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So I've been back at work 3 months and just do not have the patience for my job. There are so many politicos involved it could take years to navigate through, everyone throws everyone under the bus and now it's just about a$$ kissing. I'm done, beyond done. I make very good money, my boss, for the most part is very flexible and I can come and go as I please. I have generous benefits, a lot (like 5 weeks vacation plus many sick, personal and holidays paid). My husband works for LIRR so we now have his insurance. Overall, I have seniority, a good boss, usually work my own hours. I commute 45-1 hour each way which sucks. I've recently been thinking of leaving my job to go do consulting work for various agencies on LI either a a BCBA or special ed teacher as I have my license for both. However, work can fluctuate. I like knowing I have a set pay check every 2 weeks. We depend on both incomes, I'm just so lost. I've been really struggling with postpartum depression to this day, I feel like work adds so much stress to my life I just am miserable. Does anyone do casework? I guess I'm just looking for advice

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maybe the postpartum is causing you to have less patience. Esp IF you were happy prior to having the babies. At my new job 7 months and I;m finding my company throws people under the bus, causing me to hate my job too so I understand that part. Before leaving your fulltime job and letting go of a solid paycheck, can you start consulting on the side to see how it feels and start building a company?

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Since you have a lot of flexibility with your hours would it be possible to work from home for 1-2 days a week? That might make things easier while you get help for postpartum depression.

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I started a new job earlier this year and despise it. I'm in a tough spot because there are only 2 places on LI I can work and I'm already at one of them. I will need to go back into the city if I want a new job and that adds a lot of stress on top of the current stress which isn't nothing.

Anyway, I get where you're coming from and yes, there is a chance less work would make you feel less stressed. But on the flip side of that, if you have PPD being home more might make it worse. I was never diagnosed with PPD but I struggled a lot and going to work made me feel so much better. Also if leaving your job causes financial stress there may not be much of a trade off.

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I would not jump to make any decisions. I get being in a job you hate but if you liked it before the babies I would give it time. Work was tough when I went back after my DS. I commute almost 2 hrs each way so that definitely takes its toll when you have newborns at home not sleeping etc. But over time I fell into a better routine and things that I hated at work weren't so bad when other things in my life fell back in place. I would also think the PPD is playing bigger role in your feelings then you might think.

Also freelancing it not all its cracked up to be. I did it and its a very feast or famine lifestyle and if you are not 100% stick to a budget person its not a good way of life.

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I felt similar when I went back to work after my DS. I ended up switching jobs for shorter commute/better benefits. I did consider doing contract work for agencies but was too scared of the prospect of not having a consistent paycheck and work. I interviewed with a few agencies just to explore the option and the prospect of having to build a caseload, etc. just seemed to much for me. Plus child care would have been more difficult to arrange if I wasn't working full-time. I had terrible postpartum (and still don't feel the same). I'd explore the option by going on some interviews. Might help you decide if you really see what it'd be like. I do know some people who do BCBA work for agencies, but also know many that work for schools and non for profits full time. I wish I could go get my BCBA!

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After I had my twins I hated my job but because of the commute and the BS at work. I stuck it out and stayed for 5 years. After I had my son and went back to work I knew something had to change I hated it. The commute was awful on the LIRR and I had, had enough of the BS and like you a$$ kissing. I found a job very close to home with the same benefits but just a small paycut. It has been amazing and I actually love my job now.

Don't make any decisions yet see if things change, give it some time. But you will know for sure if it is right for you. It never hurts to look around and see what the possibilities are.

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I would give it some time. I think having the flexibility and the nice vacation time is a huge plus especially when you have kids- not to mention the good salary.

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Def give it time. I hated coming to work after having my baby. There were many tears when I first returned. Its been about 5 months now and im in a much better spot then I was 2 months ago. Give it a little more time . I think the flexibility you have now is great and you may end up kicking yourself later on. I agree with a PP about trying to set up some consulting work on the side to see if you like it.

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Why not start out consulting part time. I work full time and am building my business on the side. Yes it means more time away from my family but in the long run the goal is to leave my FT job. I have flexibility like you do and I make a good salary but I would just rather be home.

I have ABA therapy for my son at home 4 days a week. I know that it was difficult to find someone who worked with my schedule and I know that other parents have the same problem. So doing that sort of work in wierd-ish hours could be in high demand.

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I would not quit until having something new lined up. I would start looking for something new. Having had a job where the office culture is what you are describing is soul sucking and terrible. Life is too short to put up with BS like that. Good luck!