Am I being oversensitive? what is his problem???

So, if you remember my previous posts, I've been struggling with DH not taking ttc seriously. he has been telling me for almost a year now that he wants to have kids soon and that we should ttc but his actions clearly show that he does not. To the point that I feel he is sabotaging me. He pulls out when we have s-e-x, he's been telling me that he won't do anything unless I completely change my lifestyle (diet, food, caffeine, alcohol, etc.) while all the time saying "we'll have kids this year, hon."

I just don't get it. well, anyway, yesterday took the cake. He was going through the medicine cabinet for something and saw my prenatal vitamins (which he knew I had) and said "when was the last time you took these?" I said "not for a month, they were making me really constipated" and he said "maybe if you take some more you'll get pregnant"?????????

what the heck does that even mean? i took that as if he were taunting me. like "you're so desperate that you think taking prenatals will get you pregnant?" and I stormed away, sulked and didn't talk to him the rest of the night. then he acted like he didn't know what was wrong and was trying to be sweet to me and said "don't worry, we'll have little feet running around the house sooner than you know it" BUT WE HAVEN"T HAD S_E_X in over a month!!!!! and when we do, he pulls out.

Did I read into things? was his statement not as inflammatory as I took it? Lately I've been so touchy but I'm so confused???? why does he say he wants to and then not even try???? or say mean things to me that make me feel like I am desperate. I'm turning 33 this year. I'd like to have 3 kids. we've been with each other for 8 years now, married for a year and a half, just bought a house. Yes, I am a little desperate.

Sorry, now I'm just venting.

Re: Am I being oversensitive? what is his problem???

Sounds like he is playing games. If I were you, I would def. have a heart-to-heart and figure out what's going on. What does he say when you bring up the fact that you need to DTD in order to get pregnant, or when he pulls out?

Re: Am I being oversensitive? what is his problem???

Many girls have come on here with the exact question as you. You need to sit down and have a talk. Do not go on the offensive though or he will become very defensive!!! Think about how you want to start.

My DH was very surprised to find out I was scared to death, even though I have always wanted to be a mommy. This opened us up for communication.

Re: Am I being oversensitive? what is his problem???

I would explain to him that age plays a more important role in a healthy child than eating healthy while TTC....Maybe he just doesnt realize!

Re: Am I being oversensitive? what is his problem???

I don't think you are being oversensitive. I don't think he is necessarily on the same page as you - despite him saying "you will have a baby sooner than you know it". Actions speak louder than words. I think you guys need to really have a talk.

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No, you're not being oversensitive. As for his problem - sounds like he doesn't want kids, although he could just be scared to death and doesn't know any other way to handle it.

I agree with all the other ladies when they suggest a heart to heart. If you're not feeling up to it, then the next time he pulls out, you can just come right out with "how do you expect me to get PG if you pull out?"

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