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mommy2be716
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another gift wording question for invites
I know this was asked in the past but I can't find it....
We don't want "stuff" for our daughter's first birthday. How do we word on there that we would prefer help with her college fund? Is there even a way to do that without looking like a jerk? lol
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Posted 5/19/17 12:48 PM  |
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NervousNell
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Re: another gift wording question for invites
You can't
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| Posted 5/19/17 12:55 PM |
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chilltocam
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another gift wording question for invites
Nope - no good or nice way to ask for money (or any gift) on an invitation
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| Posted 5/19/17 12:58 PM |
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mommy2be716
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another gift wording question for invites
guess i'll just have to return anything we get that we don't want, and get gift cards instead
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| Posted 5/19/17 1:06 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: another gift wording question for invites
Posted by mommy2be716
guess i'll just have to return anything we get that we don't want, and get gift cards instead
Yes. But if you don't want "stuff" what will you do with the gift cards?
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| Posted 5/19/17 1:06 PM |
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MrsDrMatt
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Re: another gift wording question for invites
Posted by mommy2be716
guess i'll just have to return anything we get that we don't want, and get gift cards instead
classy
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| Posted 5/19/17 1:26 PM |
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Re: another gift wording question for invites
You can't ask for money. You don't get to decide what someone else gives as a gift. If you don't want gifts, say no gifts. You can come up with the cutest little poem ever and you will still look super ungrateful.
Return the "stuff", get gifts cards to buy her essentials, diapers, food, etc. and put the equivalent in cash in her account.
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| Posted 5/19/17 1:26 PM |
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PhyllisNJoe
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Re: another gift wording question for invites
There is no good way to ask for money.
I asked my SIL for my nieces first bday and both times she said I could write a check directly to her college fund for whatever I was gonna spend on a gift. But I literally asked HER what was best
For me, for first birthdays, I usually give $ anyway. Especially to kids who I know have every toy ever made lol
Message edited 5/19/2017 1:32:06 PM.
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| Posted 5/19/17 1:31 PM |
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mommy2be716
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Re: another gift wording question for invites
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by mommy2be716
guess i'll just have to return anything we get that we don't want, and get gift cards instead
Yes. But if you don't want "stuff" what will you do with the gift cards?
diapers, baby food, other essentials. I'll save them for when I need things
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| Posted 5/19/17 1:35 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: another gift wording question for invites
Posted by mommy2be716
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by mommy2be716
guess i'll just have to return anything we get that we don't want, and get gift cards instead
Yes. But if you don't want "stuff" what will you do with the gift cards?
diapers, baby food, other essentials. I'll save them for when I need things
Ah, ok
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| Posted 5/19/17 1:35 PM |
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edfilippi
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Re: another gift wording question for invites
You can't - no matter how nice the wording people will find it rude and roll their eyes.
I have way to many toys for my boys so when they ask ehat they can get I ask for things that get used up like paint, paper, play doh, etc. Stuff that gets used up and thrown out.
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| Posted 5/19/17 1:41 PM |
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blu6385
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Re: another gift wording question for invites
Hoenstly for most first birthdays you would probably get mostly money. I feel like that's what most do.
Not sure if a gift registry is tacky. (I personally like them because then I know what to buy) but if its not maybe you can try that way and at least register for stuff you guys need want for her and if people don't like the choice they may just do cash
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| Posted 5/19/17 2:07 PM |
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blu6385
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Re: another gift wording question for invites
Posted by MrsDrMatt
Posted by mommy2be716
guess i'll just have to return anything we get that we don't want, and get gift cards instead
classy
whats so wrong about this?
I have returned plenty of things my DC get or sold them either because we have double of it, they don't like it or we don't need it. Why should anyone keep anything they don't need?
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| Posted 5/19/17 2:08 PM |
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lightblue
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Re: another gift wording question for invites
Posted by blu6385
Posted by MrsDrMatt
Posted by mommy2be716
guess i'll just have to return anything we get that we don't want, and get gift cards instead
classy
whats so wrong about this?
I have returned plenty of things my DC get or sold them either because we have double of it, they don't like it or we don't need it. Why should anyone keep anything they don't need?
So have I. I will say though that in my experience we got lots of stuff without gift receipts so we ended up returning it for store credit- but you will only get lowest selling price of the item.
Also to the OP there really isn't a tactful way to say "money only" or "giftcards only" but I actually just did get an invite that asked for giftcards only so, I guess some people don't care...
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| Posted 5/19/17 2:21 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: another gift wording question for invites
Posted by lightblue
Posted by blu6385
Posted by MrsDrMatt
Posted by mommy2be716
guess i'll just have to return anything we get that we don't want, and get gift cards instead
classy
whats so wrong about this?
I have returned plenty of things my DC get or sold them either because we have double of it, they don't like it or we don't need it. Why should anyone keep anything they don't need?
So have I. I will say though that in my experience we got lots of stuff without gift receipts so we ended up returning it for store credit- but you will only get lowest selling price of the item.
Also to the OP there really isn't a tactful way to say "money only" or "giftcards only" but I actually just did get an invite that asked for giftcards only so, I guess some people don't care...
I have to be honest, it may be tacky, and I wouldn't do it, but I would LOVE to get an invite that said gift cards only. I'm all about easy. That would make my life infinitely easier
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| Posted 5/19/17 2:49 PM |
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luvbuffet
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Re: another gift wording question for invites
How much money do you expect to receive from your guests in total? I'm sure it won't be a huge amount. I would totally feel comfortable telling immediate family members $ instead of a toy only if they asked. And I'm sure grandparents would appreciate that. Inwould not tell anyone else you prefer money.
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| Posted 5/19/17 3:20 PM |
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JME78
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Re: another gift wording question for invites
Posted by mommy2be716
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by mommy2be716
guess i'll just have to return anything we get that we don't want, and get gift cards instead
Yes. But if you don't want "stuff" what will you do with the gift cards?
diapers, baby food, other essentials. I'll save them for when I need things
I would hate to give a gift and then have the parents return it to subsidize their expenses.
I didn't get too many toys for my kids first birthdays - we got a lot of clothes which is great, and the toys we did get I was able to stash and give them to them periodically so they had something new.
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LuckyStar
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another gift wording question for invites
I didn't want DD getting stuff either but there's really no way to say that. I have to find how I worded it but it was something along the lines of no gifts, just party (with a pic of her in sunglasses holding up her bottle). Most of our friends don't have kids and we were surprised they even came to a child's birthday party but yes, most brought gifts. We kept a few things and donated everything else.
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| Posted 5/19/17 9:32 PM |
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mommy2be716
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Re: another gift wording question for invites
Posted by luvbuffet
How much money do you expect to receive from your guests in total? I'm sure it won't be a huge amount. I would totally feel comfortable telling immediate family members $ instead of a toy only if they asked. And I'm sure grandparents would appreciate that. Inwould not tell anyone else you prefer money.
Anyone who asked us so far we were honest with. I just said that while we really don't need anything, that if they insist on bringing a gift that we intend on putting any monetary gifts into her 529 account. Everyone so far is doing that.
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| Posted 5/19/17 9:50 PM |
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MrsG823
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another gift wording question for invites
There is no polite way to ask for money.
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Katareen
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another gift wording question for invites
Don't have a party and put the money for the party into her college fund.
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| Posted 5/20/17 9:36 AM |
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Re: another gift wording question for invites
No, there's no way to do it.
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| Posted 5/20/17 9:48 AM |
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Re: another gift wording question for invites
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Don't have a party and put the money for the party into her college fund.
But then how will everyone oooh and aaaah over the baby!??!?
I also hate when parents subsidize, when they really shouldnt need to. (sine situations I understand.)
I gave a cash gift to a child - the mother used it for school supplies for the kid - then went and bought a 300 dollar bag for herself. No thanks.
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| Posted 5/20/17 9:49 AM |
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another gift wording question for invites
When people ask, I'm honest with them. If they want diapers I give them the size and brand, clothes I give them a size up. Anyone else that says what do they want, I say they have all the need. If the end up getting a toy so be it. If they end up. Getting money my parents opened investment accounts for their baptism and we have money taken weekly into there as do my parents
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| Posted 5/20/17 11:23 AM |
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lululu
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Re: another gift wording question for invites
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by lightblue
Posted by blu6385
Posted by MrsDrMatt
Posted by mommy2be716
guess i'll just have to return anything we get that we don't want, and get gift cards instead
classy
whats so wrong about this?
I have returned plenty of things my DC get or sold them either because we have double of it, they don't like it or we don't need it. Why should anyone keep anything they don't need?
So have I. I will say though that in my experience we got lots of stuff without gift receipts so we ended up returning it for store credit- but you will only get lowest selling price of the item.
Also to the OP there really isn't a tactful way to say "money only" or "giftcards only" but I actually just did get an invite that asked for giftcards only so, I guess some people don't care...
I have to be honest, it may be tacky, and I wouldn't do it, but I would LOVE to get an invite that said gift cards only. I'm all about easy. That would make my life infinitely easier
Me too - or if it was an evite with a link to donate to a college fund so I could do it without even getting off my couch….
I have gotten invitations that say instead of gifts donate to Make A wish foundation. That makes life super easy too and i think that's totally acceptable but I assume you don't just not want the stuff but you want the money.
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