Almost 1 year old and night waking - Has CIO NOT worked for anyone else?

My dd very rarely sleeps through the night.

I nursed until about the beginning of July, we transitioned her out of night feeding successfully. But she still wakes up.

Sometimes she gets herself back to sleep and sometimes she does not.

We tried CIO, but maybe not consistently enough, although she hasn't needed it every night in a row. And like I said, sometimes she goes back down on her own. And I should add that CIO to me is the half sleep whining and tossing/standing etc. Once she really cries I go in. Maybe that's the problem?)

Then there are nights like last night.

She would cry, go back down, then wake again in 10 or 15 minutes for over an hour. We finally went in after that.

I guess I have several questions.

1, should we try CIO more consistently?
2, does it just not work for some babies?
3, will she just outgrow this?


I should add that she eats like a champ and drinks a bottle before bed. She is not hungry and I do change her diaper if it's really full.

I also know that there will be some nights no matter what, when our kids will get up, but it's more often than not still.

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Almost 1 year old and night waking - Has CIO NOT worked for anyone else?

no advise. I cant believe your baby is almost one. It feels like yesterday when you posted your pregnancy news, with its ups and downs!!

good luck with the sleeping

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Almost 1 year old and night waking - Has CIO NOT worked for anyone else?

It didn't work for my youngest until 16 months. We had done cio before that and other ways of getting her down or back down during the night but nothing got her to sleep more than an hour or two. Finally at that age it all clicked.

Almost 1 year old and night waking - Has CIO NOT worked for anyone else?

Maybe a sleep regression/teeth?

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Is she teething?

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She only has two teeth so I am sure there are more coming in at some point. But I don't see anything yet. I'll check again.

Maybe I'll try the teething tablets?

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CIO never worked for my son, not for any lengthy period of time. We didn't even really try it til he was older because I don't really like it, but we were at our wits end. I also stopped night nursing around a year, but it didn't really help with sleep. We used a sleep coach who was fantastic but she actually told us (regarding DS) that some kids just don't respond to sleep training. At 16 months he started STTN. Lasted 3 months, then regression. Our lives basically went on like that until....6 or 7 months ago, and he will be THREE in October. Now he does sleep, and has consistently unless he's sick, though he needs the door open. For example: last night, he went to bed around 8:30 after a busy day and slept til close t 9 this morning. But we didn't get meaningful stretches of STTN til he was close to 2.5. We'd do CIO (or modified CIO) and it would either not work at all, or work for a bit and then he'd regress...

I feel your pain, is what I'm saying.

Almost 1 year old and night waking - Has CIO NOT worked for anyone else?

Is she teething? DD is 15 months and a few weeks ago she was up crying all night because she was in pain. I gave Tylenol before bed and she would still get up. I know this isn't a popular answer but the only thing that calmed her down and let her sleep a few hours was a bottle. That stage only lasted about a week or two. Now she still gets up once a night but goes right back down without anything.
You gotta do what you gotta do! Hang in there!!

Oh and to answer your Q I haven't tried CIO with her yet. I'm waiting till we move and she's in their own room. But with my son I didn't do it because I wasn't a fan. He became a consistent sleeper after he turned 1 so I didn't feel the need.

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My daughter didn't STTN until 22 months. It was HARD & I was basically a zombie but I just kept telling myself that she (and I) would sleep one day.

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Posted by MandJZ

CIO never worked for my son, not for any lengthy period of time. We didn't even really try it til he was older because I don't really like it, but we were at our wits end. I also stopped night nursing around a year, but it didn't really help with sleep. We used a sleep coach who was fantastic but she actually told us (regarding DS) that some kids just don't respond to sleep training. At 16 months he started STTN. Lasted 3 months, then regression. Our lives basically went on like that until....6 or 7 months ago, and he will be THREE in October. Now he does sleep, and has consistently unless he's sick, though he needs the door open. For example: last night, he went to bed around 8:30 after a busy day and slept til close t 9 this morning. But we didn't get meaningful stretches of STTN til he was close to 2.5. We'd do CIO (or modified CIO) and it would either not work at all, or work for a bit and then he'd regress...

I feel your pain, is what I'm saying.

This is what I'm thinking too. I HATE CIO, but my husband wants to try it out, so we compromise. But quite honestly, I think it wakes her more.

I said maybe she's just not a great sleeper...she's great at everything else!

I think a lot of people get in his ear about how she's supposed to be STTN. Honestly, if he was for it, I would co sleep but he would never.

I'm glad to know that it is OK according to others. I don't mind getting up with her and laying with her, so maybe I'll just have to convince my DH to give in once in while.

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Posted by MandJZ

Posted by Dani

Posted by MandJZ

CIO never worked for my son, not for any lengthy period of time. We didn't even really try it til he was older because I don't really like it, but we were at our wits end. I also stopped night nursing around a year, but it didn't really help with sleep. We used a sleep coach who was fantastic but she actually told us (regarding DS) that some kids just don't respond to sleep training. At 16 months he started STTN. Lasted 3 months, then regression. Our lives basically went on like that until....6 or 7 months ago, and he will be THREE in October. Now he does sleep, and has consistently unless he's sick, though he needs the door open. For example: last night, he went to bed around 8:30 after a busy day and slept til close t 9 this morning. But we didn't get meaningful stretches of STTN til he was close to 2.5. We'd do CIO (or modified CIO) and it would either not work at all, or work for a bit and then he'd regress...

I feel your pain, is what I'm saying.

This is what I'm thinking too. I HATE CIO, but my husband wants to try it out, so we compromise. But quite honestly, I think it wakes her more.

I said maybe she's just not a great sleeper...she's great at everything else!

I think a lot of people get in his ear about how she's supposed to be STTN. Honestly, if he was for it, I would co sleep but he would never.

I'm glad to know that it is OK according to others. I don't mind getting up with her and laying with her, so maybe I'll just have to convince my DH to give in once in while.

We did what worked for us, which meant sometimes we coslept, sometimes one of us stayed with him for a while, and for a a few months just befre he started sleeping well again - we moved a PnP to our room and if he woke up during the night we'd bring him to that and he'd sleep the rest of the night there. That's how we managed to make sure everyone got some decent sleep, and it worked for our family. We got all the "dont put him in your bed he'll never leave" warnings, but in the end some night we had no other choice. The road to where we are now has not been easy, but after going through all this I firmly believe that sleep is developmental. Like your DD, my DS did/does everything else (most everything, developmentally speaking I mean) really well, so if sleep was our big "trouble spot", well, we managed!

Almost 1 year old and night waking - Has CIO NOT worked for anyone else?

My son didn't sleep through the night in his own bed until he was two years old. CIO did nothing but cause aggravation to him and us. One day he just kinda clicked. He's extremely intelligent and speaks like a 30 year old but was a crappy sleeper. I'll take it lol

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You have to do what's right for your family but she is young and needs you for something maybe she's in pain from teething or needs closeness/comfort (esp if you recently night weaned, she will still want that comfort of mama). I know it's exhausting and frustrating right now but this stage will pass. I would co-sleep or lay w her in her room then leave when she's sleeping (& go back in when she wakes up). Dont wry she won't be stuck in your bed until college, she's still a baby and needs you. It's lonely and scary for a baby to be alone away from their mom, it's not biologically normal to be separated. I know I'll probably get torn apart for this response but just follow your heart!

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Almost 1 year old and night waking - Has CIO NOT worked for anyone else?

Based on some of the responses in here and many others I've read, I've noticed that sttn is like a milestone that it's achieved either early on by some babies or at a later age by others. Babies learn best how to sooth themselves when they do it on their own, and for some babies this might not happen for a while. I'm a mom of one of those crappy sleepers that still needs to learn to sttn, he's 1 and also nurses thought the night but more for comfort than anything else. I love to sleep and it sucks big time not being able to have an uninterrupted night of sleep, at least 1 lol! Comments like, "ur baby should already be able to sttn" can be very discouraging and lack of accuratecy. Please don't listen to that! Something that helps me a lot is knowing that there are a lot of moms going through this, not just me (u'd be surprised how many!) and that this won't happen for too long.

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Almost 1 year old and night waking - Has CIO NOT worked for anyone else?

My dd is almost 4 and still doesn't sleep thru the night so I don't really have advice. But I will say that any time she woke up as much as your dd is, like every 10 minutes, it was usually bc a tooth was breaking thru it she wasn't feeling well. Could she be getting her 1 year molars?

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Almost 1 year old and night waking - Has CIO NOT worked for anyone else?

Like others said, STTN is not some exact science. It's up to each child. It's a myth that every child just hits it at a certain age.

Mine certainly was not doing that consistently at 1. Teething and growing and all sorts of things are part of it. Besides which around 15-17m there was some random night terrors that have no explanation. Made simple teething and hunger seem like a cake walk. After those few weeks of back arching screaming, I NEVER complained again and I never really did to start with.

I never, EVER, not ONCE tried CIO. I don't believe in it. I just can't see how crying is going to make crying stop. But that's me.

Will they out grow it? ABSOLUTELY. I mean it's not like they go to college waking up in the middle of the night asking for a bottle.

Mine just clicked all of a sudden. She wanted nothing to do with us. Didn't want us in her room. Wanted to be a big girl. It was her room, her thing.

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My twins just turned 16 months and they still don't STTN either. They sleep MUCH better than they did at 12 months and I'm SOOOOO thankful for that because it was killing us.

My girls are tething like crazy so I know it could be a combo of that and the simple fact that they just don't STTN yet. They will wake up and want to be picked up and sometimes will go right back to sleep. Sometimes they want water, sometimes they want milk.
I was never a fan of CIO and honestly, with two infants and DH and I both working FT, all we wanted was sleep so we did what we had to, to get by.

Do what works for you. It may improve gradually or it may just happen overnight. Hang in there. There is no end all be all. Not every child is the same when it comes to sleep. (that's what I just keep telling myself. )

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I feel you. My 14 month old DD is still getting up at night. The good thing is that she will drink some milk and fall back asleep. Last night however she kept waking up crying even after I gave her milk. I just let her cry for a little because I was NOT getting up again, and eventually she did get back to sleep. I am guessing it is teething.

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Thank you all SOO much for your responses.

I have to say, we both don't love the idea of CIO, but my dh wanted to try. One time i "let" him and he felt so guilty and sad the next day. I said she'll never remember this and that helped.

I think what I am more talking about is the whining/tossing and turning type. Like when do I just leave her to get settled again because I think she is sleeping sometimes while she's doing it.

We agreed that if it is more than once or twice, we will go comfort her.

Like many of you said, I know and feel that that means she needs us in one way or another, and I'm fine with that. Like I said, I would co-sleep if he supported it.

Ironically enough, she slept through the night last night lol!

But yes, I do agree that this is a milestone that will be reached when her body and mind is ready.

I'm glad I am able to show my dh these responses as some outside opinions.