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ItsTime2011
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**QOTD 6/29/11**
Okay ladies time to get serious...(and obviously I understand if this is too sensitive a subject for some to speak about)
I know as we all go through our various TTC journeys and trials and tribulations, we are also forced to think about What if? What if we can't have children? What if it just doesn't work? What are we willing to do to have children? When do we say when?
I know there are many women on here who are going through IUI's and IVF and the many other hoops that we have to jump through to achieve the great gift of bringing another life(lives) into this world.
My question is - Do you know if you have any limits? Have you and your DH (SO) discussed the what if? How about adoption?
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At this point in our journey DH and I have discussed what our limits are at this time. Right now we do not have the insurance coverage or money saved up for anything more than natural conception. So IUI or IVFs are not an option for us. When DH finds a more stable job situation we will revisit it then and see where we are. As for adoption, I am still on the fence about it.
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Re: **QOTD 6/29/11**
DH and I have a "whatever it takes" approach, but there are limitations to that. We are trying best we can to conceive on our own, but that has been a stuggle. Luckily, DH has very good health coverage when it comes to infertility. We tried for 6 months with DD#1 and conceived through IUI. Happily, I got pg on the first one. If I am not pg this month, we will most likely be headed down that road again. I don't think I would have the strength for IVF. Although adoption is a wonderful thing and people who adopt are wonderful, that is not something that is for us.
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| Posted 6/29/11 8:24 AM |
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july4mrsO
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Re: **QOTD 6/29/11**
If money were no object, I would want to do whatever it takes. But since money is unfortunately a factor if you have trouble conceiving naturally, I'm not sure if IUI/IVF would be an option for us right now. I would LOVE to adopt but that's probably even more expensive. So right now I'm just hoping we can conceive naturally 
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| Posted 6/29/11 8:39 AM |
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caps612
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Re: **QOTD 6/29/11**
Medically I would do whatever it takes within reason and without breaking the bank and causing stress that would put a strain on our relationship. If you don't have a strong marriage you can't be a strong family as a whole. I watch my cousin's wife go through countless miscarriages and procedures and all they cared about was having a kid. they finally did, she is 3, they hate each other, are getting divorced and both trying to get the kid to hate the other one. Was that all worth it? Don't get me wrong, i know they could never picture life without her, but its so sad.
We have discussed if we would adopt if we could not have a child and both agree we would not. I have so much admiration and respect for people who do, but I personally don't think I could. We said if we could never have a child we would spoil our nieces and nephew and the other children we love so much in our lives and enjoy vacations and the other perks of not having children (even tho I am sure it would take time to accept that).
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| Posted 6/29/11 9:48 AM |
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ItsTime2011
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Re: **QOTD 6/29/11**
Posted by caps612
I watch my cousin's wife go through countless miscarriages and procedures and all they cared about was having a kid. they finally did, she is 3, they hate each other, are getting divorced and both trying to get the kid to hate the other one. Was that all worth it? Don't get me wrong, i know they could never picture life without her, but its so sad.
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These are the things I worry about. Through all of this I am trying to make sure that DH and I continue to work on our marriage. Date nights (that don't involve the babymaking at the end) and staying involved in things we both love to do, so that we know we survive as a couple whether there are children or not.
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| Posted 6/29/11 11:02 AM |
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HoneySweet
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Re: **QOTD 6/29/11**
I think I would be ok with IVF if necessary. Dont know that I could adopt.
Also, I dont think I could use and egg or sperm donor or ever use a surrogate.
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| Posted 6/29/11 12:36 PM |
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WannaBeAMom11
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Re: **QOTD 6/29/11**
If we can't have a baby naturally we have agreed that we just weren't meant to have children. I give everyone credit who does it but I couldn't handle it emotionally and after battling with crohns I won't put my body through it physically. We will look at adoption though. I would love to give a child a home who doesn't have one. Or even be foster parents. Dh isn't on board with the fostering but is on board with adoption.
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| Posted 6/29/11 5:14 PM |
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MrsM429
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Re: **QOTD 6/29/11**
DH and I agreed we're going to give the natural approach a try for the next year or so, then we'll turn to IVF treatment. We're lucky to have a bunch in savings, but we're hoping not to have to tap into that. We never discussed adopting, but I don't see that being an issue for us. We love children, and would love to be parents to a child- regardless if they're biologically ours or not
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| Posted 6/29/11 5:32 PM |
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dazies827
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Re: **QOTD 6/29/11**
Posted by july4mrsO
If money were no object, I would want to do whatever it takes. But since money is unfortunately a factor if you have trouble conceiving naturally, I'm not sure if IUI/IVF would be an option for us right now. I would LOVE to adopt but that's probably even more expensive. So right now I'm just hoping we can conceive naturally
This is us too
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| Posted 6/29/11 8:31 PM |
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