Re: am I being crazy, or would this bother you?- school related UPDATED AT TOP

Posted by nferrandi

Posted by PatsBrat


You definitely should have been told of the birthday policy when you spoke to the teacher weeks ago. Maybe next year find a school with more parental involvement?

I have since found out that this is NOT a school policy. Other classrooms encourage parental involvement, apparently just not my DS's classroom.

Re: am I being crazy, or would this bother you?- school related UPDATED AT TOP

In DS's class last yr we were not encouraged to stay during parties but that was the teacher's own rule and through her own experience. I honored that, no big deal IMO. It would be too much of a distraction to the class.

As far as wanting the kids to ice cookies, I think this is a little much. And getting the supplies back could go either way. Some teachers might give it back, some not, no biggie.

And the camera thing I wouldn't be upset about either. At least you have 3 pictures. I think that was nice of them to even offer they would take some.

The teachers are there to watch and teach our children. Not to stand there and take tons of pictures of them.

Sorry it didn't go the way you planned but I don't think the teacher did anything wrong.

I do think however that the other teacher that told you to switch right away is wrong!!

Re: am I being crazy, or would this bother you?- school related UPDATED AT TOP

I wouldn't be upset at all if my son's school told me I couldn't stay. Even if it's not the "school" policy I would respect the classroom rule. You staying could trigger the other kids wanting their mommy and getting the kids upset. Just saying...It could of happen that maybe some of the kids would get upset seeing you there and not their mommy. The teachers are just trying to avoid that.

As far as the pictures I think it was very nice of them to even take them for you. The privacy of the other children have to respected as well. For instance (not saying you would do this but just giving an example) lets say you were there and you were taking pictures of all of the kids in classroom enjoying the cookies, let say you post them on the net (not saying you would) there might be some parents out there that don't want their kids picture on the net. Again I'm not saying you would do this and I am stretching the what ifs but I'm just getting at why they didn't want to do these things. I don't think they were trying to be mean to you I can see that they were just thinking of all the children here and avoiding possible issues.

I would totally switch my son out of the classroom if he wasn't happy in the classrom.

Also just want to add that I wouldn't be upset about the paper plates and stuff. I'm sure they will use them for something else. That wouldnt bother me at all.

Message edited 10/27/2009 8:51:40 AM.

Re: am I being crazy, or would this bother you?- school related UPDATED AT TOP

awww...that really stick. I would definitley say something to the director...that is not fair that you were not able to be there for your son's party on top of all the other stuff that went on.

Re: am I being crazy, or would this bother you?- school related UPDATED AT TOP

I don't know if the cookie thing would bother me - maybe...I could def see how it could be disappointing. If your son honestly enjoys the class and teachers, I would try to look past the cookie thing and keep him there despite the other teacher's comments. But if in general, if your gut is telling you it's not the right fit for your DS, I would switch him. My DS also does a 3yr old preschool program 3x a week and I could tell in the first 2 days that the teacher was not a good fit for him and switched him without looking back.