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clotheshorse
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Guest list for shower-WWYD?
My mother asked us to put a potential guest list together at some point so we are not putting it together last minute. I was contemplating on whether or not to invite DH's best friend's wife. here's why:
She and I get along but at the time of their wedding, we ran into issues which I had thought were resolved, but then I was excluded from the bachelorette party after I was told I was invited. No plans were set but she said to me, "get ready." Never heard anything about it. DH was annoyed bc we included both of them in all our wedding events plus I was making myself available for this only to not Score an invite. DH's friend claims to not have known who was included but whatever. Now I was invited to her baby shower & went but don't know what do do here.
Since we really haven't been all that close, I don't feel the need to invite her but DH's other friends who's spouses will be invited may mention it in the open. I don't like playing tit for tat but I remember these things and she & I aren't all that close. Wwyd? Invite her or not?
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BriBri2u
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Guest list for shower-WWYD?
If you are planning on inviting the wives of friends who are in the same circle you have to invite her as well.
Leave it up to her to decide if she wants to come. At least you played fair.
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| Posted 10/3/13 9:27 AM |
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lucky1007
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Re: Guest list for shower-WWYD?
if she invited you to her her shower and all DH's other friends are invited, I think it would cause more drama to not invite her.
I would just invite her.
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| Posted 10/3/13 9:28 AM |
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rsquared
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Re: Guest list for shower-WWYD?
Posted by BriBri2u
If you are planning on inviting the wives of friends who are in the same circle you have to invite her as well.
Leave it up to her to decide if she wants to come. At least you played fair.
I agree. Kill her with kindness, be the bigger person, whatever you want to call it. 
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| Posted 10/3/13 9:32 AM |
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2010inHiding
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Re: Guest list for shower-WWYD?
if its your DH's best friend's spouse, i would invite her. she can decide whether to come or not. but just send the invite.
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| Posted 10/3/13 9:33 AM |
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clotheshorse
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Re: Guest list for shower-WWYD?
I see ladies. It's just that we don't even speak so I partially felt funny considering inviting her. It will work out.
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| Posted 10/3/13 9:42 AM |
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mrscupcake
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Re: Guest list for shower-WWYD?
After having been through this in the past, and maybe i just hate when people aren't nice or play games, I wouldn't invite her. There comes a point when you shouldn't feel obligated to invite anyone! My rule for my baby shower was i only wanted people there who I speak to (or are close with our moms, family wise), have shown an interest in my baby, and will be in my baby's life. JMO :)
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| Posted 10/3/13 9:53 AM |
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JME78
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Re: Guest list for shower-WWYD?
Posted by clotheshorse
I see ladies. It's just that we don't even speak so I partially felt funny considering inviting her. It will work out.
I am not having a shower but I wouldn't invite someone I don't speak with.
Its a baby shower - not a wedding. Just invite people you like and want there!
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| Posted 10/3/13 10:15 AM |
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KroertGS
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Guest list for shower-WWYD?
I wouldn't invite her.
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| Posted 10/8/13 3:45 PM |
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Aly764
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Guest list for shower-WWYD?
It's funny how she didnt invite you to the fun girls night out bachelorette party but invited you to the event where you bring a gift... I know people like that too!
For that reason, I would invite her. You will be mingling and seeing everyone so it's not like you have to spend a lot of time with her, plus you get a gift out of it!!
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| Posted 10/8/13 4:19 PM |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Guest list for shower-WWYD?
Invite her.
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| Posted 10/9/13 9:21 AM |
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clotheshorse
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Re: Guest list for shower-WWYD?
Posted by Aly764
It's funny how she didnt invite you to the fun girls night out bachelorette party but invited you to the event where you bring a gift... I know people like that too!
For that reason, I would invite her. You will be mingling and seeing everyone so it's not like you have to spend a lot of time with her, plus you get a gift out of it!!
I get where you're coming from. DH did confront her DH about it. When I was selling tupperware, she even hosted a party for me so I don't know why she blows hot & cold. When I went to her showers, I just didn't go all out on the gifts.
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| Posted 10/9/13 9:41 AM |
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LI2VA
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Guest list for shower-WWYD?
Showers are about having the people closest to you celebrate your new baby. That being said...I would not send an invite.
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| Posted 10/9/13 10:18 AM |
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walkintomymind
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Re: Guest list for shower-WWYD?
I would invite her. She can say no.
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| Posted 10/9/13 10:41 AM |
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Maestra821
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Guest list for shower-WWYD?
Invite her for your DH best friend
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| Posted 10/15/13 7:05 AM |
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clotheshorse
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Re: Guest list for shower-WWYD?
Yeah, this is a tough one. Part of me wants to be the bigger person, other part just wants to forget about her.
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| Posted 10/15/13 9:32 AM |
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JennyPenny
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Guest list for shower-WWYD?
Invite her.
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| Posted 10/15/13 12:07 PM |
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JBaby
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Re: Guest list for shower-WWYD?
I would invite her. I don't want any negativity or ppl talking behind my back when pregnant. I'm very superstitious about karma or the evil eye or whatnot... Why give ppl a reason to be negative especially in regards to smt that has to do with the actual pregnancy. Be the bigger person and forget her. If she doesn't want to come it'll be her choice now!
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| Posted 10/15/13 12:39 PM |
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clotheshorse
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Re: Guest list for shower-WWYD?
Posted by JBaby
I would invite her. I don't want any negativity or ppl talking behind my back when pregnant. I'm very superstitious about karma or the evil eye or whatnot... Why give ppl a reason to be negative especially in regards to smt that has to do with the actual pregnancy. Be the bigger person and forget her. If she doesn't want to come it'll be her choice now!
I never thought of it that way. You're right. I guess she didn't think if it at the time either. For her shower, I even had a conflict that day but I still went because it was the right thing to do. Plus, I didn't want to make my DH uncomfortable thinking his friend & her may read too much into it if I didn't attend.
The kicker there is that I had to catch a ferry to Fire Island for a bachelorette party that same day & she knew about it. Haha. She appreciated my efforts & even told me to have a drink for her.
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| Posted 10/15/13 2:02 PM |
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Maybe-Baybe
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Re: Guest list for shower-WWYD?
Posted by BriBri2u
If you are planning on inviting the wives of friends who are in the same circle you have to invite her as well.
Leave it up to her to decide if she wants to come. At least you played fair.
Agreed.
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