Wedding Dilema....

so I am a bridesmaid in a friends wedding this coming weeking...this also coincides with my ovulation...we were going to do an IUI on the day of ovulation....now if the timing stinks it will be saturday...my dilema is what do I do? The bride wants me at her house between 7:45 and 8AM and its in Staten Island....I called RSOFNY and they said the earliest I could come in on Saturday is 7AM plus another hour to process so the earliest I would be finished is around 8:30AM and then I wouldnt get to Staten Island until around 9:30AM. We are getting our hair & makeup done at a salon and based on her wedding timeline I am starting at 9AM....what should I do? We have not told anyone we are TTC...this is one of the most important times of her life and I dont want to be selfish but this is really important and I dont want to have "wasted" a month.

I really dont know what to do...I am trying to prepare for the worst case scenario.. It would be perfect if I ovulate Friday or Sunday.

Any advice???

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IMO i would tell her you have a very important Dr. appt. and you will be a half hour late (9:30). She has other bridesmaides i assume, so she should be fine. Photo's are taken after hair is done anyways so it's not like you're missing anything. kwim?! I hope it all works out!

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This is tough. As a newly wed I know the little quirks of the day (like someone being late) really mean nothing. But I think I would have been hurt if one of my girls was late. I mean you get one day of your life that is supposed to be all about you, and you can't be sure you will only be a little late.

Sorry I can't tell you to just go ahead and do it like I'm sure a lot of the ladies on here will.

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I would lie and say I got stuck behind an accident and there was tons of traffic and apologize like crazy.

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Can you request to be the last bridesmaid to get worked on? Maybe there are others who could go ahead of you?

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I know both sides since we got married a couple of yrs ago and I made sure that my BP stayed with me the night before to avoid any issues with lateness...I am generally on time or early for things and since the wedding isnt even till the afternoon I didnt think it would be a big deal to switch and make my hair & makeup person do it a little later...she totally understood that I will be there the latest at 9:30...I am confirming that I can get an appt. at 7AM so I will be out of there around 8:15...if I cant get an early appt. then I will just hope that I dont O on saturday and if I do we will just do TI that day...I dont want to be that late.

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hmm thats really tough. i would tell her you have an important dr appointment that morning and you cant make it til around 930 and ask if there is anyway you can be the last for hair & makeup etc. but be prepared for her to say no in which case you may have to just miss this month...is that an option?
i would NOT lie, or come up with any other excuses. she may be ok with you being last and then you have nothing to worry about. but she may stress over it or the salan may be booked and not able to give you a alter appointment. unfortunately i am of the thought that you agreed to be part of this wedding and you knew the date...you have to be there for her when she wants you. as you said, you had your bp spend the night before with you to avoid this problem.
its tough
lets just hope you ovulate friday!!!!

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Can you skip the IUI and just do TI instead? I know the chances will diminish slightly but then the month won't be wasted.

I go to the RSofNY (Mineola office) and I have found sometimes they can run late (or on early...its a crapshoot).

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You know what I think that if I ovulate on saturday we will just have TI....I dont want to have the potential to be late and screw up someones wedding day schedule...I hope that I dont O on saturday but if it does I will deal with it so it doesnt affect her day.

Thanks for advice...

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hmm this is a toughie. As a newlywed, I know how important it was for me to have all of my girls there on time with me. Buttt, I do know how you feel about not wanting to waste a month bc this could be THE month for you. I would just explain to her everything you explained to us. The fact that you are willing to take the earliest appointment, and rushing to her afterwards shows that you are making every effort possible. Hoping it happens on Friday

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Maybe pretend you had diarrhea

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what a toughie! I know you don't want to do anything to let your friend down on her wedding day, but if it's only a matter of getting there a half hour or so later than your scheduled hair and makeup time, maybe you could work something out? The easiest way would probably be to tell your friend you're ttc and ask her to make your hair time slot the last one to give you enough time to get there. But if you don't feel comfortable telling your friend you're ttc, would she be understanding if you told her you have an emergency dr. appt first thing that morning and that you will be at the salon as soon as you're done? I know you don't want to lie, but maybe you could make up a benign reason for having to see a dr. that would have to be addressed ASAP, like a UTI or some type of infection that would need antibiotics so that you could start to "feel better" by the time of the wedding? Good luck!