How did you bring up wanting to start

TTC?

It is hard for me to bring up wanting to start trying b/c DH is 'scared'

Was it an issue bringing it up to your DH's?

How did you do it?

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we actually talked about it before we got married... even though it was kind of a mutual unspoken agreement that we were both ready... scared of course, thats not gong to go away... probably ever... but we were both ready...

we decided to wait till after the summer was over...

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hmmm...i don't really remember...

i know we both joked about it (we always knew we wanted kids just weren't ready). i remember even joking with him before the wedding - and i wasn't ready at all but it was always something on our minds for the future that would come up in casual convo/jokes...

i guess eventually for both of us the jokes became less of a joke and more serious!

having a family was def something we planned on - we moved to another state so we could buy a house and so that i could stay home - again all before we were ready to actually try - but we did things knowing we wanted children in our future...

once we moved we talked about it more until it became all we talked about - that's when we realized we were ready...but it took us awhile to get there...we thought we'd be ready sooner but weren't and then re-visited the idea...

i think it is best to wait until you are both ready. there are so many emotions and feelings and things that can happen during a pregnancy and i think it's better to both be ready. it's been a little over 1 week since our loss and we know for sure having a family is what we want (we really wanted it before but having it taken away really affirms it)...if this was something i pushed DH into and we had the loss i don't think we'd be in it "together" as far as the feelings we have and that would have made this even harder to deal with - since we were both on the same page before we both felt the same highs (when we got pregnant) and lows (when we found out we lost it)....

but i am rambling - sorry! i'm just trying to say talk about it and you'll just know when you are both ready - and personally i think it's good to wait until you are on the same page. it's ok for one or the other to be scared and not ready - it's a life changing decision.

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Re: How did you bring up wanting to start

We haven't started to TTC but I brought it up for the first time when we were still dating/engaged and had friends that were pregnant.

Its a good time to bring it up when you speak about someone that is pregnant by saying..."So when ideally do you think you want to give it a go?"

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I started talking about it early, but DH really wanted to wait for a year of marriage. After a year, he was still weird about it, but I told him only 1 more month. He agreed. So we waited a year and a month, and are now starting month 5 of trying. This process has been stressful for us so I'm glad we had that year w/o the stress.

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Me and DH always wanted to be young parents, and originally we were going to wait 2 years to start TTC (which will be in August) but I thought it might take a while, so I said lets start now (which was June) and DH agreed. Also, my cutest niece was born in June and DH is in love with her so much, that he instantly wanted a baby after seeing how great she is.

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So I brought it up last night and DH freaked out. Not in a bad way but he couldn't believe that I'm 100% ready. I'm really upset because he said he is not even the slightest bit ready.

I don't get it. We used to talk about it all the time when we were dating and now that we are married he can't even think about it.

Re: How did you bring up wanting to start

we talked before we got married..something weknew we wanted right away..just didnt think it would take this long

what is ur dh scared of?

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