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all she does is CRY - small update - page 2

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DCMommy
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Re: all she does is CRY

I don't have any advice re: formula b/c I am EBF, but just wanted to say make sure to take care of yourself too! I cried to my ped several times when DS was at the height of his fussiness/crying, and I think she was honestly more concerned about my lack of sleep and stress level than she was about any issues DS might have been having. Even a quick walk around the block can work wonders. A few times I just handed DS to DH and stood out on our deck for five minutes taking deep breaths....it does get better!

Posted 6/20/09 9:05 PM
 
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DRMom
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Re: all she does is CRY

Next poop diaper-save and bring to your Dr

Posted 6/20/09 9:09 PM
 

cheshe
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Re: all she does is CRY

Posted by davenjess

the powerdered formula seemed to be okay and then she started freaking again. (i added a TINY bit more water than 4 ounces and by tiny - i mean like a half an inch more water) - because she STILL isn't pooping on her own (without us doing leg exercises or stimulating her butt).

she is currently on similac early shield. I have some enfamil...should i switch or should i stay with the enfamil?

her burping was MUCH better with the powder - and she fussed after the feeding - but for LESS time...she only fussed for maybe 15 minutes and then fell asleep in my arms and i put her in the swing...

my mom is here - but she's as clueless as i am....

the poopy diaper thing - i'd LOVE to get a sample to the doc - however like i said above - she's not going too often. she pees and farts like a crazy person...but only poops if we do some exercises with her or stimulate her butt....(which to me means the formula is too much)..



My DD was like this when she was a newborn. We had to switch her formula 4 times before we found what worked -which was Similac Alimentum. It is very expensive, but for us, was worth every penny. Our DD was such a different baby after she started on the Alimentum and she started pooping on her own again.

Posted 6/20/09 9:22 PM
 

DmarieK
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Re: all she does is CRY

Rylan was the same way. He cried morning noon and night until about 3 1/2 months. It was pure torture...I cried along with him everyday.

I would def ask the ped about switching formulas. We started on the Similac the hospital uses but they switched us to Similac Soy and sent us home with Mylicon...double doses. We then switched to Similac Sensitive then Gentlease then Nutramigin back to Sim Sen and ended up on Goodstart which was a life saver for us. Either that or a huge coincidence.

BTW...BRU let me return formula with a receipt a bunch of times.

Posted 6/20/09 9:27 PM
 

Angel321
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Re: all she does is CRY

i'm almost afraid to type this - but i switched her to soy (had a sample can of powdered) and i've fed it to her twice and she went RIGHT out afterwards....very few burps and then snooze city....

this could be because:

a. switching was the right thing to do
b. because she had a HORRIBLE day - slept maybe 2 hours total ALL DAY LONG and it was broken sleep - never constant.

we'll see how tonight goes...

ps - checked the BRU receipt - it doesn't say a word about formula returns...so i guess i can try - should the soy prove to be the right thing to do.

i know i have said this a lot in the past week - but i cannot possibly thank you in words for the support/fm's and replies... i do not know what i'd do or where i'd be without this site...

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Posted 6/21/09 2:03 AM
 

ME75

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Re: all she does is CRY - small update - page 2

Chat Icon i hope that the improvement continues for your DD!!Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon please please know that it won't be this way forever! my DD was a VERY tough infant, however, not as intense as what you are going through...anyway, while i was in that stage, i thought it would be that way for the rest of my lifeChat Icon i thought my DD would never be happy. i thought i might never have happiness or normalcy again. but it got better and just gets better. you are a real trooper and a great mommy! just keep trying and hang in there! this will pass!!Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 6/21/09 5:36 AM
 

Angel321
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Re: all she does is CRY - small update - page 2

i knew i shouldn't have been hopeful.

behavior returned to crap today - barely sleeping and crying like insanity after eating...

going to check out other formulas (including alimentum) probably this afternoon (IF we can get out of the house without a fit)...

Message edited 6/21/2009 1:47:54 PM.

Posted 6/21/09 1:23 PM
 

Superkat
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Re: all she does is CRY - small update - page 2

Posted by davenjess

i knew i should've have been hopeful.

behavior returned to crap today - barely sleeping and crying like insanity after eating...

going to check out other formulas (including alimentum) probably this afternoon (IF we can get out of the house without a fit)...



I went through a lot of the same problems with my son. Soy is very tough when they are so young, because of constipation and reflux. Chat Icon

I found powdered was better than RTF because of the consistency. Also, my doctor advised against switching around TOO much because it can upset their stomachs even more. They are so sensitive at this age.

One thing that helped us, my son had a bouncy seat that vibrated. He would sleep in it because he was partially sitting upright and the vibration motion soothed him. Good luck! Chat Icon

Posted 6/21/09 1:41 PM
 

dm24angel
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Re: all she does is CRY - small update - page 2

I would make a Ped visit and insist they listen and help. They really are the Formula experts. We had soem of yoru issues, we switched to Enfamil Gentlease...but Noah had reflux and that was our biggest issue.

Some babies are VERY fussy eaters normally, nothing you can do about it, but I do think it sounds like something more then that is going on here with her....

When was your last Ped visit and when is your Next?

Posted 6/21/09 1:59 PM
 

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Re: all she does is CRY - small update - page 2

I agree with all suggestions said before me.
Jess, I think it could take up to 10 days to see a difference formula makes?

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Posted 6/21/09 2:07 PM
 

dm24angel
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Re: all she does is CRY - small update - page 2

Posted by Sofia

I agree with all suggestions said before me.
Jess, I think it could take up to 10 days to see a difference formula makes?

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This is true too. It took about 5 days for us, but 2 weeks to REALLY see a huge improvement.

Posted 6/21/09 2:08 PM
 

hannahsmom
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Re: all she does is CRY - small update - page 2

Jess, if she hasn't pooped in awhile, she is still going to be cranky and gassy. Give the soy a bit of time to work. If after a week or 2 there really is no improvement, then try the Alimentum, or something like it. I know it seems difficult now, but I promise you it does get better.

Posted 6/21/09 2:25 PM
 

Lillykat
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Re: all she does is CRY - small update - page 2

I'm so sorry Jess you are going thru this - I have been there too and I know how trying and hard it can be. DD had severe reflux and colic for the first 5-6 months and did nothing but cry all day long - then if just stopped one day and it was like having a different baby. Mylicon never worked for us.

If you ever need an ear I'm there for you - it is really difficult time to go thru when your DC just cries for hours and hours on end. I found that napping when she did, walks (even if she screamed for the whole walk) when the weather was nice and just walking her around the house - helped with my sanity and with her crying.


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Posted 6/21/09 4:28 PM
 

sfp0701
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Re: all she does is CRY - small update - page 2

Posted by Porrruss

I have always sworn by the "5 Ss" as outlined in the Happiest Baby book. I c&p this from the web:

The five S's
Five steps for parents to turn on the calming reflex

Sucking
Sucking triggers the calming reflex and deepens a baby's level of relaxation.

Swaddling
Tight swaddling is the cornerstone of calming. Swaddling also helps keep babies from accidentally flipping onto their stomach. Avoid overheating and loose blankets. I recommend wrapping babies with their arms straight at their sides. Wrapping with flexed arms usually fails because the arms soon wiggle free. Swaddling is the cornerstone of calming. Swaddling is the only "S" that does not directly turn on the calming reflex. In fact, many babies struggle even more for a minute or two when first swaddled with straight arms; that's probably because their biceps are hypertonic from their position in utero—we don't know with certainty.

Shushing
Loud, harsh, white noise mimics the noise of blood flowing through placental arteries when a fetus is in the womb. The louder a baby cries, the louder the shushing has to be to calm him. The "shhh" sound imitates the sound of blood flow that fetuses hear. It has been measured at 75 to 88 dB.37 This white noise is approximated by harsh, loud sounds from hair driers (85 dB) and vacuum cleaners (75 dB).

The noise needs to be as loud as a baby is crying for it to trigger the calming reflex. Continued white noise (at levels up to 80 dB) can keep the reflex turned on and help babies stay soothed and asleep.

Swinging
Lying motionless deprives newborns of sensory stimulation. Swinging (rhythmic, jiggly movement) in rapid, tiny movements, like a shiver (two to three times a second), soothes agitated babies. Use slow, broad swinging to keep your baby soothed. Never shake a baby in anger. Slow motion, however, is usually ineffective at soothing babies who are upset. Turning on the calming reflex in a crying baby requires fast, low-amplitude movements of the head (to stimulate the vestibular apparatus). This motion is like a fine shimmy or shiver (my patients call this the "Jell-o head" jiggle). The head is supported so it moves with the body, and it goes back and forth only about an inch but very quickly—120 to 180 times a minute! This imitates the fetus's in utero experience and is completely different from the large amplitude, whiplash-like swings that cause shaken baby syndrome. Nonetheless, parents should be warned never to jiggle their baby when they're angry or frustrated.

Side or stomach position
All babies should be put to sleep on their back.* However, being on the side or stomach is best for calming the baby; it turns on the calming reflex and shuts off the Moro reflex. (The Moro reflex makes a baby's arms shoot out when he is startled by his own crying.) Being supine triggers the very upsetting Moro reflex. This "S" can be activated by putting a baby on her side, on her stomach (again, not for sleeping), or over an adult's shoulder. Some babies are so sensitive to position that, even on their side, they won't calm down if they are rolled the least bit toward their back.

. . . and one V

To stop a baby's cycle of crying, you must meet his level of intensity. Once the screaming diminishes for a few moments, you can gradually lessen the vigor of the calming maneuvers.

*This recommendation is consistent with the American Academy of Pediatrics' statement on the prevention of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS).




I have been doing this for a few days now and it is amazing how fast it works but, only when all done at the same time. Sometimes you can't do the sucking one, I use a binky, until the baby is calmed down a bit. I am about halfway through the book and it is really really inteersting.
Hopefully the formula makes the difference for you. I have no advice for that since I BF but, Have you tried wearing her. It really helps to calm Liam and then my arms aren't so tired. Stephen got me the Moby wrap and I love it. But you can only get it online or at one of two stores in they city (and a bunch in Brooklyn) but, there are other wraps that might help. THat way you can get DC really close to you, nice and tight and you can walk and jiggle her a lot and at the same time give your arms a break and get stuff done. Chat Icon Chat Icon Hang in there and take care of yourself also.

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Posted 6/21/09 6:12 PM
 
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