WWYD?

So my last thread got hacked a bit

So since unfortunately some of you ladies have been where I am what would you do if you were me?

DH's SA is normal

My HSG test is normal

I have/always have had normal 26-28 day cycles

I have tried unsuccessfully 9 times (opk's, temping, prenatals, vitamins...)

This is all based on the fact that my CD3 testing will come back perfect (if there is a problem, obviously I'll skip to whatever I need to).

DH was shocked when I mentioned IUI's to him, he was like wait what? We aren't going to BD??? He wants to try more, but I don't, I am confused and don't know what to do!

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DH gave me a lot of resistance when I first mentioned IUI to him. So I totally understand. He felt like it was un-natural and didn't really want to do it. I explained to him in great detail how it works and that they recommend you BD to supplement the IUI. So you can look at it as if you do get a BFP, you don't really know if it was from the actual IUI or if it was from BD, KWIM?

I say go for it! An IUI can only increase your chances of conceiving!!

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How old are you? If he's not ready then I would give it a few more cycles. It can be scary to them but I would explain how it works. It's really not that bad. If it were me, I would do it. You can start with an unmedicated one if want. Good luck!!

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Are you working with an RE or just your OB/GYN at this point? How old are you?

For a healthy couple under 35, it can take up to 12 months to conceive. Each month, your chances are roughly 20%. If you are under 35 and don't suspect that anything is wrong, I would just keep TTC naturally for another few months. At the 12 month mark, I would make an appointment with an RE. If you are over 35, you should see an RE if you have been TTC for more than 6 months.

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Posted by Leb


He tells me if I stopped stressing it would happen, and that he "knows he can do better next time!"

Message edited 3/25/2011 12:11:00 PM.

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I should have mentioned my age, I am 30, been trying since 29. DH is 34.

I am presently under the care of Dr. B, only had one appt and have CD3 testing tomorrow. He was the one who suggested starting with IUI's and thinks I'll be pregnant within 3 months, he said cases like mine he loves because they're easy to solve.

My regular gyno saw me in Oct and said to come back to her in January, so I did and she sent me for the HSG test and then suggested ECF as there was nothing else really she could do.

DH is just surprised because he feels like it hasn't been that long, because he isn't the one stressed and obsessing. He understands the procedures but I guess is slightly upset it isn't happening the regular way.

Me on the other hand, I am over it. I would grow that darn baby anyway I could with or without science.

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Posted by Otherme

Posted by Leb


He tells me if I stopped stressing it would happen, and that he "knows he can do better next time!"

ugh.. i hate that answer. your dh doing better next time really has nothing to do with it!

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I think it's good that you're getting tested - just in case there is something to address that you're not aware of. I kind of have the same issue of not trying for over a year before getting tested.

Pregnant first try, lost in m/c at 8.5 weeks.
Once cleared from m/c, tried for approx 4 months, then conceived (she is now almost 3 yrs) .

For #2, TTC for approx 4 months, got pregnant, then m/c at 8.5 weeks. This was last August. After two cycles (which took three months), I started TTC again. Still TTC.... all in all it's been 14 months since starting for #2, but I was pregnant and recovering from m/c for some of that time. I started getting tested in January. Last cycle was my first medicated one. I took 5 days of 50mg clomid, an HCG trigger shot CD13, then estrogen supplements to thicken lining from CD12 - 27. On CD 14 I had IUI and we BD a lot too. Unfortunately, it didn't work. Now waiting for AF.

Next cycle going to 100mg clomid.

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If the SA was fine, I'd think you would be ok with meds, monitoring and BDing on the days you would normally have the IUI. We have no sperm issues and I just have endo and Dr. B said IUI doesn't really up our chances much anyway. That way your DH might feel better about it.

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The meds will ensure you grow a mature folicle that will release an egg. Some Drs don't use the trigger shot that guarantees O. I know I O too on my own b/c I have O pains like clockwork, etc. I still do the trigger to make sure it releases though.

My OBGYN was going to start me on just meds and trigger, but I went to a RE b/c of insurance. Dr. B suggested the IUI, but when I had scheduling conflicts in my cycle, he said that skipping that part didnt ruin my chances.

He said doing meds, trigger and iui but everything in the right place at the right time so it takes the guesswork out.

They can also tell you at your monitoring cycle when to BD which would be when you would have an iui. I usually add a day of BD.

Message edited 3/25/2011 3:00:01 PM.

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I was in the same situation. My tests came abck normal so far, DH's SA was normal. I ovulate on my own and have exact 28 day cycles.

We did 2 IUIs that were unsuccessful. The only difference with me is that Im 37. So my gyn said the only thing not in my favor was my age.

I have since moved on to Dr. B and he says initally we look to be an easy case but ordered a few test to see if there is another issue that wasn't found yet.

When we did the IUIs we just as much....I was doing everything to get the most of of it. In my case the meds were just to produce more follies to up the chances. I did not have to trigger to ovulate.

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Here's my story. I am 31 and DH is 36. I went off the pill in Oct. 2007 thinking I'd get pregnant in 3 months. Yeah, right.

In Jan 2009 we went to an RE for testing. We were dx as unexplained infertility. We we absolutely perfect on paper. We were told like you we would definitely get pregnant. We were even told to take some time off from trying. At that point, I was seriously tired of having sex to make a baby. We took 2 vacations that year. Holidays came and went.

Jan 2010 I had my first iui. I got pregnant on my fourth iui (1st injectable cycle). Unfortunately I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks. After that we tried 3 more iuis and I just havoc my first IVF (am now in the 2ww).

My point is I wish now I was such more more aggressive. I want to go back go my old self and shake me and say c'mon let's get these treatments going!!!!! We were so hesitant to try anything in the beginning because "nothing" was wrong with us.

I don't want to scare you, but you don't know how long it's going to take. I know we want more than one and my RE keeps gently reminding me that once I hit 35, it's a lot harder to get pregnant. I said harder than this???

Just wanted to give you another perspective. I know how hard it is to take the first step. GL!!!!