some advice?
I am going to be pretty harsh here and say that your sister needs to take care of herself. You are not her parent, and it's not like she has no other option - she can live with your dad. She is disrupting your life b/c she doesn't want to go to Queens College? That seems a little unfair. It might not be the ideal situation for her, but that's not your issue to make better for her. Maybe she can live there for one year, do well, and transfer to an "away" school?
Whatever happens you are a wonderful, caring sister and I hope she returns the love and care to you.
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| Posted 7/4/05 5:14 PM |
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christy
Mommy of 2
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Christy
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Re: Can I have some advice?
Thank you ladies for all of the advice. I really appreciate it!
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| Posted 7/6/05 9:22 AM |
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rose825
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Re: Can I have some advice?
Posted by MsG
I am going to be pretty harsh here and say that your sister needs to take care of herself. You are not her parent, and it's not like she has no other option - she can live with your dad. She is disrupting your life b/c she doesn't want to go to Queens College? That seems a little unfair. It might not be the ideal situation for her, but that's not your issue to make better for her. Maybe she can live there for one year, do well, and transfer to an "away" school?
Whatever happens you are a wonderful, caring sister and I hope she returns the love and care to you.
I was going to say the same thing. It is one thing to help your sister out. t is another thing to be guilted into doing something inconvenient for you, because she does not want to be inconvenienced. Also she is 18, and while its not ideal to be independent at that age, sometimes that's the way it is. It sounds like you did it. I would not, not, not buy her a car, because it is only enabling her t be irresponsible. There is no reason that she can not work and buy a cheap car.
I hope everything works out for you. I too have a very irresponsible younger sister, and while I dont think I would let her be homeless I have had to work really hard at limit setting with her for my own sanity.
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| Posted 7/8/05 10:47 PM |
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pschica
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Re: Can I have some advice?
Posted by rose825
Posted by MsG
I am going to be pretty harsh here and say that your sister needs to take care of herself. You are not her parent, and it's not like she has no other option - she can live with your dad. She is disrupting your life b/c she doesn't want to go to Queens College? That seems a little unfair. It might not be the ideal situation for her, but that's not your issue to make better for her. Maybe she can live there for one year, do well, and transfer to an "away" school?
Whatever happens you are a wonderful, caring sister and I hope she returns the love and care to you.
I was going to say the same thing. It is one thing to help your sister out. t is another thing to be guilted into doing something inconvenient for you, because she does not want to be inconvenienced. Also she is 18, and while its not ideal to be independent at that age, sometimes that's the way it is. It sounds like you did it. I would not, not, not buy her a car, because it is only enabling her t be irresponsible. There is no reason that she can not work and buy a cheap car.
I hope everything works out for you. I too have a very irresponsible younger sister, and while I dont think I would let her be homeless I have had to work really hard at limit setting with her for my own sanity.
my sister, too, is difficult so i know you must be a saint.....big hugs to you and know that even if she doesn't appreciate it now, hopefully one day she will look back and see you do all this for her own good!
to you and your dh!
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