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JDubs
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Re: anyone tired of being judged/chastised over what they are doing regarding their lo
Like others have said, you just have to ignore stupid comments, and do what you think is the best for you and your baby.... I get the whole FF backlash since I am choosing to FF.... in fact, one random person where work (who I don't know, she is some random lady that works down the hallway) asked me in the bathroom straight out if I was nursing..... not that its any of her business anyway but I told her no and she made a face... I just brushed it off... its your decision what you choose to do and don't let anyone make you feel bad about it. 
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Melmel821
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Re: anyone tired of being judged/chastised over what they are doing regarding their lo
I know how you feel.
It's worse when the judgements are contradictory and just leave you confused.
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| Posted 7/31/12 3:02 PM |
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BeachGrl
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anyone tired of being judged/chastised over what they are doing regarding their lo
I have to say, after reading the breastfeeding/formula thread about Bloomberg on the parenting board yesterday, I felt the same exact way as you. I will be FF bc of a medication I have to take and it made me feel really crappy about myself.
Not bc I don't think my baby will get the proper nutrients bc I know he or she will, but bc of the judgements from others. They were acting like they were better mothers bc they BF and that was upsetting to read
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| Posted 7/31/12 3:15 PM |
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Melmel821
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Re: anyone tired of being judged/chastised over what they are doing regarding their lo
Posted by BeachGrl
I have to say, after reading the breastfeeding/formula thread about Bloomberg on the parenting board yesterday, I felt the same exact way as you. I will be FF bc of a medication I have to take and it made me feel really crappy about myself.
Not bc I don't think my baby will get the proper nutrients bc I know he or she will, but bc of the judgements from others. They were acting like they were better mothers bc they BF and that was upsetting to read
Exactly! I'm meeting with my doctor to go over medication treatment. She says that I can still BF but I may decide to FF instead. It's a difficult decision to make inthe first place and I don't need to feel bad about making a decision for my family.
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| Posted 7/31/12 4:14 PM |
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TheDivineMrsM
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Re: anyone tired of being judged/chastised over what they are doing regarding their lo
Posted by BeachGrl
I have to say, after reading the breastfeeding/formula thread about Bloomberg on the parenting board yesterday, I felt the same exact way as you. I will be FF bc of a medication I have to take and it made me feel really crappy about myself.
You need to get and stay healthy so you can take care of yourself and new baby.
FTR, I BFed my daughter and plan to for this baby as well. I'm a big believer in supporting BFing mamas, b/c without the other BFing moms I knew, I never would've made it. I chose BFing b/c it was the best choice for ME and for MY family. What works for someone else might be totally different. Make the best decision possible with the best information you can find, and go from there.
edited b/c preggo brain is affecting my spelling 
Message edited 7/31/2012 7:59:30 PM.
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CarolAnn721
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Re: anyone tired of being judged/chastised over what they are doing regarding their lo
Tell everyone to back the eff up and go bang a goat
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| Posted 7/31/12 8:19 PM |
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Re: anyone tired of being judged/chastised over what they are doing regarding their lo
Posted by Melmel821
Posted by BeachGrl
I have to say, after reading the breastfeeding/formula thread about Bloomberg on the parenting board yesterday, I felt the same exact way as you. I will be FF bc of a medication I have to take and it made me feel really crappy about myself.
Not bc I don't think my baby will get the proper nutrients bc I know he or she will, but bc of the judgements from others. They were acting like they were better mothers bc they BF and that was upsetting to read
Exactly! I'm meeting with my doctor to go over medication treatment. She says that I can still BF but I may decide to FF instead. It's a difficult decision to make inthe first place and I don't need to feel bad about making a decision for my family.
Some things you just have to let go of. I was and am a part of that thread, and if I made you feel bad I am truly sorry. There will always be some ass hat that feels the need to be "the best". I am very passionate about bfing support, but I also understand not everyone wants to or can. You have to do what is best for YOU! You are no good to your child if you are sick! Please don't let that thread or any bf/ff threads make you feel bad. LIF Parenting is NOT a realistic view of the world as a whole.
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| Posted 7/31/12 8:53 PM |
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My4GirlsMyLife
My 4 girlies
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Re: anyone tired of being judged/chastised over what they are doing regarding their lo
Posted by babsbeark
You will eventually get the mentality that I have and that is screw everyone else it's my life no one lives it but me.
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| Posted 8/1/12 1:45 AM |
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butterfly20
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anyone tired of being judged/chastised over what they are doing regarding their lo
sometimes its annoying BUT.....remember...... my child my rules....
If you believe strongly in your rules you won't be so bothered by other peoples differing opinion.
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| Posted 8/1/12 7:52 AM |
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BeachMom
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Re: anyone tired of being judged/chastised over what they are doing regarding their lo
That's the big down side to LIF. There are some people, not the majority of us here, who feel the need to try to force their own personal opinions on everyone else. In the end it's your choice, your body, your child, and you do what you think is best and don't let any one let you feel bad for it!
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| Posted 8/1/12 9:06 AM |
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Paramount
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Re: anyone tired of being judged/chastised over what they are doing regarding their lo
Posted by BeachGrl
I have to say, after reading the breastfeeding/formula thread about Bloomberg on the parenting board yesterday, I felt the same exact way as you. I will be FF bc of a medication I have to take and it made me feel really crappy about myself.
Please don't feel crappy! Don't let someone else's opinion of what THEY think you should do make you feel bad.
Formula is a good choice for you. There is nothing to feel crappy about.
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MrsKelly
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Re: anyone tired of being judged/chastised over what they are doing regarding their lo
I totally get it. Im choosing to FF - not bc of a medical condition or anything else... just bc thats what i want/am choosing to do - and the judgement is unreal.
i had a GUY at work go on a rant of why bf is better and completely made me feel inferior as a mom bc of my choice. I just said "im pretty sure its a PERSONAL choice " and left it at that - but i was on the verge of tears.
i dont understand why anyone thinks its their place to talk down to someone for their choices. To shove their opinion down someone else's throat. Judgement/opinions are human nature but people seriously need to keep it to themselves unless asked... and even when asked, remember that others are different and it doesn't make it wrong.
I have a family member who is very "her way or no way".
its hard to swallow but i just try to remember im making the right decisions for ME, doing the best i can and hold my head high knowing this.
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