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Hofstra26
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Re: POll-- Hosting a party/ Being a Guest Etiquette
I always bring something to a party. I might help throw out a few dishes or carry things inside but I don't go crazy trying to help cleanup. I figure if a host is anything like me, she hates the chaos in her kitchen of everyone trying to help.
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RainyDay
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Re: POll-- Hosting a party/ Being a Guest Etiquette
Posted by busymomonli
I can be either a 1 or a 2 depending on whose home it is and if I feel comfortable enough to help clean up, etc. It's its a distant acquaintance, I'd more likely be a 2.
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mommy2B3
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Re: POll-- Hosting a party/ Being a Guest Etiquette
My immediate family, we never brought anything growing up. Now as an adult I make sure we always bring something.
We do most of the hosting and nobody brings anything or helps to clean. I’ve never thought about it before. I don’t expect people to bring things and I would hate if my guests started cleaning.
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| Posted 9/18/18 9:34 AM |
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Pomegranate5
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Re: POll-- Hosting a party/ Being a Guest Etiquette
My mother would be mortified if she ever found out I didn't offer to bring something to a bbq/dinner party, or didn't help clean up a little (at least after myself). That, IMO, is just basic etiquette.
How much I bring and how involved I offer to get in setting up or breaking down a party depends on how close I am to the host.
The one exception to this is if I'm invited to a gift giving event, like an anniversary party, shower, etc. If I'm VERY close to the host, I will offer to contribute, but otherwise I feel that my gift is enough of a contribution. But I will still clean up after myself, because I'm not an animal.
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| Posted 9/18/18 9:34 AM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: POll-- Hosting a party/ Being a Guest Etiquette
Posted by w8andsee
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Ive also noticed that group 1- will tell guests to take back what they brought often if there are leftovers, with group 2 this does not happen.
My family would consider this so rude and think that you didn't like what they brought.
I do ask people to take back what they may have brought. I will put everything out but there are things we just won't eat. Why let it go in the trash when others can take it home or make a plate for later?
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| Posted 9/18/18 10:25 AM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: POll-- Hosting a party/ Being a Guest Etiquette
I am usually group 1. I will always bring something to a party and will help out where I can be useful.
I do have a pet peeve about being the host and people bringing things...I hate when people bring things that are not ready to serve, like a whole watermelon that I have to now cut up and serve. Or an appetizer I have to cook and assemble. Bring something that is ready for the table or bring wine!
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| Posted 9/18/18 10:27 AM |
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Budjeg11
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Re: POll-- Hosting a party/ Being a Guest Etiquette
Posted by Pomegranate5
My mother would be mortified if she ever found out I didn't offer to bring something to a bbq/dinner party, or didn't help clean up a little (at least after myself). That, IMO, is just basic etiquette.
How much I bring and how involved I offer to get in setting up or breaking down a party depends on how close I am to the host.
The one exception to this is if I'm invited to a gift giving event, like an anniversary party, shower, etc. If I'm VERY close to the host, I will offer to contribute, but otherwise I feel that my gift is enough of a contribution.
THIS EXACTLY. AND, in my family it is also considered rude to have someone bring back leftovers of what they brought. But I can also see now that sometimes it makes sense. I still find it rude though to ask a host if you could take back what you brought if it wasnt finished lol.
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| Posted 9/18/18 10:28 AM |
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w8andsee
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Re: POll-- Hosting a party/ Being a Guest Etiquette
Posted by CookiePuss
Posted by w8andsee
Posted by Budjeg11
Ive also noticed that group 1- will tell guests to take back what they brought often if there are leftovers, with group 2 this does not happen.
My family would consider this so rude and think that you didn't like what they brought.
I do ask people to take back what they may have brought. I will put everything out but there are things we just won't eat. Why let it go in the trash when others can take it home or make a plate for later?
I don't think it's rude if you ask all your guests to take some leftovers home. We do this all the time and even save plastic take-out containers to give them so they can make a plate for themselves.
I do think its rude if I bring you a pasta salad and at the end of the night you say bye and take your pasta with you.
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| Posted 9/18/18 11:24 AM |
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b2b777
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Re: POll-- Hosting a party/ Being a Guest Etiquette
Posted by Budjeg11
Posted by Pomegranate5
My mother would be mortified if she ever found out I didn't offer to bring something to a bbq/dinner party, or didn't help clean up a little (at least after myself). That, IMO, is just basic etiquette.
How much I bring and how involved I offer to get in setting up or breaking down a party depends on how close I am to the host.
The one exception to this is if I'm invited to a gift giving event, like an anniversary party, shower, etc. If I'm VERY close to the host, I will offer to contribute, but otherwise I feel that my gift is enough of a contribution.
THIS EXACTLY. AND, in my family it is also considered rude to have someone bring back leftovers of what they brought. But I can also see now that sometimes it makes sense. I still find it rude though to ask a host if you could take back what you brought if it wasnt finished lol.
Agreed. Offering people leftovers is one thing. ASKING to take back what you brought is incredibly rude. Dont bring it then!
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| Posted 9/18/18 11:40 AM |
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SecretlyTTC14
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Re: POll-- Hosting a party/ Being a Guest Etiquette
What I bring depends on the type of party. If it's a birthday party, I usually bring a gift and nothing else. Holidays or just a friendly get together, I ask what I should bring and then I will also bring a dessert or bottle of wine in addition to that. I always offer to help or if I can see the host needs help with something, I will help without asking them.
When I host, I don't ask anyone to bring anything because I've had horrible experiences with doing that. A simple example is a friend asked what she should bring once, so I said a dessert, and she brought a half eaten dessert cause she got hungry on the way. That's just one example and not even the worst thing that has been brought to my house.
As for help, I like to clean after everyone has left, so I really HATE when someone starts loading my dishwasher for me. It forces me to clean with that person. There's nothing worse than prepping all day, serving a meal, serving dessert and then not even having a chance to sit down and talk to anyone because people insist on helping me clean up. I want to sit for a minute and enjoy a drink with my guests.
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| Posted 9/19/18 10:54 AM |
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SecretlyTTC14
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Re: POll-- Hosting a party/ Being a Guest Etiquette
Posted by b2b777
Posted by Budjeg11
Posted by Pomegranate5
My mother would be mortified if she ever found out I didn't offer to bring something to a bbq/dinner party, or didn't help clean up a little (at least after myself). That, IMO, is just basic etiquette.
How much I bring and how involved I offer to get in setting up or breaking down a party depends on how close I am to the host.
The one exception to this is if I'm invited to a gift giving event, like an anniversary party, shower, etc. If I'm VERY close to the host, I will offer to contribute, but otherwise I feel that my gift is enough of a contribution.
THIS EXACTLY. AND, in my family it is also considered rude to have someone bring back leftovers of what they brought. But I can also see now that sometimes it makes sense. I still find it rude though to ask a host if you could take back what you brought if it wasnt finished lol.
Agreed. Offering people leftovers is one thing. ASKING to take back what you brought is incredibly rude. Dont bring it then!
I agree, someone asking to bring back what they brought is the most awkward and rude thing ever! Unless it's like their gluten free, sugar free and fat-free kale slaw that they brought specifically because they don't eat anything else. In which case I insist they take it with them.
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Laura1976
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Re: POll-- Hosting a party/ Being a Guest Etiquette
Posted by busymomonli
I can be either a 1 or a 2 depending on whose home it is and if I feel comfortable enough to help clean up, etc. It's its a distant acquaintance, I'd more likely be a 2.
Same. I have noticed the majority of my friends in town are group 2 and that has caused us to severely decrease the number of parties we host.
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