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pnbplus1
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What would you make of this? Neighbor related
We share a fence with one of our neighbors. The fence has 2 "good" sides but the fence is theirs. Hurricance Irene blew one panel of the fence down. Neighbors submitted this as part of their claim, but really you just need to nail it back up.
Anyway, neighbor sees me and says, a version of the following:
oh, we are replacing this side of the fence. Just letting you know in case you wanted to coordinate and use our same contractor and maybe coordinate the style
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Ohhh, yeah, thanks for thinking of us but we don't have plans on putting up a fence (all 3 of our fenced sides happen to be some neighbors' fence - other side, house behind us, etc). I go on to say that we aren't looking to do big projects as we don't expect to be in our house for many years (go on to explain that we bought thinking we'd be here 5 years - 2 down already).
So, why would my neighbor say we can coordinate and use the same contractor, or coordinate fence styles?
Don't get it. Can someone help me understand this? Me and DH think maybe she wanted to say that we could split the cost of that side of the fence, not sure though since I was confused by the entire interaction. If so, why didn't she just say that?
as an FYI, these neighbors are a bit peculiar. I can't put my finger on it. They invited us to their kids' bday but yet we NEVER see them bc they rarely leave their house on weekends.
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Posted 10/26/11 4:01 PM  |
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Re: What would you make of this? Neighbor related
Hmm...what was her reaction when you responded?
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| Posted 10/26/11 4:16 PM |
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fdnywife
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Re: What would you make of this? Neighbor related
Maybe she didnt know how to ask you to split it? IMO if there is ONE fence separating property its nice to split it if possible.
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| Posted 10/26/11 6:24 PM |
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Goobster
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Re: What would you make of this? Neighbor related
Eh. Too bad IMO. If they want the fence and you had no plans to put one in, let them put up what they want and pay for it.
I am not into this splitting costs of fence stuff. If someone wants a fence, its up to them to pay. JMO
I just put up loads of fencing, very $$$> I would never dare to ask my neighbors to split etc. They are benefitting from what I paid for, and that's fine by me. It was my choice. If they wanted a fence, they would have done it years ago.
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| Posted 10/26/11 9:53 PM |
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Mrs213
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Re: What would you make of this? Neighbor related
Posted by Goobster
Eh. Too bad IMO. If they want the fence and you had no plans to put one in, let them put up what they want and pay for it.
I am not into this splitting costs of fence stuff. If someone wants a fence, its up to them to pay. JMO
I just put up loads of fencing, very $$$> I would never dare to ask my neighbors to split etc. They are benefitting from what I paid for, and that's fine by me. It was my choice. If they wanted a fence, they would have done it years ago.
I agree
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| Posted 10/27/11 12:14 AM |
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JDubs
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Re: What would you make of this? Neighbor related
sounds like to me they are trying to ask you to split the cost with them..
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| Posted 10/27/11 7:34 AM |
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JennZ
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Re: What would you make of this? Neighbor related
Posted by Goobster
Eh. Too bad IMO. If they want the fence and you had no plans to put one in, let them put up what they want and pay for it.
I am not into this splitting costs of fence stuff. If someone wants a fence, its up to them to pay. JMO
I just put up loads of fencing, very $$$> I would never dare to ask my neighbors to split etc. They are benefitting from what I paid for, and that's fine by me. It was my choice. If they wanted a fence, they would have done it years ago.
This. Any my neighbors benefit from my beautiful grass, should they pay half my landscaper bill? No.
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| Posted 10/27/11 8:19 AM |
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LiveItUp
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Re: What would you make of this? Neighbor related
If you really don't care whether you have a fence or not, then you shouldn't have to split the cost with them. Maybe she was just offering to be polite. She might have thought you and your DH would have a preference on the type of fence, or wanted to add to the fencing going around your property. It would make sense if you were in the market for a fence to just split the cost, but since you're not, I think it's okay to either just let it go or next time you see her tell her thanks, but you don't have interest in a fence.
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| Posted 10/27/11 11:18 AM |
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pnbplus1
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Re: What would you make of this? Neighbor related
Posted by LadyBugN2Buggies
Hmm...what was her reaction when you responded?
She was just looking at me. The whole thing was weird. She was like "ok."
I'm still confused. I don't understand why they don't just nail the panel that fell back up but whatever.
Thanks everyone for sharing your take on the conversation.
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| Posted 10/27/11 2:11 PM |
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Diana712
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Re: What would you make of this? Neighbor related
When I first moved in my house my DH ripped up a fence that was ours .. It was an ugly chain link fence,, My neighbor had kids and wanted to put one back up.. We were not ready to do the whole fence thing so they put it up on there end.. I think they expected my dh to split it but we were waiting to put up a complete fence and it took us a little longer to come up with the money after we just bought our house and a fence was far from a priority.. I did argue with dh for not leaving the ugly one because I felt bad for the neighbors. I have mixed feelings about it .. we have never been friendly with them and I suppose it has to do with that.. I dont think you need to be involved with the fence at all..
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| Posted 10/27/11 2:40 PM |
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Re: What would you make of this? Neighbor related
Posted by fdnywife
Maybe she didnt know how to ask you to split it? IMO if there is ONE fence separating property its nice to split it if possible.
Agree.
We fenced our entire yard - Which fenced my neighbors entire back property. They very nicely waited 6 months after we put our fence up to connect their fence to ours. So basically we paid for half their fence.
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| Posted 10/27/11 4:40 PM |
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Re: What would you make of this? Neighbor related
Posted by JRG71
Posted by fdnywife
Maybe she didnt know how to ask you to split it? IMO if there is ONE fence separating property its nice to split it if possible.
Agree.
We fenced our entire yard - Which fenced my neighbors entire back property. They very nicely waited 6 months after we put our fence up to connect their fence to ours. So basically we paid for half their fence.
who knows how it actually happened, but let me throw out one scenerio. you did your yard, not sure if you asked about splitting but lets say you did and they said no. they weren't interested in a new fence, and were fine with things as is.
after your fence is done, they have it there for a while, and wife turns to the husband, and says, their fence looks great, our yard looks like crap on the other 3 sides, we should do something about this.
or, let them pay to put up the fence, and we'll hoook up to it later and pay less.
my neighbors put up a white fence on one side of my last house. they didn't ask, but it they did I would have not chipped in. There was a chain link fence there that my house's former owner put up, apparently on their property. I had plenty of other priorities at the time and a bunch of backyard that would need to be done to match theirs.
to the OP, should could have been fishing for you to offer to chip in to fix, or should could have just been telling you, that if you want yours done now, this is our guy.
not sure from a weirdness point of view, but when my neighbors think about getting something done, or we're talking about X, I always offer up the good contractors I know when I know a good guy who does that. Both to help the neighbor out (good job good price) and to help the contractor who did a good job for me, and I feel that they deserve the free advertising. My mason has done 2/3s of the driveways and stoops on my block through word of mouth, mostly before we moved there.
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| Posted 10/28/11 10:09 AM |
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