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conigs25
So in love with this kid!
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Michele
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Am i really "ready" or am i....
just looking for the "next thing"???
I have to say that before i was married, i was SOOOOO far away from wanting kids. Now (and im only married 3 mons) its all i can think about.
I wont even mention it to DH bc its so unfair to just spring that on him when all along i was like "oh god, AT LEAST not for another 2 yrs."
What happened????
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dakota11306
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Re: Am i really "ready" or am i....
I am in the exact same boat!!! We have only been married two months and all along I told people (and myself) I was going to wait at least two years. Now all of the sudden I am ready NOW DH has said he wants kids as soon as I am ready so now we haven't used any BC and are just going to see what happens. I don't think I will ever be fully prepared to have kids so I figured if I had the "itch" I might as well scratch it
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Lauren
Very Happy!
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Re: Am i really "ready" or am i....
I feel the same way. I have been married for 2 years, and I honestly didn't think I would be ready even now, but it's like all of a sudden I CANNOT WAIT to ge pregnant!!!
My DH wants to wait a few months, but I am like - now now now!! haha I will wait the few months to be fair, but it's hard....
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Goldi0218
My miracles!
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Re: Am i really "ready" or am i....
I am going to offer an opinion (as I have before) on why I think this happens to a lot of newlyweds.
The world is filled with ever-changing and acceptable definitions of "family." What works for some, may or may not work for others.
However, many of us are traditional and consider marriage the beginning of family for a young couple. In my small world, I would never dream of having a child until and unless I was married and in a secure relationship. I venture to say that this may hold true for a lot of women (men too). Now that you are married, it is real and perfectly justifiable to have children in a safe and secure environment. This is simply what many young and newly married couples do. I think your feelings are very common!
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Alli06
Baby #3 coming this June
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Re: Am i really "ready" or am i....
Posted by Goldi0218
I am going to offer an opinion (as I have before) on why I think this happens to a lot of newlyweds.
The world is filled with ever-changing and acceptable definitions of "family." What works for some, may or may not work for others.
However, many of us are traditional and consider marriage the beginning of family for a young couple. In my small world, I would never dream of having a child until and unless I was married and in a secure relationship. I venture to say that this may hold true for a lot of women (men too). Now that you are married, it is real and perfectly justifiable to have children in a safe and secure environment. This is simply what many young and newly married couples do. I think your feelings are very common!
That is so true!
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conigs25
So in love with this kid!
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Re: Am i really "ready" or am i....
Posted by Goldi0218
I am going to offer an opinion (as I have before) on why I think this happens to a lot of newlyweds.
The world is filled with ever-changing and acceptable definitions of "family." What works for some, may or may not work for others.
However, many of us are traditional and consider marriage the beginning of family for a young couple. In my small world, I would never dream of having a child until and unless I was married and in a secure relationship. I venture to say that this may hold true for a lot of women (men too). Now that you are married, it is real and perfectly justifiable to have children in a safe and secure environment. This is simply what many young and newly married couples do. I think your feelings are very common!
I think youre right. Its like, all the sudden, it became OK
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| Posted 10/28/06 10:29 AM |
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klingklang77
kraftwerk!
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Re: Am i really "ready" or am i....
Posted by conigs25
just looking for the "next thing"???
I have to say that before i was married, i was SOOOOO far away from wanting kids. Now (and im only married 3 mons) its all i can think about.
I wont even mention it to DH bc its so unfair to just spring that on him when all along i was like "oh god, AT LEAST not for another 2 yrs."
What happened????
i am in the same boat as you. and we got married at the same time. i think about it often, but then reality quickly snaps into place- we just arent ready.
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itsbabytime
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Re: Am i really "ready" or am i....
I have been married for a little over three years and I went through this shortly after I was married as well. It came on all of a sudden and I could not wait to have a baby. I kept talking about the excitement of telling everyone, the baby shower, the baby's room etc etc. Dh was like - are you sure you "want" a baby and not just another wedding... I said I was sure but, he wasn't ready and convinced me to wait a few months and if I was still ready we would go for it. Well, he was right.
Now three years later the feeling is entirely different and I know I am really ready.
Hard to explain but I hope this helps 
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Nik09
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Re: Am i really "ready" or am i....
I've been married almost 5 yrs now and I get the itch once and a while. More lately then ever. There have been a number of friends announcing their pregnancies and it gets worse. I wonder am I ready or am I feeling "left out".
I used to just wait it out a month and see if I still felt the same way next month.
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Mrs
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Re: Am i really "ready" or am i....
Posted by Nik09
I wonder am I ready or am I feeling "left out".
I've always wondered about that too.. since most of my friends are having babies and we are the only ones still planning. But after a while I realized that for me, its something I really want, it just became stronger with them having kids because I realized how much I wanted too.
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saraH
happy birthday sweet kate!
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i feel the same way. it went from being about a year to ok, i'm stopping my bcp now! that by no means mean that its going to happen tomorrow, but what if it takes more then 6 months.
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We said the same thing - and things just "happened" - you never know - I wasnt ready even after finding out I was PG, and sometimes I sort of "forget" - its strange - everytime DH and I go out to dinner or a mvie, I'm like - oh my god - it'll be ages til we do this again once the baby is born! Same for staying late at work, even visiting ghranmda in florida with the baby - I'll be by myself - we wont be able to go to movies, shopping, etc- all the things we do when we are together (gma is an energizer bunny)
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I'll have a baby!
It overshadows everything - when it happens, you'll be ready- even if your not!
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MrsFlatbread
Skinny jeans are in my future
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Re: Am i really "ready" or am i....
I think it's a natural progression. I think for us, age plays a factor. We knew we would start trying within the year of getting married especially since we are looking to buy a house shortly.
So therefore, I bought my first bottle of pre-natals today.
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Goldi0218
My miracles!
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Re: Am i really "ready" or am i....
Posted by MrsFlatbread
I think it's a natural progression. I think for us, age plays a factor. We knew we would start trying within the year of getting married especially since we are looking to buy a house shortly.
So therefore, I bought my first bottle of pre-natals today.
Hmmm, would you then have mini-flatbreads? Miss you girl!!!!
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MrsFlatbread
Skinny jeans are in my future
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Re: Am i really "ready" or am i....
Posted by Goldi0218
[Hmmm, would you then have mini-flatbreads? Miss you girl!!!!
I suppose it does!! Miss you too!! See you Sunday???
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J9-13
We're gonna be big sisters!
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Re: Am i really "ready" or am i....
Posted by conigs25
just looking for the "next thing"???
I have to say that before i was married, i was SOOOOO far away from wanting kids. Now (and im only married 3 mons) its all i can think about.
I wont even mention it to DH bc its so unfair to just spring that on him when all along i was like "oh god, AT LEAST not for another 2 yrs."
What happened????
OMG! I feel the same way!  Before the wedding I knew I wanted to wait like 4-5 years, now almost 6 months later it went to 2 years but in reality...I want a baby sooner
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