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KimberlyScott
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So confused!
DH and I will be married 2 years next month. We wanted to TTC immediately after we were married but, as soon as we returned from our honeymoon he was notified that his job would be terminated. As part of his severance he was offered to go back to college and earn a degree in another "in demand" field. He enrolled and will graduate in June 2011.
I just turned 36 last month and this will be my 1st baby. I'm so anxious to start trying b/c I'm afraid with my age it may be difficult. Do I wait for him to finish school and find a job and then start trying or do I start trying in Dec. like we had discussed and hopefully if it happens right away baby will be born in Aug which leaves him 2 months to find a job?
I know the sensible thing would be to wait but, I'm afraid my time is running out. If we wait, I will be 37 and TTC. DH is also 8 years older then me so he would be 45!!!
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. TIA
Message edited 9/10/2010 2:40:05 PM.
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DiamondGirl
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Re: So confused!
Can you swing it financially if you had a baby in 9 months? If so, even with having to cutback I would go for it.
It sounds to me like you really want a baby, and god forbid you have problems if you wait you will always say "We should have just tried sooner".
Good luck with your decision 
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bettybcafe
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Re: So confused!
Posted by DiamondGirl
Can you swing it financially if you had a baby in 9 months? If so, even with having to cutback I would go for it.
It sounds to me like you really want a baby, and god forbid you have problems if you wait you will always say "We should have just tried sooner".
Good luck with your decision
ITA. If you can manage to get by then go for it! The one thing you will never want to say if "I wish we would of started earlier" Age does pay a major factor and you just never know if its going to be difficult or easy for you to TTC. Considering the factors, if I were in your situation I would start trying.
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KimberlyScott
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Re: So confused!
Posted by DiamondGirl
Can you swing it financially if you had a baby in 9 months? If so, even with having to cutback I would go for it.
It sounds to me like you really want a baby, and god forbid you have problems if you wait you will always say "We should have just tried sooner".
Good luck with your decision
Thanks for replying. If DH does not get a job right after school, we could not live on my salary alone. We would need the additional income unless we are able to save for 9 months. I would love to say we could save a lot in 9 months but, I've been trying to save for months and something always comes up! It SO sux!
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| Posted 9/9/10 6:53 PM |
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MrsH2009
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Re: So confused!
It really is up to you, I can give you examples in my life of women older than you that conceived with no issues (my mom had a surprise baby at 41 and one of our good friends is due in October with her first and just turned 40), but you never know. Is it something you could discuss with your doctor and get their advice?
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| Posted 9/9/10 7:03 PM |
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hotsauce345
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Re: So confused!
I'd say start in dec. we've all seen how for some it comes easily...but for others...it doesn't. You may not get pregnant the first shot...
there are people out there in much tougher situations than us and somehow they make it work...We can do the same!
life is too short to wait for "the perfect time" because no time is ever really "perfect"...it's just about what WE do when put in those situations.
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| Posted 9/9/10 8:43 PM |
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Egg
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Re: So confused!
i say start now!
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| Posted 9/10/10 10:54 AM |
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My4GirlsMyLife
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Re: So confused!
Posted by MrsMeloyellow
life is too short to wait for "the perfect time" because no time is ever really "perfect"...it's just about what WE do when put in those situations.
ITA
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| Posted 9/10/10 12:56 PM |
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JackiePags
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Re: So confused!
there is never a perfect time...just do it!!!
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| Posted 9/10/10 3:45 PM |
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Nik211
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Re: So confused!
ugh, it's so hard. my heart says to tell you yes, just go for it and everything will work out...the other part of me thinks it might be better to play it safe and wait because the last thing that i think any new parents need is stress over a job/finances...
but my advice comes from me being a huge planner - not so much a planner but i like to have all my ducks in a row. my DH is the same way. we both always look for awhile before we leap. sometimes it's good to be that way and other times it's bad. you aren't always living in the moment when you think like that and it can feel like you are always waiting for something..
the selfish part of me thinks if you try in Dec maybe we'll be on the pregnancy board together which would be nice! 
but seriously, i think if it's something you really want and you feel ready for it, you should try and i do believe that things have a way of falling into place and working themselves out for the best 
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Re: So confused!
okay forgive me if my response is a little long but I could have written this post 8 months ago. . .
we were in the same boat. . DH was finishing school (went back to school too) and I was 36. DH really wanted to wait until he graduated and had a job and I was anxious to start be i could feel my clock ticking and was going insane . . we compromised and ended up waiting until after he graduated. . I got pregnant faster than we expected. . the first two months I was pregnant he was still out or work and really stressed. I knew he would get something at some point but was a little anxious. I guess I just felt that something would work out. We don't have a lot of expenses (have cheap rent so no mortgage) and did know that we would be able to surrvive on one salary - if not the way that we wanted.
In the end, i guess it's just personal - I would want to know that I would be able to provide food, shelter, healthcare and the minimum no matter what but I would feel very comfortable letting go of all the luxuries to have the luxury of starting early. . I guess you have to be prepared to have it happen right away even though statistics are usually that it doesn't - esp when you are our age. .
my DH was NOT in a high demand field though but was looking for work for over 8 months!
Feel free to FM if you want to chat more.
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SpringBride08
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Re: So confused!
There are so many good arguments for both sides. IMO start in Dec. I feel like things have a way of working out. As a fellow 30-something, I know that time is NOT on our side. Go for it!
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