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bunnyluck
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Friends 30th
Do you think $200 per person for a day trip is kind of excessive to spend for a friend's 30th? I was just invited to one, a friend of a friend is planning it and a little taken back at the cost. It includes lunch, limo, and two vineyards. If I spend $200 on all my friends' 30th birthdays I'd need a second job lolololol!
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IUIGirl
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Re: Friends 30th
That's a lot! 
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| Posted 10/19/16 11:23 AM |
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Kitten1929
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Friends 30th
For a limo/vineyard day it sounds right but I personally think those type of birthdays are such an imposition on people. Unless it was a super close friend and I had the spare cash I would probably decline.
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| Posted 10/19/16 11:24 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Friends 30th
Posted by Kitten1929
For a limo/vineyard day it sounds right but I personally think those type of birthdays are such an imposition on people. Unless it was a super close friend and I had the spare cash I would probably decline.
All this.
I would be mortified to ask my friends to spend that much. I wouldn't enjoy myself from the guilt.
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| Posted 10/19/16 11:25 AM |
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MsSissy
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Posted by Kitten1929
For a limo/vineyard day it sounds right but I personally think those type of birthdays are such an imposition on people. Unless it was a super close friend and I had the spare cash I would probably decline.
I agree with this.
Especially because I don' drink wine!
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| Posted 10/19/16 11:26 AM |
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Loveme
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Re: Friends 30th
Posted by Kitten1929
For a limo/vineyard day it sounds right but I personally think those type of birthdays are such an imposition on people. Unless it was a super close friend and I had the spare cash I would probably decline.
Same
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| Posted 10/19/16 11:41 AM |
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luvbuffet
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Re: Friends 30th
i think its tacky to ask friends to spend that kind of money. $200 pp to drink sh!tty wine... nopppppe
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| Posted 10/19/16 11:51 AM |
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Posted by Kitten1929
For a limo/vineyard day it sounds right but I personally think those type of birthdays are such an imposition on people. Unless it was a super close friend and I had the spare cash I would probably decline.
All this.
I would be mortified to ask my friends to spend that much. I wouldn't enjoy myself from the guilt.
YUP! All of this. While it sounds about right for the day, that's a lot. And I agree, unless a close friend or close family member, I'd probably decline.
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| Posted 10/19/16 11:51 AM |
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bunnyluck
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Friends 30th
Ok, I thought so but just wanted some validation. Money aside, I really can't swing it. I'm due at the end of the month and just don't see myself being fully up for such an event 4 weeks after birth. I do feel bad because it's one of my best friends but I know she'll understand.
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| Posted 10/19/16 12:28 PM |
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jlm2008
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That is insane.
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| Posted 10/19/16 12:29 PM |
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klingklang77
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Posted by bunnyluck
Ok, I thought so but just wanted some validation. Money aside, I really can't swing it. I'm due at the end of the month and just don't see myself being fully up for such an event 4 weeks after birth. I do feel bad because it's one of my best friends but I know she'll understand.
I think it's expensive, and I could never do something that costs so much money. But she may not understand. Is she married or does she have kids? I could see if someone hasn't really done these things in their life how they may want to celebrate a big birthday like that. Not that I agree with it, but I can understand.
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| Posted 10/19/16 1:43 PM |
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Leb
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Friends 30th
I guess I disagree. It's sort of paying for the experience and the memories. However not everyone can afford that or wants to. Is there a way you can meet them out there and take your own car?
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| Posted 10/19/16 1:52 PM |
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bunnyluck
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Posted by bunnyluck
Ok, I thought so but just wanted some validation. Money aside, I really can't swing it. I'm due at the end of the month and just don't see myself being fully up for such an event 4 weeks after birth. I do feel bad because it's one of my best friends but I know she'll understand.
I think it's expensive, and I could never do something that costs so much money. But she may not understand. Is she married or does she have kids? I could see if someone hasn't really done these things in their life how they may want to celebrate a big birthday like that. Not that I agree with it, but I can understand.
Yeah she has kids and is a very "reasonable" / "normal" person. I'm not really worried about it putting strain on our relationship. To be honest, she's not planning it so I'm not even sure she is aware of the costs.
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| Posted 10/19/16 2:00 PM |
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bunnyluck
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I guess I disagree. It's sort of paying for the experience and the memories. However not everyone can afford that or wants to. Is there a way you can meet them out there and take your own car?
The money really isn't stopping me, I'll have a 4 week old at the time so that's my real reason for not going. I was just curious if people thought spending $200+ for a birthday is a bit much. Normally, the 30ths and adult parties I attend are paid for by the host or are more casual dinners, drinks at a bar, happy hours, etc.
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| Posted 10/19/16 2:07 PM |
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Re: Friends 30th
Posted by bunnyluck
Posted by Leb
I guess I disagree. It's sort of paying for the experience and the memories. However not everyone can afford that or wants to. Is there a way you can meet them out there and take your own car?
The money really isn't stopping me, I'll have a 4 week old at the time so that's my real reason for not going. I was just curious if people thought spending $200+ for a birthday is a bit much. Normally, the 30ths and adult parties I attend are paid for by the host or are more casual dinners, drinks at a bar, happy hours, etc.
this..
If money isnt the issue, then just wait til it gets closer. you have a VALID excuse.
Message edited 10/19/2016 2:35:06 PM.
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| Posted 10/19/16 2:32 PM |
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Bridal parties are excessive enough.
A 30th birthday??!!
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| Posted 10/19/16 3:03 PM |
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Leb
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Re: Friends 30th
Posted by bunnyluck
Posted by Leb
I guess I disagree. It's sort of paying for the experience and the memories. However not everyone can afford that or wants to. Is there a way you can meet them out there and take your own car?
The money really isn't stopping me, I'll have a 4 week old at the time so that's my real reason for not going. I was just curious if people thought spending $200+ for a birthday is a bit much. Normally, the 30ths and adult parties I attend are paid for by the host or are more casual dinners, drinks at a bar, happy hours, etc.
Oh I totally missed that part. If you have a 4 week old I think that's a great excuse to not go if you don't feel like it and I wouldn't blame you one bit. At 4 weeks pp I was still out of it and my privates still hurt a little lol.
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For all day I don't think it's a bad price
Some people
Celebrate big ,some don't. I don't think either is wrong or tacky
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| Posted 10/19/16 6:02 PM |
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MichLiz213
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Friends 30th
My friend did this, but it was a gift from her husband and parents. They paid for our day out (which was incredibly generous of them). I wouldn't be able to afford it either.
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| Posted 10/19/16 7:49 PM |
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Adri
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I think it is a lot to ask for others to celebrate your birthday. If it is a special friend, I like the plan, have the money, and the circumstances work, I'd do it. Otherwise I'd pass.
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| Posted 10/19/16 8:45 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Friends 30th
Posted by luvbuffet
i think its tacky to ask friends to spend that kind of money. $200 pp to drink sh!tty wine... nopppppe
Lol. Nopeeeeeee!
And I agree. LI wine is really not good. At all.
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| Posted 10/19/16 9:19 PM |
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LuckyStar
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Friends 30th
It's a lot. I'd go, but not if I had a 4 week old at home.
Actually, who am I kidding, I needed wine more than ever when I had a 4 week old at home.
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| Posted 10/19/16 9:48 PM |
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Bridex100
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I personally would not want to take a limo to a vineyard for $200. Many of my friends do spa/brunch birthday celebrations and that costs $200+. It totally depends on what you like to do....
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| Posted 10/20/16 9:36 AM |
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chilltocam
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Friends 30th
I don't think it's a lot of $$ for the actual trip/experience, but it's a lot of money to expect your friends to lay out for your birthday - ridiculous in my opinion for any adult to expect that from their friends. If a group of friends decides, "hey, lets do this together" and anyone who want to do it - great. But to say, "hey, it'll cost $200 to celebrate X's birthday" - nope. That's pretty ballsy
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| Posted 10/20/16 12:25 PM |
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