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jessnbrian
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SecretlyTTC14
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Re: Selfish idiot in-laws
I am so sorry you are dealing with this at all.... let alone while pregnant. I would have no problem calling her back and saying no though. I guess this pregnancy is bringing out the worst in me but it's been hard and I couldn't imagine having house guests right now. I would take a couple hours to calm down a little and see if you can come to terms with it. If not, call her back and tell her they will have to make other plans. 
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| Posted 6/7/14 1:13 PM |
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Katareen
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Selfish idiot in-laws
How long are they staying for? One night? Honestly I don't see it as a huge deal--I'd just go to work, go to my doc appt, and let them spend time with your MIL. You'll barely have to see them.
Your MIL is leaving Saturday and you'll have your house back again. Concentrate on that and you'll feel better.
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| Posted 6/7/14 1:29 PM |
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alli3131
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Is it really worth getting this upset over and fighting with your DH. Think bug picture. You won't even really be home since you are working so you barely have to see them.
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| Posted 6/7/14 1:33 PM |
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MrsB612
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Re: Selfish idiot in-laws
Posted by alli3131
Is it really worth getting this upset over and fighting with your DH. Think bug picture. You won't even really be home since you are working so you barely have to see them.
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| Posted 6/7/14 1:45 PM |
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JME78
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Re: Selfish idiot in-laws
I don't see the big deal - if they were going to stay last night what is the difference if they spend Thursday night instead?
You will be at work so you don't have to spend time with them. Don't stress yourself out over this.
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| Posted 6/7/14 4:17 PM |
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MrsE323
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Selfish idiot in-laws
To be honest I don't see the big deal either. They are coming to see your MIL so go about your day as you normally would and you'll see them when you see them. I know it's frustrating when someone changes plans last minute but it happens and it's not worth stressing yourself out over or arguing with DH over. Just think, in a week you will be back to normal without your MIL so this is really the home stretch!
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ANewDayHasCome
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Re: Selfish idiot in-laws
Posted by alli3131
Is it really worth getting this upset over and fighting with your DH. Think bug picture. You won't even really be home since you are working so you barely have to see them.
I agree. And what's the big deal with 14/15 weeks. It's not like you're 39/40 weeks when you're really uncomfortable, barely sleeping and the baby can come any day
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| Posted 6/7/14 5:12 PM |
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Lillies
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Re: Selfish idiot in-laws
Jess, let them come and spend time with MIL. As others said, you will be at work so there's no added stress and they can order in when you and DH get home. I know switching plans is frustrating but that's how many people are, esp with family. My Sis is always changing the days and times she is coming when visiting from PA.
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| Posted 6/7/14 5:15 PM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: Selfish idiot in-laws
Posted by MrsE323
To be honest I don't see the big deal either. They are coming to see your MIL so go about your day as you normally would and you'll see them when you see them. I know it's frustrating when someone changes plans last minute but it happens and it's not worth stressing yourself out over or arguing with DH over. Just think, in a week you will be back to normal without your MIL so this is really the home stretch!
ITA...annoying but try to just let it go 
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readyfor3
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Re: Selfish idiot in-laws
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Posted by alli3131
Is it really worth getting this upset over and fighting with your DH. Think bug picture. You won't even really be home since you are working so you barely have to see them.
I agree. And what's the big deal with 14/15 weeks. It's not like you're 39/40 weeks when you're really uncomfortable, barely sleeping and the baby can come any day
I agree!
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| Posted 6/7/14 9:45 PM |
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jessnbrian
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Selfish idiot in-laws
I guess I should have made it more clear that this is a habitual thing with them - not just a one time occurance. And that there is construction going on in our house. I've calmed down a lot - honestly I'm still really pissed at them, they absolutely are the most selfish people I know (for many many many reasons, that I could never even begin to list here). A day out east was just what I needed. I've decided that instead of being the perfect hostest I normally would be, I am just going to go about my days as normal, they can figure out their own bedding, food, etc. It really does disrupt our lives when people come to stay in the middle of the week, which is why we never allow it - DH is out of the house by 4:55/5 in the morning daily, doesn't get home until 7/8, etc etc etc.
I'm letting it lie for now and just letting MIL enjoy her time with them.
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| Posted 6/7/14 10:02 PM |
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Michelle1110
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Re: Selfish idiot in-laws
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
Posted by alli3131
Is it really worth getting this upset over and fighting with your DH. Think bug picture. You won't even really be home since you are working so you barely have to see them.
I agree. And what's the big deal with 14/15 weeks. It's not like you're 39/40 weeks when you're really uncomfortable, barely sleeping and the baby can come any day
I couldn't agree more.
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jessnbrian
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Re: Selfish idiot in-laws
Posted by Lillies
Jess, let them come and spend time with MIL. As others said, you will be at work so there's no added stress and they can order in when you and DH get home. I know switching plans is frustrating but that's how many people are, esp with family. My Sis is always changing the days and times she is coming when visiting from PA.
It just drives me insane - it's a CONSTANT thing with them. They once messaged us FROM DR while on vacation to TELL us they needed to say with us when they got back, which was 4 days later and we already had plans. We are very busy, I'm really not sleeping well, I can't get through the night without getting up at least twice, I'm still having bad MS in the mornings, our work schedules are crazy, DH is out of the house for 14-15 hours a day.
At least now I know who will be watching our LO during my brothers wedding next February - you better believe I'll be telling them that we need them to come down to watch the baby on valentines day and tough sh!t, they are doing it!
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| Posted 6/7/14 10:18 PM |
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AKD
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Re: Selfish idiot in-laws
Agreed with others, I don't see the big deal since they were going to come anyway, they're sick and rescheduled. I'd feel the same way whether or not I was 14 weeks pregnant.
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lynnd126
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Selfish idiot in-laws
There's a really negative pattern with your posts. I think you need to start trying to look at things from the outside in. Your life is about to get a gazillion times harder and I think you would be better off if you tried to work on all the anger and complaining. Sorry but I just noticed this with a lot of your posts.
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jessnbrian
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Re: Selfish idiot in-laws
Posted by lynnd126
There's a really negative pattern with your posts. I think you need to start trying to look at things from the outside in. Your life is about to get a gazillion times harder and I think you would be better off if you tried to work on all the anger and complaining. Sorry but I just noticed this with a lot of your posts.
Something to think about - I do use this venue as a place to air my issues and questions versus the "happy" moments, which for me are constant. That could definitely skew the view here. I'm actually not a negative person, my life is incredible, I'm incredibly blessed and I thank God everyday for the blessings he's given me. IRL I've never been told I was a negative person, so it must be something about my posts on here. (High anxiety, sure, but I do have anxiety issues, lol.). Thanks for pointing it out to me! Self-reflection is always a good thing! 
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ANewDayHasCome
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Re: Selfish idiot in-laws
Posted by lynnd126
There's a really negative pattern with your posts. I think you need to start trying to look at things from the outside in. Your life is about to get a gazillion times harder and I think you would be better off if you tried to work on all the anger and complaining. Sorry but I just noticed this with a lot of your posts.
I also agree with this. I would think you would be beyond the moon excited bc you are finally pregnant after struggling that nothing so little and insignificant should bother you. This is supposed to be a very happy and exciting time in your life. Sorry, but I agree with Lynnd126 about all the negativity
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jessnbrian
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Re: Selfish idiot in-laws
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
Posted by lynnd126
There's a really negative pattern with your posts. I think you need to start trying to look at things from the outside in. Your life is about to get a gazillion times harder and I think you would be better off if you tried to work on all the anger and complaining. Sorry but I just noticed this with a lot of your posts.
I also agree with this. I would think you would be beyond the moon excited bc you are finally pregnant after struggling that nothing so little and insignificant should bother you. This is supposed to be a very happy and exciting time in your life. Sorry, but I agree with Lynnd126 about all the negativity
Thanks! It's definitely something to look deeper at for me. Like I said in another response, I have been using this site specifically for issues or questions.... And I do suffer from anxiety problems... But self reflection is a necessity to continue growing and changing, no matter what stage/age you are! I really do appreciate it being pointed out, it's harder to "look in" and notice things like this!
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I agree with a lot of the other ladies. You are only 14/15 weeks pregnant and your MIL is moving overseas, it's not about you, it's about her family seeing her before she moves.
It is a minor bump in the road of life
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petvet
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It can definitely be difficult to have plans changed on you at the last minute whether you are pregnant or not! Hang in there
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