Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.

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Posted by RothschildNY

I hope, in my TTC journey that I *never* get like that. It just seems like she is (and other women) having her whole life and identity revolving around getting PG.

2 years ago i could have written the same thing.
But, 2 years ago i also thought i could get pregnant just by Chat Icon

a lot at the right time.
Now i'm faced with IF issues that have completely changed how I view the whole TTC process.

So, unfortunately IF does end up consuming a lot of your time and thoughts. When you have to take meds daily, go to the dr every few days for monitoring, and then the follow ups, and then have your entire hopes pinned on a procedure that may or may not happen... you can't help but think about it daily. Each and every month your hopes and dreams go up, then come crashing down..
We're only human, so yes, it does end up consuming our lives.

I truly hope that you never have to realize this, and you and your DH are one of the lucky ones who only see the situation from an outsiders perspective.
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As for the show, i haven't seen it, but i agree with PennyCat that i truly wish there were other shows on tv that that dealt with IF issues. Hell, i'd gladly be on it if someone wants to start one! So many of us go through IF issues alone.. and you don't realize just how many people out there are going through the same thing because it's never talked about. Just being able to share in an experience with other people is immensely helpful during all of this

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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.

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i dont watch the show but i can say from an 18 month long battle with infertility, it DOES become your whole life. theres no way around it.

regardless of how it's portrayed on TV, i will say from experience you cannot judge how someone reacts to infertility, especially if you havent been there.

i dont mean this to sound like flame, its def not meant to be, im just saying until you are on the other side of ANY situation, you really can't say how you would react. you are only idealistic until it's you in those shoes.

I agree 1000%

ditto! it's a whole new ball game when you deal with IF and loss. it does consume your life and people who have not been through it have a hard time understanding. Between appointments, shots, pills, patches, waiting on your instructions for the next day, various procedures where you get poked and proded, not to mention all of the emotions that go into it, it totally consumes your life. and then to go through all of that and lose your baby. so sad.

i actually really enjoy watching the show because i can relate to what they are going through. i'm not saying it's right or wrong to get consumed by it, everyone has their own way of dealing with things. but i can certainly relate to it.

Posted 12/1/10 6:00 PM

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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.

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Posted by PennyCat

Posted by FlowerWife

i dont watch the show but i can say from an 18 month long battle with infertility, it DOES become your whole life. theres no way around it.

regardless of how it's portrayed on TV, i will say from experience you cannot judge how someone reacts to infertility, especially if you havent been there.

i dont mean this to sound like flame, its def not meant to be, im just saying until you are on the other side of ANY situation, you really can't say how you would react. you are only idealistic until it's you in those shoes.

I agree 1000%

ditto! it's a whole new ball game when you deal with IF and loss. it does consume your life and people who have not been through it have a hard time understanding. Between appointments, shots, pills, patches, waiting on your instructions for the next day, various procedures where you get poked and proded, not to mention all of the emotions that go into it, it totally consumes your life. and then to go through all of that and lose your baby. so sad.

i actually really enjoy watching the show because i can relate to what they are going through. i'm not saying it's right or wrong to get consumed by it, everyone has their own way of dealing with things. but i can certainly relate to it.

ITA! I really relate to her and how she feels. Sometimes when DH and I are watching and she expresses herself I tell DH that it's exactly how I feel. Her loss and mine pretty much happened at the same time. I actually had a hard time watching so most of the shows have been dvr'd so I am just catching up now.

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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.

OMG.

So, after reading all the responses I feel I need to clarify.

(The OMG was for ME)

First I am SO sorry that my words were not chosen more carfully....or rather my point was not as clear as I would like.

I feel so terrible for Giulianna and Bill. I feel for them in the TTC problems. I feel like I cant watch the show because the previews make the show out to be about all the problems they have.

Second. I feel TERRIBLE for all the women who are having TTC issues. I hope and pray I dont have to go through what you have and are going through. It must be terrible.

I guess my point was that, for me, I cant understand letting TTC (or any issue) get so big that I would end up having my relationship suffer because of it. I see that its hard (if not impossable) to NOT have your life revolve around TTC when there are issues. you LIVE the issues (and revolvment) every day:Shots, doctors, clomid, shots, medicine, tests, shots etc.

So I want to clarify that. I get that its an issue you live, every day. And if you want to have a baby your life HAS to revolve around it...you have no choice.

I just want to say that I wish it WASN't so for you ladies who are on that journey. I wish your lives didnt have to be revolving around TTC.

But what I feel for the most is couples who's relationships crumble BECAUSE of this issue (or ANY issue: money, sex, IL's).

I guess what I was REALLY trying to say was even if its difficult, or impossable to TTC, dont give up on your relationship and yourself. It might be a big cog, it might be a hole in your life. I get that. Just dont loose yourself.