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NervousNell
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Re: meeting for drinks question
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Posted by hmm
Im confused, first it was drinks, then changed to brunch and now he's changing the plans again to Mexican? or did you meet for brunch and now its dinner
Yes, first it was drinks for Sunday at 5. Then his Sunday morning fishing plans were cancelled so he asked about Sunday brunch. Then today he asked if I'm available tonight for dinner.
I'm ok with it. We both have shared custody of kids so I imagine it's tricky working out when both are available. Plus I didn't have any plans tonight other than going to the library for more books. 
Have fun!
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Re: meeting for drinks question
Posted by Funkybutt
Posted by hmm
Im confused, first it was drinks, then changed to brunch and now he's changing the plans again to Mexican? or did you meet for brunch and now its dinner
Yes, first it was drinks for Sunday at 5. Then his Sunday morning fishing plans were cancelled so he asked about Sunday brunch. Then today he asked if I'm available tonight for dinner.
I'm ok with it. We both have shared custody of kids so I imagine it's tricky working out when both are available. Plus I didn't have any plans tonight other than going to the library for more books.
Sounds great, enjoy!!!
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| Posted 9/22/17 1:49 PM |
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PennyCat
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Re: meeting for drinks question
So funny because my first date with my DH I was 21 and hardly ever drank. I guess I led a less common college life- ha. Anyway he asked what type of wine I liked and I never had wine before so I had no clue but I didn't want to look stupid   (I now realize that thinking that at all was dumb lol). Anyway I said I drank all types and didn't have a favorite so he ordered us both Pinot Grigio. He was in the bathroom when the drinks arrived so I took a sip before he got back to be sure I liked lol!!
These days I'm a biiiig wine drinker and my DH knows the story behind our first date and we lovingly joke about it. Pinot Grigio coincidentally is my favorite.
I say be yourself and order what you like. If I'm out with a crowd and don't want to drink, I usually default to iced tea with lemonade. Sometimes I'll got for a Shirley Temple and make fun of myself for it.
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| Posted 9/22/17 1:59 PM |
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hmm
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Re: meeting for drinks question
Posted by Funkybutt
Posted by hmm
Im confused, first it was drinks, then changed to brunch and now he's changing the plans again to Mexican? or did you meet for brunch and now its dinner
Yes, first it was drinks for Sunday at 5. Then his Sunday morning fishing plans were cancelled so he asked about Sunday brunch. Then today he asked if I'm available tonight for dinner.
I'm ok with it. We both have shared custody of kids so I imagine it's tricky working out when both are available. Plus I didn't have any plans tonight other than going to the library for more books.
wow, your better person than me, I would be ok with one change in order to meet but 3 times!! kids or no kids...
Have a Fabulous time !!
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| Posted 9/22/17 4:58 PM |
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Re: meeting for drinks question
Posted by hmm
Posted by Funkybutt
Posted by hmm
Im confused, first it was drinks, then changed to brunch and now he's changing the plans again to Mexican? or did you meet for brunch and now its dinner
Yes, first it was drinks for Sunday at 5. Then his Sunday morning fishing plans were cancelled so he asked about Sunday brunch. Then today he asked if I'm available tonight for dinner.
I'm ok with it. We both have shared custody of kids so I imagine it's tricky working out when both are available. Plus I didn't have any plans tonight other than going to the library for more books.
wow, your better person than me, I would be ok with one change in order to meet but 3 times!! kids or no kids...
Have a Fabulous time !!
But he's not changing to put it off, he's changing to see each other sooner. He sounds like he's eager to meet her and not trying to get out of it.
He changed Sunday night drinks to Sunday brunch and I imagine he then thought hey maybe Friday dinner would be fun and maybe we can get together Sunday too if things work out.
I wouldn't take the changes as a negative.
Have fun!
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| Posted 9/22/17 5:30 PM |
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Funkybutt
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meeting for drinks question
So - he was nice and good conversation. Only real "negative" was that he showed up in a tshirt and cargo shorts (even though I ran home to shower and change into something nice).
We're meeting again for brunch on Sunday. Figured I'd give another meeting a chance to see how it goes. :)
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| Posted 9/22/17 10:26 PM |
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Re: meeting for drinks question
Posted by Funkybutt
So - he was nice and good conversation. Only real "negative" was that he showed up in a tshirt and cargo shorts (even though I ran home to shower and change into something nice).
We're meeting again for brunch on Sunday. Figured I'd give another meeting a chance to see how it goes. :)
Guys seem to have a "problem" with that - dressing appropriately for dates  I've had friends tell me about showing up to a first date at a nice restaurant and the guy is wearing a ratty t-shirt, crocs etc. Glad it went well - sounds like he's worth at least a second date. Enjoy!
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| Posted 9/23/17 12:26 AM |
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Re: meeting for drinks question
Posted by chilltocam
Posted by Funkybutt
So - he was nice and good conversation. Only real "negative" was that he showed up in a tshirt and cargo shorts (even though I ran home to shower and change into something nice).
We're meeting again for brunch on Sunday. Figured I'd give another meeting a chance to see how it goes. :)
Guys seem to have a "problem" with that - dressing appropriately for dates I've had friends tell me about showing up to a first date at a nice restaurant and the guy is wearing a ratty t-shirt, crocs etc. Glad it went well - sounds like he's worth at least a second date. Enjoy!
Yes, some definitely do and it drives me nuts!!! I swear men today don't know how to date. My latest ex-bf showed up for our first dinner date in a star wars t-shirt and sneakers...that's ok when your 20, not pushing 40! Glad OP had a good time!
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| Posted 9/23/17 9:44 AM |
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Re: meeting for drinks question
Posted by Funkybutt
So - he was nice and good conversation. Only real "negative" was that he showed up in a tshirt and cargo shorts (even though I ran home to shower and change into something nice).
We're meeting again for brunch on Sunday. Figured I'd give another meeting a chance to see how it goes. :)
sounds like you enjoyed your night. 
Yes, many seem to lack dressing skills
Brunch is nice, low key, relaxing time of day. Fingers crossed it leads to dinner that night :)
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| Posted 9/23/17 9:55 AM |
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Funkybutt
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meeting for drinks question
Well, he cancelled brunch. Which is ok bc I was just meh on seeing him again. Conversation was nice but no real spark.
I just joined Tinder and already have a drinks date tonight with someone else. I made sure to put not interested in hooking up in my profile bc I've had 2 conversations with guys that are polyamourous and that's not my thing. Bring on Tinder is definitely a learning experience for someone out of the dating scene for a long time!
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| Posted 9/24/17 11:47 AM |
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jame0801
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meeting for drinks question
Sorry to hear that he cancelled....wasn't meant to be. Good luck tonight!
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| Posted 9/24/17 2:25 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: meeting for drinks question
What was his excuse for cancelling brunxh?
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| Posted 9/24/17 2:59 PM |
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Re: meeting for drinks question
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What was his excuse for cancelling brunxh?
No excuse - just said he wasn't going to be able to make it. I assume that means he's not interested. I know he asked for my number at the end of the date, but I also agreed to a second and had a change of heart after a day, so it's ok if he felt the same. At least he told me and didn't make me sit there waiting for him!
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| Posted 9/24/17 3:08 PM |
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hmm
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meeting for drinks question
aww, sorry, enjoy tonights date
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| Posted 9/24/17 5:14 PM |
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Re: meeting for drinks question
Posted by hmm
aww, sorry, enjoy tonights date
He flaked on me. Said he was helping a friend and would let me know but never heard back. It's ok - I wanted to stay home to unpack anyway. :)
I just joined a bunch of meetup.com groups. I think I'd rather meet someone in person during a shared activity instead of online blind dates. :)
Thanks for all the encouragement!
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| Posted 9/24/17 6:48 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: meeting for drinks question
Posted by Funkybutt
Posted by hmm
aww, sorry, enjoy tonights date
He flaked on me. Said he was helping a friend and would let me know but never heard back. It's ok - I wanted to stay home to unpack anyway. :)
I just joined a bunch of meetup.com groups. I think I'd rather meet someone in person during a shared activity instead of online blind dates. :)
Thanks for all the encouragement!
I think you are right....you are probably better off with that kind of scene than tinder etc.
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| Posted 9/24/17 7:51 PM |
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hmm
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Re: meeting for drinks question
Posted by Funkybutt
Posted by hmm
aww, sorry, enjoy tonights date
He flaked on me. Said he was helping a friend and would let me know but never heard back. It's ok - I wanted to stay home to unpack anyway. :)
I just joined a bunch of meetup.com groups. I think I'd rather meet someone in person during a shared activity instead of online blind dates. :)
Thanks for all the encouragement!
aww, still crappy to have happen, I know all to well :(
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| Posted 9/24/17 10:00 PM |
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Re: meeting for drinks question
Posted by chilltocam
Posted by Funkybutt
So - he was nice and good conversation. Only real "negative" was that he showed up in a tshirt and cargo shorts (even though I ran home to shower and change into something nice).
We're meeting again for brunch on Sunday. Figured I'd give another meeting a chance to see how it goes. :)
Guys seem to have a "problem" with that - dressing appropriately for dates I've had friends tell me about showing up to a first date at a nice restaurant and the guy is wearing a ratty t-shirt, crocs etc. Glad it went well - sounds like he's worth at least a second date. Enjoy!
Cargo shorts and crocs would both be a deal breaker for me no matter where they showed up in them
Meetup groups is a better strategy. People are notoriously flaky on the apps. They also tend to juggle a few people and have to reschedule dates around other dates especially when you have a kid schedule to contend with. Dealing with all of that gets exhausting and annoying real fast...
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| Posted 9/25/17 11:07 AM |
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Re: meeting for drinks question
I'm in the same boat as you and as far as apps go, I've had much better success in terms of quality on Bumble. Similar concept as Tinder, but more female friendly. Sorry your date bailed but it sounds like you are getting out there which is half the battle. Good luck!
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