Please confirm that Im not being oversensitive..

About my miscarriage..basically a chemical..I only told 2 close friends and also 1 close older lady co-worker and finally told my boss who i am very close with outside of work in addition to being my boss. It wasn't that long ago at all and she says at the beginning of this week, you know, its the best feeling ever feeling a baby inside of you. I just stared at her and said oh yeah as my eyes started to fill with tears and I had to look away at my computer. 1 Day later, i wore a loose top and she goes, is that a maternity top? I said, No, its not! with a little attitude. Then 10 minutes later, she said, you sure you arent preggers and I raised my voice and I was like YEAH IM SURE!! The day after, she said so how do you know you arent? I finally had to say, because I ***** take a test everyday and I want to be so you are upsetting me.

Was I wrong to get upset? How could a person do this and not think of how hurtful it is!!!

Was I being oversensitive? Honestly???

Message edited 3/17/2012 6:36:59 PM.

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Are you KIDDING ME!? You are NOT be oversensitive at all!! She's being completely insensitive to what you went through. I am so sorry you have to listen to those comments If you're that close to her and she continues please speak up for yourself and tell her that she's really upsetting you. A good friend would stop!!!

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Wait, this is the same person u just told u m/c??? What the f*#$ for real. youre not being sensitive at all, she's lacking compassion /sensitivity. I'd feel the same way as you do and i would not have even kept my composure past her second comment. "How do i know im not pregnant, bc i just miscarried u a*hole". Omg people are sooo self absorbed and ignorant, its amazing. Im sorry

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no, not at all. as i age i am finding that people really are missing sensitivity chips!

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People s*ck. I'm sorry

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Posted by missfabulous

Are you KIDDING ME!? You are NOT be oversensitive at all!! She's being completely insensitive to what you went through. I am so sorry you have to listen to those comments If you're that close to her and she continues please speak up for yourself and tell her that she's really upsetting you. A good friend would stop!!!

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Honestly, it sounds more than insensitivity, it is more likely that this person trying to one up you. Since she has a child it seems that she is using it to feel superior. She probably keeps asking you because she wants to compete. I had a friend do something similar. She knew I was trying to get pregnant, so she started sending me weekly text messages regarding the progress of her fetus. I basically told her no thanks, and stopped bothering with her.

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okay at least i know i am not crazy! thank you so much for suport!

actually shes older, i mean shes in hter 60s and shes like a mother to me and a very good person but defintely doesnt have a filter ever but i still thought with this it would be okay to tell her because regardless of her no filter mouth, i thought she would be really sensitive towards this considering she is like a mother figure to me, she has a daughter of her own who is only 2 years older than me and she herself also had a mc when she was ttc. well anyway, thank you guys again, now i know i can own my emotions with this and not feel bad. i think (hopefully) she will stop after i told her she was upsetting me.

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Wow you weren't being too sensitive at all, this person was wayyyy overbearing!!

If she said that to me I'd be like .. well gee I hope I'm pregnant, considering that would save a ton in surrogacy fees that I already paid a portion of People are dumb.