hosptial visitors

Anyone else not want anyone besides immediate family up at the hospital to visit them?

This is baby #4 for us and with the others I didn't care who came up there to visit. But with how crappy i've felt throughout this whole pregnancy I just want to be able to relax and rest in the hospital enough so I am useful to my family when I get home.

Anyone else feel like this?

And is there any nice way I can tell everyone that says they want to be the first ones up there to meet him that they should just stay home and wait?

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No...this will be our first so maybe I feel different. If friends want to take time out of their day to come visit me at the hospital, I would be happy.

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My son was born on thanksgiving & there was so many ppl in my room visiting even b4 he was brought in.i was tired & bummed i missed the best meal of the yr! I just wantd me my baby his dad & a turkey dinner. If you have a plan then stick with it & just tell ppl they can visit when your home..just remember it can get lonely esp if ur therr after c -section. Good luck

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with #1 ds I was really out of it when people rushed into the recovery room... then ds was in the nicu... I didn't crave visitors, just wanted to see ds in nicu... I was happy when bil's gf visted me on her own - because then I didn't feel like I was entertaining a crowd...

with #2 dd... I honestly only wanted dh & ds. Luckily dh family had to watch ds for labor and I wasn't talking to my family so we didn't have visitors in the recovery room(which was extra nice cause #2 wasn't whisked away to nicu) At that point I was so happy I relaxed more on the idea of visitors in regular room... still had visitors in the regular room and after they left I I felt sooooooooo much more exhausted because I had just been taking care of #2( and was excited she didn't go into nicu) and wanted to give attention to #1 when he visited(which was the same time as everyone else) and I had to hold off on BF because I didn't want everyone standing on the other side of the curtain waiting for me to finish and was close to visiting hours ending....... arghhhhh.

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Dear friends,

I know you are all anxiously awaiting the arrival of our new little one. We can't wait to meet him/her.

I know I risk offending some with this request, but please wait until me and the baby are safely home before visiting. This has been a very difficult pregnancy this time around, and I need to rest up as much as possible before heading home to my family of 6!

Much love to all of you as we count the days/hours/minutes until she/he is here.

Love,
Me

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No, I know my family and friends are practically as excited to be a part of this baby's life as we are. I want them to share in the love and excitement from the beginning and if I am not feeling great, I know they will only be trying to help and do what they can to make me comfortable and help our new family.

Message edited 11/2/2012 4:29:21 PM.

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Yes but also because this is #4 for me as well. With #2, it was non stop visitors. My DH never spent time together because he was back and forth transporting this family to from the hospital. We never got a chance to enjoy our newborn during her first few hours. It was insane and I was so tired, that all I wanted was to sleep.

With #3, I told my husband that I wanted him by my side at all time and that I did not want any visitors at the hospital. I was so glad that we were able to enjoy our baby together and I got rest.

With this one, I'm following the same plan. They can meet the baby at my house.

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No I could understand. After my twins were born I felt awful. I had told people that I was ok with visitors and wish I hadn't . I felt like crap, couldn't even see my babies in the Nicu because I had a fever and everyone was getting to see the babies before me and I was miserable!

So now if a friend has a baby I always text her or her dh after the baby is born to make sure they are up for visitors..saying I won't be offended if you would rather me wait until you are home and settled.

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I like the scripted verse above.... could also add - We'll send another email out as soon as we are ready to start having visitors at home.(if your planning to wait like a week or not sure how long)

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I'm having baby 2 this time around and our parents are putting the word out to extended family and well tell our friends that we are limiting it to immediate family only this time. I had a rough experience last time, my aunt brought her 2 year old twins to the hospital and a day later one of them had a 104 fever for two weeks. I was petrified that it some how spread to the baby. It wasn't worth the anxiety. This time the baby will be born in the height of flu season, so I'm just going to try and limit it to family only.

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i understand what you mean...but maybe everyone can just visit your new baby and see him/her in the window of the nursery if they really want to visit and request for them NOT to see you in your room because you are resting...the only reason i say this is because, if you wait until everyone comes to your house to meet the baby you will #1: have people in and out of your house and you dont want to entertain once you are at home relaxing with your baby and the rest of your family #2 you do not want people holding your newborn with all the germs and stuff esp this time of year, you know your baby will end up being passed around for everyone to hold in your home more than if they visitited for a little while at the hospital #3 there are set hours for visiting at the hospital, which means less time for them to be around....just a few points you may not have thought of, i feel like you will be more relaxed letting people come to the hospital rather than your home...you can have people come to meet your new baby when you are ready