Re: Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking

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Posted by starbrightgirl8

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Posted by starbrightgirl8

I know this is going to be one of the biggest parenting disagreements that my DH and I are going to have when my kids reach HS.

I never had a drink with my parents until I was 21. I never drank any alcohol in HS, and in college, I only drank at college until I was 21. My parents were not going to condone underage drinking, and they were aware of all the legal ramifications (and frequently warned other parents about the risks they were taking). I don't think it's a parents job to provide a "safe" environment for kids to drink, and I think parents have an obligation to know where their kids are so that they're not drinking outside either. I'm shocked by the parents I hear saying their drop their kids off at a party in the woods knowing there is alcohol. I realize this probably sounds sanctimonious, but I don't think there is any reason as a parent to condone or promote alcohol to my child.

My DH started drinking at like 14 with his parents knowledge. I don't think he drank at their house, but he'd drink at family parties, and I know his brother had parties in HS under the guise of providing them a "safe" environment to drink.

I think the above article proves their is no "safe" environment to drink. There is no reason to introduce alcohol to teenagers who already have poor decision making skills and may make bad decisions. I don't really have a problem with a parent giving their teenager a glass of wine with dinner, though what the point, but hosting any kind of party is just unacceptable. Do you get each parents permission for their kid to have alcohol? Other parents may assume their child is safe at your house and not be given alcohol. Are you supervising everything the kids do while drinking? What if a kid leaves? What if a kid passes out and is sexually assaulted?

All good points. Curious when you were in HS and college who were your friends and did they drink? I think its difficult for kids in HS and college to find friends that do not experiment at all. Parents of teens often say "everyone" these ages drinks.

In HS, my friends drank and smoked pot. A few went to the larger parties with alcohol. My group of friends would get together at a cabin and drink while camping out. I just didn't attend these events (and my parents never would have allowed me to go). I'd hear the stories in Monday at school about who did what stupid thing while they were drunk. I went to the cabin once when I was in college, and I can assure my HS self that I wasn't missing anything. We'd get together for plenty of other activities that didn't involve drinking.

In College, I became friends with the non-drinking crowd initially. We'd hang out in the dorm to watch movies, go into the city to concerts, etc. Slowly, my friends and I started going out occasionally to have a drink or two at the end of my freshman year. It wasn't until I was a sophomore that I started going out regularly on the weekend.

So you werent 21 when you were a freshman/sophomore?

Maybe she got left back a lot

I think she only meant she drank while at college and not at home when she was under 21.

Re: Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking

About Nassau and Suffolk Social Host Laws

"It shall be unlawful for any person over the age of eighteen who owns, rents, or otherwise controls a private residence, to knowingly allow the consumption of alcohol or alcoholic beverages by any minor on such premises or to fail to take reasonable corrective action upon
learning of the consumption of alcohol or alcoholic beverages by any minor on such premises. "

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Re: Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking

I don't feel it is my place to decide on behalf of other parents whether to allow their kids to drink. If I found out that my son's friend's parent was allowing this in their house then I would be pissed. I don't give a crap that they "are going to do it anyway." I don't buy any of it. I think it's more like parents trying to be the "cool mom" or the "friend dad."

Yeah, in high school some of my friends drank. I didn't so I was usually the designated driver. But we never drank in someone's house when the parents were home. The liability and living with the potential consequences is simply not worth it.

Re: Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking

Its illegal there should be no debate about this. Do not allow anyone under age 21, but 18 especially to drink alcohol in your home

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I allow my teens and their friends to smoke crack and have sex with hookers in my basement. I feel it's safer than having them do it in the woods somewhere.

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Re: Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking

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Posted by MC09

I allow my teens and their friends to smoke crack and have sex with hookers in my basement. I feel it's safer than having them do it in the woods somewhere.

And you provide condoms too right? this way they are safe from STD's too.

You are such a great mom!!

Re: Dix Hills Parents arrested for underage drinking